Dating: How's your luck? - Page 43

Girl number one was a transfer student during high school; I was a senior and she was a sophomore. I never really got to know her initially since I was always either with people my grade or working. But eventually, we somehow got each other's information and hit it off pretty well.
So eventually I worked up the courage to ask her to prom and to my surprise, she said yes and seemed pretty excited. Things looked up from then, since we would always be seen hanging out and having a good time. Now, I'm sure it can be seen as flirting, she there was physical contact, there was the usual hair tossing girls do and we would stay up late talking to one another.
But one day, I was passing by when I heard a group of sophomores talking, you know, high school gossip drama bullshit whatever. I managed to overhear that she liked someone else, and my heart just immediately sank and I guessed as to who it was.
I asked her friend about it (she was also a friend of mine) and turns out I was right. She was also interested in a guy in my grade who I personally thought was a prick and completely two-faced, as he was nice to girls who were cute/hot and a total wanker to everyone else, including his parents (for example, I've seen him curse at and insult his mom for picking him up from a basketball game cause she thought he would be tired).
And being testosterone fueled, and being in the full retard high school mode, we confronted one another and would have fought if it weren't for our friends breaking it up before the fight happened.
Shit went downhill from there as she got pissed at me for interfering with her business. Threatened to never talk to me again and usual shit. One point, she got extra pissed cause I asked to hang out with her, and when I called it a "date", she flipped the shit out (isn't hanging out 1 on 1 with the opposite gender classified as a date, regardless of friendship or relationship?). But the kicker is that she still had the prom ticket I gave her.
So fast forward the dramatic bullshit and we get to prom night. I try to be as civil as I can, and for the most part, she is too. At this point, I go without any real expectations and just want to have fun. I didn't expect it, but she not only refused a dance but kept waiting for the other guy to appear (his limo got lost for an hour). So at this point, I say fuck it and have fun with my other female friends who didn't have a date (which was half the grade since the guys lacked the courage to ask them out).
Later on, I find out that she went to the after-party with him early on and she left her bag. She texts me and explicitly ORDERS me to get her bag for her. Not so much as a please or a thank you. I'm pretty sure a majority of people would have left the bag there but because I didn't want to stoop to her level, I just brought the bag and gave it to her and proceeded to get wasted and have fun.
Turns out the morning after that she slept with the guy. Her brother found out from one of my friends and he ratted her out to their mom and she got a beatdown. At this point, I couldn't really have cared either way. I was just ready to graduate and move on. We still talk now and then, since I've moved on from the entire incident and just see her as a junior. Wouldn't date her, though. Never, ever.

I met girl 2 in my freshman year of college. Met her through the guys in my hallway; she would always come over from halfway across campus just to chill and have fun. She wasn't the most attractive girl but she was cute enough and fun to be around.
There was playful bantering whenever we interacted and stuff and the guys around would pretty much say that they didn't go after her because I had already "bagged" her. They told me to go after her, which I agreed with at this point, seeing as how we were always spending time together.
Hah. One night, as we were just lying there, I asked her, and she said she wasn't looking for a relationship. Arrow to the knee heart right there. If it were me currently, I would have said okay and respected her wishes, but like I said, I had zero experience (aside from girl number 1 which was holy shit bad), so I decided I would press the issue.
I would constantly ask her about it over the next week, and in retrospect, it was harassment. I was a complete jerk and a spoiled brat for getting frustrated about not getting what I wanted, and I don't blame her for getting angry with me. We ended on a bad note, where we just exploded on each other and never spoke to each other again. I still see here from time to time on campus but we don't say hi anymore or anything, even though it's been three years. I don't blame her. I'm still trying to apologize, without any ulterior motives, because I am genuinely sorry for ruining a friendship like that. Somewhat surprisingly though, she still maintains her not looking for a relationship outlook. Props for being consistent.

So after a relatively calm sophomore year after two years in turmoil, girl #3 comes along in my junior year. I had known her from my Japanese class from a year back. Quiet girl; rarely spoke in class. I worked up my courage for three weeks and finally said hi to her during one of our breaks (since the Japanese class was double period). We got along really well, and it turned out she lived in the building one of my juniors from high school lived in. But at the time, she had a boyfriend down South, in Washington D.C., so I didn't really say anything.
She broke up several months after that, but I didn't make a move yet, cause this was a relationship she seemed to be hurting from, and I didn't want to be a rebound.
We really hit it off during one of the school's events (Humans vs Zombies), and we would go on dates together, eating out and talking for hours after we finished eating, only leaving when it was time for class. The texting was pretty borderline NSFW as well, and she would call after midnight often. The flirting was pretty blatant as well. Out of the three so far, I really felt the chemistry on this one. Wrong again. Surprise, surprise.
After Halloween, we talked less and less, and whereas it was a 1:1 ratio of how much either of us would initiate the conversation/date; I found myself doing the seeking out 80% of the time. I found out from my junior that she was depressed at the time, and that she had rejected another guy two weeks prior. I was at a loss as to what to do, so I tried to find good times to talk to her. Except none of the times were good for her, and eventually, I just gave up entirely and ended it with "hey, I'll let you sort things out. I still care, and want you to know that, so if you ever feel like you need someone to talk to, I'm here."
I think that was the most sensible thing I could have done, and the best handled compared to the other two. We're still on good terms with one another, even if we talked only once in the past eight months, which is understandable, since she graduated and has a job and is constantly traveling.

This girl is current. And as such, it's the shortest one. It started a few weeks ago, over Thanksgiving break, when I was looking for a ride home since I didn't have money for the train and my lifeline (my sister) decided she wanted to go home early without notifying me. I got an offer from a friend who was heading into the city. It turned out he was driving someone else home. It was some freshman girl who I've seen around on campus and in the dorms, but never really paid much attention to.
There was a lot of traffic, seeing as how it was a combination of being rush hour, Thanksgiving break, and the weather was bad. It took half an hour just to get to the University's exit. And because I didn't want to make the girl feel awkward, I initiated the conversation (my friend is a nice guy, but as socially awkward as you can get). We managed to talk for three hours, with her laughing at every other thing I said (and I wasn't trying to be funny; she just has a really good sense of humor which is always a plus). She had a lot of qualities I valued in a girl; independent, honest, raised with rules and morale and a really good sense of humor. A very pretty smile as well.
Now what's the catch? She's transferring out of the school after this semester. While that might not be a problem with modern day transportation being what it is, I absolutely have NO experience with long-distance relationships, let alone regular relationships. I only wish I was more active in the dorms and met her sooner, but it's as they say. C'est la vie. Not really all too broken up about this one, since whatever I was about to delude myself with was shot down before I got ahead of myself.