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LonelyMargarita
1845 Posts
On August 15 2008 09:53 Mickey wrote: My opinion. Do what you really feel is right. Who wants to be in a loveless, and unhappy relationship? People who put their children's lives ahead of their own. | ||
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Mickey
United States2606 Posts
On August 15 2008 10:49 LonelyMargarita wrote: People who put their children's lives ahead of their own. That's complete, and utter bullshit. Not only from personal experience, but it doesn't make any sense. My parents can't stand each other, and it shows. It's actually worse than if my parents were separated. It makes my house life not only awkward, but dumb. We don't even eat breakfast with my Father. Just a couple of minutes ago. My Brother called, and asked if he could be picked up from football practice. My Mother was going to go, but she mentioned she had no money for gas. She asks me for money, but I tell her all I have is a couple of dollar bills, and some checks I received for my birthday. My Mother asked me to give one of my checks to my Father, and ask for the money I'd get from the check. I refuse, and tell her to just ask him herself. My Mother doesn't even like talking to my Father. You know what kind of affect that's had on my home life, and personal experiences? It would be a lot easier if they separated, and my Father has mentioned his unhappiness. Not only do you have to think about your children s well being, you also have to think about your own well being. You don't understand unless you see the face my Mother has around my Father. It's disgusting. | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
If it turns into what Mickey described, then it could be considered destructive but I'm not sure if you've gotten to that point yet. | ||
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InfeSteD
United States4658 Posts
COME ON NOW PPL! I ASK FOR ADVICE ON HOW TO BECOME A BETTER PERSON WITHOUT MY SPOUSE!!!!!!! what the fuck does the kid have to do in all this? millions of kids grow up in a separated family "ITS FUCKIN NORMAL" and Im doin my best... IM THE ONETELLIN my girl to not bring up the child when we are talkin bout personal matters.. thats the way u guys are acting when im talkin about me and my spouse relationship.. u guys bring up the child in between it like it has anything to do wit it.. It s like when bitches use the child for excuses etc | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
Finally someone who agrees with me(Mickey)... It doesn't matter if it's normal. I tried to give you advice for the question you asked, but I also wanted to comment on what someone else said. Sorry you don't like what everyone has to say but it's fucking true. You messed up bad. Maybe you don't deserve to be belittled after the fact now that it's over, but really you shouldn't go thru life pretending you never messed up. It's so ridiculous. You want real advice on how you become a better person? Don't make the same mistake again. There's nothing you can do about what's already happened. | ||
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InfeSteD
United States4658 Posts
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Chef
10810 Posts
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InfeSteD
United States4658 Posts
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Mickey
United States2606 Posts
On August 15 2008 12:33 PsycHOTemplar wrote: I never said your kid was a fuck up. I said it would have been ideal to have him when you were ready to settle down, not popping wood over every random slut you see. You're a fucking idiot. You just explained you didn't mean his son was a fuck up, and then you call his baby's Mother a slut. Think before you type dude. What the fuck is wrong with you? You don't know his story, or what he's been through. We don't even know the whole story of the relationship, and it's dynamics. He asked for advice, and you just fucking throw shit at him about how he fucked up big time. He didn't really ask for advice, he probably asked for reassurance about his decision, because he knows it's the right thing to do for his son, and his well being. HE WAS UNHAPPPPYYYYYYY! He doesn't like the woman, and who are you to judge? Would you want to spend the rest of your life with a woman not do the feelings you have for her, but because you supposedly have to. How many times does he have to say that. There is no point in being a relationship where you can't stand your partner. It would of been worse for the kid being raised under those kinds of conditions. They would of probably verbally argued every now, and then. Who wants a kid listening to shit like that? It would have a traumatic effect on the boy. I've been through that shit dude, and it's not fucking fun. What happens to the boy will be a product of his surroundings, and how he's raised. As long as he, and her share custody, and give him love. The kid will end up fine. It's easy to talk shit, and blame him for his supposed mistake, but why don't all of you think about it. Most of us are high school to late college age guys with no kids, and big dreams. How would you like to have a kid, and be in a unloved relationship? I've had a lot of family go through what he's going through. I'm Hispanic myself, and although the parents wanted them to marry for the sake of the baby. They didn't, and it turned out for the better. It's easy to talk shit, but not too easy to understand where he's coming from. | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
 Oh lord. I'm not interested in a flame war, mickey. I'll answer just this, and you can rethink the rest of your post yourself. You just explained you didn't mean his son was a fuck up, and then you call his baby's Mother a slut. READ HIS LAST BLOG DUMB FUCK. | ||
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Mickey
United States2606 Posts
On August 15 2008 12:46 PsycHOTemplar wrote: When I grow up? Go ahead and come find me. Spend the time, money, and effort to get to where I am and to beat me up. I'll call the cops and you can go to jail. Then you'll have zero custody over your child and he can grow up without a father. You don't think things through. That's your problem. I know this is your drunken rage over the internet (again, you're telling me to grow up?) but you need to start acting like an adult. You have have a responsibility not only to the financial support of yourself and your dependants, but to simply maintaining composure. You'll learn that when your kid starts mimicing you and you see things you aren't proud of Oh lord. I'm not interested in a flame war, mickey. I'll answer just this, and you can rethink the rest of your post yourself. READ HIS LAST BLOG DUMB FUCK. You are nothing, but a fucking hypocrite. Failed sarcasm, and mundane advice doesn't justify you being an ass towards him. Apologize, and leave the blog post. EDIT: Doesn't justify you calling her a slut. If you're going try to argue at least spell correctly, and use proper grammar. I'm not very good at it myself, but I at least fucking try. I read his last blog post. It's basically him saying he wants to be sexually free. What's so bad about a man his age wanting to have fun? It just validates the fact, that he doesn't really care about her the way it should be. | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
Have you guys done the counseling thing and everything? I think you should really explore every last option before ending it totally. | ||
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Night[Mare
Mexico4793 Posts
Who knows, maybe in the future you and your gf may come together again | ||
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Spike
United States1392 Posts
don't get me wrong, the intention is noble, but the result is almost always shitty if both parties aren't happy (doesn't sound like they are). as a child, living in an unhappy household can be as fucked up, if not more so, than living with a single parent. too many people are assuming that living in an environment where the parents are miserable will somehow be less detrimental then being raised by a single parent (and it sounds like infested will still be there for his kid)? | ||
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Duke
United States1106 Posts
 it sounds like you've matured a lot, i think you'll find it easier than you expect to avoid partying an irresponsible amount. people are mentioning the kid a lot because in your first post you say you are afraid of becoming irresponsible, and if that happened of course it would impact the child. maybe instead of partying or starcrafting all day, try dating to find a suitable step-mother for the child you love more than anything in the world! :D[edit] 360th post dedicated to turning this blog around 360 degrees | ||
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snowbird
Germany2044 Posts
Some (if not most) relationships just don't work out in the end. And you just can never be sure if your partner is the right one for life. Not after 1 month, 1 year or 10 years. There's no way to ensure you will always be happy with your partner, at one point the love might fade, there may be certain unforseeable circumstances that lead to this, you can never calculate all the factors. All you can be ready for is the financial stuff. And according to Infested he has a stable job with good enough income, so nothing wrong there. So if you have a kid you just totally give up your own life and live only for the kid? Hell no! Of course the kid is your number 1 priority, but if you are unhappy and have miserable life, it will reflect on the child, too. Being in an unhappy relationship can drag you down in every other aspect of your life too, you may feel less motivated, have no spirit.. all that stuff in the end will be negative for your child. So if both parents agree that it's the best to break up and move on, then that's also the best for the child. Especially since the child is only 8 months old, it won't have any emotional trouble to go through. I am a child of divorced parents myself and I'm glad that they both made this decision and live happily with their new partners now. What a waste of 2 lives would it have been if they had stayed together unhappily for irrational stupid reasons just for 'my sake'. | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
I completely agree with you that he should try to meet a nice stepmom (oh wait, that was duke's post). I just think the OPs shown he's not interested in long term relationships at all. He says it seems like this girl wasn't even trying, but really, he's giving up on her when his kid is only 8 months old. That's not exactly fair. But sure, I'm full of bullshit and unbelievable. That's the easiest way to view someone with different ideals. | ||
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snowbird
Germany2044 Posts
I don't have anything against the point you made in your last post that you find his reasons for breaking up absurd. That's your opinion and I may or may not think likewise, I don't know about his specific circumstances and I didn't read his last blog either. But the your earlier posts clearly went into another direction (jumping to the conclusion that he is too immature to have child and that he messed up big time?) and I have to judge by the content of your posts since I can't read your mind. | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
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InfeSteD
United States4658 Posts
On August 15 2008 03:04 PsycHOTemplar wrote: What's he gonna do? Come find you at your house or your place of work? Call the cops on him if he wants to assault you. Fighting is only legal if both people consent, and even then it gets sketchy when one person starts losing and getting seriously hurt. You don't want to fight. He's an aggressor. You can call the cops if you need to. I don't know how old you are, or this guy is, but if you're both adults you can both seriously hurt each other if you actually get into a fight. If you're both just teenagers, which about where your maturity levels are at, neither of you know what a fight is anyway and it'll most likely be him circling around you starting you down like a retard. Facts: You're an idiot for having sex with his girl; tell the girl to break up with him before she does anything with you (easy rule). There's no reason for him to want to hurt you, other than his own pathetic ego; He should be happy with getting both you pieces of trash out of his life. Everyone in this situation is genuinely retarded. Look at what you posted in mAkito's blog dude? seriously, you dont even know the guy and you are going at it for no reason.. maybe you can state your point without having to call him names so many times specially when he is a tl veteran ...  | ||
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