EPTSex = OP in society? - Page 7
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Arterial
Australia1039 Posts
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Stil
United Kingdom206 Posts
 ) friction. It can mean a great deal with the right person - but so can making out and holding hands. Intimacy is comes from the strength of relationship not the acts you perform or don't perform together.Men don't even have a physical virginity and in the days of contraception and paternity testing women don't need their v plates to prove fathers are indeed the parent of their offspring (The original meaning of virgin is not about having sex, but about not being owned by a man, and IMO - that is the root of alot of religious importance stressed into the value of virginity - and a terrible attitude to take towards people and sexual relations, people are NOT things, you can't own them man  !!!)Virginity does has real value because of the emotional component of lovemaking for the first time - we remember our firsts and attaining the level of trust/drunkeness ;P to overcome our insecurities and make ourselves vulnerable in that way is an important milestone, and for that I would say don't jump into it with the first person you see today - but it's not so big a deal that you have to hold out forever. I remember the first time I drove a car - that wasn't any worse an experience because I didn't hold out for a very good car or the car that I would be driving for the rest of my life  No it's just an experience, and the enjoyable experience of driving my car today isn't lessened any by having other cars in the past.There are too many romantic ideas floating about that inflates first time expectations - no matter how long you've waited or how much you love someone or how much you spent on the hotel room, it will not be a perfect moment - because perfection doesn't exist. Sex with a virgin, losing your own virginity and most comically of all - two virgins sleeping with each other is (a logistical nightmare  ) does not have to be unpleasant but it will be the least pleasant experience - you've only got the novelty value of it working for you paired against your own nerves and the hype/expectations that come from society. If you're holding out for perfection then you're going to miss out on a lot of fun.And some people are like 'woah woah woah - save it for someone who means something' - newsflash. It won't run out Sex is a renewable resource fellas And if you truly love your future partners you will have some experiences under your belt before you meet him/her - that way you're better equipped to please them, know how to be pleased yourself and also I've witnessed a lot of relationships crumble when the person who's never slept with anyone else but their current partner gets so curious about what they might have missed with others that they cheat or end the relationship.If you have sex you're no more of a man, no less of a loser. All it proves is that you penetrated someone. My advice to thread - don't be douches about it and lie/trick/pay for sex it's not that big a deal, but if you can have it then don't be brainwashed by what society has to say you'll gain/lose from it - just have it and enjoy it in it's own splendid right | ||
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Citadel.i
Canada52 Posts
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Dcamp0308
United States87 Posts
I plan to save my virginity for my wife one day. | ||
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Nazeron
Canada1046 Posts
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Silentness
United States2821 Posts
Now sex is just sex to me. It's not taboo or anything, but before I was scared because I didn't want to look bad or mess up. Society made it seem like you have to do it, but you're not a loser if you don't have a GF or sex. Just enjoy your life don't let others tell you what to do... | ||
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kethers
United States719 Posts
So, yeah, although you might be pressured by friends or juvenile "norms" made up by 16 year olds, it all depends on yourself and how you handle it. P.S. Angry make-up sex is so awesome | ||
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reptile
United States210 Posts
What's the right age to try drugs? What's the right age to have sex? Seventeen. But to get back on topic... sex in society is a scary thing, and children are brainwashed from the start that love and a perfect relationship is basically destined for young girls. Look at any Disney movie; each portrays some sort of perfect relationship, evil alternatives, etc. I think most sexually active people in there 20's have a distorted mindset that someone who's having too much sex has a problem, and someone who hasn't had sex, also, has a problem. I'm not saying I agree with either or, but I do think there's a point where people need to explore their sexuality. To conclude my thoughts, what's the proper age for sex and all of the above? Seventeen. | ||
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Lamphead
Canada241 Posts
but DO look presentable and cute, because relationships with girls/boys are not overrated :3 | ||
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Tenhou
1052 Posts
On July 22 2011 11:55 obesechicken13 wrote: This is easier said than done. Can you really say that you give no shits about what anyone thinks of you? lol Easily. I shouldn't care about what people thinks of me when they don't even know me. | ||
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IKenshinI
United States132 Posts
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han_han
United States205 Posts
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snotboogie
Australia3550 Posts
I applaud OP for saving himself. | ||
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Stil
United Kingdom206 Posts
On July 22 2011 13:26 han_han wrote:if you don't have sex, you're missing out on a lot. It's your choice of course, but really. A LOT. Shhh! More for us this way | ||
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LordWeird
United States3411 Posts
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nemo14
United States425 Posts
"Sex = Original Poster in society?" or "Sex = Overpowered in society?" It could go either way. Do you want to be Pat, Ray, Beef, or Teodor? Thus is the difference between the dudes who get their Bone on at 16 and the dudes who get their Bone on at 26. | ||
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Turbogangsta
Australia319 Posts
you know i think since u arnt religious u should consider getting a hooker. herpes just means they know what they are doing edit: yes sex is definatly OP and im sure in many of our weaker moments we have considered paying for it ourselves. the lengths some people go to for sex can be serverly financialy and emotionaly damaging (marrige lol) | ||
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Deadlyhazard
United States1177 Posts
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NotJack
United States737 Posts
On July 22 2011 13:27 snotboogie wrote: Society peddles sex because sex sells. You are wise to notice its absurd prominence in our culture, and wiser still not to buy into it. I applaud OP for saving himself. Unlike being a virgin, it is never good to be a hipster. | ||
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Rarak
Australia631 Posts
On July 22 2011 13:11 Stil wrote: IMO - Too much importance is put on virginity. Sex itself is just meaningless (but enjoyable ) friction. It can mean a great deal with the right person - but so can making out and holding hands. Intimacy is comes from the strength of relationship not the acts you perform or don't perform together.Men don't even have a physical virginity and in the days of contraception and paternity testing women don't need their v plates to prove fathers are indeed the parent of their offspring (The original meaning of virgin is not about having sex, but about not being owned by a man, and IMO - that is the root of alot of religious importance stressed into the value of virginity - and a terrible attitude to take towards people and sexual relations, people are NOT things, you can't own them man !!!)Virginity does has real value because of the emotional component of lovemaking for the first time - we remember our firsts and attaining the level of trust/drunkeness ;P to overcome our insecurities and make ourselves vulnerable in that way is an important milestone, and for that I would say don't jump into it with the first person you see today - but it's not so big a deal that you have to hold out forever. I remember the first time I drove a car - that wasn't any worse an experience because I didn't hold out for a very good car or the car that I would be driving for the rest of my life No it's just an experience, and the enjoyable experience of driving my car today isn't lessened any by having other cars in the past.There are too many romantic ideas floating about that inflates first time expectations - no matter how long you've waited or how much you love someone or how much you spent on the hotel room, it will not be a perfect moment - because perfection doesn't exist. Sex with a virgin, losing your own virginity and most comically of all - two virgins sleeping with each other is (a logistical nightmare ) does not have to be unpleasant but it will be the least pleasant experience - you've only got the novelty value of it working for you paired against your own nerves and the hype/expectations that come from society. If you're holding out for perfection then you're going to miss out on a lot of fun.And some people are like 'woah woah woah - save it for someone who means something' - newsflash. It won't run out Sex is a renewable resource fellas And if you truly love your future partners you will have some experiences under your belt before you meet him/her - that way you're better equipped to please them, know how to be pleased yourself and also I've witnessed a lot of relationships crumble when the person who's never slept with anyone else but their current partner gets so curious about what they might have missed with others that they cheat or end the relationship.If you have sex you're no more of a man, no less of a loser. All it proves is that you penetrated someone. My advice to thread - don't be douches about it and lie/trick/pay for sex it's not that big a deal, but if you can have it then don't be brainwashed by what society has to say you'll gain/lose from it - just have it and enjoy it in it's own splendid right If you are about 12. Once you start having sex, I dont think holding hands cuts it anymore tbh. Having said that, I don't think there is any shame in not having sex until you are 20 or so. From that point onwards tho, no excuses imo its fun times so why not? | ||
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