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nimysa
United States383 Posts
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Kennigit
Canada19447 Posts
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GhostKorean
United States2330 Posts
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nimysa
United States383 Posts
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allowicious
United States972 Posts
several articles written by college kid on how he overcame his shyness | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
Yeah drinking does help, I did it only a couple of times but man I was talking to women in college at some party down during spring break | ||
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b3tty
Canada216 Posts
perhaps that will spark some change in you and you'll open up a bit more : ) give yourself some time to grow | ||
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meegrean
Thailand7699 Posts
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BanZu
United States3329 Posts
I also have the same problem, getting better though! | ||
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emperorchampion
Canada9496 Posts
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nimysa
United States383 Posts
On December 08 2008 10:04 b3tty wrote: when you start college / working or something you'll be thrown into a new pool of people perhaps that will spark some change in you and you'll open up a bit more : ) give yourself some time to grow Well the work part happened and that's when I came into this problem. | ||
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
Then again I wasn't looking to be more outgoing at the time. It just kind of happened on it's own. | ||
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emperorchampion
Canada9496 Posts
It will be uncomfortable, but hey rome wasn't built in a day. ( +2 for rhyme and cheesy quote) | ||
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3clipse
Canada2555 Posts
I agree with the rest, college, work, alcohol helps with this. | ||
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shavingcream66
United States1219 Posts
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Dazed.
Canada3301 Posts
On December 08 2008 09:50 nimysa wrote: You are who you are man. Dont beat yourself down for being shy. If you genuinely want to be more out going, rather than thinking that you being shy is just a 'bad' trait, then just work at talking to other people. Simply that. Nothing else to it, just force yourself to go out in the open and communicate. You may never become completely open to large social situations, but you will be better at it.I'm a really introverted, shy, quiet, unsocial kid. Its just I'm nervous around being people and bad at talking with people. I'm not nervous around people I know closely, but I'm really not a person that would get a lot of friends easily. I'm a bad public speaker for the related reason as well, and I'm just not a social person at all and I'm really bad at understanding people and body language as well. Any advice or suggestions for improving this? | ||
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food
United States1951 Posts
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SmoKing2012
United States385 Posts
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
On December 08 2008 10:38 emperorchampion wrote: imo opinion it would be the social atmosphere (party) with alcohol as just the catalyst to go to the party. There are a lot of people who drink that you don't want to make friends with. It will be uncomfortable, but hey rome wasn't built in a day. ( +2 for rhyme and cheesy quote) What rhyme? | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
I was very shy for ages, and now I am the one who is always doing presentations and questioning the lecturer's assertions during busy lectures. | ||
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dNo_O
United States233 Posts
Using drinking as an 'in' to socializing is just handicapping yourself. If you can't socialize without it would these people really be your friends? You can go to a party with alcohol and not drink. I used to be really introverted myself. I was depressed by how boring and stupid most of the people I met were, but this is what worked for me: If you don't already do it, start working out, or get into sports, you'll feel a lot more relaxed about social things and you'll be more comfortable with expressing whatever opinions you have. You'll find yourself giving less of a fuck about what other people think. Sports are an amazingly easy way to socialize. Also, realize any thoughts you might have about other people judging you are probably just thoughts, most people aren't really malicious and furthermore won't judge you on whatever shortcomings you might have. There's no reason not to do anything so long as it doesn't endanger your life. As far as talking to people goes, everyone wants to tell their own story, if you're able to be a decent listener, people will see you as a good friend. Just be confident about whatever you do, if you're funny try an amateur night at your local comedy club. I feel like I'm rambling... If anyone in the Seattle area wants to come out to the amateur night @ Giggles on Wednesday the 17th I'll be there, my name is Dan. I'll be telling some tasteless jokes to people I don't know. | ||
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thoraxe
United States1449 Posts
![[image loading]](http://farm1.static.flickr.com/214/445290946_4436d227f0.jpg) A bad image of yourself will often lower your self-esteem. I could go on and on, but I don't want to insult you or try to type stuff that you already do. | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
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Zeller
United States1109 Posts
but HEY rome wasn't built in a DAY | ||
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Not_Computer
Canada2277 Posts
not the one related to kitchen appliances | ||
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UmmTheHobo
United States650 Posts
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Fzero
United States1503 Posts
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jyhlol
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Tynuji
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r3dox
Germany261 Posts
- force yourself to accept every single invitation to go out/go somewhere where you will meet and have to talk to people you dont know yet - practice socially relevant exercises from pickup artist programs - http://www.succeedsocially.com | ||
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Lamborsche
Philippines46 Posts
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Duke
United States1106 Posts
Also, please don't turn to drinking in a routine because that can lead to dependence especially with some type of anxiety. You're also underage, and need to keep your driving privileges, or acquire them at some point!  Confidence can be addressed by things like grades, exercising and hygiene. If you do take care of these things regularly you should feel good in general. | ||
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