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I am 20 years old about to hit 21 and am still a virgin. What is the point of the said statement?
Well to an avg-dimwitted tool, I would be considered a "loser."
Is this a valid assumption?
Society puts a lot of pressure, especially on pre-teens, on the idea of you must have sex else you are just a loser. They portray that you can't achieve a fulfilling happy life without it/everybody is doing it, and supposedly it is easy as 1,2,3.Despite there being studies showing both men and women who have engaged in sexual activity despite not wanting to or feeling "ready."
I do wish someday to experience it (ultimately to have kids and raise a family) however I do feel that people are raising the point up too frequently and giving it too much value. Is it really something that should be highly regarded where if you fail to achieve such feat then you are looked down upon?
is the topic of sex overrated?
discuss??
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I am not a religious person. I raised the point just for curiosity sake.
However if you are asking whether I am religious or not due to my virginity then no. I am a virgin just because fate has not allowed to experience it...but that is not the point
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I did not state nor do I "value" virginity highly.
I am asking if sex topic, in general, is "overrated" in society.
This topic ties to a lot of other things. It connects to the problems little girls with social images of them must having a 32C boobs and slim slender body else they are not socially acceptable. It connects to "porn" addiction with the arise of the internet. Which also connects to people have super high expectation of what sex should be (i.e threesome is not as prominent as people think)
etc...
"Why is everything about sex?"
-40 year old virgin
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Nah I don't want to say its overrated but I have a group of really close friends that are very religious (I am not at all religious) and theyre all virgins. Great people, it just doesn't matter one bit to them, and I'd never call em losers just because they made a different life choice than me
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Have to ask it: are you a religious man?
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Can't knock it till you try it.
You know... so to speak.
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I think, ultimately, those who are like "oh you're a virgin, what a loser" are of the thought process that, because you haven't had sex, it's because you can't. Not because you don't want to.
I know a lot of people who are 17-24 who haven't had it, only one of them is a super hardcore christian, and most people that I know are in no rush to have sex constantly. I know a girl who is 24, probably one of the hottest girls I know (personally) and she's a virgin and plans to be until she gets married...
Sex/virginity has just become another label or a "value" to people in society. Most likely because of media. :p
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Not to try to piss you off, although it probably will.
Anyone I've ever heard say what you said it means they are usually horrible looking and are scared to death about talking to women. Even religious people.
The only other option is you are super religious and haven't ever seen a beautiful women.
EDIT: Actually the other option could be that you are gay
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I've always had the following view on sex: Save it till you meet your wife and it will be a million times more satisfying than it would be just hooking up with some random girls.
The only other option is you are super religious and haven't ever seen a beautiful women
Or he has been tempted just like everyone else, but has the self-control to make the smarter choice.
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Why do you value your virginity so highly? You can make the case that a lot of religious people make the case that you are looked down upon if you are not a virgin. I think as a whole society looks down upon it people losing their virginity, especially girls, but having sex once you are sexually mature is biological instinct that you insist on fighting.
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It's usually not the fact that you're a virgin that people look down on. I think the perception is more that you don't have sex because you're a loser, not that you're a loser because you don't have sex.
I'm not saying anything about you personally. I would probably still be a virgin right now if I didn't find my girlfriend 4 years ago. I just don't make friends with females that easily because I tend to look at things very logically and that's abrasive as fuck to a lot of people, specifically females.
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Don't listen to society, and all your problems will go away. You'll be a much happier, more fulfilled person and will have as much self confidence as you will need.
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Until the day we are immortal and thus do not need to "spawn" off spring to extend our genetic existence. People will continue to see 'sex' as a sign that you are worthy in society.
And yes sex is OP.
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I lost my virginity at 19, but that doesn't make me a loser. My friends respected me as much with or without the sex. It's all really a choice of want. If you want to still remain a virgin, then so be it.
The opinions of the masses should matter less to you than the opinion of one good friend.
I would like to say that there is a stigma against "old" virgins in our society, but it's not a real impedance of things, especially if the topic is never broached or you can somehow cover up your lack of sexual experiences.
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You don't need sex to be happy,
You don't need sex to be confident
You don't need sex to be healthy
And you don't need sex to be fulfilled
but it helps all of them (in most cases)
Also you are no less of a man/woman, productive or important because you haven't or have done it. If you really don't care what society thinks about it then don't care about it.
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It really only matters what you think, doesn't it? I think ultimately people around that age bring it up a lot because they've done it, and it's an easy way to make oneself feel better around those who haven't.
Personally I don't associate with people like that.
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I haven't had the experience that society as a whole scorns virginity. Maybe some elements; more in college than other places. But overall, most people respect waiting for the right person.
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Definitely not. Its not a massive deal, so you have nothing to worry about.
It is a big part of a relationship don't get me wrong, but the people that do it regularly with strangers, its just a physical release, and has no real meaning.
I'm not saying either is bad, just a personal choice
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welcome to the virgin club *high five*
it doesn't matter, lol
I have to expect people do make way too big of a deal about sex, but that's not surprising since a lot of people are very shallow.
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I bet you are christian or some other sort of religious person.. there is nothing wrong with wanting to "save" your first time for until your married.. seriously its absolutely fine, because its the way you were born and raised. Christians tend to also follow the path best satisfying "God" and sometimes this means abstaining.
I repreat, there is nothing wrong with it and it doesn't make you a "loser." The people who will call you a "loser" are not going to be successful.. thats fact.
However, you ummmm mighttt be a little bit of a loser if you are still a virgin not because you abstain, but because you can't get any. But i somehow get the drift that you simply don't want it and thats fine
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Sex was OP but it was nerfed in the circumcision patch. See local clergy for download.
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