On January 31 2011 07:25 Thaiska wrote:
Hey so from a girls perspective...
You cant really change much about the way you look, or your personality/ sense of humor - that can always make it a no=go with any girl.
FIRST: be prepared she might no like you for things you cant change about yourself. There is no way around that - and insisting after you got a cleat "NO" just makes you seem repulsive (this is how all humans act, no?)
SECOND: Grow some balls. Any girl I know likes a guy to have balls and make moves. If you do and she regects you, at least have the balls to get over it and move on - instead of dwelling on it, and acting pathetic around her.
Ask her to do something that's not a date but leaves the option for some form of intimacy open: Like a party or concert where if she likes you you guys could dance together. DONT make a big deal of asking. Just ask straight up without any weird strategy or over thinking - we can see through your schemes to ask us out when youre scared - its not as attractive as a guy that just acts confident. If you think you cant do it with a confident face (specially if she regects you), then ask in a msg and keep it really simple.
Dont forget to act instantly OVER IT but COMPLETELY friendly if she regects you. The best is if you defuse the situation with humour.
HERE IS THE MAGIC FORMULA:
Think of how you treat a guy friend. Subtract the innapropriate BRO behaviour and dirty jokes and stuff like that... THATS how you should treat a girl unless youre sure she likes you.
Im pretty attractive (troll me if you dont believe - dont care) and ive regected guys only to give them a chance later because they were so cool about being regected and staying my friend.
OMG DONT EVER ACTED SCARED OF A GIRL. WE USE THE KNOWLEGE OF YOU LIKING US TO RAPE YOU OF YOUR DIGNITY
Maybe that didnt help at all but whatever I was bored.
Hey so from a girls perspective...
You cant really change much about the way you look, or your personality/ sense of humor - that can always make it a no=go with any girl.
FIRST: be prepared she might no like you for things you cant change about yourself. There is no way around that - and insisting after you got a cleat "NO" just makes you seem repulsive (this is how all humans act, no?)
SECOND: Grow some balls. Any girl I know likes a guy to have balls and make moves. If you do and she regects you, at least have the balls to get over it and move on - instead of dwelling on it, and acting pathetic around her.
Ask her to do something that's not a date but leaves the option for some form of intimacy open: Like a party or concert where if she likes you you guys could dance together. DONT make a big deal of asking. Just ask straight up without any weird strategy or over thinking - we can see through your schemes to ask us out when youre scared - its not as attractive as a guy that just acts confident. If you think you cant do it with a confident face (specially if she regects you), then ask in a msg and keep it really simple.
Dont forget to act instantly OVER IT but COMPLETELY friendly if she regects you. The best is if you defuse the situation with humour.
HERE IS THE MAGIC FORMULA:
Think of how you treat a guy friend. Subtract the innapropriate BRO behaviour and dirty jokes and stuff like that... THATS how you should treat a girl unless youre sure she likes you.
Im pretty attractive (troll me if you dont believe - dont care) and ive regected guys only to give them a chance later because they were so cool about being regected and staying my friend.
OMG DONT EVER ACTED SCARED OF A GIRL. WE USE THE KNOWLEGE OF YOU LIKING US TO RAPE YOU OF YOUR DIGNITY
Maybe that didnt help at all but whatever I was bored.
True.