fight with mom's partner - Page 3

On August 04 2013 04:26 eXigent. wrote:
After reading your post I thought the guy was a supreme asshole, but then I read more into the comments and realize you have trouble holding a job, your 28, have nothing going for you at all, and now are bitching because someone who wants to be with your mom is pissed that her 28 and 22yr old children are BOTH still at home, doing basically nothing.

He has a pretty good reason to be pissed off, especially if his paycheck is going towards your cost of living (mortgage etc). At 28 years old, you should be going out every single day for at least 4-5 hours, walking around or taking the bus and finding FULLTIME work. Most people are miserable at their jobs, they just dont show it. You are not the only person with disdain towards employment.

Lastly, im not attacking you, and I do agree that in general the guy sounds like some alpha male wannabe douchebag. That aside, there are some glaring holes in your own self that you most definitely should be fixing. Instead of writing this blog, and reading comments and replying, you should be outside looking for work. This sentence alone makes me cringe.
"well i will just have to try again to get a job i guess. unless my mom gives me the ok to go live with my grandmother, thats the only thing i can do to "improve relations"

That alone basically says you dont really wanna work, and if you can go live with your grandmother, you would do that instead. When you move there, are you planning on living off her expenses as well?

On August 04 2013 01:56 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote:
If he's the type of person you seem to think he is, he's probably trying to get your mother alone, zone everybody else out of her life so that he can control her completely and utterly. That's usually the endgame for people like him. I take it your mom is pretty passive?

On August 04 2013 07:23 CecilSunkure wrote:
I think you've single-handedly created the need for a [Coming of Age] tag for TL blogs.

On August 04 2013 09:11 Yorbon wrote:
Hahaha, indeed.

Although i didnt expect him to be 28. I guess maturity isnt as strongly correlated with age as i thought.

On August 04 2013 07:53 hp.Shell wrote:

This sounds likely.

I say get a job first and see if that helps your relationship with the guy. Go out of your way to do chores for him and stuff, buy him a beer once in a while, basically be the nice guy that does nice things whenever he's around, and then leaves. So what you want to do is, every time there's an interaction with him, do something nice, and then leave. But don't make it reaaallly weird where he thinks you're making fun of him or something. Don't be sarcastic.

Okay, if that doesn't help then he is literally incapable of having a meaningful relationship with you. In this situation it is your responsibility to look out for your mother and make sure he will not be abusive when he gets her alone. If you have doubts, then you should try to convince her to move on from him before you leave. But you really should leave as soon as you can in this kind of circumstance. The only thing keeping you is your family's wellbeing.

Edit: Also get a job.
You can't find full time? Then work two part times and move out. You're 28 son. Do work. You fucked up. You don't get time to make millions anymore. Work.

On August 04 2013 01:39 Denzil wrote:
Have you and your sister ever spoken to your mother about this?


Otherwise start going to the gym and beefing up for the inevitable clash