On June 20 2011 14:30 itachisan wrote: I don't know the reasoning behind it, and not to brag or anything, but in my personal opinion I'm a great looking guy with a nice personality, however when I try to strike a conversation with one of these "fob korean girls", they display NO INTEREST whatsoever; it's as if they are not even remotely attracted to any non-korean guys no matter how good they look
I don't know if anyone has said anything about this (stopped reading after the fantastic kitten post!), but....
"I came from a strict Chinese household, so when it came to the whole issue of finding a girlfriend my parents were very strict and controlling when I was still in high school"
"Anyways, my mom and dad currently have this stereotype that I should find a korean girlfriend, because apparently korean girls are very tidy and love to clean the house and make good kimchi."
Seems like an huge turnaround in just two years...
Otherwise you look like a sad wanna-be in denial, like those fat girls at parties that have their saggy cleavage exposed to the midriff because they deluded into thinking any part of them can be aesthetically pleasing. Except even drunk Korean girls won't hit on you. True story.
On June 20 2011 17:09 ILOVEKITTENS wrote: PART 2: MENTALITY
So, you must think that you're almost a Korean fob already. You might even start thinking or acting like one. And you are right - you already have 90% of the attributes that define this sub-class of human being. However, the selling point is how you approach your new skin. If you were trying to be a goth kid, even if you had all the chains and black nail polish that you could buy from Spencer's, you wouldn't be accepted at the next morbid gathering of self-imposed depression with a grin on your face and a sparkle in your eye. The same idea applies here. It's like an actor, in a movie - you are not playing a role, you ARE the role. The sooner you believe it, the sooner they will. How successful you are at this point is purely dependent on how much effort you are willing to put in. Here are some approaches:
1. Learn some basic Korean and Korean slang. This shouldn't be that hard after Chinese. This will help sell your image. You should say that you moved to some foreign country when you were young, though, so your Korean is limited. I would go with some obscure European country that probably has good shopping and an obscure culture that will make you unique. Like Sweden. That way you can pretend to know a language they don't know, that isn't Asian (all Asian people hate Asian people from other Asian countries, but that is obvious). Exotic.
2. Speak less and choose your words carefully. Speaking too much is a sign that you care too much. Being overly excited or hateful towards something does too. You are only allowed to hate all things Americans, Chinese, Japanese, and bad clothes/accessories/hairstyles from now on. Everything else is to be treated with indifference.
4. Study up on your kpop. You can't be left out of the loop - the media is your source for everything. Latest styles, gossip, suicides, everything. Here you go.
5. The same disinterest they showed to you - that is how you have to treat them, at first at least. No more of that... Wait you're not white, so I can't say yellow fever... Well, anyway, you know what I am talking about. The second you show them that you want them badly, they know that you are not worth their time, because any man that gives them so much attention is clearly below them.
I hope this helps. FIGHTING!
Am I the only one who is dying to know what point 3 of part 2 is ?
On June 20 2011 17:09 ILOVEKITTENS wrote: PART 2: MENTALITY
So, you must think that you're almost a Korean fob already. You might even start thinking or acting like one. And you are right - you already have 90% of the attributes that define this sub-class of human being. However, the selling point is how you approach your new skin. If you were trying to be a goth kid, even if you had all the chains and black nail polish that you could buy from Spencer's, you wouldn't be accepted at the next morbid gathering of self-imposed depression with a grin on your face and a sparkle in your eye. The same idea applies here. It's like an actor, in a movie - you are not playing a role, you ARE the role. The sooner you believe it, the sooner they will. How successful you are at this point is purely dependent on how much effort you are willing to put in. Here are some approaches:
1. Learn some basic Korean and Korean slang. This shouldn't be that hard after Chinese. This will help sell your image. You should say that you moved to some foreign country when you were young, though, so your Korean is limited. I would go with some obscure European country that probably has good shopping and an obscure culture that will make you unique. Like Sweden. That way you can pretend to know a language they don't know, that isn't Asian (all Asian people hate Asian people from other Asian countries, but that is obvious). Exotic.
2. Speak less and choose your words carefully. Speaking too much is a sign that you care too much. Being overly excited or hateful towards something does too. You are only allowed to hate all things Americans, Chinese, Japanese, and bad clothes/accessories/hairstyles from now on. Everything else is to be treated with indifference.
4. Study up on your kpop. You can't be left out of the loop - the media is your source for everything. Latest styles, gossip, suicides, everything. Here you go.
5. The same disinterest they showed to you - that is how you have to treat them, at first at least. No more of that... Wait you're not white, so I can't say yellow fever... Well, anyway, you know what I am talking about. The second you show them that you want them badly, they know that you are not worth their time, because any man that gives them so much attention is clearly below them.
I hope this helps. FIGHTING!
Am I the only one who is dying to know what point 3 of part 2 is ?
Alcohol got the best of it, it will never again be found.
On June 20 2011 17:09 ILOVEKITTENS wrote: PART 2: MENTALITY
So, you must think that you're almost a Korean fob already. You might even start thinking or acting like one. And you are right - you already have 90% of the attributes that define this sub-class of human being. However, the selling point is how you approach your new skin. If you were trying to be a goth kid, even if you had all the chains and black nail polish that you could buy from Spencer's, you wouldn't be accepted at the next morbid gathering of self-imposed depression with a grin on your face and a sparkle in your eye. The same idea applies here. It's like an actor, in a movie - you are not playing a role, you ARE the role. The sooner you believe it, the sooner they will. How successful you are at this point is purely dependent on how much effort you are willing to put in. Here are some approaches:
1. Learn some basic Korean and Korean slang. This shouldn't be that hard after Chinese. This will help sell your image. You should say that you moved to some foreign country when you were young, though, so your Korean is limited. I would go with some obscure European country that probably has good shopping and an obscure culture that will make you unique. Like Sweden. That way you can pretend to know a language they don't know, that isn't Asian (all Asian people hate Asian people from other Asian countries, but that is obvious). Exotic.
2. Speak less and choose your words carefully. Speaking too much is a sign that you care too much. Being overly excited or hateful towards something does too. You are only allowed to hate all things Americans, Chinese, Japanese, and bad clothes/accessories/hairstyles from now on. Everything else is to be treated with indifference.
4. Study up on your kpop. You can't be left out of the loop - the media is your source for everything. Latest styles, gossip, suicides, everything. Here you go.
5. The same disinterest they showed to you - that is how you have to treat them, at first at least. No more of that... Wait you're not white, so I can't say yellow fever... Well, anyway, you know what I am talking about. The second you show them that you want them badly, they know that you are not worth their time, because any man that gives them so much attention is clearly below them.
I hope this helps. FIGHTING!
Am I the only one who is dying to know what point 3 of part 2 is ?
Alcohol got the best of it, it will never again be found.
Why do I feel like it contained the most important advice of them all ?
I'm Chinese and I love Kpop and male and I found what you wrote in your blog embarrassing for the Chinese male race.
ILK's post pretty much sums up what every smart Chinese guy already knows, and if it's not working you're extremely ugly or you aren't trying it hard enough..the blog made me cringe..
On June 20 2011 17:09 ILOVEKITTENS wrote: PART 2: MENTALITY
So, you must think that you're almost a Korean fob already. You might even start thinking or acting like one. And you are right - you already have 90% of the attributes that define this sub-class of human being. However, the selling point is how you approach your new skin. If you were trying to be a goth kid, even if you had all the chains and black nail polish that you could buy from Spencer's, you wouldn't be accepted at the next morbid gathering of self-imposed depression with a grin on your face and a sparkle in your eye. The same idea applies here. It's like an actor, in a movie - you are not playing a role, you ARE the role. The sooner you believe it, the sooner they will. How successful you are at this point is purely dependent on how much effort you are willing to put in. Here are some approaches:
1. Learn some basic Korean and Korean slang. This shouldn't be that hard after Chinese. This will help sell your image. You should say that you moved to some foreign country when you were young, though, so your Korean is limited. I would go with some obscure European country that probably has good shopping and an obscure culture that will make you unique. Like Sweden. That way you can pretend to know a language they don't know, that isn't Asian (all Asian people hate Asian people from other Asian countries, but that is obvious). Exotic.
2. Speak less and choose your words carefully. Speaking too much is a sign that you care too much. Being overly excited or hateful towards something does too. You are only allowed to hate all things Americans, Chinese, Japanese, and bad clothes/accessories/hairstyles from now on. Everything else is to be treated with indifference.
4. Study up on your kpop. You can't be left out of the loop - the media is your source for everything. Latest styles, gossip, suicides, everything. Here you go.
5. The same disinterest they showed to you - that is how you have to treat them, at first at least. No more of that... Wait you're not white, so I can't say yellow fever... Well, anyway, you know what I am talking about. The second you show them that you want them badly, they know that you are not worth their time, because any man that gives them so much attention is clearly below them.
I hope this helps. FIGHTING!
Am I the only one who is dying to know what point 3 of part 2 is ?
You gotta read in between the lines, through the pixels, under the code, into the binary.
On June 20 2011 19:42 Gamegene wrote: It's Korean tradition to hate on as many different levels as possible. According to a lot of Korean friends I know every non-Korean is whitetrash/thieves/losers/disgusting/dirty. They'll gossip and talk behind everyone's back and attack any vulnerability they can find. A lot of our humor is teasing/taunting people. We are the most stubborn, emotional, and proud people on the face of the planet. My parents have constantly told me that I am the product of nearly 800 years of proud Korean heritage, and that I have to continue a strong Korean bloodline. That I have to find a girl who can raise a household and bear children and all that crap (it gets 5000x worse for the girls).
They kicked me out of the house when I dated my white friend.
Do you really want to get into that kind of shit because of KPOP? Just date whoever you want; whether she be White Black Middle-Eastern Mongolian Korean Polish whatever don't worry about stuff like that.
Lol Gamegene you sound like a typical westernized Korean. You only hang around foreign people, try to distance yourself from the culture as much as possible to try and fit in and have it harder so you blame it for everything. There's good and bad parts of every culture. Not every non-Korean is white trash, most likely just the people you hang around with. Stubborn, some European countries are WAY WAY worse. Emotional sure, a lot of Asian countries are a lot more emotional, and it's not frowned upon to be that way. Proud, you should always be proud of who you are regardless of where you came from.
Like I understand where you're coming from because I'm first generation too, there's terrible aspects of the culture like sexism and such, but Korean people will always be incredibly loyal and close knit with other Koreans and a ridiculously hard working and reliable in almost every case. They're stupidly open about all their problems too, but I mean that can be a good and bad thing.
Tbh it sounds like you really need to accept you're Korean and you're never going to be a foreigner or white no matter how hard you try and you might have a more enjoyable life.
Also to the OP: Chinese guys and Korean guys approach things very differently, but you will have a very hard time getting a "fob" Korean girl due to the fact that the society causes Koreans to be so close knit. Everyone's pretty much like family, and unless you understand the culture and the social stuff you won't fit in, no matter how hard you try.
I also found Chinese guys usually (well here), to be very direct and straight to the point when they're interested in you and it's a little unnerving, but either way you're not going to have a very easy time without being able to fit into the groups, and without being Korean that's next to impossible just because of how they are. At least you're not white, there's massive stigma for Korean girls dating white people because apparently during the Korean war, the only Korean girls seen with white men were prostitutes.
lol, this is such a fun thread to read while there is downtime at work. I live in the Bay Area of California and there are a ton of these type of Korean girls in the area. Some of these posts are so true.
1. Be tall 2. Be overly superficial and uninterested
Tho' it isn't worth that much. Korean girls don't know how to dance, are usually slobby, superficial and very very immature, and all my Korean friends here are like... always too aware of the Korean media (actors, dramas, kpop, fashion, etc) it makes me sick they don't have a life of their own. I mean seriously?
I would rather stick with latin girls even if I am Korean!