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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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c0ldfusion
United States8293 Posts
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c0ldfusion
United States8293 Posts
On July 12 2014 05:16 Najda wrote: Slightly different, there was a guy who created a method of answering okcupid questions to maximize match% with different demographics he was interested in. The thing about his method is that it isn't useful information to us, but this ted talk does give some useful information. The biggest problem for me with online dating though, is that there are so few (like 5-10 tops) girls that I find both interesting and attractive in my area. Apparently there's discrepancies in her story. One of the comments: "Of note: In her original TEDx MidAtlantic presentation (can be seen on YouTube here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OF5VVrsnpzo), she claims that Steve the IT guy did not go to the bathroom and skip out on her but rather pushed the check in her direction, expecting her to pay. She goes on to say that they left together and he proceeded to take out a large joint and light it up in the middle of the sidewalk." Her methodology seems highly unethical relative to the other "hacking" online dating experiments. | ||
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Golem72
Canada127 Posts
On July 17 2014 11:30 evilfatsh1t wrote: well she actually left for overseas for a couple of months today, so hopefully the long distance thing will just tire her out and she gives up. id much rather have her break up with me than me break up with her, since i may end up looking like the bad guy. she knows quite a few people i work with so i dont want her getting bitter about breaking up and saying shit about me behind my back. she probably wont, but you never know I read some of your quotes and I also read the advice that the guys were giving you. I hope you have analyzed everything and took it to heart, but most importantly thought over it. One thing that you need to do is to be able to move on with your life regardless of the nonsense that persists in it because if you dwell in a negative area too long it might change or warp you unless you can handle it. If a certain persons actions, behavior and character are not relating, similar, or even remotely in tune with yours it is best that you leave always. I understand your idea of not wanting to be the person who wants to break up first, as both men and women go over this as well. However you choose to do it, make sure you can escape whatever follows. That notion of you being the bad guy will always be there no matter what and is that much harder on you when you are a taller person. Find a way to deal with it however you can deal with it, as in most cases as you grow you will find that there is not much people can do to you once they've done something. ( Example: One day someone calls you a nerd and you cry. The next day they call you a nerd and you look at them. Final day they call you a nerd and your response is like what else is new?) Try not to worry too much about your reputation because whatever you do is your representation, of your reputation! Sadly most of society usually cares less about what people do anymore and more of who is friends with who, like in your earlier posts basically looking for benefits. Personally I do not care what people say about me as long as it is not a lie because then I'll have to fight it! Finally I'll leave you with a bit of advice I always tell my friends. I'm a nerd and a gamer. When I play games I am playing nobody else, I am holding my own controller. Therefore nobody can control you unless you allow them to play with your controller!! So that bit about them saying stuff behind your back do not let silliness like that control you. You're still growing up and I hope you get what I mean because you've made it this far. EDIT: was missing a "to" | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
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Xiphos
Canada7507 Posts
On July 18 2014 00:54 c0ldfusion wrote: What's the general procedure these days? Say you hang out with a girl a few times, then you ask her out, then what happens? Again if you like her, you both agree on a lot of stuff, you both agree on economical distribution for your life, you both agree that you two will embark on a certain type of lifestyle. If you are able to agree or negotiate on these aspects, then the girl is keeper. TLDR: Marriage. | ||
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Adrian_mx
Mexico1880 Posts
I didnt bring one and therefor lost my lay... damn. I wasnt even thinking it would happen, now ill probably never see her again. Awgh oh well, ill cut my loses. Next time Ill know | ||
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solidbebe
Netherlands4921 Posts
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SoSexy
Italy3725 Posts
On July 18 2014 00:54 c0ldfusion wrote: What's the general procedure these days? Say you hang out with a girl a few times, then you ask her out, then what happens? 1-General approach 2-Talking 3-Date 4-Another date changing what you do (i.e go to restaurant, concert, or whatever you didn't do in the first place) 5-Another date where you invite her over and have sex 6-Decide if you continue to date or give up More often than usual I may skip step 3 and/or 4 if the girl wants it as bad as you do. | ||
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SoSexy
Italy3725 Posts
On July 18 2014 18:49 solidbebe wrote: Seriously just always have a condom somewhere, like in your wallet or wherever youll keep it around and out of sight While I agree with your idea, I also don't agree. A wallet and a car are the worst places to keep condoms imo. You sit on the wallet, the car is left in hot/cold climate and it messes up the condom. I would suggest keeping them in a fresh place but I know that if you want to have them around it's kinda tough to find one. | ||
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Slayers_Red.Cracker
36 Posts
Having sex with strangers without a condom is retarded both ways. If she really wants to go for sex, she should be game for getting a condom somewhere If she didnt want to have sex anyway and used it as an excuse or a way out, you can be the guy that did not want to have sex with her instead. You become the product instead of the buyer. Leaves you with a better feeling tbh. | ||
dravernor
Netherlands6187 Posts
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solidbebe
Netherlands4921 Posts
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Slayers_Red.Cracker
36 Posts
On July 18 2014 20:20 dravernor wrote: You really think the lady should keep condoms? Interesting. Yes. I think that both the bloke and the lady should have condoms at home. Carrying one in your pocket has the chance of ruining it (as mentioned before, keys, sitting on it, or other unforeseen circumstances). Groundbreaking isn't it? | ||
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LeLfe
France3160 Posts
On July 18 2014 20:32 Slayers_Red.Cracker wrote: Yes. I think that both the bloke and the lady should have condoms at home. Carrying one in your pocket has the chance of ruining it (as mentioned before, keys, sitting on it, or other unforeseen circumstances). Groundbreaking isn't it? problem is not all the condoms are the same, I'd rather choose the ones I want than using someone else's | ||
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c0ldfusion
United States8293 Posts
On July 18 2014 19:11 SoSexy wrote: 1-General approach 2-Talking 3-Date 4-Another date changing what you do (i.e go to restaurant, concert, or whatever you didn't do in the first place) 5-Another date where you invite her over and have sex 6-Decide if you continue to date or give up More often than usual I may skip step 3 and/or 4 if the girl wants it as bad as you do. You sleep with the girl on the 3rd date? That seems a little fast to me. | ||
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Meavis
Netherlands1300 Posts
On July 18 2014 21:08 c0ldfusion wrote: You sleep with the girl on the 3rd date? That seems a little fast to me. Well, he is SoSexy. | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
On July 18 2014 20:20 dravernor wrote: You really think the lady should keep condoms? Interesting. A couple of my favorite ladies kept pepper spray in the closet next to the condoms. I don't think it gets any smarter than that. | ||
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LeLfe
France3160 Posts
although 3rd date = sex sounds like a rule you find in the movies, I know several person expecting thngs to go that way. Can be earlier, can take longer, depends on the flow but 3dates isn't anormaly short | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On July 18 2014 21:08 c0ldfusion wrote: You sleep with the girl on the 3rd date? That seems a little fast to me. every girl ive ever had sex with i had sex with on the first date lol. anyone who says they dont put out ont he first date is 99% of the time a liar On July 18 2014 20:32 Slayers_Red.Cracker wrote: Yes. I think that both the bloke and the lady should have condoms at home. Carrying one in your pocket has the chance of ruining it (as mentioned before, keys, sitting on it, or other unforeseen circumstances). Groundbreaking isn't it? Um i always keep mine in my room, and then if i feel like ima need 1 or 2 i'll bring them. I don't trust using someone elses personally | ||
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Doodsmack
United States7224 Posts
Now I'm agonizing over whether I didn't finish right. As we were walking out I asked her if she was parked in the garage, and I could be wrong but I thought for a second I caught fleeting excitement on her face that I had asked that question. We're walking in he direction of the garage and I pull up, since I would be walking home he other direction. I'm saying something like do you want to hang out again, and she turns around and takes a couple steps backwards towards the garage as she's answering, as if to signal to me to walk her to her car. I even caught that in the moment, but was still undecided because I thought she didn't want me to try to get her to come home with me, and that I would be better off just playing it conservative and hugging. So we hugged and the goodbye was pretty brief. Should I have walked to her car and made out, or asked for a ride home, or done that and even asked her to come inside? EDIT: I texted her afterwards last night and she has not responded. I am Interpreting this as a rejection (and very disappointed about it) and dying to just text and ask if I Should have done something differently/can she give me general advice for dating (because I also know I did some things wrong like say negative Nancy things). What do you think? | ||
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