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On October 12 2011 14:56 TyrantPotato wrote:
I date in the same manner i play starcraft.
I load up battlenet press find match get into a game.
Then 6 pool.
Because when you 6 pool there are only 3 outcomes.
The first is that you fail miserably and the game ends right then and there. no time wasted press find match again.
The second is that you completely get what you want, you have a blast of a time before the game is over and you are left completely satisfied. press find match again.
The third one is why i 6 pool in the first place. there is one day going to be that game where you match up with someone doing the same thing to you.
6 pooling.
And when two people 6 pool one another, well its usually the most intense game you could ever play. it'll either be the most intense action filled 5 minutes of your life, or the longest closest most insane game ever one that'll never end, or one that you'll look back and think im glad i played that.
Yeah, whenever I have trouble explaining something I break it down into Starcraft II terminology as well.
Nice job.
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On October 12 2011 15:25 RosaParksStoleMySeat wrote:Show nested quote +On October 12 2011 14:56 TyrantPotato wrote:
I date in the same manner i play starcraft.
I load up battlenet press find match get into a game.
Then 6 pool.
Because when you 6 pool there are only 3 outcomes.
The first is that you fail miserably and the game ends right then and there. no time wasted press find match again.
The second is that you completely get what you want, you have a blast of a time before the game is over and you are left completely satisfied. press find match again.
The third one is why i 6 pool in the first place. there is one day going to be that game where you match up with someone doing the same thing to you.
6 pooling.
And when two people 6 pool one another, well its usually the most intense game you could ever play. it'll either be the most intense action filled 5 minutes of your life, or the longest closest most insane game ever one that'll never end, or one that you'll look back and think im glad i played that.
Yeah, whenever I have trouble explaining something I break it down into Starcraft II terminology as well. Nice job.
There is 6 pool in Starcraft 1 either ;D
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On October 12 2011 14:56 TyrantPotato wrote:
I date in the same manner i play starcraft.
I load up battlenet press find match get into a game.
Then 6 pool.
Because when you 6 pool there are only 3 outcomes.
The first is that you fail miserably and the game ends right then and there. no time wasted press find match again.
The second is that you completely get what you want, you have a blast of a time before the game is over and you are left completely satisfied. press find match again.
The third one is why i 6 pool in the first place. there is one day going to be that game where you match up with someone doing the same thing to you.
6 pooling.
And when two people 6 pool one another, well its usually the most intense game you could ever play. it'll either be the most intense action filled 5 minutes of your life, or the longest closest most insane game ever one that'll never end, or one that you'll look back and think im glad i played that.
Good one. It'll usually end with the person with the better micro winning. And the other feeling like shit and quitting 6pool altogether
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On October 12 2011 16:12 Jenia6109 wrote:Show nested quote +On October 12 2011 15:25 RosaParksStoleMySeat wrote:On October 12 2011 14:56 TyrantPotato wrote:
I date in the same manner i play starcraft.
I load up battlenet press find match get into a game.
Then 6 pool.
Because when you 6 pool there are only 3 outcomes.
The first is that you fail miserably and the game ends right then and there. no time wasted press find match again.
The second is that you completely get what you want, you have a blast of a time before the game is over and you are left completely satisfied. press find match again.
The third one is why i 6 pool in the first place. there is one day going to be that game where you match up with someone doing the same thing to you.
6 pooling.
And when two people 6 pool one another, well its usually the most intense game you could ever play. it'll either be the most intense action filled 5 minutes of your life, or the longest closest most insane game ever one that'll never end, or one that you'll look back and think im glad i played that.
Yeah, whenever I have trouble explaining something I break it down into Starcraft II terminology as well. Nice job. There is 6 pool in Starcraft 1 either ;D
Well sure there is, but with the way he put it, it was a Starcraft II 6 pool: going in quickly and doing as much damage as humanly possible.
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On October 12 2011 16:33 ambrosiaa wrote:Show nested quote +On October 12 2011 14:56 TyrantPotato wrote:
I date in the same manner i play starcraft.
I load up battlenet press find match get into a game.
Then 6 pool.
Because when you 6 pool there are only 3 outcomes.
The first is that you fail miserably and the game ends right then and there. no time wasted press find match again.
The second is that you completely get what you want, you have a blast of a time before the game is over and you are left completely satisfied. press find match again.
The third one is why i 6 pool in the first place. there is one day going to be that game where you match up with someone doing the same thing to you.
6 pooling.
And when two people 6 pool one another, well its usually the most intense game you could ever play. it'll either be the most intense action filled 5 minutes of your life, or the longest closest most insane game ever one that'll never end, or one that you'll look back and think im glad i played that.
Good one. It'll usually end with the person with the better micro winning. And the other feeling like shit and quitting 6pool altogether
It's usually whoever commits to sending one or two spare lings to snipe just one drone. Being down a drone is usually a insta-loss when you only have 6.
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I was married once. one day she said she had to go for a few days and help her sister with her kid because their baby sitter had gotten sick. They couldn't find a replacement and she and her husband both worked ect ect. 2 day later she called said she was never coming back then hung up. 3 days after that i deployed to afganistan. Got back 14 months later and the house was empty. even all of my cloths and shit were gone.
my suggestion is dont bother with a relationship till ur 30ish. till then just fuck and have fun. when you get older you will be more established and you will be meeting more sane females with clear goals. until then you are setting you self up for failure if you are looking for a "relationship"
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On October 12 2011 16:54 Lmui wrote:Show nested quote +On October 12 2011 16:33 ambrosiaa wrote:On October 12 2011 14:56 TyrantPotato wrote:
I date in the same manner i play starcraft.
I load up battlenet press find match get into a game.
Then 6 pool.
Because when you 6 pool there are only 3 outcomes.
The first is that you fail miserably and the game ends right then and there. no time wasted press find match again.
The second is that you completely get what you want, you have a blast of a time before the game is over and you are left completely satisfied. press find match again.
The third one is why i 6 pool in the first place. there is one day going to be that game where you match up with someone doing the same thing to you.
6 pooling.
And when two people 6 pool one another, well its usually the most intense game you could ever play. it'll either be the most intense action filled 5 minutes of your life, or the longest closest most insane game ever one that'll never end, or one that you'll look back and think im glad i played that.
Good one. It'll usually end with the person with the better micro winning. And the other feeling like shit and quitting 6pool altogether It's usually whoever commits to sending one or two spare lings to snipe just one drone. Being down a drone is usually a insta-loss when you only have 6.
That doesnt even make sense. Unless you are talking about ACTUAL starcraft.
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On October 12 2011 17:00 Detwiler wrote:
I was married once. one day she said she had to go for a few days and help her sister with her kid because their baby sitter had gotten sick. They couldn't find a replacement and she and her husband both worked ect ect. 2 day later she called said she was never coming back then hung up. 3 days after that i deployed to afganistan. Got back 14 months later and the house was empty. even all of my cloths and shit were gone.
my suggestion is dont bother with a relationship till ur 30ish. till then just fuck and have fun. when you get older you will be more established and you will be meeting more sane females with clear goals. until then you are setting you self up for failure if you are looking for a "relationship"
Wow that is one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. Sorry to hear. You didn't try contacting her or...? I mean c'mon, marriage isn't a joke man.
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On October 12 2011 11:50 Carnagath wrote:
Well, I'm introverted, incapable of small talk, short tempered and often hostile towards people I don't know (but really open, loyal and honest towards people I know and like). About 95% of the people I meet, regardless of their gender, have no hobbies or passion about anything, they just work, eat, sleep, fuck and think they will live forever. That's infuriating to me, I just don't understand it. I often feel like I'm surrounded by zombies. That severely limits the pool of people that I'd like to spend more than 2 consecutive hours with, and by extention my dating pool. I'm also not a "one night stand" kind of person. Tried it, I wanted more, she didn't, it was extremely fucking painful, fuck that. To be honest, I've come to turns with those things and don't really care anymore. The only thing that deeply hurts me and keeps me up at night is that I am completely crazy about kids. I am the best uncle in the whole world, and I would kill to have children of my own. Too bad.
If you think the problem is everyone else, the problem is you.
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On October 12 2011 11:50 Carnagath wrote:
Well, I'm introverted, incapable of small talk, short tempered and often hostile towards people I don't know (but really open, loyal and honest towards people I know and like). About 95% of the people I meet, regardless of their gender, have no hobbies or passion about anything, they just work, eat, sleep, fuck and think they will live forever. That's infuriating to me, I just don't understand it. I often feel like I'm surrounded by zombies. That severely limits the pool of people that I'd like to spend more than 2 consecutive hours with, and by extention my dating pool. I'm also not a "one night stand" kind of person. Tried it, I wanted more, she didn't, it was extremely fucking painful, fuck that. To be honest, I've come to turns with those things and don't really care anymore. The only thing that deeply hurts me and keeps me up at night is that I am completely crazy about kids. I am the best uncle in the whole world, and I would kill to have children of my own. Too bad.
People appear like this on the outside but everyone thinks they are the protagonist of their life, thus there can be some people who can strongly justify for any wrongs that they do.
My point is that maybe you aren't wrong, but you won't know until you look deeper into what they "just work, eat, sleep, fuck and think they will live forever" and that there are reasons why they are doing this and that and able to cope with it in their mind.
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Lol damn...try to keep the cynicism down at least. Nobody wants to deal with shit. I could be wrong though, maybe you find your match in cynicism and you hit it off. Ok that doesn't even make sense, ahahah.
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On October 12 2011 12:17 Spiffeh wrote:
I notice high quality people don't usually flaunt their lives when you first meet them, they're trying to get to know you rather than showing you how interesting they are. It can come across that they're boring or have no passions, but you don't usually get that info right off the bat unless you blatantly ask them. Just give it time and most of all, give them a chance. Being judgmental is the quickest way to sever any friendships before they even exist.
Time is never working. Natural instincts decide in less then 3 seconds whether to get someone or not.
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@OP: I can't help but laugh abit while I read your post, it was a great telling of your story and am thankful you shared it.
I've sat back a few minutes and tried to think of the "worst" date I've had. The only thing that could come to mind was going to prom on a whim for a pretty girl with no date. I've never held interest back in my days of school (i'm 25 now) to goto dances. Granted I did go to a few it truly wasn't for me but to support others/friends in performances. Anyways, one of my bro's friends asked me to ask her out to prom the day before (he was already in relationship) to make her feel better. Low and behold my dumbass actually did it out of chivalry and never held any real interest in her. What a night to say the least! From memory, we arrived and she spent close to an hour wanting to sit and talk with me and her friends. After the third time of me asking her to dance and she telling me she didn't know how, I grabbed her hand and dragged her on the dance floor. After all I'm not getting dressed up for a dance and not dancing, even if I look like a fool. After a few songs she went to sit down and said she couldn't dance anymore (mind you this is a cheerleader at the time). At this point I see a flock of my friends and proceed to dance with them for just about a song, until I glance over at my date and realize she is sitting by herself with a sort of despair look glancing down. I b-line over to her and lets just say I had to listen to about 2 hours of self loathe from her. I actually ended up taking her home and on the way stopped by a spot I like to sit and think/meditate (a place by a orchard) tried my best to provide enthusiasm and light. I had more than a headache after all said and done. I was pretty baffled by how one of the "prettiest" girls in my school could be so dark inside. Was like some shit out of a anime or movie.
My second story is short and pretty funny/interesting. I knew a girl back in highschool through mutual friends. Years down the road I catch her in bestbuy shopping and say hi, bottom line up front she was having a get together that night and invited me. So I attend, show up a little later than everybody (had to get my games in you know, training) as I pull up and get out of the car she is in the front yard and see's me, comes running over to me and jumps up on me fully latching herself on me. I was almost in total shock. I try to be as polite as possible in removing her from me. The funny part about that story - I ended up hooking up with one of her good friends (we hit it off pretty well)
I read all these stories and think about why I don't have any true horror stories.. and well I came to think that maybe it deals with my whole philosophy on dating. Before I even go on dates with people I spend quite some time actually getting to know them through other means, if it was talking while at school, phone, texting, emailing, every possible social medium we have. I would really never go on what we deem as a blind date or even a date with somebody I could be interested in. If I took you out to a movie and dinner, it was because I already had great interest in said person. Usually, by the time that happens there is already involvement from both of us and in particular a sentimental value. Does this make sense?
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On October 13 2011 01:07 Jinir9 wrote:+ Show Spoiler +@OP: I can't help but laugh abit while I read your post, it was a great telling of your story and am thankful you shared it.
I've sat back a few minutes and tried to think of the "worst" date I've had. The only thing that could come to mind was going to prom on a whim for a pretty girl with no date. I've never held interest back in my days of school (i'm 25 now) to goto dances. Granted I did go to a few it truly wasn't for me but to support others/friends in performances. Anyways, one of my bro's friends asked me to ask her out to prom the day before (he was already in relationship) to make her feel better. Low and behold my dumbass actually did it out of chivalry and never held any real interest in her. What a night to say the least! From memory, we arrived and she spent close to an hour wanting to sit and talk with me and her friends. After the third time of me asking her to dance and she telling me she didn't know how, I grabbed her hand and dragged her on the dance floor. After all I'm not getting dressed up for a dance and not dancing, even if I look like a fool. After a few songs she went to sit down and said she couldn't dance anymore (mind you this is a cheerleader at the time). At this point I see a flock of my friends and proceed to dance with them for just about a song, until I glance over at my date and realize she is sitting by herself with a sort of despair look glancing down. I b-line over to her and lets just say I had to listen to about 2 hours of self loathe from her. I actually ended up taking her home and on the way stopped by a spot I like to sit and think/meditate (a place by a orchard) tried my best to provide enthusiasm and light. I had more than a headache after all said and done. I was pretty baffled by how one of the "prettiest" girls in my school could be so dark inside. Was like some shit out of a anime or movie.
My second story is short and pretty funny/interesting. I knew a girl back in highschool through mutual friends. Years down the road I catch her in bestbuy shopping and say hi, bottom line up front she was having a get together that night and invited me. So I attend, show up a little later than everybody (had to get my games in you know, training) as I pull up and get out of the car she is in the front yard and see's me, comes running over to me and jumps up on me fully latching herself on me. I was almost in total shock. I try to be as polite as possible in removing her from me. The funny part about that story - I ended up hooking up with one of her good friends (we hit it off pretty well)
I read all these stories and think about why I don't have any true horror stories.. and well I came to think that maybe it deals with my whole philosophy on dating. Before I even go on dates with people I spend quite some time actually getting to know them through other means, if it was talking while at school, phone, texting, emailing, every possible social medium we have. I would really never go on what we deem as a blind date or even a date with somebody I could be interested in. If I took you out to a movie and dinner, it was because I already had great interest in said person. Usually, by the time that happens there is already involvement from both of us and in particular a sentimental value. Does this make sense?
Heh I think the fact that a pretty girl didn't have a prom date should have been a dead giveaway on other issues. And I'm being very general with "pretty girl". I personally can't stand the self-loathing nonsense, so I can agree with you there. And you made more than enough effort to get her to dance or w/e.
As for you hooking up with a friend of a friend, that's why this is all about networking - always be networking.
//play on the phrase "always be closing"
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I can still recall my last date, which was not as bad (I am 16 atm)
This girl, I met last summer on physics camp (they are best things in life! Imagine yourself partying with your best friends and doing craziest things whole week). I wasn't into her at first sight (and still not completely), but i liked her from the moment we first talked. She was friendly and fun, so I felt good near her. Later, we got assigned to same group, so we were doing together all the activities. I didn't talk to her all that much, though.
On the very last night (was around 1 a.m.) I went looking for her and i found her in one classroom (we were accomodated in local school building) with her friend. I joined them in their conversation and soon her friend left. She (her friend) was looking for her boyfriend, which was in the middle of very intresting debate. My girl stayed for a while quietly, but then she decided to leave. I felt my chance, so I said
"Talk to me for a while".
"What about?" she replied.
"I dunno, school maybe?" (we are attending different schools in the same town)
So we talked about everything and nothing for about 1 hour, when I found out, that she was playing Morrowind, reading Game of Thrones and did historical dances. How many other girls are like this one? That was the time, I felt being attracted to her (it was not love and still isn't). Then, one of other guys showed up, so naturally I started to talk also to him. That was the time she left.
We slept in that classroom with 5 others, including her friend and her friends boyfriend. In the morning, she lent me her cape (how awesome is THAT?) just not to feel cold.
Later on, I borrowed Game of Thrones book from her. I sugessted that we meet at (somewhere). She aggreed, and I told her it was long time since I was last time in a tea house (notice, I never asked her out for date). We spent there 2 hours, again talking and talking. About 1 st. hour, she started to tickle me. I tickled back, but she is tickle-proof (that's SO OP!), so i held pillow under my shoulder 2 nd hour. I had some ending planned, but she ended up running for trolley bus, so opportunity was gone
Last time, (in czech translation, GoT is divided into two books) I had finished 1st. book and asked her for another. She suggested meeting on that day (last day of holidays) on 3 pm, but only to give me second book (my brothers also read the 1st book). On 14:58, I was still playing LoL. Then I looked at watch and realized, gave my bro computer mouse and ran. I made it in 15 minutes, did talking for 5 mins at the bus.
I have read 2nd book long time ago. I want to borrow 3rd, but she says, it is somewhere out of house (they indeed are popular). I think I could meet her in about two weeks.
Wish me luck!
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So fate can be a real pinch in the dick.
On the train last week, was sitting opposite this pretty hot girl, started talking to her (which is unlike me; who talks to randoms on the train? But decided why the hell not), got on well with her, got her number. BAM!
We met up tonight for drinks and got on fucking amazing, laughing the whole time. What you'd qualify as a really good first date.
I get home and to cut a very long story short, another girl whom is best described as the Rachel to my Ross just breaks up with her bf and wants to see me for consolement and whatever (not naked consolement, literal consolement). It breaks my heart every time she breaks up with some douche and she knows how I feel (came out with it recently) so I'm pretty torn up about that.
Now the real kicker. After a good 9 months or so with no real sign of females, these two come along within ONE WEEK of me moving to Korea. ONE FUCKING WEEK.
I'm gutted. If I was staying, I'd definitely be with girl #1 (way too much history with #2). Worst timing since MC decided on Carriers vs Jinro.
I know I'm sounding like a whiny bitch (el oh el, two women, whats the problem). Needed to vent.
Feeling better.
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I'm gay (and not obviously so), I'm introverted and get ridiculously anxious when meeting new people, and I hate parties. Fast track to datelessness. Meh. I'm hoping that I can meet someone I'm compatible with sometime soon.
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Not great.
My wife doesn't approve of me dating... 
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On October 13 2011 07:54 Eishi_Ki wrote:
So fate can be a real pinch in the dick.
On the train last week, was sitting opposite this pretty hot girl, started talking to her (which is unlike me; who talks to randoms on the train? But decided why the hell not), got on well with her, got her number. BAM!
We met up tonight for drinks and got on fucking amazing, laughing the whole time. What you'd qualify as a really good first date.
I get home and to cut a very long story short, another girl whom is best described as the Rachel to my Ross just breaks up with her bf and wants to see me for consolement and whatever (not naked consolement, literal consolement). It breaks my heart every time she breaks up with some douche and she knows how I feel (came out with it recently) so I'm pretty torn up about that.
Now the real kicker. After a good 9 months or so with no real sign of females, these two come along within ONE WEEK of me moving to Korea. ONE FUCKING WEEK.
I'm gutted. If I was staying, I'd definitely be with girl #1 (way too much history with #2). Worst timing since MC decided on Carriers vs Jinro.
I know I'm sounding like a whiny bitch (el oh el, two women, whats the problem). Needed to vent.
Feeling better.
Dang that timing sucks. 9mo's is a pretty crazy dry spell though heh. I dunno, I have a strict policy on "shoulder to cry on" for a good reason though. I know your brain is well aware that it's not something you should be doing, but the heart is still stuck to her. Good luck anyway.
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On October 13 2011 08:36 matjlav wrote:
I'm gay (and not obviously so), I'm introverted and get ridiculously anxious when meeting new people, and I hate parties. Fast track to datelessness. Meh. I'm hoping that I can meet someone I'm compatible with sometime soon.
Beer and team sports!
Seriously, joining Gay Soccer changed my life. I belong to a league of ~160 co-ed gay soccer players where we play every tuesday/wednesday, and have the occasional social event where we'll rent out a club/bar, play music and raise funds for our league. It's for all skill levels where some people have never kicked a ball before in their life, and other's who have played for 20 years. It's a huge age range and has really positive energy.
There's just so many plusses!
* You get to meet people without it having to be awkward (you're there to play soccer; you have something to focus on)
* You get great exercise
* You build a skillset and improve (sense of accomplishment)
It's rad. I highly recommend it!
(infact, i'd recommend joining a co-ed team sport for anyone wishing to meet new people. This isn't limited to homosexuals, and it's not limited to trying to meet people for dating purposes either. Some of my best friends are people I met in this league)
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