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Well, how long has it been a day? since I posted that other blog?... yes
Okay, before I start saying anything I want to warn everybody that me being a horn dog has nothing to do with what I am just about to say nor has anything to do with the previous blog (or does it? :O)
I have been telling my girl I am not happy and that I want to move on but still take care of my child and love him etc. She would always trip out and say blah blah blah, she just didn't want to accept it and we dragged on the relationship for a long time when I wasnt really happy.
She just texted me and said Ive been thinking about it and you are right I should let you go if you are not happy etc etc. She is being so smart about it that its unbeliavable..
She is moving out for sure now and I have lived with her for the past 3 years... I am feeling really scared... I wanna start hanging out with friends again but I dont wanna lose all the responsibility I have built over the years like not drinkin and driving partyin too much being good at work getting raises moving up in life etc. I feel like if I start kikin' it with my homies alot again Imma start being a bum + imagine all the free Starcraft time im gonna have, etc.
Please I need advice on how to take the situation, etc.
 
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Forgot to add that the reason why we are separating I would categorize it as "Cultural" she is a caucasian and I am latino "South America"
We see things really differently and it gets on the way when raising the lil tanner boogie boogie  etc
The cleaning the cookin etc.. drives me insane ..
I guess you could say in other countries women are more like home'ish and the male is more dominant when it comes to financials, raising the kids, etc... we all know its not the same in the States.. I know if u get what im saying but yah thats what it is
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It's probably for the best, as you said yourself, although it's gonna be pretty hard on your kid.
I wish you good luck.
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Well, you have told her this is what you want. Sounds like you've been wanting to move on for awhile. So maybe it is for the best.
If you don't want to turn into a partying, irresponsible fool, I'm not sure anyone's advice can help you. You are responsible for your life, and you have to make it what you believe in.
If you are now having second thoughts about the relationship, my recommendation is to think about it very carefully and talk with the woman. You could consider getting counseling, as well.
Keep in mind, all relationships have their ups and downs. It is true that some people suit each other better than others, but if you are looking for the relationship where you are constantly attracted to your partner, she is constantly attracted to you, and it is happily ever after, you are delusional, because such a thing does not exist. Are your expectations realistic?
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That's too bad. I know it's what you want, but I think it's sad still.
As far as being responsible... just don't go out on work nights. Pick up some quieter hobbies to do when you know you shouldn't be going out, especially those that might be good for your future and not just killing time. Could be building things... could be art, music...
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That really sucks and having that lost connection between your parents can be damaging for your child. How's your lifestyle currently? Will you be spending most of your time partying and mingling with other women?
I hope you don't mind me saying this but WTF!?! Isn't your girlfriend hot (pic)?Of course there is her personality that you might find tedious and annoying.Can you explain why you want to leave her, like things she does?
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He said his problem was cultural differences, Sins. I think he's lying to himself, but that's his story. Really, to be totally brutal and mean, I don't think he was mature enough to have this kid.
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Yes like forgetting to take the pills in purpose and raping me when drunk
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To Psychotemplar: I looked at his profile and he was born in 87. I'm days away from being 25, (born in Aug of 83) and so he is perhaps 22 or 21 (and evidently his son is 3, so he had the kid at 18 or 19). Even at 25, I feel there is NO WAY I'm ready to have a kid (and of course I wrote "that one blog" about my vasectomy, so there shall be no kids for me). So I think you could easily be right. Also, the idea of being married or in a committed monogamous relationship seems suffocating to me. I'd not want to try it. I don't know why so many young folks feel the need to crank out the babies and settle down. Jesus!
Hopefully he does right by his son.
More directly to Infested: maybe that you want to be such an extreme horndog and are so unhappy with your present relationship should be an indication that you ought to NOT have any more kids for a good while, and ought to not settle down for a good while. I don't think you ought to be a party maniac or be irresponsible, but it will do you good to be free and enjoy being the youngster that you still are.
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You should've thought more about your kid, don't go partying, I know you're still young but think about your kid. Don't be promiscous either
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Guys my kid is fine and I am fine. I have a stable job and good income and Im responsible with him, he is not the issue. He will be take care of.
iNky my son is only 8 months by the way not 3
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How long have you been unhappy with your wife/girlfriend? I'm willing to bet its been longer than 8 months, which is pretty harsh to have a kid with someone while at the same time whispering in her ear that the relationship is dead...
oh well, good luck raising your kid and the single life.
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On August 15 2008 03:14 Jumperer wrote:
WTF, learn compromise.
nothing more to add.
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On August 15 2008 04:54 ScarFace wrote:
How long have you been unhappy with your wife/girlfriend? I'm willing to bet its been longer than 8 months, which is pretty harsh to have a kid with someone while at the same time whispering in her ear that the relationship is dead...
oh well, good luck raising your kid and the single life.
You got it right
On August 15 2008 04:55 crabapple wrote:nothing more to add.
what a shitty post that is, compromise on what?
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It's important to keep your friends when you're moving into regular adult life, even if you're not partying and drinking with them every night/weekend. Every kid wants a cool dad that actually has a social life.
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so basically you're splitting up because you don't want to clean and cook?
also, if it was an accidental pregnancy, why didnt you just get an abortion?
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I do clean but she just cant clean up afterherlsef it drives me insane and there is so many other things .. she wants me to be a grown man and Im tryin my hardest but she cant be a woman in the house and it doesnt seem like shes even trying at all.. its over anyways for sure I think
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On August 15 2008 06:47 fusionsdf wrote:
so basically you're splitting up because you don't want to clean and cook?
also, if it was an accidental pregnancy, why didnt you just get an abortion?
Not everyone sees abortion as a precaution...
My opinion. Do what you really feel is right. Who wants to be in a loveless, and unhappy relationship?
Do what you feel is necessary for your happiness, and as long as both of you are attentive, and focused on helping raise your son. I see nothing wrong.
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