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On September 01 2011 12:50 Amber[LighT] wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2011 08:17 shizna wrote:
i'm still a virgin and i'm 27. i haven't had a girlfriend since i was about 14.
i don't have problems talking to people... i have many female friends around my age group, but i don't go the extra mile to get laid.
i even like flirting and groping (consensual) on a night out, but that's just my 'going out' face, in truth i don't particularly like the idea of a relationship and in my opinion one night stands are icky.
i think it's because i love myself too much. some people say "there's only so much wanking you can do", i disagree.
edit: by the way, i'm one of the least religious people on the planet. in my mind, i know with 100% certainty that there is no god, no heaven, no hell, no life after death etc. Meaningless sex is meaningless if you want meaning in the act of sex. However, I can't.... I guess understand why you don't value a relationship. I love myself a lot too but I also love the feeling of having my girlfriend around to talk to, hang out, etc. It's not even about the sex, but the feeling trumps wanking it imo  A relationship is nothing more than a half-assed commitment anyway. What differs between a relationship and a friendship for you? Sex is the factor I'm assuming? [I'm not hating by any means. I was just a bit curious since you're 27 and it seems like a choice at this point rather than just not getting some for you.]
it's my weird personality. in order to feel happy, i need to make sure that the people around me are happy. which means giving and not necessarily receiving.
because of that, what exactly do i gain from a relationship? it consumes energy, time and money... i could skip the whole thing and be just as happy anyway.
if i was fussed about 'popping the cherry' i would become a gigolo.
i work in construction, and even there noone really gives a damn about sex until a tight ass or chest walks by.
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On September 01 2011 19:31 shizna wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2011 12:50 Amber[LighT] wrote:On September 01 2011 08:17 shizna wrote:
i'm still a virgin and i'm 27. i haven't had a girlfriend since i was about 14.
i don't have problems talking to people... i have many female friends around my age group, but i don't go the extra mile to get laid.
i even like flirting and groping (consensual) on a night out, but that's just my 'going out' face, in truth i don't particularly like the idea of a relationship and in my opinion one night stands are icky.
i think it's because i love myself too much. some people say "there's only so much wanking you can do", i disagree.
edit: by the way, i'm one of the least religious people on the planet. in my mind, i know with 100% certainty that there is no god, no heaven, no hell, no life after death etc. Meaningless sex is meaningless if you want meaning in the act of sex. However, I can't.... I guess understand why you don't value a relationship. I love myself a lot too but I also love the feeling of having my girlfriend around to talk to, hang out, etc. It's not even about the sex, but the feeling trumps wanking it imo A relationship is nothing more than a half-assed commitment anyway. What differs between a relationship and a friendship for you? Sex is the factor I'm assuming? [I'm not hating by any means. I was just a bit curious since you're 27 and it seems like a choice at this point rather than just not getting some for you.] it's my weird personality. in order to feel happy, i need to make sure that the people around me are happy. which means giving and not necessarily receiving. because of that, what exactly do i gain from a relationship? it consumes energy, time and money... i could skip the whole thing and be just as happy anyway. if i was fussed about 'popping the cherry' i would become a gigolo. i work in construction, and even there noone really gives a damn about sex until a tight ass or chest walks by.
I feel the same way about relationships bro. I really couldn't give a fuck. I don't wanna spend time and energy worrying about a commitment. I much prefer "fun" relationships where the girl knows it's all fun and noncommital... nothing serious
Also I'm exactly the same in that everyone around me has to be happy for me to be happy :D. Seems rare to find people that are like that.
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I am 28 and never had sex, even though I've been in love a couple of times and certainly am not immune to a beautiful girl. But I actually am a religious person (Catholic) and such are my values. This isn't going to change, obviously, with the exception of getting married, which I'd very much love to do if I were to meet the right person, and I'm sure I'd enjoy every part of it. Otherwise I'd rather at least be unhappily single than unhappily married. I would say you're doing well if you don't just go and lose your "virginity" (strictly speaking "virgin" is a feminine word) for the sake of it, which is among the dumbest reasons of all. I wish you a very fulfilling, normal, rewarding family life with a caring and faithful wife.
Sex is overrated, it is generally a marketing tool these days. In a certain sense advertisers want us to dig it because then they don't have to be creative or anything, it's enough to supply some sexual stimulus and the product will be selling. The same goes for the film industry. I'm probably exaggerating a bit but still not far from how it is, I guess. And frankly, as much as I love looking at attractive girls, I wish more dignified outfits were the norm, in which case you could just talk like normal human beings and appreciate each other's personality instead of bedroom value.
For the record, I'm not a guy who "couldn't get it". I've had it offered to me and refused. I'm not saying this to show off but to show an example that this is viable.
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On September 02 2011 13:01 Seldentar wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2011 19:31 shizna wrote:On September 01 2011 12:50 Amber[LighT] wrote:On September 01 2011 08:17 shizna wrote:
i'm still a virgin and i'm 27. i haven't had a girlfriend since i was about 14.
i don't have problems talking to people... i have many female friends around my age group, but i don't go the extra mile to get laid.
i even like flirting and groping (consensual) on a night out, but that's just my 'going out' face, in truth i don't particularly like the idea of a relationship and in my opinion one night stands are icky.
i think it's because i love myself too much. some people say "there's only so much wanking you can do", i disagree.
edit: by the way, i'm one of the least religious people on the planet. in my mind, i know with 100% certainty that there is no god, no heaven, no hell, no life after death etc. Meaningless sex is meaningless if you want meaning in the act of sex. However, I can't.... I guess understand why you don't value a relationship. I love myself a lot too but I also love the feeling of having my girlfriend around to talk to, hang out, etc. It's not even about the sex, but the feeling trumps wanking it imo A relationship is nothing more than a half-assed commitment anyway. What differs between a relationship and a friendship for you? Sex is the factor I'm assuming? [I'm not hating by any means. I was just a bit curious since you're 27 and it seems like a choice at this point rather than just not getting some for you.] it's my weird personality. in order to feel happy, i need to make sure that the people around me are happy. which means giving and not necessarily receiving. because of that, what exactly do i gain from a relationship? it consumes energy, time and money... i could skip the whole thing and be just as happy anyway. if i was fussed about 'popping the cherry' i would become a gigolo. i work in construction, and even there noone really gives a damn about sex until a tight ass or chest walks by. I feel the same way about relationships bro. I really couldn't give a fuck. I don't wanna spend time and energy worrying about a commitment. I much prefer "fun" relationships where the girl knows it's all fun and noncommital... nothing serious Also I'm exactly the same in that everyone around me has to be happy for me to be happy :D. Seems rare to find people that are like that.
I'm confused. Is it impossible to have a committed relationship while being fun at the same time?
I dunno, the relationship I have with my wife is the most fun one I've had. This isn't coming from some emasculated husband either or something, it's just that being committed shouldn't really take much energy or time through a combination of you actually wanting to be with them and being compatible.
I had my whole party phase with one night stands and I didn't find it that great. Even the whole "fun short" relationships got old fast.
The most confusing part of this though is the statement where you need to make other people happy to feel happy...as if this concept is no longer possible once you're in a relationship? Does making your partner happy count for nothing?
I must be missing the point >.>
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Bisutopia19300 Posts
I see this thread pop up a lot and have read the topic starter, but I was wondering if someone could explain what OP is supposed to stand for in the title.
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Damnit, I knew there'd already be a million comments before I got to say anything.
Dude it's only a big deal when you HAVEN'T had it, the mystery, curiosity, pressure etc makes it so frustrating. Once you finally have sex it kind of becomes more of a normal routine thing in your life.
You no longer feel so out of place in sex conversations etc, its up to you how you want to let being a virgin affect you. I didn't lose it for a long time myself, I always covered it up and acted real casual about it because I felt embarassed, everyone assumed I got it just like anyone else though.
Once I finally broke the V-card it was like oh ok cool, no biggie.
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On September 07 2011 08:56 Zeller wrote:
Damnit, I knew there'd already be a million comments before I got to say anything.
Dude it's only a big deal when you HAVEN'T had it, the mystery, curiosity, pressure etc makes it so frustrating. Once you finally have sex it kind of becomes more of a normal routine thing in your life.
You no longer feel so out of place in sex conversations etc, its up to you how you want to let being a virgin affect you. I didn't lose it for a long time myself, I always covered it up and acted real casual about it because I felt embarassed, everyone assumed I got it just like anyone else though.
Once I finally broke the V-card it was like oh ok cool, no biggie.
That's not how I was. Maybe u had bad sex. After I broke the "V-card" I wanted sex 24/7.
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obviously vagina op.
however in modern society money trumps everything, even sex.
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On September 07 2011 08:59 StorkHwaiting wrote:Show nested quote +On September 07 2011 08:56 Zeller wrote:
Damnit, I knew there'd already be a million comments before I got to say anything.
Dude it's only a big deal when you HAVEN'T had it, the mystery, curiosity, pressure etc makes it so frustrating. Once you finally have sex it kind of becomes more of a normal routine thing in your life.
You no longer feel so out of place in sex conversations etc, its up to you how you want to let being a virgin affect you. I didn't lose it for a long time myself, I always covered it up and acted real casual about it because I felt embarassed, everyone assumed I got it just like anyone else though.
Once I finally broke the V-card it was like oh ok cool, no biggie. That's not how I was. Maybe u had bad sex. After I broke the "V-card" I wanted sex 24/7.
I definitely wanted it more, but it wasn't like some mind blowing experience. I was like ok cool I'm part of the club now, hopefully I can make that happen again.
I guess what I'm getting at is all the build up before it is WAY bigger in your mind then when you finally get it.
Probably because you feel cool and confident as shit at the end haha
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On September 07 2011 08:59 StorkHwaiting wrote:Show nested quote +On September 07 2011 08:56 Zeller wrote:
Damnit, I knew there'd already be a million comments before I got to say anything.
Dude it's only a big deal when you HAVEN'T had it, the mystery, curiosity, pressure etc makes it so frustrating. Once you finally have sex it kind of becomes more of a normal routine thing in your life.
You no longer feel so out of place in sex conversations etc, its up to you how you want to let being a virgin affect you. I didn't lose it for a long time myself, I always covered it up and acted real casual about it because I felt embarassed, everyone assumed I got it just like anyone else though.
Once I finally broke the V-card it was like oh ok cool, no biggie. That's not how I was. Maybe u had bad sex. After I broke the "V-card" I wanted sex 24/7.
I don't think he means that he didn't want sex often, just that it was no longer stressful thinking about it. A lot of people have "performance anxiety" too. I remember the first few times I had sex it was pretty awkward, but that's just like a learning curve, you figure it out.
But for me it never just becomes "a part of my routine." After you initially get used to having sex, as a male you'll probably try to figure out how to improve. It can be difficult to get a girl to orgasm, depending on how experienced she is, or to orgasm multiple times, if she's capable. Then I know some guys who do pelvic floor exercises so that they can have multiple orgasms as well.
I guess it's like SC2 in a way, you can always be a little bit better 
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On September 07 2011 08:51 BisuDagger wrote:
I see this thread pop up a lot and have read the topic starter, but I was wondering if someone could explain what OP is supposed to stand for in the title.
Overpowered I believe
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Sex isnt op in society, its op IN OUR BRAINS. Many studies of the human brain show the power of sex on many actions we make not only on an everyday basis but as an entire life plan.
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On September 07 2011 09:13 NaEjeOn88 wrote:
Sex isnt op in society, its op IN OUR BRAINS. Many studies of the human brain show the power of sex on many actions we make not only on an everyday basis but as an entire life plan.
I agree, but I don't even think its OP. Without sex you don't have kids and without kids you have extinction. Its as powerful as it should be, given the obvious. I think we forget that people are literally animals and it has implications lol. We can't decide not to care about sex
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I don't really buy into the whole "sex is the best ever" ideal.
Although it is necessary for reproduction, for people in their 20s sex has largely turned into a game, especially in college. Seen as a prestige activity in men and a tool for women, it is most common among the mindless because it is cheap and easy. Does it feel great, undoubtedly (for men, sometimes women). Does it kill time, yes. Does it put you to sleep, sometimes. Does it make you a loser to not do it, no; however if you spend your time doing other things of questionable value then the loser tag when applied may not be because of the V card you carry.
Cheers,
-Shadow
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Lol man, its not a big deal, i mean, I live in brazil and here if you tell that history for some one, you ll for sure get fackd up, ppl ll think that you ar a loser, ugly and fat and bla bla.
The true is: Some times you have other's thing's to worry, sex is great? yes, its! I do need sex to live? I dont think so ... Anyway I enjoy it and hope you can enjoy it soon xD
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Sex is what humans do to procreate and perpetuate our species. I don't see how that can be over-rated or overpowered. If anything, it's under rated.
Without it, you wouldn't be here. Yea.. I'm talking to you.
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i always remember the sign my friends dad had @ his house
Sex is like air
You don't care about it
till your not getting any
(or something like that)
Honestly this thread title is misleading as sex in society is complex and thats if you assume virgins don't exsist
On a side note your not a loser first poster, if it your friends then they don't really care or are not your friends, if its not your friends then who cares what they think
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Sex is awesome, and if you aren't getting any, you are missing out.
Not just on they physicality of it either, but being so intimate with another person is simply a whole 'nother world. So much of a different world, they you can't conceive of it while you are a virgin.
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I don't know if this is weird or not for any of you but I can get a girlfriend really fast (using pick ups or just talk to a girl in a school) but I am not really after her "assets". Although the girls are attractive but I only like the "getting to know each other part" but not so much on the sexual tension. I really want to do the latter one (and so does the girl) but I just don't have to urges to get myself up "there". I know that TL.net is filled with mostly men, wondering if any of you guys felt this before(now?!?!?).
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yes.
society is mainly run by "aggressive" woman and men, therefore sex plays the main role.
intellectual people acutally give sex a huge role into mankind, but not EVERYTHING.
i concider myself as an intellecutal, therefore, i concider SC2 as the only thing that matters in my life.
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