EPTI can speak from experience at the immediate issue also. Simply put: despite it being a serious struggle especially as a male, I wish I waited for marriage. In my next relationship I will wait until marriage. Also, the whole idea of 'waiting' does not preclude me from having to wait in my next relationship, in my opinion.
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kurse3
Australia19 Posts
I can speak from experience at the immediate issue also. Simply put: despite it being a serious struggle especially as a male, I wish I waited for marriage. In my next relationship I will wait until marriage. Also, the whole idea of 'waiting' does not preclude me from having to wait in my next relationship, in my opinion. | ||
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Arunu
Netherlands111 Posts
On July 22 2011 17:41 kurse3 wrote: Sex should be between two people, it should be special, so it makes sense that it should be for marriage, and it should be respected. The sexualization of our society is a problem that is difficult to fix, and it is so vast and widespread that people don't even acknowledge it as a problem until you realize that it is when you have children. Certainly, if I was a father, I would protect my sons and/or daughters from a lot of things that they do not need to know about. I would NOT be over-protective, but there is a line between what you should know and what you do not need to know or be influenced by in this world. I can speak from experience at the immediate issue also. Simply put: despite it being a serious struggle especially as a male, I wish I waited for marriage. In my next relationship I will wait until marriage. Also, the whole idea of 'waiting' does not preclude me from having to wait in my next relationship, in my opinion. can i ask why ? i respect your opinion ofcourse , but why make such a big deal out of it ? dont get me wrong , i dont mean that someone should go around and hump everything in sight but when you're in a relationship and it feels right , why must you wait ? | ||
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Fontong
United States6454 Posts
On July 22 2011 17:41 kurse3 wrote: Sex should be between two people, it should be special, so it makes sense that it should be for marriage, and it should be respected. The sexualization of our society is a problem that is difficult to fix, and it is so vast and widespread that people don't even acknowledge it as a problem until you realize that it is when you have children. Certainly, if I was a father, I would protect my sons and/or daughters from a lot of things that they do not need to know about. I would NOT be over-protective, but there is a line between what you should know and what you do not need to know or be influenced by in this world. I can speak from experience at the immediate issue also. Simply put: despite it being a serious struggle especially as a male, I wish I waited for marriage. In my next relationship I will wait until marriage. Also, the whole idea of 'waiting' does not preclude me from having to wait in my next relationship, in my opinion. Why wait till marriage though? Marriage is an artificial social construct, while sex is natural and pleasurable. | ||
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Wrath 2.1
Germany880 Posts
I kinda value it in a sense that I want my first time to be really great and with someone I will be together for at least a while and I adore. Maybe it sounds shit, but.. I dk, its how I feel. | ||
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Trajan98
Canada203 Posts
I definitely enjoy sex, but at the same time I have no problem going for a few months without it. I have known people that can't go for more then a few days without it. Some people need it ( or think they need it) more then others. The question you ask is way to vague.. What do you mean by overpowered? | ||
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nOia.pod
Hungary263 Posts
On July 22 2011 17:51 Wrath 2.1 wrote: I had several opertunities to have sex but I always denied because somehow I felt it wasn't the right moment. And I don't felt like "wasting" my first time with a girl I don't really love. I kinda value it in a sense that I want my first time to be really great and with someone I will be together for at least a while and I adore. Maybe it sounds shit, but.. I dk, its how I feel. Dont get me wrong and no offense, but is everybody in this thread a little girl or what? Denying the opportunity to have sex, because its not the "right moment"?! What? What is the right moment? I tell you, when you have a boner you could kill with... | ||
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sandroba
Canada4998 Posts
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Yorke
England881 Posts
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Wrath 2.1
Germany880 Posts
On July 22 2011 17:55 nOia.pod wrote: Dont get me wrong and no offense, but is everybody in this thread a little girl or what? Denying the opportunity to have sex, because its not the "right moment"?! What? What is the right moment? I tell you, when you have a boner you could kill with... I ve trouble with letting people to close to me, I guess... | ||
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Arunu
Netherlands111 Posts
On July 22 2011 17:51 Wrath 2.1 wrote: I had several opertunities to have sex but I always denied because somehow I felt it wasn't the right moment. And I don't felt like "wasting" my first time with a girl I don't really love. I kinda value it in a sense that I want my first time to be really great and with someone I will be together for at least a while and I adore. Maybe it sounds shit, but.. I dk, its how I feel. doesnt sound shit  thing is though, by waiting for " that" moment, the chances are pretty high that moment will be really underwhelming. at least , i cant say i enjoyed the first time much. only after experience it became way better. | ||
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matthewfoulkes
United Kingdom246 Posts
On July 22 2011 17:59 LurkersGonnaLurk wrote: Sex is fun and pleasurable, stop stressing out about it. It's no big deal if you don't bed a different boy/girl every weekend, and people that would think less of you for not doing so shouldn't be worth your time. People are extremely immature about sex in the UK and US in my experience, it's pretty pathetic. This is something i have found to be largely true in the UK, my brother is one of those people who puts so much value on sex, its basically how he bases his self esteem, i personally don't get it, i was a virgin until 17, and my brother tormented my up til that point(he lost his at 13), and he makes it seem like that makes him somehow better/more awesome, cos he has had sex with 25 girls and i have only been with 2. Sex is good, sex in a healthy relationship can rarely be bad, lack of sexual stimulation can be bad. Sex is overvalued hard before you have it, but i definitely know that before i lost my virginity, i most probably wasn't as happy, simply cos of my brother and that it was something i wanted to do really badly, not cos of pressures people put on my but because i personally see it as a instinctual drive that humans possess. Basically, if you can have sex, and it is in some kind of trusting relationship, even if not in a relationship and your just seeing someone, its alright, but to lose your virginity i'd really suggest being in a relationship because i know it can really be brick your pants moment. A Question i have is do we include sexual experiences .E.G. Oral sex or other things like that, because to me they seem different they arent the complete sharing of ones body with another which is something i think sex is really about. | ||
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Stil
United Kingdom206 Posts
On July 22 2011 17:59 LurkersGonnaLurk wrote: Sex is fun and pleasurable, stop stressing out about it. It's no big deal if you don't bed a different boy/girl every weekend, and people that would think less of you for not doing so shouldn't be worth your time. People are extremely immature about sex in the UK and US in my experience, it's pretty pathetic. I feel in the UK we're pretty good about it - it's still a taboo subject to older folk and the media, but there are few hang ups to be honest - women are as sexually empowered as the men, we don't believe in abstaining or denial or waiting until marriage. Our sexual education is patchy one region to the next, and for that we do have teenage pregnancies (but some people DO want families early in life, we mustn't think every young parent was an idiot) but generally we're told what parts go where and what contraception is for and how to avoid STIs. | ||
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darkscream
Canada2310 Posts
ask nature, its the only reason you exist | ||
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BluzMan
Russian Federation4235 Posts
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Gerbeeros
101 Posts
And i think youre right, there is rather overwhelming pressure in todays teens minds to have sex rather early, too early in my opinion. Of course there are people who mature more quickly than others, but i think those individuals are exception to the rule. Sex is fun though and one should not feel guilty having it, if both/all participants are adults and willing that is. | ||
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Kickboxer
Slovenia1308 Posts
Seems pretty OP to me! Just like anything else, though, it can be abused or become unhealthy / addictive. You should try and get some  | ||
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Zinnwaldite
Norway1567 Posts
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seiferoth10
3362 Posts
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hefty
Denmark555 Posts
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valaki
Hungary2476 Posts
You probably saw the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin and thought it was hilarious how that man lived with his nerdy lifestyle and sexless life. It was a movie about that guy's rise from the decadent, boring life into an exciting, sex filled and normal life, right? Wrong. Think about it. The titular 40 year old virgin started his day with a little exercise, made his breakfast and rode his bike to work. When he got to work we saw that he didn't have the best job in the world, and probably not the best pay either, but he liked it, he liked his job, and had enough money to buy everything he wanted. After work, he rode his bike home, greeted his friendly neighbors and spent his night playing video games, watching movies, painting figures, and building models, in other words, he did whatever the fuck he wanted. Now this is where it gets tricky, he went out with his co-workers and let slip the fact that he was a virgin. They immediately start making fun of him, which makes him feel bad about his virginity. Remember, he never once felt bad about it, he was living a happy existence, peer pressure was the only reason why he even thought about it. Suddenly he is going to nightclubs, he's drinking, talking to women and does he feel happy about it? No, he feels awkward, but he can't stay a virgin right? After a few failed attempts, he finally meets a women that seems to like him and gives him her number. They go out a few times and eventually she's ready to have sex but oops, her teenage daughter walks in on them. This is an important part, because now you realize that this women has 2 children, a teenage girl and a young boy. Suddenly, the poor 40 year old virgin finds that he has to take care of 2 obnoxious kids, but that's not enough. The women finally sees the virgin's apartment, and marvels at his action figures. She immediately says "Hey, let's sell this kiddy shit.", the virgin doesn't want to sell it, he likes having all that shit, but is pressured by the women anyway. Because HER little store is going to sell the toys, it means more profit for her. Remember, this women is supposed to be miss right, the nice, mature women that you should marry. The guy finally snaps because he realizes how much his life has changed, but it's too late now. After a couple of shenanigans he asks her to marry him and he eventually has sex. In conclusion, the poor bastard left his happy carefree life and is left with a women who doesn't like his nerdy shit and two kids who aren't his but he has to raise anyway. His free time his gone, his money his gone, his toys are gone and his independence is gone, but that's ok, at least he had sex. And that's why I don't have a girlfriend, because to me, the 40 year old virgin is a tale of a man who descended into darkness. | ||
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