EPTif u do it, u'll probably regret it
if you don't do it, you'll still probably regret it
therefore you're screwed no matter what you do.
therefore do it anyways.
Is it worth it to take a second shot? girl related - Page 3
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
if u do it, u'll probably regret it if you don't do it, you'll still probably regret it therefore you're screwed no matter what you do. therefore do it anyways. | ||
semioldguy
United States7488 Posts
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Quake48
United States68 Posts
On January 27 2011 06:55 Kalingingsong wrote: here's my analysis: if u do it, u'll probably regret it if you don't do it, you'll still probably regret it therefore you're screwed no matter what you do. therefore do it anyways. THIS perfectly sums up where I am at hah, but things actualy went pretty well today and I'm thinkin about making the move tomorow so wish me luck hah. | ||
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Myrtroll
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 Start flirting a bit innocently at first to check if there is some chemistry going on or if you can get some going. (comment on her looks/clothes etc.) If you step it up slowly, the date thing should come naturally. It will also pique her interest into you, since she isn't sure were to place you anymore. (you could be just friendly and nice, but is that everything..?) If you treat it as just fun and not too serious, it can also help avoid awkwardness if you get shut down later since you seem worried about that. Going from friend zone straight into a date is usually a bad idea unless she is desperate, so I would avoid that. | ||
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Kazius
Israel1456 Posts
If you want to do the dating thing, do it with someone else. | ||
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Frits
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Thaiska
Canada3 Posts
You cant really change much about the way you look, or your personality/ sense of humor - that can always make it a no=go with any girl. FIRST: be prepared she might no like you for things you cant change about yourself. There is no way around that - and insisting after you got a cleat "NO" just makes you seem repulsive (this is how all humans act, no?) SECOND: Grow some balls. Any girl I know likes a guy to have balls and make moves. If you do and she regects you, at least have the balls to get over it and move on - instead of dwelling on it, and acting pathetic around her. Ask her to do something that's not a date but leaves the option for some form of intimacy open: Like a party or concert where if she likes you you guys could dance together. DONT make a big deal of asking. Just ask straight up without any weird strategy or over thinking - we can see through your schemes to ask us out when youre scared - its not as attractive as a guy that just acts confident. If you think you cant do it with a confident face (specially if she regects you), then ask in a msg and keep it really simple. Dont forget to act instantly OVER IT but COMPLETELY friendly if she regects you. The best is if you defuse the situation with humour. HERE IS THE MAGIC FORMULA: Think of how you treat a guy friend. Subtract the innapropriate BRO behaviour and dirty jokes and stuff like that... THATS how you should treat a girl unless youre sure she likes you. Im pretty attractive (troll me if you dont believe - dont care) and ive regected guys only to give them a chance later because they were so cool about being regected and staying my friend. OMG DONT EVER ACTED SCARED OF A GIRL. WE USE THE KNOWLEGE OF YOU LIKING US TO RAPE YOU OF YOUR DIGNITY Maybe that didnt help at all but whatever I was bored. | ||
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chaoser
United States5541 Posts
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RezChi
Canada2368 Posts
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Rinrun
Canada3509 Posts
On January 31 2011 07:25 Thaiska wrote: OMG DONT EVER ACTED SCARED OF A GIRL. WE USE THE KNOWLEGE OF YOU LIKING US TO RAPE YOU OF YOUR DIGNITY This here is so true and they do it well- but that is not the point. I voted "do it" before even reading the OP- meaning, what have you got to lose. Like an earlier post said- regret if you do and regret if you don't- screw it and go for it. | ||
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On January 31 2011 07:25 Thaiska wrote: Hey so from a girls perspective... You cant really change much about the way you look, or your personality/ sense of humor - that can always make it a no=go with any girl. FIRST: be prepared she might no like you for things you cant change about yourself. There is no way around that - and insisting after you got a cleat "NO" just makes you seem repulsive (this is how all humans act, no?) SECOND: Grow some balls. Any girl I know likes a guy to have balls and make moves. If you do and she regects you, at least have the balls to get over it and move on - instead of dwelling on it, and acting pathetic around her. Ask her to do something that's not a date but leaves the option for some form of intimacy open: Like a party or concert where if she likes you you guys could dance together. DONT make a big deal of asking. Just ask straight up without any weird strategy or over thinking - we can see through your schemes to ask us out when youre scared - its not as attractive as a guy that just acts confident. If you think you cant do it with a confident face (specially if she regects you), then ask in a msg and keep it really simple. Dont forget to act instantly OVER IT but COMPLETELY friendly if she regects you. The best is if you defuse the situation with humour. A few weeks ago a female poster wrote an epic thread detailing how one should act around women, build a relationship, and ask them out. I'm bumping this for the sole reason that this little half page of advice kicked the crap out of the epic thread! Way to keep it simple  On January 31 2011 08:48 Kalingingsong wrote: so what happened in the end? I'm going to guess that he's too busy wooing her on their date to respond... | ||
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luckyseven
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Haemonculus
United States6980 Posts
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luckyseven
179 Posts
dont fucking BOTHER asking anyone out unless they are drooling over you. if they arent then work on improving yourself until they are. you want the girl to come to you, rather than the other way round. stop WASTING your life HOPING and DREAMING that you have what it takes, you will never get what you want, never improve yourself, that way. also its BULLSHIT that you cant change every little thing about yourself. people dont do it because its FUCKING DIFFICULT and takes years of dedication. but it can be done, though you only have this one lifetime to do it in. in your situation i would try to spend more time with the girl in a completely casual manner. treat every time you're together as a learning experience, and try to study the way you behave and what she likes and dislikes about the way you behave. obviously you have some great qualities already if you can get some hot girls, but this girl is different and special. she isnt attracted to you right now so if you want any chance in making her attracted then you have to study what she likes and gradually learn to incorporate those things into yourself. DO NOT BOTHER ASKING HER OUT coz she will say no, and even if she says yes hesitantly then you will probably be a shitty boyfriend to her because you havent yet figured out what really makes her tick. only problem is you have 4 months then you'll never see her again right :D just dont rush anything, 4 months is like 12 weeks, give it another 6 weeks of hanging out and trying to push her attraction buttons and get HER to come to you rather than running after her like a chode hoping, hoping! she suddenly starts to fancy you (when does this ever happen) | ||
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shurgen
350 Posts
Did not regret it, kinda glad I didn't do it. | ||
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Quake48
United States68 Posts
Basically I was still waffling around with what I was going to do in class and we had a group project. I was grouped up with these 3 other girls who I did not know really well, but never the less I hit it off pretty good with them. It has been a while just having a good time, even in school with girls I didn't even know kinda made me realize how much easier it is when I am with somebody I dont have any history with. Im not exactly the shy type with girls, so feeling excited about the girl in the op just piqued my attention a bit but realistically I dont think she is my type even if things worked out with us. Any how since then Ive been chatting and flirting with one of the girls I was grouped up with and we get along pretty well so it all has worked out pretty well. | ||
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Ryalnos
United States1946 Posts
On February 01 2011 14:03 Quake48 wrote: Eh alright so Thanks for all the support and words of wisdom Thaiska especially, just because anybody with just 2 posts who still breaks it down like that is pretty baller. Anyhow incase any of you are wondering let me explained what happened in the days following my OP. Basically I was still waffling around with what I was going to do in class and we had a group project. I was grouped up with these 3 other girls who I did not know really well, but never the less I hit it off pretty good with them. It has been a while just having a good time, even in school with girls I didn't even know kinda made me realize how much easier it is when I am with somebody I dont have any history with. Im not exactly the shy type with girls, so feeling excited about the girl in the op just piqued my attention a bit but realistically I dont think she is my type even if things worked out with us. Any how since then Ive been chatting and flirting with one of the girls I was grouped up with and we get along pretty well so it all has worked out pretty well. I have never seen a resolution like this to a girl blog. Baller. | ||
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Quake48
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