Sex = OP in society? - Page 19

On July 23 2011 01:04 theBALLS wrote:
I am about to lose my TL virginity here.

Here goes my virgin post:

Coming from a Asian's pov (btw I find it real silly how people refer to us as generic "Asians"... Goddamit we're the most populous continent with a myriad of different races and nationalities), it WAS very much frowned upon to engage in sexual relations prior to marriage. However, with the advent of Westernization, people nowadays have grown to become much more liberal about their activities, and even their sexuality. Today, you can be a man dressed up like a woman and all you'd be getting are brief stares. If you did this 30 years ago in my country, you'd be treated like a blue man in a freak show.

However, being 20 this year, and being a virgin, most of the people in my social circle are still virgins who do not succumb to peer pressure. I would like to consider myself to be of the more educated lot (have secured a spot for a PhD course in college), and although people in our circle do engage in sexual activity, it is not worn on a sleeve. Most of us (excluding the jockish lot) are not ashamed to admit our virginity and we see no need to "get it on" to impress an invisible audience.

On the other hand, I do have friends who are less educated, and this lot makes up the majority of our population. The connecting trait I notice in many of these people is a sheer lack of self-esteem. They seem to have an inherent need of self-glorification. I am sad to say, but these people want to be like you. They don't feel satisfied in their Asian skin and they practice what I call "white worship". Please note that I am not insulting the west. It is the portrayal of the west as seen in pop culture. The "sex and drinking is cool" culture. That is really sad, and I predict that within the next century, our Asian traditions would be completely overwhelmed by westernization. I'm calling it.

The irony of the matter is, I think a person is much more of a loser than a virgin if he/she loses her virginity because of social pressure. Even more so if the person thinks that we are losers because we are virgins.

Personally, as an Asian, although not religious but brought up in a Christian home, I do feel a need to maintain the decorum of my lineage and to respect certain traditions. I have had several opportunities to engage in the said activity. I was very tempted, like any 20 year old dude would be. I, however, turned it down not because of religion or whatnot, but simply because it wouldn't be something I could be proud of. I think overcoming temptation is far more gratifying that succumbing to a primal urge.

Therefore you're not a loser because you're a virgin. I would most probably NOT be a virgin if 1) I was brought as a white kid in America AND 2) I had no religious background. Unlike OP, my virginity is something that I highly value, and my first time should only be shared with someone extremely special to me.