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HeavOnEarth
United States7087 Posts
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On October 12 2009 06:20 uNcontroLable wrote: I can't tell you how good it feels to walk with him in public and know that I'm almost positively safe. I hate to live by fear, but I've had experiences in my life that have demonstrated both the evil that exists in some people and my inability to always protect myself from it. Having Geoff as a boyfriend has the bonus that most people go out of their way not even to APPEAR to cause me any danger, for fear of his wrath. We've discussed how strange it is that the world is so different for him than it is for me. I'm fairly small, athletic, but wholly unable to defend myself if it came to weapons or full brute force. Geoff, on the other hand, could get stabbed repeatedly or probably shot, and still pwn someone. I always say he should have been born in ancient Rome as a gladiator. His very BONES are like, 3 times as strong and thick as mine. He used to work security and once fought 10 guys at one time. He came home so unscathed I didn't even know it had happened till he asked me to fix the rip he had made in his pants. Usually, intimidation is enough to stop someone from stepping up, which is good, because I think almost every time he has actually punched someone, he has knocked them out. He tries not to use brute force because it can have devastating results. imba. Do girls in general feel unsafe when walking around in public outsider/in mall/store..etc. Or is it just you? Iike if a dude comes up and asks for directions do girls think of the possibility that they are A). a rapist B) murder C)gangster... etc..? I mean for me and i'd guess most guys, those things don't even come to mind. Like for example i'm a pretty skinny dude, 5'7-128lbs. And i talk mad shit without noticing, and never felt unsafe... maybe just me. | ||
eMbrace
United States1300 Posts
2. do attractive woman always think they look fat? or is it for attention? | ||
iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
On October 12 2009 10:09 HeavOnEarth wrote: are you gonna stop posting when u get a lurker icon o-o; No, but I'll be sad when it changes. | ||
iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
On October 12 2009 11:13 YPang wrote: Do girls in general feel unsafe when walking around in public outsider/in mall/store..etc. Or is it just you? Iike if a dude comes up and asks for directions do girls think of the possibility that they are A). a rapist B) murder C)gangster... etc..? I mean for me and i'd guess most guys, those things don't even come to mind. Like for example i'm a pretty skinny dude, 5'7-128lbs. And i talk mad shit without noticing, and never felt unsafe... maybe just me. I don't know that girls in general feel unsafe walking in public, but I bet a grand majority feel scared walking alone in less populated areas, especially at night. Such a large percentage of violent crimes are committed against women, I think it's prudent to be a little scared. I used to be one of those "it would never happen to me" girls, and I've learned to be more cautious. Even when the likelihood is statistically low of anything happening, it only takes being in the wrong place at the wrong time. In the town where Geoff and I went to college, a girl my age was out cleaning in a front yard, got snatched into a van and was raped and killed. It's a pretty safe town, but it just took that one guy, you know? For me, it was horrifying to think that, if he had happened to park his van next to me and put the knife to my back, instead, there would be nothing I could have done. It's sad, because now not a single girl walks around there at night by herself and feels safe. It totally depends on the person and the situation as to whether I am suspicious of a guy asking directions. If we're in a populous place and he looks normal, like if a guy my age comes up to me in a mall and asks whatever, I'm probably not suspicious. If I'm waiting for a bus in the evening, and an older, unkempt guy comes up and starts talking to me, yeah I'll be nervous. I think that's probably pretty commonly the case. I, for one, never really have a problem talking to anyone until they say something creepy that makes me feel unsafe. If they want me to go somewhere with them alone or reveal any personal info, it's buh-bye, but, until then, generally I'm always up for meeting someone new. | ||
iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
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FragKrag
United States11538 Posts
I was confused for a while | ||
uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On October 12 2009 12:26 eMbrace wrote: 1. provided that it fits the person -- what hair length do you prefer on men? 2. do attractive woman always think they look fat? or is it for attention? 1. Well, as you said, it has to fit the person, but I'm a TOTAL sucker for long hair on the right guy. I love that kinda shaggy, flipped out boarder look, and actually even a ponytail IF he can pull it off. If not though, spiky is totally the way to go, and a fauxhawk always looks sharp. 2. I think that most fit women in the United States probably see themselves as larger than they are, yes. I know that I don't see in the mirror what other people see when they look at me, and most of my friends growing up were the same. The socialization we all get can make us feel that way, but we can overcome it by realizing that is the case and choosing to be totally healthy over just skinny. What you are referring to, though, is women who constantly complain about it and while there are some who do it for attention, a lot of them are actually saying it as almost kind of an apology. They don't want you to think that they think their size is okay. Basically the idea that they are promising you they could at some point look better. My sister had a couple eating disorders growing up, so I actually know a lot about body image and what it makes girls feel and do. | ||
Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
On October 12 2009 11:13 YPang wrote: Do girls in general feel unsafe when walking around in public outsider/in mall/store..etc. Or is it just you? Iike if a dude comes up and asks for directions do girls think of the possibility that they are A). a rapist B) murder C)gangster... etc..? I mean for me and i'd guess most guys, those things don't even come to mind. Like for example i'm a pretty skinny dude, 5'7-128lbs. And i talk mad shit without noticing, and never felt unsafe... maybe just me. You have never felt unsafe? Have you ever been in a dangerous situation? I.e. knives/gun/fights/gangs etc? I find it hard to believe you have NEVER felt unsafe unless you have never had any dangerous experiences. | ||
Yizuo
Germany1537 Posts
On October 12 2009 09:15 uNcontroLable wrote: There is definitely a difference in how you get treated as a customer based on how you look. I especially notice it when I travel. When I'm all put together and dressed nicely, I get treated like I'm way more important and get way better service than when I'm in sweats, hair all frizzy, etc. Overall, being a young 20-something girl has huge benefits that I can't deny. That's pert of the reason I want to travel so much now, because it won't be so easy to find friends and free places to stay around the world once I'm older lol. In terms of how does it make me feel? Actually it makes me kind of sad, in a way. First of all because I think all people should be treated based on who they are, not on their looks, but also, to be completely honest, because I know that one day I will be old and my looks will fade and there will be nothing I can do about it. lol. Or, who knows, I could have a tragic accident and be scarred. I guess sometimes when I am reminded that people think I'm beautiful, it stresses me out cause I worry about whether or not they will feel the same about me, or treat me the same, if that ever changes. I want to be loved just for me, you know? It scares me to think I might lose a part of someone's love if it is in any way based on my looks. That said, I can't say that I don't enjoy the certain advantages that come from batting my eyelashes at the right people at this point in my life. It has gotten me certain opportunities that I definitely wouldn't have gotten otherwise. As such, I can say it also makes me feel extremely blessed. I didn't do anything to deserve a certain genetic makeup, I was just born that way, and I am very thankful that I feel satisfied with the way I look for the most part, because I know a lot of people aren't. Honestly, I don't think that beauty just comes from genes though, I think a large part of why people think I'm pretty is because I am generally very comfortable with who I am, and confident in my own skin. That makes me feel proud, and gives me a sense of responsibility to be a good example for other young women on that front. Haha does that even answer you question? yeah, it was pretty interesting, because I always wonder this about pretty girls, ty . So you feel people should be treated based on who they are, still you use your looks to make stuff easier for you? Or do you just accept how you are treated? I really dont want to attack you or something, I'm just curious... All in all you seem to be a really nice girl by the way, it's also pretty cool how you give lengthy and intimate answers to all these private questions . | ||
faseman
Australia215 Posts
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Spike
United States1392 Posts
and How do you feel about Boji cars? | ||
Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
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Strayline
United States330 Posts
On October 12 2009 09:15 uNcontroLable wrote: Overall, being a young 20-something girl has huge benefits that I can't deny. That's pert of the reason I want to travel so much now, because it won't be so easy to find friends and free places to stay around the world once I'm older lol. Was that an honest typeo? On second thought, a and e are too far apert: LOL | ||
Etherone
United States1898 Posts
On October 13 2009 07:41 Rekrul wrote: Compromise and get a 700nm dodge viper you know you want to. and for UnC: do you look down on general degeneracy I.E drinking, sex gambling,etc... (all in abundance) ? | ||
EsX_Raptor
United States2801 Posts
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ZeeTemplar
United States557 Posts
Any specific genre or book you enjoy reading at the moment? | ||
Licmyobelisk
Philippines3682 Posts
If you were to be a man (except iNC) who would it be and why? (there is also consequences after becoming a man) You'd have to chase iNC to love you back after becoming a man, in what way are you going to show/prove him that you are really Anna?. | ||
StorrZerg
United States13910 Posts
On October 14 2009 00:19 Licmyobelisk wrote: Hope this isn't asked yet: If you were to be a man (except iNC) who would it be and why? (there is also consequences after becoming a man) You'd have to chase iNC to love you back after becoming a man, in what way are you going to show/prove him that you are really Anna?. and of course when this happens they revert back to normal after the first kiss? sorta like the princess and the frog except more homo? | ||
uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
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