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here's my view on it..
I dont think sex really 'overrated', just thats its rated wrongly altogether. If one were to put up a metaphorical collage of what everyone thought about it, the most standout feature would amount to superstition.
the society issue is that, in general, everyone has wildly different and many crazy ideas about it, and thinks, at least subconciously, that everyone else should think the same. i dont think i need examples of this lol. but in the end, much of this has actually nothing to do with sex at all yet this is what people tell their kids, students, or whatever, and so cycle goes.
when stripped of all 'fluff', sex is nothing short of incredible, imo.
however, i think most people barely scratch the surface of what good sex can be. this view is a bit complicated cos it a variety of factors. one is porn, cos people think good porn = good sex. for example, you never see 'slow and steady' porn, but if someone didn't tell you or you haven't tried it, you'd never how much different that orgasm feels.
another factor is the idea of relationships that people have, that its a black and white issue, either you're 'in a relationship' or 'not in a relationship' and its completely insane imo cos again, everyones views on what a relationship is is different. people that just want/need fuck buddies should be honest with themselves and others and say so. there's no law saying one cant care for and show affection to their friends either, if thats the kind of relationship with that/those person/people they want to have (note general use of the word relationship )
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Don't know. Sex is fun  So I think many people just want you to experience it.
But I mean if you never had it you don't miss it that much.
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"Sex is becoming like the World Cup; sod-all action, followed by endless talking" - Henry Davenport, Drop the Dead Donkey.
Yep, sex is fun. Whatever. That's it. The reason it's so talked-about is because it was sort of "banned" in Victorian times (obviously i don't mean literally banned). Like anything else that's taboo, it just means that people want to do it more and we're still riding the crest of that wave. That, and there are still people who think it's objectionable to discuss sex, which maintains the taboo, which in turn keeps a certain kind of person even more interested than they naturally would be.
It's just a cycle. In my experience, people should take it far less seriously - but that can be said of a lot in life. It sucks that people mock virgins or whatever, but people will mock anyone if it makes them feel better about themselves.
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On July 22 2011 21:53 pedrotrv wrote:
I have sex for fun since I was 12 (had a curious cousin lol) and I can assure you that any guy that has had a lot of sex in his life won't marry any girl, specially one pounded by a lot of guys. That happens with the guys that did not have a good amount of sex and will be in love with the first girl that shows good perfomance.
good god man....
anyways, i havent read the whole thread but it sounds like there are people who are actually saying sex is not a good thing. I dont understand that. unless youre knocking up girls everywhere and getting/spreading STDs or something, theres really nothing wrong with sex or people who like to have sex. seriously, it sounds like a case people insulting something they dont have to try to convince themselves they dont want it anyway
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When you're in your late teens to mid 20's sex is a big deal, however, your idea of sex will change as you get older, moving from 'OMGZ SEX'S, SO BIG DEALS' into just taking it as what it is - a good time for all parties involved.
Being the ripe age of 30 now, I can see the difference when the topic comes up with my friends. It used to revolve around "You tappin' that yet?" - now it's just an assumption that if you're with someone for longer than a few weeks, you probably are and there's no need to ask.
Sex isn't overrated, it's fucking awesome and I wouldn't want to live without it, but as you get older it becomes less and less of the huge monumental deal it was when you were younger.
Long story short, don't worry about it, start having it when you feel you're ready to do so (it can vary from person to person). Eventually it'll just become that thing you do with whatever person you're with at the time.
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I was 23 when I lost my virginity and turned out all right 
I never used to hang out with people who valued it that highly.
Hell, a friend of mine is 27 and still a virgin, I dont judge him for it, neither do my friends.
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I just turned 20 and I only recently lost my virginity (that is if you don't count 2 drunk occasions that I don't remember much of anyway, and 1 interesting story from when I was 3 lol :D). I've never had "no sex = loser" problems and lack of self esteem about it. Sex is immensely overrated but that's not a problem from me, as I'm not really into the retarded trends and stuff and I don't care what average joe thinks about me. My real problem about it, is that the girls that look innocent and you just want to hug seem to have ... disappeared :/
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Sex is cool bro. Losing your virginity is a life-changing epiphany of an event. You literally see the world in a completely different way.
That being said, IMO it's getting pretty common to come across people who don't lose their v-cards till later in life (20+ years). I don't think anyone thinks any less of them, at least guys anyway.Personally I hit it at 17, which I feel was a relatively fine age to do so, even though a good number of my friends were 15 when they started.
If it's a problem for you, or you feel insecure about it, then just don't bring it up in conversation.
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I think sex is not overrated and is just a part of growing up. Adolescence is a part of your life in which you want to know about yourself and gain knowledge on things that you are unfamiliar with including sex.
In my experience, I was not pressured into having sex. Having sex while young does have its perks and bragging rights and virgins may think that sex will turn you into a cool/different person. Experiencing it does change you a bit, it makes you understand relationships more and what can make you (and your partner) happy but other than that, I think none. Just think of your parents, they've done it a billion times but they're not cool (I might be wrong though).
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On July 22 2011 21:40 JesusOurSaviour wrote:
Hilarious thread with all the replies.
Seeing as OP is not a devout Christian, this is my suggestion to you:
Sex is awesome. God made sex so that Man and Woman could enjoy and join together in a passionate activity that is a very very intimate expression of their love for each other. It is awesome. Yet - God created it such that if you have sex with someone, you will have joined your bodies together. Meaning that you will be one body. You will share thoughts, attributes and become "one". Anyone with a brain can see the implications of this: that if you have sex with multiple partners, then you are going to be joined to several people and this is when things go wrong.... the intimate trust, the love and the original purpose of sex is misused leading to disaster.
That said - if you don't believe in God, why care? Just screw anything that is Hot / moves. After all, having an orgasm is pretty awesome right?
Or
lying in bed 10+ years into the future when current TL-ers (avg age of posters = 20yrs) are married, and thinking that: My wife's vagina has been pounded over and over and over by several different guys, some whom I actually know. No you don't have to think about it, but it's true and it's not awesome.
Although I can appreciate your moral stance on it, from a logical point I could never marry someone that I hadn't had sex with - I would also never buy a car without test driving it first, kahrayzay.
That being said, I feel that there is a danger that without exploring sex with your partner, you could end up with a woman who finds she just doesn't enjoy it all that much and has a very low libido. Given the choice on being with someone who had 0 past sexual partners and 10, I would choose 10 every time hands down. Ultimately we are both ending up at the same point, I don't care so much how we got there.
So I'll wish you the best of luck with whatever it is you end up doing, but remember - she may be a cold fish and as cool as it sounds, it's not your wife's duty to tend to her man's needs, as a man you gotta earn that shit.
It's been real.
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sex is the best thing you will ever experience. hands down.
prob more satisfying than being a broze player who somehow gets matched against a top 10 gm, and beats them with mass marines
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Just go out and have sex, see for yourself.
There are some things, even the internet can't answer.
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On July 22 2011 23:21 GeeRobb wrote:
sex is the best thing you will ever experience. hands down.
prob more satisfying than being a broze player who somehow gets matched against a top 10 gm, and beats them with mass marines
Though I have never done this, I will still vouch for his claim.
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On July 22 2011 23:07 Rob28 wrote:
Sex is cool bro. Losing your virginity is a life-changing epiphany of an event. You literally see the world in a completely different way.
That being said, IMO it's getting pretty common to come across people who don't lose their v-cards till later in life (20+ years). I don't think anyone thinks any less of them, at least guys anyway.Personally I hit it at 17, which I feel was a relatively fine age to do so, even though a good number of my friends were 15 when they started.
If it's a problem for you, or you feel insecure about it, then just don't bring it up in conversation.
Hahaha I'm kind of on the same line as the op, however I'm not a virgin. Sex is imo overrated to a sertain extent. I've never really been in love with the girls I've had sex with though, so maybe I'm up for a treat later on if that's what you're talking about.
Calling it a life changing epiphany of an event is helluva exaggeration atleast, that's for sure ^^
Edit: Winning an epic sc game and go up a league is tonnes better than having sex imo.
You can have twice every day on a regular schedule, but going up a league I'm happy like a bear in a fish stick factory.
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OP you are just confused with everything about and the pressure is getting to you a bit. Yes sex can have this nasty image of having to be a ripped stud banging bitches left right and center and girls having to get boob implants and stick their fingers down their throat to stay slim just to 'not be a loser' etc.
Yeah no, thats not how it works. Sex with randoms is just sex, but sex with someone you really like / love is completely different and brings the emotion to a whole new level.
Edit: but slayin' hood rats is also fun lol.
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I lost my virginity at 16.
The truth is, sex is good for you. It builds something inside of you. But only if you approach it as an experience and not as something that changes you. It doens't give you status, or change you're personality.
Really it just opens new avenues of female male interactions. Once you've dated a girl for a long time and you are sexually active you can get a grasp on what it's like to have a intimate partner.
The best sex is always with someone you "love", sex is boring without a meaningful relationship and genuine sexual attraction and emotional attachment.
As a a 23 year old, I can say i've had random sex.
But sex too me is about increasing a close relationship to be more affectionate.
Girls just love sex, so You're gonna be in situations where you're man part is the target of desire.
Be real and get tough. Give her a good one, once all that is over.
Then you realize why sex is all about love.
The Peer pressure, all that stuff is just like anything else. Just ignore it and act how you feel.
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It's the bee's knees good sir.
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Sex with anybody ELSE than the love of your life, IS overrated.... highly.
I would rather have 1000 lonely masturbation hours, than 1000 hours of sex with random females I don't have anything in common with, or a love interest in.
Of couree, if it's 1000 hours with the love of my life, then, that is PRICELESS.
I've gone without sex for about a year now... I don't really miss it, if I know it will be with random people.. which it will, until i find the dream girl.
Until I find her, masturbation will do just fine. There are plenty o girls out there who wants to get fucked by me, but it's become boring, because it ultimately feels shallow and uninteresting.
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It only matters if you are ready to express your feelings intimately with another person that you can trust enough to be naked with. And sex isn't OP, sometimes it's the most awesome feeling you can imagine, but sometimes it is just meh (usually when alcohol is involved).
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Sex is a personal choice, don't let anyone try and convince you otherwise.
1) Sex is not a moral right or wrong choice.
2) Sex is not a religious choice.
3) Sex is not a choice made by peer pressure or societal influence.
Sex always has and always will be a personal choice as for when to experience it. Anything beyond that is complete garbage. If you are happy with your choice not to have sex until x criteria, then do not let anyone try and convince you that decision is wrong.
I know just as many people who waited until they got married to have sex that regret it as I know people who didn't. At the end of the day you will likely look back and always wonder "What If" no matter which choice you make. Anyone who says otherwise either hasn't lived long enough to hit that retrospective stage of their life or is a liar.
It is your life, live it how you deem fit.
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