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My 2 cents:
Your OP seems to indicate that this girl was helping you with self control with stuff like drinking and partying, and you're afraid (? - concerned?) that you'll end up doing those a tad too much now.
Figure out some obvious way to tell when you're going overboard. "Over $300/paycheck" maybe. Or "over 0" even, but you probably don't want to give up partying completely, and there's nothing wrong with it.
Also, she taking the kid? Or you going to keep him? Or he gonna be going back and forth? GL with raising him!
P.S. Don't drink and drive, please. Ever. You wouldn't walk around holding a loaded gun with the safety off, would you?
This point is why I prefer drinking at home, myself, or at a place close enough that I can walk home.
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btw, I dont even wanna read this page because it wont be good for me.. for gods sake man.. ur a child.. when u become a parent u ll know what it feels when people talk about ur kids.. u gotta be careful or ur gonna get killd one of these days or maybe u just run ur mouth like that in internet forums and not in real life
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I think any relationship helps you with the partyin etc... dude im not a crack head, druggie crazy kid.. I just like to have fun.. Im just doing really good at work, etc.. I havent partied for like 2 years because of my girl and my kid..
the truth is friends are really a big influence and will want me to go out with them etc and do stuff.. and I just asked advice on how to take it easy and keep doing good.. it seems like everybody gets misrouted in the conversation rather than just talking about what I really emphasized on , etc I dunno
But anyways, for Mickey: Dude you have no idea how much happier I am this morning knowing I am not with my girl so is my girl.. we are being so smart about everything and not fighting and bheing nice to each other and figuring out stuff with the baby.. its just too good to be truth I even had a hell of a day at work.. I mean everything is wonderful
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I don't know what problems you'll actually be facing, but gl with life!
I really sympathize with any frustrations you'll have with raising the kid. Rewarding or whatever it might be, but it's still tough as hell (as I'm sure you know).
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and You have to agree with me on this... apparently PsyCo thinks im lyin to myself when I say "culture difference between caucasian and latino" ... dude its huge when raising a child.. She thinks we have to spoil the shit out of the baby and I think we have to teach him manners and not hold him etc... be on a schedule when to eat, sleep.. so he gets in good habits.. and we fight over that alot..
so thats what i was struggling with the most I mean imagine.. a korean and a latino having a baby, latinos have no manner compared to koreans.. LOL not only that Religion is different too.. she is mormon and I am catholic (aka nothing) etc...
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you are supposed to spoil your baby dude, and hold him. Teaching a baby manners sounds pretty far out to me.
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there can be a compromise about how to raise the baby.
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ishob that's your point of view, but to be honest the situation was getting worse where my baby all he does is cry regardless of the time or place if he isnt being held, and I dont think that is right. It gets worse as they grow up.
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