Dating: How's your luck? - Page 210

On July 11 2013 11:00 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:


If her religion is a dealbreaker, then there's really nothing you two can do about it. You wouldn't be the first couple to not work out because of different beliefs.

If you two are willing to set aside those differences (she may have more trouble with this, because of her family's reaction), then you can try it out. Long distance relationships are extremely hard though.

Or you guys could just have a hook-up this summer, if you both recognize that there's no possibility of a long term relationship, but you still want the physical and sexual aspects.

On July 11 2013 11:05 phipsL wrote:


She said multiple times that if i'd propose to her she would definitley say yes.

And a hook-up is no options, because that would cause her problems by her family. She needs to be a virgin until shes married, thats very typical for muslims. Well only for the women.

So, do you think i should try out if there is a possibility to get over her and meet new girls or...?

On July 11 2013 10:52 phipsL wrote:
So, my situation has changed a lot since i last posted in this thread. Not really in a good way but i think i'll just write it down here:
There is that girl i dont really know. I've met her on facebook like 2 years ago and we've been texting ever since, every day. We both figured out that we were made for each other. There is only one problem: She is muslim and I am an atheist with western attitude. She lives like 300km away from me and we have never actually met in Real life. But we have this feeling that destiny wanted us to meet. And I'm pretty sure thats not only a feeling.
Two weeks or so ago we we're casually talking about how we gonna marry in the future and stuff like that and then i told her that if I'm single by age 25 i will marry her no matter what (Im pretty sure thats impossible because of her family and their religion so im not really worried about that promise). But the point of this is that the "relationship" i had from April to June (im not really sure if you can call that a relationship) didnt work out because i didnt really had the feeling it could work out. I was always thinking about (for the matter that we need a name we just call her Ingeborg, because thats an old name in germany and i find it hilarious) ingeborg. I always think about her and i'm not really sure if i can love any other girl. Which kinda sucks right now, because now the girls start to like me. And i dont want a relationship where i dont love the girl, just because thats not fair.

So right now i am at that point that i admit that im in love with ingeborg. I will meet her for the first time this summer.
And because of my priniciples of not starting a relationship with a girl i dont want to hurt i am unable to get into a relationship. But i will also not start a relationship with ingeborg because she is not allowed to because of her religion.

Little blog entry, but i dont write blogs so i guess thats fine

On July 12 2013 02:54 QuanticHawk wrote:

it's like one half of your brain knows this is absolutely retarded in every single way, but that other half of the brain is way louder.

you're both naive as hell and immature. stop talking to each other and go talk to a therapist. chances are it's a dude anyway

On July 12 2013 05:37 phipsL wrote:


LOLOLOL. we have been texting for almost 2 years now. Don't you think we already talked on skype, telephone or whatever?

On July 11 2013 10:52 phipsL wrote:
So, my situation has changed a lot since i last posted in this thread. Not really in a good way but i think i'll just write it down here:
There is that girl i dont really know. I've met her on facebook like 2 years ago and we've been texting ever since, every day. We both figured out that we were made for each other. There is only one problem: She is muslim and I am an atheist with western attitude. She lives like 300km away from me and we have never actually met in Real life. But we have this feeling that destiny wanted us to meet. And I'm pretty sure thats not only a feeling.
Two weeks or so ago we we're casually talking about how we gonna marry in the future and stuff like that and then i told her that if I'm single by age 25 i will marry her no matter what (Im pretty sure thats impossible because of her family and their religion so im not really worried about that promise). But the point of this is that the "relationship" i had from April to June (im not really sure if you can call that a relationship) didnt work out because i didnt really had the feeling it could work out. I was always thinking about (for the matter that we need a name we just call her Ingeborg, because thats an old name in germany and i find it hilarious) ingeborg. I always think about her and i'm not really sure if i can love any other girl. Which kinda sucks right now, because now the girls start to like me. And i dont want a relationship where i dont love the girl, just because thats not fair.

So right now i am at that point that i admit that im in love with ingeborg. I will meet her for the first time this summer.
And because of my priniciples of not starting a relationship with a girl i dont want to hurt i am unable to get into a relationship. But i will also not start a relationship with ingeborg because she is not allowed to because of her religion.

Little blog entry, but i dont write blogs so i guess thats fine

On July 12 2013 23:34 SliceAndDice wrote:


You are ridiculous. Is this a troll post?
You should go to a psychiatrist if this isn't a troll post.

On July 13 2013 00:18 Shiori wrote:
I just broke up with my girlfriend, or rather, she just broke up with me. She was 24 and I'm 21, so there was an age gap as well as the fact that I'm in university still while she works as a graphics design coordinator at a really huge bank headquarters. She also lives about 1.5 hours away from me (I live in a small town whereas she lives in the city; during university, I also live in that city, but since it's the summer I'm mostly back in my hometown) so she cited distance issues. She also said that she felt that I wasn't making her feel wanted enough and that I wasn't spending enough time with her, which is absolutely true since I definitely had my doubts about the relationship. That said, she was honestly the sweetest girl I've ever met and she treated me incredibly well (always thought of me, did things for me, bought me meaningful gifts for no reason, took an interest in my hobbies and life and supported me in my struggles without fail) and now that it's over I find myself missing her so much, as we had many wonderful memories.

From a rational point of view, I know that it's probably for the best. There was really no way that it was going to last, because the truth is that when we were in the relationship, I often found myself questioning how much I really liked her. Furthermore, she was looking to settle down in the next few years, whereas I still have a lot of school left to do and so I can't really do that. We both became much more attached to each other than we set out to be (initially it was just going to be not particularly serious and we'd just see how it goes) but when she broke up with me we told each other that we were starting to fall in love with each other. For her part, she said that she wanted to end things before she fell completely in love because she couldn't handle the loneliness of being so far away from me. Even when I offered to visit more often and take steps to improve things, she was pretty against it, and I suppose it's because it was too little, too late.

It's just really hard to get over it, honestly, because I can't stop thinking of all the wonderful memories we had together and of all the touching things she did for me. I wrote several thousand words in my journal the other day recounting the entirety of our relationship (which didn't last very long but felt more serious than it was) along with all the good things about her and the things I remember disliking. The trouble is that it's so hard to remember the things you didn't like now that you don't have them, but it's so hard to forget the things you did like now that they're gone; the former only bothers you when it's something you have, so you don't miss it when it's gone, but the latter is something you might not even realize until it's completely out of your reach.

I wish her nothing but the best; she truly deserves someone who can return her utter devotion and kindness. I wish I could have the chance to try again, but I know now that such a thing will never happen. For me, the hardest thing will be moving on and accepting that one of the most beautiful chapters of my life has ended. As someone who suffers from clinical depression and generalized anxiety disorder, it's very hard for me to avoid relapsing in the aftermath of this breakup, especially since she offered me such support in dealing with those issues. I'll never forget her, though, and a month from now I'll reach out to her so that we can be friends again. We both agreed that if we ever broke up, we should make the effort to become friends again once the romantic feelings and longings have subsided.

I think I'm going to take a break from dating for awhile, though. I don't think I'll meet anyone quite that special for a long time, though perhaps the world will surprise me. For now, it's just sadness, regret, and nostalgia.

On July 13 2013 00:28 Shiori wrote:
I'm not going to do nothing. I'm going to keep doing the things I need to do, like mathematics, working, and finishing my novel. I have no intention of just sitting around all day brooding. That said, I'm not really interested in meeting girls or starting another relationship at the moment, because my emotions are rather unstable and because I'm not confident in my ability to think totally clearly about relationships right now. The last thing I want is to rebound and end up hurting some girl who thinks I'm seriously into her.

I don't post pics lol this isn't misc.