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On October 22 2011 20:52 MikeTheBike wrote:
Well I'm 15, I just had my first girlfriend, thought she really liked me and I liked her a lot too... but now after 3 weeks she decides to break it off for no reason. Good introduction to a love life! :D
yeah, that's how it is at 14-15, when you get a car and such, things tend to turn around a bit for you, I dated my first girl at 14 and broke up a month later, and then dated a girl from 16-19which went over pretty well, until the end
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First was 1 month. Second 1 year, this sat. I expect it to go a lot longer but who knows right? Love is the best thing that happened to me but i know loosing it would be the worst. It is one scary line.
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Last girl shoved me into the friendzone after I all but dragged her through some really tough stuff that she was dealing with. That sucked. This girl (whom I'm trying to date), responded to my coffee date offer with "yes, but as friends". Still trying to figure out what exactly that means. I thought I was toast, but everyone else seems to think I've still got a chance. Why do I always pick the crazy ones?
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The queen of my world is the one who sits in front of my hatchery.
Seriously thought, never had a GF never been on a date or done anything except hug (thats right no first kiss even when I'm 16) So relationship wise I suck haha...
On a happier note I made diamond yesterday! :D
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On February 02 2012 11:50 Fallians wrote:
The queen of my world is the one who sits in front of my hatchery.
Seriously thought, never had a GF never been on a date or done anything except hug (thats right no first kiss even when I'm 16) So relationship wise I suck haha...
On a happier note I made diamond yesterday! :D
this is my life......except im gold and the hug was extremely awkward and possibly illegal.
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Ugh so my issue seems to be the opposite of alot of you guys, i'm 20 and i have issues with having too many women. 
trust me, no girlfriend better than trying to balance more than a couple girls. it'll end badly for me and worse for them. I'm an awful human being.
for those having issues with women, just relax and be kind to them, find out what they like and only pursue them if you have a shared interest, if you don't the relationship will never start. it helps to shave and bathe often as well as wearing clothes that fit you well, your actual body matters less than how you present yourself.
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Most women I meet bore me. The handful I've been genuinely interested in are typically taken or live out of state for most of the year.
Right now I have a girl showing interest in me, but I'm not really having it. T_T
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On October 09 2011 15:41 TheBatman wrote:
One time I thought I dated a girl, but it turns out she was just waving to someone else across the room
Oh god, I genuinely lol'd.
I've dated 4 girls, all for the same reason: I wanted to see them naked eventually.
Mission accomplished.
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First (and last) girlfriend was my junior year of high school (sophomore in college now). There's two girls I like. The first is this extremely cute Asian chick who's 2 years older than me. I've like her for about a year, but I can't judge if she has similar feelings. Should I just go for it or what? I'm taking Korean and she's my conversation partner (a native speaker who you meet with once a week to get help with pronunciation, enunciation, etc etc). She seems pretty open and genuine with me. We've talked about random stuff (home life, siblings, etc) and seem to be decently comfortable with each other. She was my conversation partner last semester as well and didn't hesitate to help me this semester when I asked her. Second girl is an Asian in my class who I can't tell if she's attracted or just an outgoing person. She plays around a fair bit and we seem to have some sort of connection. I just have trouble because I would hate myself for not trying with the first, but I'm a little uncomfortable with trying considering I'll see her at least once a week for most of the semester. Basically, don't wanna fuck it up. Advice?
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Recently, it's been TERRIBLE ARGH. In fact, women in general are going poorly.
Haven't gotten laid in like 7 months (ish).
Haven't had a date in around 9 months.
Total womanly contact in the past 3 months has been making out with 2 girls, both fairly temporarily.
Unnecessary venting details below+ Show Spoiler +First time, dancing, she just wanted to kiss, but I was drunk and kept trying to get her to make out (just a weird feeling, she keeps kissing you, but that's it, just short kisses). After a bit I kinda just went for it and kinda tried to open her mouth with my tongue (wow, that sounds fucking creepy). After like 5 seconds, she said sorry, she couldn't, and walked away. Second time was at a party, hitting on one girl, seems to be going fairly decent. She was interested in me and another guy, and we were kinda competing, but he was just doing it for shits and giggles since he had a GF. While I'm usually down to play, and play the game as well when I have a gf (never cheated, just flirt to see if the girl is into you, and if comes close to making any moves you just tell her you have a gf straight up), my dry spell led me to simply casually mention "oh your GF said XXXX about that" or something. So now just with me, things seem to be going well, take my time, nothing happens yet, when BAM I get a phone call saying my friends are leaving the bar in a taxi and if I want a ride home I need to go outside (I didn't go to the bars since girl I was hitting on was either 19 or 20). Tell her I have to leave, extend my arms for a hug, she gets up off the couch to give me a hug, decide "DAMN IT DO I REALLY WANT TO LEAVE? THERE'S POTENTIAL". In the midst of said hug, she pulls away very very slowly, so I go for it, start making out in the middle of the room, then BAM 5-6 seconds later phone starts ringing again, I pull away, pick up, roommates are leaving and wondering why I'm not outside. I somehow rationalize that it's most likely not going to go much further than making out, so I said "sorry, that's them, have to go" and so ends the sad story. What's sad was that these are the highlights concerning woman of my last three months. I don't even have prospects really at the moment . Argh... maybe I should go out more and play SC2 less
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This topic is so shit. I wanna cry now.
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On January 14 2012 01:40 YouGotNothin wrote:
Interesting situation I am in that I think might fit this thread pretty well. So there are three characters in this story, myself, my current best friend, and a cute/smart/happy girl we both know. So my best friend is recently out of a relationship that he is taking forever to get over (girl was really weird but super cute so he thinks he can't do any better). I wanted to help him get over his relationship by pointing out girls that seem interested in him that he should try to pursue, one of these being the third character in this story (the cute girl one). So I have been trying to facilitate that for awhile but he had seemed too attached to his ex to make any moves. I myself haven't really had the desire to date anyone for awhile for many reasons, but after getting to know this girl a bit I realized I would like to try to date her. Problem is.. now my best friend seems interested in her again and now I find myself in a weird situation.
What to do what to do, do I really want to compete with my best friend for a girl? Being my nice self I'll probably back off and find someone else, but I swear this cute girls seems much more interested in me. What does TL think?
Why do you say "current" best friend? (realize this is a two week old post, but yeah).
No time right now, but I suppose if I'm going to spill my guts TL is not a bad place to start.
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So this girl I like friendzoned me. Story of my life. Also I love her. Fuckkkkkkkkk I hate girls.
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I used to get friendzoned a lot. Had two girlfriends total all the way until junior year, and I used to have no confidence around girls whatsoever.
Then, one day while I was hanging around at my summer camp to jam with some of the counselors (I stayed after most of the other campers left due to me being just a few years younger + having my own car) when my friend sends me one curt text: "we got alcohol. oh and alaina is very excited to meet you." Alaina was a girl from the Orange County who was friends with my friend Leyla, a girl who I had gone after for a few months and didn't work. I thought hell, alcohol and cute girl, why not, and floor it the thirty minutes back from Stanford to my friend's house. I walk in and I say hi to all my friends, and even give Alaina a hug for good measure. We make some pot brownies, and then we decide to go outside to smoke a bowl. At this point, everyone is shivering their asses off and my friends teasingly tell Alaina and I to hold each other to keep warm. Fuck it, I say, and pull her close, and surprisingly she grabs on too and pulls me in.
From there, the night just got better. We went into the hot tub, where I got to probe around under the bubbles a little bit until she squeaked and my friends laughed. We go back inside to watch a movie, and then as we are on the couch I decide to go for it and kiss her. Second girl I've kissed ever; and it actually worked.
Then, it was just another half hour and we were upstairs in my friend's parent's bed. Good times.
It's been just seven months since then, but I've had one girl I dated for a month, several hookups and finally one steady girlfriend that just hit four months. It's all about confidence, and just having one girl can boost you up enough to get many more.
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Really bad. But that's mainly because I'm a pussy. I've had lots of crushed on girls but never once told any one of them. I'm 15, and when I started high school last year I went to a school dance and it was absolutely a horrible experience for me. I fail at dancing and I'm socially awkward, never went back to one of those again.
Then I kind of "gave up" because I realized I'm not really wanting a relationship. I've fully accepted my nerdiness. I've now completely focused myself to school, to the exclusion all else including starcraft.
Also I go to a REALLY small school, 14 girls in my class. 7 are "popular" girls, we mutually ignore each other. The other 7 are not popular, some are intellectual like me, however, the ones who are nerds like me are so totally different its mind boggling. They will spend hours reading every detail of Harry Potter and Twilight but think I'm some sort of freak for playing starcraft. I don't really know anyone outside my school because I was home-schooled until highschool. XD
So pretty much I've never dated at all and that's pretty fail. But in my defense, the girls I know suck.
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i had a lot of "girlfriends" you could say in 5-9th.. with kissing and touching and shit. no sex or anything. i lost my virginity at 16 to a girl who was a senior at my high school. that was pretty cool. then from the age of 16-18 i slept with about 13 girls. it was really easy in highschool to get girls to fool around. not all of them went to my school, some were just so random i meet them and an hour later we are doing the dirty. but once graduated highschool i didnt touch a girl for the next 2 years. i guess i got burnt out you could say. then i hooked back up with a girl from highschool i never got with, had a relationship with her for close to a year. i can say looking back i dont remember without deep thought some of the girls i got with. and the relationship was garbage. hanging out every single day, catering to another human. a woman even. the sex all the time was cool but i was sure broke while having a girlfriend. now i choose porn and am hoping to get prowled on by a milf in the near future.
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I believe that there is one great love in everyone. The only thing is, is your great love's great love you as well?
Yay, I'm a hopeless romantic.
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Recently I asked a girl to invite me to see hunger games with her when she was going to see it. She said she'd be seeing it back home (w/ others) and apologized. I guess it wouldn't have been a date anyways.
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