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Sex = OP in society? - Page 10
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andynewin
United States105 Posts
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Stil
United Kingdom206 Posts
On July 22 2011 15:43 andynewin wrote: I'm 24 and still a virgin, my hands and fingers arn't though, just gonna take it one step at a time. I'm still like a bronze right now im gonna wait till I'm atleast a diamond before I start in masters Soooo a pokemon theme tune moment  | ||
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mangoloid
100 Posts
Though most adults are well aware that sex is not a big deal, the standards perpetuated throughout society and the media establish otherwise. We are taught to measure our worth by our sexual partners. It is complete BS, yet these standards continue, even among people who know better. Not sure there is anything we can do about it. But oh well. | ||
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WarChimp
Australia943 Posts
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Eknoid4
United States902 Posts
Don't try to think up reasons why you are or aren't a virgin. Don't make a thread about virginity and then tell us you don't put any value on it. You put a lot of thought and energy into this topic even if it's not directed toward getting laid. Just beat off and relax if you don't want to have sex yet. It's something that can be awesome but it's not worth stressing over whether you do or don't have it and ignore teenagers who act like experts in sexuality. | ||
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NastyMarine
United States1252 Posts
Its subjective. Don't get consumed with having sex. Sex can change people - your partner and yourself in multiple ways (and particularly its way too complex to simply put into text here on tl). You'll enjoy it when your ready so don't get caught up with having it by a certain time frame or a certain type of partner etc. | ||
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Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
I'm getting breaking news that the media exaggerates the effects of losing your virginity and its importance to one's life. I'm also getting follow-ups that the stigma of being a virgin is not only trivial in the long-run, but damaging to your pursuit and educational interests because you are preoccupied with hormonal issues. The more you care, the more you try to be the convention of society. There is no age to lose your virginity nor is there any actual importance of it. In the end of it all, there is no importance on when you lose it, just who you lost it to. Ask anyone beyond the age of 20. Intercourse isn't everything, it just is to those who have nothing else going for their life. There are such beings who are asexual and live very healthy lives. | ||
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kellymilkies
Singapore1393 Posts
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Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
On July 22 2011 16:06 kellymilkies wrote: Sex should be with someone you love. And if you find someone you love, it will come naturally. Actually sex is with someone you find physically find attractive. This attraction is often created between people who have similar levels of physical attractiveness. This leads to comfortability about each other's body and after recognizing their personality traits over an activity, it leads them to coitus or an acceptance of one another's bodies as a whole. The concept of love is either accomplished after intercourse as a form of confirmation or during. This notion is further propelled by shitty sitcoms that don't make a big deal of intercourse between two people (it's almost never talked about, just assumed), but there's a whole episode about the man saying: "I love you" first. ezpz | ||
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EchoZ
Japan5041 Posts
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KingFool
Canada428 Posts
Taking a girls virginity is a completely different story. My advice is to avoid this, unless completely prepared for the after affects. Unfortunately woman are generally to nervous to tell someone about it beforehand. | ||
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Aterons_toss
Romania1275 Posts
On July 22 2011 11:39 Greatness wrote: Show pics. User was temp banned for this post. I laughed at this... im going to hell  OT Why do we value sex so highly in 2days society ? 1. It can't be proven scientifically atm but theoretically an orgasm is the most "pleasurable" felling one can have 2. Its god dam healthy, for both man and women, its keeps the blood flowing... relieves stress..etc 3. The hormones in our body make us "want" to do it 4. As long as you buy a 0.10 $ condom it does not have any "negative" side thus... why not do it ? 5. The more you fuck the more you are kind of an "alpha" male... i do not know if humans were originally "made" to have kind of an "alpha" male in a grup of 5-15 humans but if they were that might be also an explaination why sex is so highly regarded and why it is "shameful" to be a virgin ( again this is proly untrue but it just came trough my mind so why not write it down o.o ) *Its also important to note the 1-3 can also be done with you hand for both mans and women tho it is hypothetically ( and most including myself would agree that it is indeed ) "better" if you do it with an opposite sex partner. Also as a man ( and since you are posting this on tl i can only assume you are idd a man ) you actually need to know "how to... " so if you being to have sex at 14 rather then 25 you will have a much easier time pleasuring a women due to you previous experience ... or so they say ( as far as i know anything beside oral sex/sex with "toys" is pretty... natural so again this is likely that this is 99% an urban myth ). That show was so epic... | ||
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p0q
Denmark22 Posts
But it´s just sex, not a sin, not a necessity, not the meaning of life. Take it for what it is, good fun. | ||
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phyre112
United States3090 Posts
On July 22 2011 13:19 kethers wrote: I had sex first at @ 20 with my girlfriend, I didn't feel any more or less of a man (in of itself) before or after it. I loved her, and she did I. So, yeah, although you might be pressured by friends or juvenile "norms" made up by 16 year olds, it all depends on yourself and how you handle it. P.S. Angry make-up sex is so awesome Through various situations I've been in the last few years at college, I've talked to a couple guys about the subject. I've talked to some guys about their "numbers" - and a lot of the time, from quieter "nice" guys, you'll get a hesitant one or a two. Then I bust out my "none" and things get awkward for a minute while I explain that I just don't care. After that, maybe half the time, there'll be the "dude, that's an awesome way to look at it" and an admittance that "one" was a lie. Or a hooker, either way. A lot of people are nervous because of the societal (highschool) norm that is rather deeply rooted by now, and when you suddenly give up on that, there are some interesting results. On July 22 2011 13:05 NotJack wrote: Not giving a fuck isn't a good point. Either you're just saying stuff to feel better, or you're making a useless point. If you're a socially capable person that just doesn't care about it, you shouldn't be in this conversation. Personally I'm about to be a junior in college and my goal for this year is to meet someone I have a real relationship with. Not a one night stand or mindless frat rat, but someone I actually care about. That said, I wouldn't change the last two years for anything. The thread is about how much sex matters in society. I post saying that sex does not matter to me, and that if me being a virgin doesn't bother me, why should it affect anyone else, or their perception of me, and that's not a valid point to make? Please, explain why my point doesn't count, is bad, or why I shouldn't be here. I'm about to be a Junior in college - you know what my goal for this year is? To be AWESOME. I'm going to score well in all my courses. I'm going to continue lifting weights and getting huge. I'm going to learn piano, in addition to practicing guitar that I already know. I'm going to join another club, I'm going to meet a ton of new people, in my classes and outside of them. I'm going to go to bars and have a good time. I'm going to be perfectly and completely happy with ME, and not going to care about how the rest of the world reacts to me. That includes girls, that includes relationships, that includes sex and how people view me for being a virgin, or not being a virgin. I don't care either way. | ||
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EnOmy
Australia183 Posts
I'm sure all this has been said earlier in this thread. | ||
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Drowsy
United States4876 Posts
On July 22 2011 11:49 Elementsu wrote: Only if you`re a straight guy, then you`re awesome for having sex, if you`re a girl you`re just a whore if you have sex. sperm is cheap, eggs are expensive. | ||
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True_Spike
Poland3426 Posts
Besides, having no / little sex means you get little practice, which in turn means you probably suck at it - and great, truly satisfying sex is very important to every relationship, married or not. In short - don't try to make it more important than it really is, it's not. I believe people postponing having sex for months and years are just as immature as people bragging about having it all the time, in my opinion. | ||
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mr_tolkien
France8631 Posts
You clearly never had sex, you'll soon see this is not really the point of it :p To answer your rant, I don't think you're right. Being 21 and a virgin means you haven't found the right person to do it with during that amount of time. Either you've never been interested in having a relationship or you're «very picky». Read : you fail at finding somebody to love. In both cases it shows a little lack of empathy and love for others. It's because of this people will see you as different when you say you're 21 and a virgin. Not because you didn't had sex, but because of what it implies. PS : and I say that having had a single sex partner for my whole sex life at 21. | ||
Falling
Canada11435 Posts
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Pkol
Australia176 Posts
That said, I lost my virginity at 19, im 21, so I'm by no means a (s)expert. I have a friend was 20, I have a friend who was 21, I have a friend who was 14 I have a friend who I'm pretty sure hasn't at all. I don't see them any different, they're just my mates. Fuck who you want to, and if you don't want to, don't. Pretty simple. | ||
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