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JudgeMathis
Cuba1286 Posts
Actually, to be even be more blunt. Every time I see one of my friends, our group inside joke is that hes a pedo. Why? Because, he was dating a 15 year old girl while he was 20(even if it legal for you to date her at 16 over there, its still odd for you to being something like that). Which is against the law in Florida. You wouldn't be an exception to the ruthless jokes. Again, I'm not trying to be mean. But, the reality is if I knew you IRL I would crack jokes on you about being a pedo. | ||
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Physician
United States4146 Posts
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Chef
10810 Posts
If her parents do mind, wait two years and win the parents over; if there is love, it will be just as fine 2 years from now. That's what I was thinking too but how is he gonna be like "Yeah, let's stop dating for two years." He's sort of already in the thick of it, a "break" isn't realistic. | ||
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ahrara_
Afghanistan1715 Posts
On May 26 2008 12:36 JudgeMathis wrote: To be honest, I don't think its alright for a 25 year old man to be dating a 16 year old girl. I don't care how much you're in love with her, or not. Plus, girls in high school are very immature, and like to play little kid games. It's not worth it, and you should honestly get a woman around your age. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but I don't agree with your actions to date a 16 year old girl. Actually, to be even be more blunt. Every time I see one of my friends, our group inside joke is that hes a pedo. Why? Because, he was dating a 15 year old girl while he was 20(even if it legal for you to date her at 16 over there, its still odd for you to being something like that). Which is against the law in Florida. You wouldn't be an exception to the ruthless jokes. Again, I'm not trying to be mean. But, the reality is if I knew you IRL I would crack jokes on you about being a pedo. You're a cool guy and everything, but I'm a little offended. It's unusual to be dating younger girls, but if it's not an exploitative or abusive relationship, what's wrong with it? The girl I was talking about, I fucking adored her, and TKWL sounds like a respectable guy. You can make fun all you want, but we're not bad people for it. | ||
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fight_or_flight
United States3988 Posts
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Chef
10810 Posts
You can make fun all you want, but we're not bad people for it. But wouldn't you say in hindsight, you should have just waited for the girl to grow up? Why did it have to be right then, when you know she's vulnerable, you know her brain isn't even fully developed yet, you know shit's gonna be weird? I mean, if you knew a girl when she was 14 and thought she was kinda clever, and 4 years later she's fully developed more or less, and you still like her, doesn't that save all the fuss? Why can't you just let a kid be a kid? That's why you get weird looks, and people hate on you. I won't say you're a bad person. Everyone does stupid shit, everyone has confusing feelings at times in their lives. I'd just like to know that in retrospect, you might have done things differently. That you maybe learned something from the experience =/ | ||
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ahrara_
Afghanistan1715 Posts
Why did it have to be right then, when you know she's vulnerable, you know her brain isn't even fully developed yet, you know shit's gonna be weird? because i'm going to do a different school next year and we can't spend time with each other again. | ||
micronesia
United States24495 Posts
On May 26 2008 12:53 PsycHOTemplar wrote: But wouldn't you say in hindsight, you should have just waited for the girl to grow up? Why did it have to be right then, when you know she's vulnerable, you know her brain isn't even fully developed yet, you know shit's gonna be weird? I mean, if you knew a girl when she was 14 and thought she was kinda clever, and 4 years later she's fully developed more or less, and you still like her, doesn't that save all the fuss? Why can't you just let a kid be a kid? That's why you get weird looks, and people hate on you. I won't say you're a bad person. Everyone does stupid shit, everyone has confusing feelings at times in their lives. I'd just like to know that in retrospect, you might have done things differently. That you maybe learned something from the experience =/ You make a good point. BTW if you use the quote button to include the person's name it's helpful for them to refer back to it (personally I do a content search for my nick to see who responded to me). I only mention it because I've noticed several times today you haven't been including the name. | ||
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bustaBust
Canada469 Posts
i understand you a strong person, you do what you want, dont conform, i get it. but do you really want to have that rep? think about how limited you will be in the future when all the girl that you're trying to pick up can think of is you tryna fuck her little sister. you gotta think about he long run because in a year or so shes going to mature (slightly) and change, and when that happens you two might not stay together. when that happens not even one of those thing of your negative list will be worth it. Theres a very good chance you could go to jail as well if your are really open about your sexual relationship. i believe the laws are anything under 16 is a no-no and if shes 16 or 17 you cant be more than 2 years older or its illegal. 9 year is pushing it. i dont even think the issue is that you are 9 years older, its that she is 16. thats 3 years older than 13.  shes way to young. i think its gross frankly. | ||
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JudgeMathis
Cuba1286 Posts
On May 26 2008 12:42 ahrara_ wrote: You're a cool guy and everything, but I'm a little offended. It's unusual to be dating younger girls, but if it's not an exploitative or abusive relationship, what's wrong with it? The girl I was talking about, I fucking adored her, and TKWL sounds like a respectable guy. You can make fun all you want, but we're not bad people for it. Sorry if it offends you. But, I'm a very honest person(I could have said, "Oh yeah man, I hope everything works out, blah, blah, blah, but my reaction towards this is the one I would have IRL too). That type of stuff really doesn't fly with me. If I remember reading the last blog, the father didn't approve. If I was the father, I wouldn't approve either. I don't want to try to sound like a jack ass, but come on man. She's still a young girl, and hes an adult. Even if you're kind of in the same boat, I wouldn't agree for to do so as well(you would have been like our friend we make fun of). Honestly, ahrara_ nothing against you or anything, its just the way I feel, and would react IRL. :-/ EDIT: I would say though, my behavior in this subject is not the right one(making fun of people doing these things). | ||
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ahrara_
Afghanistan1715 Posts
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RoC)Ninjah
United States238 Posts
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
You don't need to worry about what other people think, but you do need to worry that she cares about what other people think. You also need to worry that what she thinks is some ideal fantasy like what Scorpion gets out of the 3rd graders he dates. 26 year old women still do it, I'm sure most 16 year olds do it even more. My guess is you're already thinking these things, because I don't think you're the type that lets other peoples' judgments affect you when you think it's the right person. It may be that you're questioning whether it's the right person. And did you actually make that list because I'm pretty sure that only happens in bad Jennifer Aniston movies. | ||
Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
LOL oh wait, its not funny.... tkwl if two people both want it despite the age difference then good for them but no matter what you do and how much either of you don't care social stigmas will end up effecting you, plus things can always change SOOOO fast no matter how much your naive emotions are telling you they can't plenty of fish in the sea if you can find a prepubescent girl that you love SOOOO much this early in your life imagine all the normal girls you haven't explored 'the one and only' is pure naive | ||
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
but be prepared to face the concequences | ||
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micronesia
United States24495 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + I'm not actually trying to imply something; I just found it interesting (consider the timestamps). | ||
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
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ToKoreaWithLove
Norway10161 Posts
 I don't think I have any problems tho. I would be sad if it was to be over but I don't imagine I would break down or anything. Physician: Thank you. Fyi I met the parents the first time we had a date. I figured it would be important to at least say hello before doing something like this. I have a pretty good relationship with them now. Jibba: Do they really? From where I'm standing I'm getting quite a bit of constructive criticism. And why would I not be divorced if I was not rich^^? | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On May 26 2008 20:10 ToKoreaWithLove wrote: Jibba: Do they really? From where I'm standing I'm getting quite a bit of constructive criticism. And why would I not be divorced if I was not rich^^?It might still happen. D: But if you were rich there'd be golddiggers after you who know how to act sweet and perfect, and make it easy to fall in love with them, or at least with the way they present themselves. | ||
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