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On July 22 2011 23:57 MasterFischer wrote:
Sex with anybody ELSE than the love of your life, IS overrated.... highly.
I would rather have 1000 lonely masturbation hours, than 1000 hours of sex with random females I don't have anything in common with, or a love interest in.
Of couree, if it's 1000 hours with the love of my life, then, that is PRICELESS.
I've gone without sex for about a year now... I don't really miss it, if I know it will be with random people.. which it will, until i find the dream girl.
Until I find her, masturbation will do just fine. There are plenty o girls out there who wants to get fucked by me, but it's become boring, because it ultimately feels shallow and uninteresting.
Noo pick 1000 hours of randoms! I wouldn't say its highly overrated, but you are sort of right. The difference between random sex and sex with someone you like / love is completely different. But sex with a girl is way better than masturbation.
I wouldn't freak out about not getting with random girls constantly, but dont place that in the same category as sex with someone you like.
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Sex is overrated and easy to get. Women are such whores in modern society that its mostly like shooting fish in a barrel if you're in pursuit.
Value your virginity. Find a good girl and bond with her on a deeper level then have sex. You won't regret it.
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Blame it on the genes, not the society. Society is just overglorifying what their genes tell them to.
Honestly, at this point in the history and the population being at this crazy number in billions, if we still want to keep being proud of how "intelligent" and "greater" than other species on the Earth, we should be fucking not breeding at all, and reduce our number to a sustainable level (with regards to natural resources). I don't see that happening, so I think that's bullshit to claim that we, humans, as a species are more intelligent than any other.
Man, I love writing stuff in Cracked.com language.
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On July 23 2011 00:12 JamesJohansen wrote:
Sex is overrated and easy to get. Women are such whores in modern society that its mostly like shooting fish in a barrel if you're in pursuit.
Value your virginity. Find a good girl and bond with her on a deeper level then have sex. You won't regret it.
If you can make such a blanket statement about those of us who like to have casual sex then I get to make this statement
Sex is fucking awesome. Theres a reason everyone talks, wants and thinks about it. Fuck virginity your gonna suck at sex with your first partner and ruin the entire experience anyway. Might as well get some "educational" backround in the field. Also, women are great in modern society. A lot of my closest friends would probably fall under your "whore" category, sorry they are sexually active and dont give a shit what people think of them (kind of sounds familiar, like a.... guy)
My advice is to have sex with whoever and whenever... If you fall in love in the process (which you most likely will) it will not ruin or take away from the experience 1 bit
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I wouldn't suggest jumping into a marriage before understanding the opposite person sexually.
For several reasons:
1. You will be bad at it your first time, the same goes for your spouse. Say the first time for both of you is on your honeymoon.
a. Its will be awkward, since you have no experience with others body. You will have no clue what, when, where, or how to touch each other. "Clumsy" will spring to mind.
b. The girl in the relationship will be in pain, and may not even be able to continue depending.
c. The guy will not have very much endurance, so even if the girl isn't in pain, she prob wont get close to a climax.
d. You will need to be at least mildly competent, if you want your honeymoon night to be blissful.
2. Your partner and yourself may not be sexually "compatible".
a. If you haven't messed around with your spouse prior to marriage then you don't know how the two of you will work together
b. Now I'm not saying sex is everything in a relationship, BUT, It does play a very large part in having a happy relationship.
c. If the two of you don't fit together well, then that emotional and physical connection will be severed.
3. Practice makes perfect...
a. Starcraft.
b. Soccer.
c. Baseball.
d. and of course: Sex.
I'm not saying that you should go "whore" yourself around town.
I am only suggesting that when you are having a loving relationship, outside of marriage, that is a perfect time to work on your "timings" and just understand the opposite sexes body.
What's good or bad, and how to be sensual. ya dig?
also this: ...its a far better write up than my own.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2535397/five_reasons_you_should_have_sex_before.html?cat=41
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On July 23 2011 00:11 Razith wrote:Show nested quote +On July 22 2011 23:57 MasterFischer wrote:
Sex with anybody ELSE than the love of your life, IS overrated.... highly.
I would rather have 1000 lonely masturbation hours, than 1000 hours of sex with random females I don't have anything in common with, or a love interest in.
Of couree, if it's 1000 hours with the love of my life, then, that is PRICELESS.
I've gone without sex for about a year now... I don't really miss it, if I know it will be with random people.. which it will, until i find the dream girl.
Until I find her, masturbation will do just fine. There are plenty o girls out there who wants to get fucked by me, but it's become boring, because it ultimately feels shallow and uninteresting.
Noo pick 1000 hours of randoms! I wouldn't say its highly overrated, but you are sort of right. The difference between random sex and sex with someone you like / love is completely different. But sex with a girl is way better than masturbation. I wouldn't freak out about not getting with random girls constantly, but dont place that in the same category as sex with someone you like.
I've never had it so I wouldn't know but it seems like by the 1,000th time you had sex with the same person, you would both be quite amazing at having sex with each other. While with the 1,000 randoms, yeah some of them know how to have sex "well", but do they know everything about you physically? Every little spot?
I really liked reading all the responses in this thread  . Good read, and I'm going through that point in my life where I'm really weighing my relationships and thinking about what a relationship really is. Sooo I thought it was helpful, and though I've always tried to not stress out about lots of stuff (including women derp) just reading every. single. post. in this thread helped me relax even more.
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On July 23 2011 00:12 JamesJohansen wrote:
Sex is overrated and easy to get. Women are such whores in modern society that its mostly like shooting fish in a barrel if you're in pursuit.
Value your virginity. Find a good girl and bond with her on a deeper level then have sex. You won't regret it.
Oh god yes, this x1000. Sex isn't hard to get, finding a girl who is worth more than just sex is. You only get one first time, make it count.
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On July 23 2011 00:12 JamesJohansen wrote:
Sex is overrated and easy to get. Women are such whores in modern society that its mostly like shooting fish in a barrel if you're in pursuit.
Value your virginity. Find a good girl and bond with her on a deeper level then have sex. You won't regret it.
Whores, eh? You must be really popular with the ladies, <3.
People make too big a deal out of sex. Practice safe sex, make sure everything's consensual, and have at it.
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I had sex for the first time when I was 22.
I had some real opportunities before that, but I don't know, I was acting like a 14 year old scared girl and didn't think I was ready yet or this was the good girl.
I fully agree in the whole part of having sex and making love are 2 distincts things.
Having sex is waaaaaay overrrated, you can get it done by yourself or any cheap girl.
It's just physical pleasure that last some sconds.
If you do it by yourself you don't have to face the awkward moment where you see that girl in your bed and wonder if that was really worth it. The only thing I can think is that this girl will never be my girl friend because how can I trust some cheap girl that was screaming sex the first time I met her.
Having real feelings and expressing them through acts is a totally different story. I try not to have sex with some random girls because i really don't fill any satisfaction on doing so.
Again, this is my personal story and opinion and I can conceive some guys have a different approach.
My conclusion is that sex is overrated, but girls aren't.
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I can't imagine anyone who's not out of his mind saying anything bad about sex.
Saying it's overrated is one thing, that fully depends on your mindset and what you expect from it, if you expect to get relaxed and enjoy something completely naturalistic and physical, you just won't be able to say anything bad about it unless something is wrong with you, IMO.
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The people saying that they are saving themselves for marriage and that somehow that will make the sex better are hilarious.
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On July 23 2011 00:48 OutlaW- wrote:
I can't imagine anyone who's not out of his mind saying anything bad about sex.
Saying it's overrated is one thing, that fully depends on your mindset and what you expect from it, if you expect to get relaxed and enjoy something completely naturalistic and physical, you just won't be able to say anything bad about it unless something is wrong with you, IMO.
I think the main subject is how sex is perceived in modern society and if the stereotypical idea of sex fits with reality. Watch some movies, commercials, blogs and some teenager's discussion and you'll realise that there is a difference between facts and modern expectations.
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Sex is really fun... like really really fun.
Probably my favorite passtime besides starcraft.
I don't think not having it should devalue you tho.
I don't hold anything against anyone that hasn't had sex.
I do hold things against people that say it should be saved for one person.
It has been so over hyped by everyone.
its just something fun to do between two people.
If it comes up enjoy it.
If people give you flack for it ask them if they want to fuck.
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Ok my two cents......
First of all sex is FUKING AWESOME!!! Especially with a partner that gets what you like and knows you very well......I am religious, but my views on sex and religion are probably different than other peoples......You can't know who is going to be a good partner for you or not unless you sample the goods.....You gotta test drive that car before you make a huge commitment of your time and money and life......Picture this.....Honeymoon night both virgins making awkward elbowy love.....neither know what good sex is supposed to feel like and neither are sexually compatible ( by this I mean (too big for her, too small for her, she has a weird lookin vag,....the list goes on)) I do think our modern day society places WAAAY to much emphasis on it and I would never disrespect someone because they haven't experienced something that I have.....On the flip side of that coin, there is a reason why people want it and talk about it and idolize it so much......ITS FUKING FUN!!!!!!
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I lost my virginity when I was 15 with a girl I'd been dating for 6 months. We both discovered porn and sexuality at a young age so when we met it was all really natural for us. Even though we were young we were in love and I definitely don't regret it. Since then I've had seven other partners and I'm now 21.
What I've found is that my situation was rather unique. Based on what society told me, I grew up believing that everybody was boning like rabbits whenever possible. As I got older I found that definitely wasn't the case. It was a shock to me when I got into college and a lot of the people I met were virgins. Granted I ended up going to a school with a high population of Mormons and religious people, and I'm definitely not religious myself.
Sex is definitely a massive presence in today's society. Young women have huge amounts of pressure put on them to look a certain way, mainly thin and busty. This kind of pressure is really damaging for a lot of teens and forces them to make the wrong decisions. My cousin is a perfect example. She's only twelve and she's still really petite, but she dresses like all the girls she see's on TV and has wanted breasts since she was eight. She's obsessed with her image and the way people view her, but doesn't care about school at all. Vice-versa her sister doesn't care how people view her and ignores societal pressures, but instead focuses on and does exceedingly well in school.
As for your situation, it's not a big deal. I definitely consider myself as having gotten lucky at an early age. I was the first in my group of 5 best friends to lose it, and the last one didn't make it until last year (he was 20).
It doesn't sound like you're overly concerned with the situation so I would just keep living your life and wait for the right moment.
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I am about to lose my TL virginity here.
Here goes my virgin post:
Coming from a Asian's pov (btw I find it real silly how people refer to us as generic "Asians"... Goddamit we're the most populous continent with a myriad of different races and nationalities), it WAS very much frowned upon to engage in sexual relations prior to marriage. However, with the advent of Westernization, people nowadays have grown to become much more liberal about their activities, and even their sexuality. Today, you can be a man dressed up like a woman and all you'd be getting are brief stares. If you did this 30 years ago in my country, you'd be treated like a blue man in a freak show.
However, being 20 this year, and being a virgin, most of the people in my social circle are still virgins who do not succumb to peer pressure. I would like to consider myself to be of the more educated lot (have secured a spot for a PhD course in college), and although people in our circle do engage in sexual activity, it is not worn on a sleeve. Most of us (excluding the jockish lot) are not ashamed to admit our virginity and we see no need to "get it on" to impress an invisible audience.
On the other hand, I do have friends who are less educated, and this lot makes up the majority of our population. The connecting trait I notice in many of these people is a sheer lack of self-esteem. They seem to have an inherent need of self-glorification. I am sad to say, but these people want to be like you. They don't feel satisfied in their Asian skin and they practice what I call "white worship". Please note that I am not insulting the west. It is the portrayal of the west as seen in pop culture. The "sex and drinking is cool" culture. That is really sad, and I predict that within the next century, our Asian traditions would be completely overwhelmed by westernization. I'm calling it.
The irony of the matter is, I think a person is much more of a loser than a virgin if he/she loses her virginity because of social pressure. Even more so if the person thinks that we are losers because we are virgins.
Personally, as an Asian, although not religious but brought up in a Christian home, I do feel a need to maintain the decorum of my lineage and to respect certain traditions. I have had several opportunities to engage in the said activity. I was very tempted, like any 20 year old dude would be. I, however, turned it down not because of religion or whatnot, but simply because it wouldn't be something I could be proud of. I think overcoming temptation is far more gratifying that succumbing to a primal urge.
Therefore you're not a loser because you're a virgin. I would most probably NOT be a virgin if 1) I was brought as a white kid in America AND 2) I had no religious background. Unlike OP, my virginity is something that I highly value, and my first time should only be shared with someone extremely special to me.
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On July 23 2011 00:37 Charger wrote:Show nested quote +On July 23 2011 00:12 JamesJohansen wrote:
Sex is overrated and easy to get. Women are such whores in modern society that its mostly like shooting fish in a barrel if you're in pursuit.
Value your virginity. Find a good girl and bond with her on a deeper level then have sex. You won't regret it. Oh god yes, this x1000. Sex isn't hard to get, finding a girl who is worth more than just sex is. You only get one first time, make it count.
This a million times over...
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On July 23 2011 00:51 Jago wrote:
The people saying that they are saving themselves for marriage and that somehow that will make the sex better are hilarious.
I am saving myself for marriage.
And yes, I do believe it will be better.
Because to me, I would be doing it guilt-free, and guilt-free always feels better, no?
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On July 23 2011 01:08 theBALLS wrote:Show nested quote +On July 23 2011 00:51 Jago wrote:
The people saying that they are saving themselves for marriage and that somehow that will make the sex better are hilarious. I am saving myself for marriage. And yes, I do believe it will be better. Because to me, I would be doing it guilt-free, and guilt-free always feels better, no?
Yes but maybe guilt-issues should be resolved before marriage. If you find a girl you love and you want to be married with, what's wrong with having sex before marriage ?
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On July 23 2011 01:08 theBALLS wrote:Show nested quote +On July 23 2011 00:51 Jago wrote:
The people saying that they are saving themselves for marriage and that somehow that will make the sex better are hilarious. I am saving myself for marriage. And yes, I do believe it will be better. Because to me, I would be doing it guilt-free, and guilt-free always feels better, no?
Imagine you can have sex before marriage that's also guilt-free. Your argument is pretty weak, lol.
Be cautious not to expect a lot from it, you might get very disappointed. Also, first sex is pretty bad in comparison to a sex between experienced people.
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