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haegN
Norway533 Posts
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_Major
United States107 Posts
Pro tip: relax - nature finds a way. | ||
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Poffel
471 Posts
On July 22 2011 11:38 heroyi wrote: I do wish someday to experience it (ultimately to have kids and raise a family) however I do feel that people are raising the point up too frequently and giving it too much value. Is it really something that should be highly regarded where if you fail to achieve such feat then you are looked down upon? Maybe the bolded part is the problem. Talking about sex to anybody else than your partner/liaison tends to be tedious, much unlike the real thing. | ||
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Grumbaki
Belgium141 Posts
I'm a fat pale dude that bangs a cute asian chick. Not rich in case you wonder. Read again about bourdieu's capital description. You don't only have sexual capital to exchange. You also have cultural, symbolic, social and financial capitals to propose. Just find a chick with capitals you like (even if that include motherbleeping hot) that values highly the capitals you have. I'm 2 years married and happy with that cute asian chick based on cutural symbolic and social capital  Other than that you can listen to Oscar Wilde: "Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power." I know my answer is cynical but it's honnest. | ||
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VL-Orion
Indonesia78 Posts
The idea that if you procreate many times with another person(preferable before you hit 21/25) can make you happy is ignorant and has no scientific basis.(this can be achieved however by the use illicit substances) Sex is just sex(assuming you did it with strangers), its a way to pleasure yourself legally (unless you are in Utah) there is really not much of a different from let say masturbating in your room. In both we are looking to satisfied our primeval libido and both achieved the same result (more or less) with one having more risk involved in it(unwanted pregnancy, angry parents , or perhaps even STD) So really if all you really want is to satisfied your libido I recommend masturbation as a much safer alternative. (This next wall of text are opinions therefore it can be ignored completely)[/b] I do think you should give it a try once of twice just to know how it is (since you want to start a family and all). I on the other hand has completely given up on the stupid idea like "love" and common human decency long ago, so I really cant be bothered with (why do it when you have no end game) | ||
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LMPeaches
United States157 Posts
On July 23 2011 09:44 SolidusR wrote: Exactly lol, people who are 18+ and haven't had sex yet are typically insecure about it and demonstrate it in one fashion or the other. They make a big deal out of it (ironically) and about how they are special from everyone else because they aren't interested or they just "don't get it". Sometimes they even try to make other people feel bad about doing it. Then they have sex. All of a sudden things make sense, they feel accepted by the opposite gender, and magically the justifications for virginity disappear. It's not really that simple, but yeah, the point is that virgins believe that sex isn't a big deal right up until they do it themselves. Yup. Lets all just shut up and fuck now | ||
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madstarcraft
United States103 Posts
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Athos
United States2484 Posts
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heishe
Germany2284 Posts
On July 23 2011 05:36 Keitzer wrote: FINALLY! Someone who else who sides with the FACT that sex only adds physical pleasure to your life. Now, not saying I wouldn't MIND the pleasure, but the risks involved, the time it takes to find "the one" and the little gain you actually get from it, not worth it IMO. (Almost) Exactly. Sex does not only give you purely physical pleasure, of course. After sex, due to the chemical things involved that I mentioned, you will also get a load of psychological pleasures, like general happiness, short-term boost in self confidence. etc. And when you have good sex with a long term partner, it actually adds a giant amount of happiness to the relationship overall. These things are not really useful per se, but they are without a doubt nice. But you still have to keep in mind that it's just personal preference. Someone else might say: "Yeah, being rich is good and all and I wouldn't MIND it, but the work involved, the time it takes to make a lot of money, and the little emotional gain you actually get from it compared to other things... not worth it IMO." and it would still be a perfectly valid point. | ||
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msjakofsky
1169 Posts
On July 22 2011 11:38 heroyi wrote: I am 20 years old about to hit 21 and am still a virgin. What is the point of the said statement? Well to an avg-dimwitted tool, I would be considered a "loser." Is this a valid assumption? Society puts a lot of pressure, especially on pre-teens, on the idea of you must have sex else you are just a loser. They portray that you can't achieve a fulfilling happy life without and everybody is doing it and it is easy as 1,2,3.Despite there being studies showing both men and women who have engaged in sexual activity despite not wanting to or feeling "ready." I do wish someday to experience it (ultimately to have kids and raise a family) however I do feel that people are raising the point up too frequently and giving it too much value. Is it really something that should be highly regarded where if you fail to achieve such feat then you are looked down upon? discuss?? edit: I am not a religious person. I raised the point just for curiosity sake. However if you are asking whether I am religious or not due to my virginity then no. I am a virgin just because fate has not allowed to experience it...but that is not the point edit 2: I did not state nor do I "value" virginity highly. I am asking if sex topic, in general, is over valued in society. This topic ties to a lot of other things. It connects to the problems little girls with social images of them must having a 32C boobs and slim slender body else they are not socially acceptable. It connects to "porn" addiction with the arise of the internet. Which also connects to people have super high expectation of what sex should be (i.e threesome is not as prominent as people think) etc... "Why is everything about sex?" -40 year old virgin i don't think you are a loser and i don't know what kind of person are you, but i and millions of other people can tell you, sex with an attractive female is the best fun you can have, it can't be overrated, nothing compares to it. how high are your expectations of life? if you want to live a happy and fulfilling life without sex, then you have to be lacking something that's coded into humans by nature (those people are called asexual). i suspect that you haven't had sex yet, this state obviously disturbs you and because of that you started manufacturing a self-defensive philosophy for it- this is also a natural thing, but you only have to have sex one time to see that it doesn't work the slightest;) also humans are social creatures, it's only natural that people start to date after a certain age, and with those usually sex is involved. so if you're asking, can life be happy and fulfilled without such relationship? no one dreams about being alone, it usually sucks. I too lost my virginity pretty late, at the age of 18, and i had some asshole "friends" that mocked me for it, if you have such people around you, it's time to get new friends i say. also i consider myself a pretty calm and intellectual person, but when i'm turned on by a girl everything starts to move around sex if we interact in any way;) and most my friends are much worse- and we're all normal people. | ||
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jexxto
United Kingdom284 Posts
Goodluck and good sex. | ||
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ThePieRate
United States263 Posts
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Akta
447 Posts
Question: -Why does a lot of people think 20+ year old virgins are losers? Answer: -Because a lot of people feel that men being attractive to women equals to being a winner. | ||
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virpi
Germany3598 Posts
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MilesTeg
France1271 Posts
People are so quick to brag about sex though; but I'm pretty sure those who do it for the first time at 12-14 are in the minority. Anyway my point is: 1) don't forget that when it comes to sex people lie. A lot. 2) it's really not something you should worry about, you might be over the median age but still in a perfectly normal range. | ||
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Peet_C
Spain1 Post
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Nuf
Denmark145 Posts
What I'm trying to say, keep waiting until you feel like you really love somebody. Then go ahead. | ||
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JesusOurSaviour
United Arab Emirates1141 Posts
On July 23 2011 20:17 virpi wrote: Question is: why is sex boring? Isn't the catch for sex, "Fun, Free and TOTALLY amazing?" Bro go back and have sex like them ancient Greeks I've lost my virginity with 20, too. I Fucked around like a madman for four years, until I got bored of it. Now I haven't had sex since January. And it feels absolutely fantastic, I think won`t have sex for a long time. Nah - seriously why did it get boring for you? (genuinely interested here) | ||
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Maple Bass
22 Posts
The point I am making is this - I think your views are a result of the lack of the option to have sex, whether you realise this consciously or not. Correct me if I'm wrong, that you could have sex with your girlfriend right now if you wanted to but you are refusing to due to not being 'ready'. | ||
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Akta
447 Posts
On July 23 2011 21:07 JesusOurSaviour wrote: I can't speak for virpi but for a lot of older people like me it's not the sex itself you get "tired" of, more getting tired of a lifestyle. Sex doesn't bore me at all but everything in my life isn't focused on it like it probably was one way or another when I was younger.Question is: why is sex boring? Isn't the catch for sex, "Fun, Free and TOTALLY amazing?" Bro go back and have sex like them ancient Greeks Nah - seriously why did it get boring for you? (genuinely interested here) | ||
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