EPTSex = OP in society? - Page 9
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Sworn
Canada920 Posts
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PhiliBiRD
United States2643 Posts
ofcourse theirs too much pressure on teens to have sex, but that doesnt make it overrated. try it and then post your re-evaluated opinion.. imo best part about sex other than the actual sex, is the confident feeling you get after | ||
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Deleted User 61629
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Vaporeon
Canada68 Posts
On July 22 2011 14:34 Wrongspeedy wrote: I have had opportunities in the past, but I've chosen to not take them because I felt like they weren't what I really wanted. I'm 22 and a virgin, and while I'm not necessarily waiting till I get married, I could see myself choosing to based on my partner. I don't think I want to have sex with someone unless its someone I know I really care about and who feels the same way about me. Its not a biggie, I could have easily lost it with a one night stand or something, but I don't feel like it would be as enjoyable for me. | ||
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Motat
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Aphasie
Norway474 Posts
In my opinion it has no value at all. Abstinence is not a goal. Try it once or twice, and if you dont like it you can stop chasing pussy. But deciding to not try something almost all people enjoy, that has no bad aftereffects or implications is just silly. I dont chase pussy any more, but i know what im missing out on. I've reached the conclusion that only a few one night stands are actually worth the effort put in. Most of it is talking for an hour with a girl that doesnt stimulate or challenge me philosophically or mentally at all. The sex when you're shitfaced usually isnt any good and you'll probably have a horrible nights sleep. Not to forget the awkward hours before one leaves. Only once in while when you get with a lustful and naughty woman is it really fulfilling. To make a pr0n comparison: Do you want a girl that looks away and doesnt seem into it at all, like in japanese pr0n OR do you want the girl to look into your eyes, grab the back of your neck and say "Fuck the shit out me!" (Thanks Eddie). So my advice; try it and judge for yourself. But never pass up a good thing. And its also the older you get, the more women "expect in bed" so, if you end up being 28 and coming after two minutes, dont expect that woman to call you back ever again. On the issue of saving virginity for marriage: I dont mean to offend any of you that cling to that logic personally, but its fallacy of immense proportions. Its a primitive position only held by backwards and outdated moral religious norms. Progressive thinking and the sexual revolution has for the most part provided better arguments for removing sexual taboo's. There is nothing sinful in having sex, sharing a good experience with another partner. And when you finally find your chosen one, do you want your first time with that person to be a hit-or-miss incident or one of her/his greatest experiences? Sex - as anything else - takes practice to get good at. When you get through a certain amount of partners and acts you get a much better feel for what the opposite sex enjoys, hence a much better chance to please what's to be your life long partner. And i think its also better to have played around before marriage anyway. Then you can enter into the relationship with the confidence that nothing has passed you bye before tying the knot. It will probably be much more assuring in the long run. (Also, sex is important for making relationships last) my 2 cents | ||
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Flyingdutchman
Netherlands858 Posts
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Pleiades
United States472 Posts
If you do want a serious relationship, then don't think about sex as one of the first things when hooking up with a girl. If a girl likes/loves you just for who you are, she will likely give it to you sooner than you think. In the end, you shouldn't really consider other people's opinions about you being a virgin. It is your life, not theirs. You don't have to please the haters or anyone, just yourself and whoever is close to you. Young people always get the idea of pleasing others to please themselves, but when you get older and worry about other things, you will find out that you just don't have the time and luxury to deal with anyone but yourself and those close to you. | ||
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esperanto
Germany357 Posts
Sure there can be pressure and the image porn is giving about sex is a very loveless, unpersonalized image. But trust me, once you lie naked in your bed with a girl you really like and you explore all the funny things you both can do and your love and passion makes you both melt to one beeing. You gonna know... You can happily look forword to have sex for the first time. Dont overthink it and if you feel a bit insecure just wait till you have a solid relationship with a girl you like. Trust and love will take all your pressure. | ||
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sCfO20
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LazyMacro
976 Posts
On July 22 2011 11:38 heroyi wrote: I am 20 years old about to hit 21 and am still a virgin. What is the point of the said statement? Well to an avg-dimwitted tool, I would be considered a "loser." Is this a valid assumption? Society puts a lot of pressure, especially on pre-teens, on the idea of you must have sex else you are just a loser. They portray that you can't achieve a fulfilling happy life without and everybody is doing it and it is easy as 1,2,3.Despite there being studies showing both men and women who have engaged in sexual activity despite not wanting to or feeling "ready." I do wish someday to experience it (ultimately to have kids and raise a family) however I do feel that people are raising the point up too frequently and giving it too much value. Is it really something that should be highly regarded where if you fail to achieve such feat then you are looked down upon? discuss?? edit: I am not a religious person. I raised the point just for curiosity sake. However if you are asking whether I am religious or not due to my virginity then no. I am a virgin just because fate has not allowed to experience it...but that is not the point edit 2: I did not state nor do I "value" virginity highly. I am asking if sex topic, in general, is over valued in society. This topic ties to a lot of other things. It connects to the problems little girls with social images of them must having a 32C boobs and slim slender body else they are not socially acceptable. It connects to "porn" addiction with the arise of the internet. Which also connects to people have super high expectation of what sex should be (i.e threesome is not as prominent as people think) etc... "Why is everything about sex?" -40 year old virgin If I've learned anything in the 24 years I've been alive, it's that the collective opinions of society are largely irrelevant. Society as a whole makes judgments that go against logic, reason, and biology on a regular basis. You are who you are. Don't let the opinions of other people get to you. | ||
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Brett
Australia3822 Posts
Then there came a time where I decided I did want to experience sex, relationships etc, and went on a bit of a rampage... It was an eye opener when the topic of past relationships came up and I explained the truth about my lack of experience therein to my female companions. Until I got some valid experience going, they were all pretty much shocked by the truth and had expected me to be saying how much the girls in school had chased me. Years on now, I'm in a stable, committed relationship with a great sex life. My view on it as a 27 year old? Wouldn't change a thing. I honestly dont give a flying fuck that I didnt have sex at 15 like everyone else I grew up with. Would I give up sex and go back to those days of abstinence? No. But not because of the rampage days where sex was a bit wilder and varied (in terms of partners), but because of the current situation with my girlfriend. Frankly if you aren't really all that fussed about your current circumstances and enjoy the activities and relationships that consume your time, sans sex, then keep on doing them. To hell with what everyone else thinks about it... You give sex as much power as you want it to have... | ||
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Meta
United States6225 Posts
 Honestly I think it's overrated, but I've been in a relationship for 5 consecutive years and I'm only 22. Sex isn't OP, nerdiness is UP | ||
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Invoker
Belgium686 Posts
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krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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FabledIntegral
United States9232 Posts
Although sex is a little different, you imagine it to be the most amazing thing ever, and while REALLY REALLY good, it's not whta you imagined since you were 12. | ||
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nOia.pod
Hungary263 Posts
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bigbeau
368 Posts
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Skew
United States1019 Posts
On July 22 2011 14:53 PhiliBiRD wrote: lol. ofcourse theirs too much pressure on teens to have sex, but that doesnt make it overrated. try it and then post your re-evaluated opinion.. imo best part about sex other than the actual sex, is the confident feeling you get after only thing that aint a virgin on you is your wallet | ||
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Kira__
Sweden2672 Posts
 Once you lose it, you can't have it back :D | ||
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