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On October 18 2011 22:23 Zorkmid wrote:Show nested quote +On October 18 2011 22:19 Back wrote:On October 18 2011 19:49 Cedstick wrote:On October 18 2011 17:40 Lorken wrote:
So wait, how do you go up to and talk with/whatever some random girl you don't even know? (like some guy who recommended a grocery store) I'll be honest, I've only tried the grocery store once -- I think it's harder because it's a very public place, so you're less likely to want to fail and embarrass yourself. I couldn't think of any good thing to use as an approach, so I just walked up kind of rigidly out of the corner of her eye with a goofy, awkward, almost-smiling look on my face and said, "I see you are in the tea isle. I am also in the tea isle. Hi, my name is Cedric." Though that might not work for everyone -- I get away with the goof thing a lot. But, shit, worth a try I say :D You can always try again if it fails -- we all fail at some point, so don't be afraid of it. Unless, of course, you have a better approach, which I'd probably suggest XD Don't leave us hanging, man. What did the tea isle girl say!? "Not for all the tea in China?"
I freaking love you. Magnetic Fields and you making my day.
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On October 19 2011 04:15 Dawski wrote:
Problem being that's a recipe for being friend-zoned by every girl you like. You do actually have to try
Yes that's true, but as long as he's just himself and when he has that gutt feeling (most guys eventually realise they're more in tune with the signs they're giving off than they think), he speaks up (you get into friend zone by waiting too long to say something as a genearl rule, particularly if you see them almost daily), that's all you can do.
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When I went to high school I walked up to many women and said.
I'm an asshole, I think you should be making me a sandwhich, I like to spoil my lady, I'm incredibly blunt and honest and i'm looking for a wife. Care to go on a date? rejected 0, women dated. 32. (my wife got jealous and counted) speaking of my wife that' show I met her ^^ she was the 32nd. Proposed after 1 1/2 weeks. married 9 months later. married now for over a year.
Edit: with a baby 2 months away ^^ december baby.
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On October 19 2011 04:41 Vegasminion wrote:
When I went to high school I walked up to many women and said.
I'm an asshole, I think you should be making me a sandwhich, I like to spoil my lady, I'm incredibly blunt and honest and i'm looking for a wife. Care to go on a date? rejected 0, women dated. 32. (my wife got jealous and counted) speaking of my wife that' show I met her ^^ she was the 32nd. Proposed after 1 1/2 weeks. married 9 months later. married now for over a year.
Some would call you foolish. That's a pretty sick story though. When you get to tell your grandkids how you met your soulmate and it was "love at first sight".
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On October 19 2011 04:46 zJayy962 wrote:Show nested quote +On October 19 2011 04:41 Vegasminion wrote:
When I went to high school I walked up to many women and said.
I'm an asshole, I think you should be making me a sandwhich, I like to spoil my lady, I'm incredibly blunt and honest and i'm looking for a wife. Care to go on a date? rejected 0, women dated. 32. (my wife got jealous and counted) speaking of my wife that' show I met her ^^ she was the 32nd. Proposed after 1 1/2 weeks. married 9 months later. married now for over a year. Some would call you foolish. That's a pretty sick story though. When you get to tell your grandkids how you met your soulmate and it was "love at first sight".
haha yeah. I kept telling her, make me a sandwhich as a joke as I dated the other girls. When I was single she came up and said sit down and pulled out peanut butter / jelly and a knife with bread. made me the sandwhich. Pretty much went up hill from there ^^
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On October 19 2011 04:48 Vegasminion wrote:Show nested quote +On October 19 2011 04:46 zJayy962 wrote:On October 19 2011 04:41 Vegasminion wrote:
When I went to high school I walked up to many women and said.
I'm an asshole, I think you should be making me a sandwhich, I like to spoil my lady, I'm incredibly blunt and honest and i'm looking for a wife. Care to go on a date? rejected 0, women dated. 32. (my wife got jealous and counted) speaking of my wife that' show I met her ^^ she was the 32nd. Proposed after 1 1/2 weeks. married 9 months later. married now for over a year. Some would call you foolish. That's a pretty sick story though. When you get to tell your grandkids how you met your soulmate and it was "love at first sight". haha yeah. I kept telling her, make me a sandwhich as a joke as I dated the other girls. When I was single she came up and said sit down and pulled out peanut butter / jelly and a knife with bread. made me the sandwhich. Pretty much went up hill from there ^^
Don't ever let her go.
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lol ^^ I won't. I could tell you a lot more but.. let's say I live a dream ^^. Just be honest guys. People who are like you will join you. People who disagree with who you are really aren't worth the time anyway...
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On October 19 2011 04:48 Vegasminion wrote:Show nested quote +On October 19 2011 04:46 zJayy962 wrote:On October 19 2011 04:41 Vegasminion wrote:
When I went to high school I walked up to many women and said.
I'm an asshole, I think you should be making me a sandwhich, I like to spoil my lady, I'm incredibly blunt and honest and i'm looking for a wife. Care to go on a date? rejected 0, women dated. 32. (my wife got jealous and counted) speaking of my wife that' show I met her ^^ she was the 32nd. Proposed after 1 1/2 weeks. married 9 months later. married now for over a year. Some would call you foolish. That's a pretty sick story though. When you get to tell your grandkids how you met your soulmate and it was "love at first sight". haha yeah. I kept telling her, make me a sandwhich as a joke as I dated the other girls. When I was single she came up and said sit down and pulled out peanut butter / jelly and a knife with bread. made me the sandwhich. Pretty much went up hill from there ^^
lol, interesting method. i love the make me a sandwich line though as well, it's a staple of mine.
Found my girl at work she was roommates with a coworker of mine, pretty anticlimatic!
In the process of finding her I did find 2 roommates who were both into me, had one over on a friday night and the other saturday. probably my crowning achievement. 
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On October 12 2011 08:57 azarat wrote:
A little cheer I bring to this thread.
Not really a dating story per se, but my first and only girlfriend I met when she was in the same guild as me playing WoW. She's smart, funny, creative with paints and clay and drawing, beautiful and, the real kicker, really into gaming. Is slightly gothic, which for me is awesome (corsets and short skirts, so hot). Owns all the consoles, loves playing RPGs and L4D and SC2. She works in a game store, and bitches when she can't get Collector's Edition versions of games. She has a WoW headset and mouse, wants nothing more than a plush Baneling, and thinks Infestors are both cute and awesome.
We've been together four years. She's in the top guild on the server, and carries them with her DPS. She thinks its hot when I lay the smack down in SC2, or talk about the random esoteric shit I'm studying at university.
I'm never letting her go.
see these types of girls are perfect for sc nerds like us, but in the long run, they suck as a mom.
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Never had a girlfriend or any sort of close female friend ever, forever_alone.jpg
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Just dont even bother with girlfriends while youre in your early 20s its your time to party and spread the seed as far and wide as possible.
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On October 19 2011 04:15 Dawski wrote:Show nested quote +On October 19 2011 04:11 Trentelshark wrote:On October 18 2011 17:40 Lorken wrote:
So wait, how do you go up to and talk with/whatever some random girl you don't even know? (like some guy who recommended a grocery store)
I just be nice to chicks I know/like and hope they think I'm cool too. I'm quite happy being single though, it would just be convenient to have a girlfriend. That's actually a good attitude to have, you're not going out of your way (and trying too hard which women pick up a mile away) and not saying forget it all together . Problem being that's a recipe for being friend-zoned by every girl you like. You do actually have to try
Yea it's only worked with one girl until now and it took most of a year for her to ask me out 
There's this girl at work though, think I'll ask her if she wants to go out drinking one day.
Also, I think I'd want one more if I was older, but since I'm only 19 I'm concentrating on becoming awesome first (Career, fitness)
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On October 18 2011 22:19 Back wrote:Show nested quote +On October 18 2011 19:49 Cedstick wrote:On October 18 2011 17:40 Lorken wrote:
So wait, how do you go up to and talk with/whatever some random girl you don't even know? (like some guy who recommended a grocery store) I'll be honest, I've only tried the grocery store once -- I think it's harder because it's a very public place, so you're less likely to want to fail and embarrass yourself. I couldn't think of any good thing to use as an approach, so I just walked up kind of rigidly out of the corner of her eye with a goofy, awkward, almost-smiling look on my face and said, "I see you are in the tea isle. I am also in the tea isle. Hi, my name is Cedric." Though that might not work for everyone -- I get away with the goof thing a lot. But, shit, worth a try I say :D You can always try again if it fails -- we all fail at some point, so don't be afraid of it. Unless, of course, you have a better approach, which I'd probably suggest XD Don't leave us hanging, man. What did the tea isle girl say!?
Started-out good, which is what matters; it worked! Went out for some coffee, then later a movie, but didn't go farther than that. That ain't the point, though Like I said, though, depends on who's doing it, so if you've got a better, more, uh, normal method in mind, pull that shit out instead. My goal is to always try and get a smile on intro, though, so keep that in mind -- made the right call hoping she'd go for the goof and get her smiling right away.
Edit: I feel bad. That's not the point of this thread. I'll think-up a good bad-date story soon. God knows I've had a good few awkward dates in my nerdy teens.
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Well I guess my luck turned in '09 and now I'm engaged and got 3month old lil' baby boy^^
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Been having UST with this one girl on my debating team for the past two years. Same classes, both interested in the other's interests (eSports for me, rowing and England for her). It's getting quite annoying now.
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On October 19 2011 13:16 Lorken wrote:Yea it's only worked with one girl until now and it took most of a year for her to ask me out There's this girl at work though, think I'll ask her if she wants to go out drinking one day. Also, I think I'd want one more if I was older, but since I'm only 19 I'm concentrating on becoming awesome first (Career, fitness)
Ya waiting for them to ask, bad  ! Asking the girl @ work out, good start, just make sure if shit goes south you guys sit far enough apart it doesn't become uncomfortable/impossible to work. Good luck!
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When i was 14 a girl asked me if i wanted to date her friend ( she was to shy to ask herself) i was to shy myself and stupid so i just looked at her and gave out a pathetic sound like "yeah right" and moved on , i thought they were joking that they were just trying to make me look like an idiot. She tried the next day again and i gave no response and just ignored her. Also i was fat before and when i was 14 i lost a lot amount of weight and i guess i attracted some attention. Than later i got fat again. I am now 21 and still never had a date in my life . The only thing i ever did was kiss a chick on her cheek and some other girl kissed me on the cheek.I recently lost 50 pounds and look like a normal person again but things are the same still.I live in a village and the population is down to 250 and like 0 girls my age. I have no idea how or where to look , i tried online dating sites and ive sent out multiple mails but got no replies . I must be ugly or just boring.
I pretty much need some miracle.
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As my ex would say: Stop trying to seek emotional support from everyone and be a real man.
Just be a fucking real man.
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On October 20 2011 06:52 Kingkindness wrote:
As my ex would say: Stop trying to seek emotional support from everyone and be a real man.
Just be a fucking real man.
except for those like a friend of mine, and commit suicide cause he was too manly to seek help....
the whole "macho" man idea is total bullshit and you should feel ashamed of yourself for posting that. the3 irony of Kingkindness, eh?
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On October 20 2011 06:52 Kingkindness wrote:
As my ex would say: Stop trying to seek emotional support from everyone and be a real man.
Just be a fucking real man.
She your ex cause you weren't a real man? <.< Just asking lol.
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