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On October 10 2011 15:53 OliverDONG wrote:It will take me a while to get over my first relationship. + Show Spoiler +Im only 19, but i have spend the past 5 years in and out of the hospital (Leukemia) and am now im total remission. About 2 years ago during one of my never ending hospitalization, I met that sweet girl which was a year older than me who had cystic fibrosis. When you are that sick it is kinda hard to talk about all you feel and such with your parents and your friends since none of them really have gone through such events. Turned out she was the first one I was able to open my heart to and express how I was feeling inside at that time and vice-versa. We became close friends pretty damn quickly and, after couple dates when we were not hospitalized, ended up in a relashionship. I just cannot find the words to describe how good that relationship has been to both of us. I mean I dated soem girls before, but they all ended up failign because of my health issues (which I find rediculous but whatever) and I never loved someone that much. Having someone going through similar difficulties and being able to support each other through the ups and downs of life is priceless. Our relationship lasted a 19 months, her disease took over and she died...in my arms. Its already been 5 months, yet it feels like it was just yesterday. Fighting for your life really opens your eyes on what is true love. I dont think I will be ready to date or to have a relationship fora long time. My friends and family are really supportive so it helps. It'll be hard to find someone like my ex, and she will always be in my heart, but I am pretty sure that one day I will find someone that is worth spending my life with. I'll focus on uni and sc2 for now, until then im better off alone...
I'm sorry to hear that man, I can't begin to imagine how that feels. Still it made me smile when I looked up at your username and saw the capitalized DONG 
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On October 10 2011 16:08 TheDraken wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 15:47 Mr. Nefarious wrote:
Unfortunately, most of the better looking girls are extremely selfish and vain. Drop these girls, looks are only fun for the first month. Find the girl you find attractive emotionally as well as physically, despite what other people might say or think about her. that's why you don't go into "relationships" with them. those women are only for one night flings and for arm candy. only way to go really. had a good number of relationships until about 4 years ago when i went on a zero commitment stint. go for the looks, get what you want, and then bail. honestly don't know what more a man could want out of that.
Even if there were none when it started or it was just a hookup, I tend to start having feelings for someone if it keeps going (assuming more than once), even if I don't want to or they're a bitch, and somehow in some fucked up way it's much easier when they're really attractive (or, quite frankly, better looking than you are, so you almost want to relish in the moment you're with someone that's banging).
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On October 10 2011 15:07 Vindicare605 wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 14:42 Fkyx wrote:
I'm an expert at getting to the "friend zone". If you need help with that, talk to me.
That basically sums up my dating experiences. I'm with you there at the moment. I'm the guy that will apparently "make some lucky girl really happy one day." Meanwhile I get to scratch my head wondering what I'm doing right that gives off the "I can't believe someone hasn't snatched you up yet." feel yet isn't the type of the guy that the girl saying this will go out with. I dunno. Early 20's sucks for dating beyond casual dating.
you gotta be a jerk bro.
had plenty of conversations with ladies about guys like that (usually a "hey can you find my friend a girl" situation) and the "make some lucky girl really happy" response is CLASSIC response to a guy that's too nice. i'm sure you've been told that girls enjoy a respectful man that opens doors and does everything she likes and minds his boundaries and stuff like that.
sure that's all nice and everything... for a husband. i trust you aren't at that stage yet. so don't act like one.
but if you're looking for a girl that's just down for a bit of fun you can't be acting like a married man. scares the hell out of them. besides, when you show that you're trying to impress her it almost feels like she's going below her standards: she already has you, so what's the fun in the relationship?
don't hesitate to be snarky with her. don't hesitate to give her looks of disapproval. don't hesitate to act borderline disinterested. don't be afraid to make fun of her. don't be afraid of cursing in front of her. don't be afraid to just put your arm around her.
honestly one of the most frequent desires for ladies is landing a guy that's confident in himself to the extent that he just naturally rolls with shit and cuts the crap. and when he takes control of situations he's good at them. put simply you just need to view girls as inherently lazy. they want you to do all the shit and you can't move too slowly or the show gets boring, but if you move quickly you better know what you're doing and pick up on shit.
there's a reason why hot girls always seem to be getting in shitty relationships with douchey tools. it's because they're doing what i just described, but obviously in a less calculating manner and in more of a "so horny, must fuck" manner.
i'm sure there will be people that will disagree with me and say "no you can't be a jerk, man. that's not nice. blah blah", but as a person who is not even 20 and is in double digits for "home runs" with women, i must be doing something right.
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So guys i'm gonna drop my story of my 1 day relationship and yes it was fucking traumatic.
+ Show Spoiler +to say this bluntly i have only ever had 1 other relationship so far, i'm kind of short and young looking for a junior in the south of america, Memphis Tennessee to be exact and most people here are fairly mature by age 16 and i'm not  .
+ Show Spoiler +To give some background a kid i knew had just committed suicide in the middle of the events and before hand i had some things i worked hard to achieve taken away from me, rightfully or not so i was a bit depressed at the beginning.
So basically i meet this chick on a jew convention, yeah we have those, a fuckton (scientific order of magnitude) of those. She's from winnipeg and i'm from the south of the U.S. An advisor tells me to meet them and says that she thinks we'd make great friends. So we hit it off with her friend, a couple of my friends and friends of friends at this convention. Its all merry shizzat and i get a concussion she gets the puppy dog look for me and i hit on her for about 2 months afterwards. I thought she sexaliscious, she was about a year younger than me, a freshman and i was a sophomore. She was a bit short but hey so was i and i thought she was the bomb. Now that i look back, she probably would have blown me if i hadn't blown it. So we flirt A LOT in a group chat over the next month or two and eventually she starts sending me personal messages and tells me she likes me. The very next day she tells me that she wants to be straight up with me, she also likes my best friends and wants to date him first. So a bit annoyed, but still cool, calm and collected i say sure, i'll just go and date another chick till then. WRONG FUCKING ANSWER GENIUS. She goes off and she is angry. She tells me how i'm playing her how i'm lying to her and all that noise. fuck that noise i'm thinking how did this happen? Now i'm not too worried because she has liked my friend for a while and i know that and the fact that i beat my friend out surprised me. So basically she goes and tells the entire friend group that i'm a lying douche bag and starts to weave a web of lies about me. Now i have to choose between two girls and it tore me apart for a while and then i realized, i really like this girl, idk if its love but i know this girl is something i'd like to be a part of even if its long distance, so i try to make it up to her, but it doesn't work. I had previously met another girl, we'll call the first one C for canada and this one S for her real name. S is a year older than me, but she is also a bit young looking and probably one of the prettiest girls i've ever met sans a grinding partner. I meet her at a Model United Nations conference in my state and a drunk friend tells us that we'd be perfect for each other. Both of us are lip virgins, but jeez i thought the world of her. Now at Model UN i was and still am a bit of an enigma idk how things got put into place but man i became a cool dude and became the grinding partner of a senior and homecoming queen as a sophomore and she's one of the prettiest girls i've ever met. S however below on looks was really sweet and that was one thing C lacked. I'm a sucker for a sweet girl, so S and i slow dance and i talk to her a lot and skype her a lot and eventually we become an item, albeit long distance, but hey thats how a lot of things are for highschoolers. So along these years i've accumulated a veritable web of friends across the U.S. in different cities, C begins to use the web she's woven to hurt me. She begins turning old friends against me and using the power that she is a girl and has the sex appeal, she inevitably starts winning. All throughout this period of about 3 months she is sending me hateful and angry response and fb pm's telling me how much of a douche i am. + Show Spoiler + personally i kinda think she just wanted me to say that she should be mine and i wanted her in my pants but thats just my ego talking 
+ Show Spoiler +thanks for reading the wall of text if you did, i think it was pretty heartfelt but thats just me
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On October 10 2011 16:38 TheDraken wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 15:07 Vindicare605 wrote:On October 10 2011 14:42 Fkyx wrote:
I'm an expert at getting to the "friend zone". If you need help with that, talk to me.
That basically sums up my dating experiences. I'm with you there at the moment. I'm the guy that will apparently "make some lucky girl really happy one day." Meanwhile I get to scratch my head wondering what I'm doing right that gives off the "I can't believe someone hasn't snatched you up yet." feel yet isn't the type of the guy that the girl saying this will go out with. I dunno. Early 20's sucks for dating beyond casual dating. you gotta be a jerk bro. had plenty of conversations with ladies about guys like that (usually a "hey can you find my friend a girl" situation) and the "make some lucky girl really happy" response is CLASSIC response to a guy that's too nice. i'm sure you've been told that girls enjoy a respectful man that opens doors and does everything she likes and minds his boundaries and stuff like that. sure that's all nice and everything... for a husband. i trust you aren't at that stage yet. so don't act like one. but if you're looking for a girl that's just down for a bit of fun you can't be acting like a married man. scares the hell out of them. besides, when you show that you're trying to impress her it almost feels like she's going below her standards: she already has you, so what's the fun in the relationship? don't hesitate to be snarky with her. don't hesitate to give her looks of disapproval. don't hesitate to act borderline disinterested. don't be afraid to make fun of her. don't be afraid of cursing in front of her. don't be afraid to just put your arm around her. honestly one of the most frequent desires for ladies is landing a guy that's confident in himself to the extent that he just naturally rolls with shit and cuts the crap. and when he takes control of situations he's good at them. put simply you just need to view girls as inherently lazy. they want you to do all the shit and you can't move too slowly or the show gets boring, but if you move quickly you better know what you're doing and pick up on shit. there's a reason why hot girls always seem to be getting in shitty relationships with douchey tools. it's because they're doing what i just described, but obviously in a less calculating manner and in more of a "so horny, must fuck" manner. i'm sure there will be people that will disagree with me and say "no you can't be a jerk, man. that's not nice. blah blah", but as a person who is not even 20 and is in double digits for "home runs" with women, i must be doing something right.
I agree with a majority of this post.
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Ok I have a good one it was my I think second girlfriend... I was like maybe 18-19 and at the time I was pretty good with girls (then I discovered Starcraft 2 lolol) so I invite her to walk near the river and I knew it was the time I needed to kiss her, tonight was gonna be the night lol.
At this time I tought it was a bad thing to have an erection on the girl leg... I tought most of the girls considered that pervert instead of being exited by it... I mean yes there are some girls out there that don't understand nature but most of the time they will be happy with it, it shows you find her exiting. So that combined with the fact that I tought I had erections very easily I was like lol what am I gonna do when I kiss her and I have a big boner hitting her leg... and btw I erection really really hard like you can't even bend that shit so it was most likely she was gonna feel it.
So I come up with this brilliant idea to take hockey tape and strap my penis on my leg. That way when I get a boner, the tape would cut the blood circulation and she wouldnt notice it. So that's what I do and jesus pray for our fishermans it was so uncomfortable lol. With all the hairy stuff mixing in I felt like I was gonna die every step I did. So I got to take the girl to a nice place and jesus christ I think we walked for 3 hours before kissing her because I was a chicken lol. So anyway I finally get to kiss her and bang, she didnt even noticed my boner because the plan worked perfectly but I am in so much pain.
So we get to her place for some sexytime and I go to bathroom to obv get rid of that. Man that was so painful lol so I decided that my best bet was to pull it off real quick like a boss. 3, 2, 1 and I pull off as fast as I can... like the 1/3 of my scrotom fur go away... so I look in the mirror and jesus lol it's so disgusting my penis is all red, my scrotom had a little blood on it and on a side I had no more pilosity.
So finally she gets to undress me hehehehe and I was like lol it's so dark she can't even see, but as she pull down my pants she open her little lamp and his reaction was if I remember : ''are you ok?''. Man that had to be the ugliest genitals she ever saw haha, but she got over it and we have so-so sex. Finally I left her like 1 week and a half later
Now I don't care anymore about my boners, I read some guys on the internet and I'm not the only one that happens 
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On October 10 2011 16:46 Fanov wrote:Ok I have a good one it was my I think second girlfriend... I was like maybe 18-19 and at the time I was pretty good with girls (then I discovered Starcraft 2 lolol) so I invite her to walk near the river and I knew it was the time I needed to kiss her, tonight was gonna be the night lol. At this time I tought it was a bad thing to have an erection on the girl leg... I tought most of the girls considered that pervert instead of being exited by it... I mean yes there are some girls out there that don't understand nature but most of the time they will be happy with it, it shows you find her exiting. So that combined with the fact that I tought I had erections very easily I was like lol what am I gonna do when I kiss her and I have a big boner hitting her leg... and btw I erection really really hard like you can't even bend that shit so it was most likely she was gonna feel it. So I come up with this brilliant idea to take hockey tape and strap my penis on my leg. That way when I get a boner, the tape would cut the blood circulation and she wouldnt notice it. So that's what I do and jesus pray for our fishermans it was so uncomfortable lol. With all the hairy stuff mixing in I felt like I was gonna die every step I did. So I got to take the girl to a nice place and jesus christ I think we walked for 3 hours before kissing her because I was a chicken lol. So anyway I finally get to kiss her and bang, she didnt even noticed my boner because the plan worked perfectly but I am in so much pain. So we get to her place for some sexytime and I go to bathroom to obv get rid of that. Man that was so painful lol so I decided that my best bet was to pull it off real quick like a boss. 3, 2, 1 and I pull off as fast as I can... like the 1/3 of my scrotom fur go away... so I look in the mirror and jesus lol it's so disgusting my penis is all red, my scrotom had a little blood on it and on a side I had no more pilosity. So finally she gets to undress me hehehehe and I was like lol it's so dark she can't even see, but as she pull down my pants she open her little lamp and his reaction was if I remember : ''are you ok?''. Man that had to be the ugliest genitals she ever saw haha, but she got over it and we have so-so sex. Finally I left her like 1 week and a half later Now I don't care anymore about my boners, I read some guys on the internet and I'm not the only one that happens
i can't tell if this is a troll post or not. in the 5 seconds i sat here contemplating it i'm going to go with troll post.
good one though. read most of it with a "0.o" face.
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On October 10 2011 16:46 Fanov wrote:Ok I have a good one it was my I think second girlfriend... I was like maybe 18-19 and at the time I was pretty good with girls (then I discovered Starcraft 2 lolol) so I invite her to walk near the river and I knew it was the time I needed to kiss her, tonight was gonna be the night lol. At this time I tought it was a bad thing to have an erection on the girl leg... I tought most of the girls considered that pervert instead of being exited by it... I mean yes there are some girls out there that don't understand nature but most of the time they will be happy with it, it shows you find her exiting. So that combined with the fact that I tought I had erections very easily I was like lol what am I gonna do when I kiss her and I have a big boner hitting her leg... and btw I erection really really hard like you can't even bend that shit so it was most likely she was gonna feel it. So I come up with this brilliant idea to take hockey tape and strap my penis on my leg. That way when I get a boner, the tape would cut the blood circulation and she wouldnt notice it. So that's what I do and jesus pray for our fishermans it was so uncomfortable lol. With all the hairy stuff mixing in I felt like I was gonna die every step I did. So I got to take the girl to a nice place and jesus christ I think we walked for 3 hours before kissing her because I was a chicken lol. So anyway I finally get to kiss her and bang, she didnt even noticed my boner because the plan worked perfectly but I am in so much pain. So we get to her place for some sexytime and I go to bathroom to obv get rid of that. Man that was so painful lol so I decided that my best bet was to pull it off real quick like a boss. 3, 2, 1 and I pull off as fast as I can... like the 1/3 of my scrotom fur go away... so I look in the mirror and jesus lol it's so disgusting my penis is all red, my scrotom had a little blood on it and on a side I had no more pilosity. So finally she gets to undress me hehehehe and I was like lol it's so dark she can't even see, but as she pull down my pants she open her little lamp and his reaction was if I remember : ''are you ok?''. Man that had to be the ugliest genitals she ever saw haha, but she got over it and we have so-so sex. Finally I left her like 1 week and a half later Now I don't care anymore about my boners, I read some guys on the internet and I'm not the only one that happens
LOL god, I laughed at ugliest genitals ever. I don't understand why you'd need hockey tape, I just flip it up and band on my boxers holds in back and then my jeans hide the head (or vice versa). Ez pz no boners in public sqez. Have to be a little subtle with the flip though (but honestly, I'd rather a girl see me adjusting my junk once then a bulge in my pants for as long as it takes the shame to kill it
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On October 10 2011 16:03 FabledIntegral wrote:
Erm, I've already made moves. The girls I'm in the friend zone with... there are main ones 3, I've hooked up with two of them, both of which have bf's now and see me as the "best friend" (didn't have sex with either, both of them were my dates to my fraternity formals different years and both times we were hammered... in fact the girl I mentioned that slept with me and two of my good friends was from my fraternity formal this year... haha gives such a bad image of them). I should have clarified that being in the friend zone doesn't necessarily mean I want to date them. Maybe it's an awkward way to put it. Rather, I was just trying to say, whenever I do go out and party lately, it's generally with the same girls, all of whom I'm in the friend zone with. I don't really want to date any of them, except maybe one.
Well in that case, it seems that you just misunderstood the term friend zone. Being just friends with someone you want to be just friends with is of course fine.
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On October 10 2011 17:00 sunprince wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 16:03 FabledIntegral wrote:
Erm, I've already made moves. The girls I'm in the friend zone with... there are main ones 3, I've hooked up with two of them, both of which have bf's now and see me as the "best friend" (didn't have sex with either, both of them were my dates to my fraternity formals different years and both times we were hammered... in fact the girl I mentioned that slept with me and two of my good friends was from my fraternity formal this year... haha gives such a bad image of them). I should have clarified that being in the friend zone doesn't necessarily mean I want to date them. Maybe it's an awkward way to put it. Rather, I was just trying to say, whenever I do go out and party lately, it's generally with the same girls, all of whom I'm in the friend zone with. I don't really want to date any of them, except maybe one. Well in that case, it seems that you just misunderstood the term friend zone. Being just friends with someone you want to be just friends with is of course fine.
Ok, well regardless I'm still in the friend zone with one of them^^. I've just already asked her out a while back, she said yes, went out for a month or so, didn't work out, and we're still friends.  .
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On October 10 2011 14:41 RosaParksStoleMySeat wrote:I've had two traditional girlfriend/boyfriend relationships, and one girl I screwed around with for a while. This story may not be insane, but it's pretty funny how things ended up... + Show Spoiler +So, I was 22. I was technically homeless as I had just arrived in Japan, but luckily, I knew a girl from an online language exchange website who offered to house me until I got set up in my own place. I declined at first of course considering I didn't want to intrude, but she insisted and got upset when I said no. I figured no big deal, I'll just take her family a couple of presents and things will be good. Things went well for the first couple of days. We got along fine, her parents liked the gifts I gave her, and I played video games with her brother. We went on our first date a couple of days after I arrived (we talked on webcam for hundreds of hours before that; we were practically already in love), and I told her that I liked her on our first date. Fast, I know, but we had already said that kind of shit on webcam before, so I figured what's the big deal? She cried. She broke down sobbing in the restaurant because apparently there's some rule in Japan about having to be dating for two weeks before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. I didn't even know that this was a proposal to be a couple (I just said I liked her ffs, which I'd said a million times before), but she apparently interpreted it that way and got really upset with me. Eventually she agreed that very night, and in retrospect, this incident set the tone for the rest of our relationship. Two weeks pass. We had sex a few days after we became boyfriend and girlfriend, after which she cried because I asked her to use her mouth. I calmed her down, but that was a pretty shitty first sex experience. Anyway, after the next two weeks, I realized that this honeymoon would be cut short by her insanity. One day she straight up flips the fuck out on me because I hadn't found a job yet. "Uh.. yeah.. it's December, what do you expect?" She tells me that I need to find a job right now because her family is tired of supporting my bum ass. I assure her that I've already got several interviews lined up for after the break, and that for English teachers in Japan, you usually need to apply 3-4 months in advance for the April schoolyear. She didn't care, and decided to scream instead. A few days later, she dumped me out of nowhere. She said that I was a bad, useless boyfriend who was completely selfish. I packed up my shit and started leaving the next morning, and when she told me to stay, I told her to fuck off and get some therapy. She cried (again), hugged me, and begged me to stay with her at her house. I agreed foolishly, mainly because she just said her mother was getting very upset with her and apologized for taking it out on me. We got back together at that point, and things continued as normal. I did eventually find a job and moved out, after a month of living at her house. I really did feel bad--I didn't know that it would be so hard to find some kind of job, and offered to move out at any time--but her parents seemed cool with it. I bought them all pretty good presents when I left, including a copy of Starcraft for her gamer brother . My job was unfortunately across the country in Tokyo, which meant a 6 hour and $250 round-trip commute to see my girlfriend. We only met about once or twice a month because of this. Now, in our relationship past this point, there were a lot of isolated incidents. She would blow up at me for something trivial, interpret what I said however she wanted, and refused to apologize no matter how bad she was. I was so sick and tired of her shit sometimes that I didn't even want to think about her, and completely infatuated at others. Enter girl #2. Girl #2 liked me the first time we met--she actually approached me and we started having a conversation. I had the purest of intentions meeting her, but she had another agenda. She decided that she wanted to tear me apart from my girlfriend by whatever means necessary and take me for herself. I managed to stay true to my girlfriend for about a year of being friends with girl #2 (she was quite persistent) before my girlfriend called me something horrible in Japanese, I told her to fuck off, and I screwed this new girl like a madman for the next month. So, here's my current position. My now ex girlfriend still loved me and wanted me back. Girl #2 loved me and wanted to be an official couple, but I wasn't ready to have a girlfriend yet (plus, she was a little dumb and only interesting in bed, to be completely honest). Girl #2 was everything my ex was not--nice, great in the sack, not constantly bitchy--but I couldn't see myself with her. Enter girl #3. Girl #3 was more hard to get, being an actually decent girl. She and girl #2 actually knew each other as associates of a school I was working for at the time. As a matter of fact, we all ended up going to the same Christmas party. Oh boy, that Christmas party. Girl #2 drinks too much and goes to the stairwell to pass out. Girl #3 and I are borderline dry humping in the bar. The staff of my company is trying to cockblock me because they know I'm tightrope walking on a razor wire, but I'm drunk and absolutely don't give a shit. Girl #2 starts to feel better, girl #3 and I kinda separate, and later on we all walk to the station together with some random old dude. Girl #3 and I say goodbye, and I take girl #2 home out of fear that she's going to be like dateraped by this old creepy dude. Girl #2 tries to kiss me when we get to her doorstep and I push her off. She starts crying uncontrollably and I have to calm her down. We say goodbye and agree to be friends at that point, and I start walking home thinking about girl #3. During this time I get a call from my ex girlfriend, who is apparently waiting for me at my apartment. I get home like what the fuck, and she has a $400 watch that she bought for me in Germany as an early Christmas present. She starts crying uncontrollably and says that she still wants me, but understands why I wouldn't want her. She tries to kiss me and I push her off. As I'm talking to her, I notice my phone going off in my pocket repeatedly. When I'm finally able to pry myself off of her, girl #3 had called me like four times. I call her back, and she's crying uncontrollably. Yes, this is the third time in 30 minutes that I had to calm down a crying girl. Apparently girl #2 emailed girl #3 and told her about everything we did. Shit just got real. I was so pissed at this point that I told girl #2 to never contact me again and that for all I care, she can go fuck a new guy in a bar every night for the rest of her life. I sent my ex girlfriend the watch back through the postal mail and told her that I didn't want to talk to her ever again, and that I gave her three years to shape her shit up and treat me like a human being. Both girls still continually contacted me, showed up at my place randomly, and did everything in their power to be with me. I'm just glad they never showed up at the same time. Anyway, the story has a happy ending at least. I ended up dating girl #3, and our relationship has been amazing so far. She isn't psycho like all of the other women I got involved with before, and as it turns out, she didn't really care about the stuff that happened with girl #2 enough to break it off with me. I'm thinking that we'll probably get married in the next year if things stay this way! My drama story ;_;.
honestly I see you as the complete bad guy there.
girl#1 helped you out to stay in japan while you are homeless, that's quite a big committement and a hell lot of trust there.
It isn't your fault for saying you like her but honestly, being a couple means a lot to asian culture. And eventually, you did go out with her at the end and had sex with her, that again, is a really big deal for asians. A lot of guys will mind if their gfs had sex before or not, many will actually find another girl if they know she isn't a virgin. (my fd for example.)
She dumped you out of the house so that you can get up and actually try harder in finding a job, it is REALLY understandable if you know what the unemployment level is in Japan, let alone you are still only 20 and still has no job at hand.
After all that she has done and given to you, your break up with her was pretty rough too. Girls are very dedicated inside.
and about girl#2 emailing girl#3, what was wrong about it? You want to hide and lie to girl#3 about this forever? Girl#3 totally deserve knowing the truth before going further with you.
And seriously: you broke up with girl#1 to be with girl#2, just like you broke up with girl#2 to be with girl#3 (only this time you are literally cheating behind her).
While normally, it should be break up because she freaks out, go on and meet other girls and then date them. Not dating other girl asap after the break up...
fml, you completely reminds me of the ex-bf of a girl fd that I know. you heart breakers, never try to understand why girls do anything but to blame it all onto the girls and just get onto another relationship like there is no tomorrow ><
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On October 10 2011 15:53 OliverDONG wrote:It will take me a while to get over my first relationship. + Show Spoiler +Im only 19, but i have spend the past 5 years in and out of the hospital (Leukemia) and am now im total remission. About 2 years ago during one of my never ending hospitalization, I met that sweet girl which was a year older than me who had cystic fibrosis. When you are that sick it is kinda hard to talk about all you feel and such with your parents and your friends since none of them really have gone through such events. Turned out she was the first one I was able to open my heart to and express how I was feeling inside at that time and vice-versa. We became close friends pretty damn quickly and, after couple dates when we were not hospitalized, ended up in a relashionship. I just cannot find the words to describe how good that relationship has been to both of us. I mean I dated soem girls before, but they all ended up failign because of my health issues (which I find rediculous but whatever) and I never loved someone that much. Having someone going through similar difficulties and being able to support each other through the ups and downs of life is priceless. Our relationship lasted a 19 months, her disease took over and she died...in my arms. Its already been 5 months, yet it feels like it was just yesterday. Fighting for your life really opens your eyes on what is true love. I dont think I will be ready to date or to have a relationship fora long time. My friends and family are really supportive so it helps. It'll be hard to find someone like my ex, and she will always be in my heart, but I am pretty sure that one day I will find someone that is worth spending my life with. I'll focus on uni and sc2 for now, until then im better off alone...
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it just depends on what you guys are looking for. ive had every type of relationship possible. love ones, just sexual ones, whatever. the deep ones are alright i guess. you just spend all your time with that person and do everything together. so if youre ok with giving up your time then i would try to go for something meaningful. now the friends with benefits one is a tricky relationship. most of the girls ive had like this always end up falling for you. and of course that leads to her feelings being talked about and shit. can never escape emotions with women. and for the one night stands, dont do them with anyone you know or your friends know. shit just gets around.
best way to talk to a girl you see somewhere like a bar
+ Show Spoiler +ok boys no fucking pickup lines... that shit is trash... unless you have balls and say something nasty outright and see what she says. i had a friend who asked women if he could shit on their chest, and ended up sleeping with them that night. some girls are just slutty, but if you just want sex youll have to ask a lot of them in one night to get one unless youre a baller. this is usually the worst way to do things maybe get your dick wet. i mean ive literally been at a party and just starting talking dirty sex shit to a random girl and i took her home 10 minutes later.
now what if you see a girl you like and want to just talk to and have a drink. the best way ive found to talk to a girl you like is just walk right up to her, and say hi, i saw you from across the room, and just wanted to talk to you. she will probably be taken back by this since most guys use sleezy shit. just say yeah i want to know about you, like what music youre into now whois your favorite actor... dont ask what she does for a living thats not important. just see what shes doing with her life in the present and try to relate. just dont talk loud, dont talk often, let the woman do most of the talking. they love to talk. just be interested and get to the point when you speak. the best thing to do is be yourself. and please dont get all lovey and shit early, girls get scared of a guy who is instantly ready to hookup. the smart ones like a challenge too boys. and lets say you do get her number.. call her or text her during the day and say something about how you enjoyed her conversation. asking for a second date is SO IMPORTANT. the best second date is really asking for something nonthreatening, none-date shit.. so something like coffee during the day. its relaxing, nothing permanent with grabbing a cup of coffee. from there hell she might be down to have drinks later and boom baby youre in
just remember what my dad always said.. girls are like a bus. if you miss the first one, surely there will be one to follow.
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This thread swings from funny to depressing.
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On October 10 2011 17:14 ETisME wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 14:41 RosaParksStoleMySeat wrote:I've had two traditional girlfriend/boyfriend relationships, and one girl I screwed around with for a while. This story may not be insane, but it's pretty funny how things ended up... + Show Spoiler +So, I was 22. I was technically homeless as I had just arrived in Japan, but luckily, I knew a girl from an online language exchange website who offered to house me until I got set up in my own place. I declined at first of course considering I didn't want to intrude, but she insisted and got upset when I said no. I figured no big deal, I'll just take her family a couple of presents and things will be good. Things went well for the first couple of days. We got along fine, her parents liked the gifts I gave her, and I played video games with her brother. We went on our first date a couple of days after I arrived (we talked on webcam for hundreds of hours before that; we were practically already in love), and I told her that I liked her on our first date. Fast, I know, but we had already said that kind of shit on webcam before, so I figured what's the big deal? She cried. She broke down sobbing in the restaurant because apparently there's some rule in Japan about having to be dating for two weeks before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. I didn't even know that this was a proposal to be a couple (I just said I liked her ffs, which I'd said a million times before), but she apparently interpreted it that way and got really upset with me. Eventually she agreed that very night, and in retrospect, this incident set the tone for the rest of our relationship. Two weeks pass. We had sex a few days after we became boyfriend and girlfriend, after which she cried because I asked her to use her mouth. I calmed her down, but that was a pretty shitty first sex experience. Anyway, after the next two weeks, I realized that this honeymoon would be cut short by her insanity. One day she straight up flips the fuck out on me because I hadn't found a job yet. "Uh.. yeah.. it's December, what do you expect?" She tells me that I need to find a job right now because her family is tired of supporting my bum ass. I assure her that I've already got several interviews lined up for after the break, and that for English teachers in Japan, you usually need to apply 3-4 months in advance for the April schoolyear. She didn't care, and decided to scream instead. A few days later, she dumped me out of nowhere. She said that I was a bad, useless boyfriend who was completely selfish. I packed up my shit and started leaving the next morning, and when she told me to stay, I told her to fuck off and get some therapy. She cried (again), hugged me, and begged me to stay with her at her house. I agreed foolishly, mainly because she just said her mother was getting very upset with her and apologized for taking it out on me. We got back together at that point, and things continued as normal. I did eventually find a job and moved out, after a month of living at her house. I really did feel bad--I didn't know that it would be so hard to find some kind of job, and offered to move out at any time--but her parents seemed cool with it. I bought them all pretty good presents when I left, including a copy of Starcraft for her gamer brother . My job was unfortunately across the country in Tokyo, which meant a 6 hour and $250 round-trip commute to see my girlfriend. We only met about once or twice a month because of this. Now, in our relationship past this point, there were a lot of isolated incidents. She would blow up at me for something trivial, interpret what I said however she wanted, and refused to apologize no matter how bad she was. I was so sick and tired of her shit sometimes that I didn't even want to think about her, and completely infatuated at others. Enter girl #2. Girl #2 liked me the first time we met--she actually approached me and we started having a conversation. I had the purest of intentions meeting her, but she had another agenda. She decided that she wanted to tear me apart from my girlfriend by whatever means necessary and take me for herself. I managed to stay true to my girlfriend for about a year of being friends with girl #2 (she was quite persistent) before my girlfriend called me something horrible in Japanese, I told her to fuck off, and I screwed this new girl like a madman for the next month. So, here's my current position. My now ex girlfriend still loved me and wanted me back. Girl #2 loved me and wanted to be an official couple, but I wasn't ready to have a girlfriend yet (plus, she was a little dumb and only interesting in bed, to be completely honest). Girl #2 was everything my ex was not--nice, great in the sack, not constantly bitchy--but I couldn't see myself with her. Enter girl #3. Girl #3 was more hard to get, being an actually decent girl. She and girl #2 actually knew each other as associates of a school I was working for at the time. As a matter of fact, we all ended up going to the same Christmas party. Oh boy, that Christmas party. Girl #2 drinks too much and goes to the stairwell to pass out. Girl #3 and I are borderline dry humping in the bar. The staff of my company is trying to cockblock me because they know I'm tightrope walking on a razor wire, but I'm drunk and absolutely don't give a shit. Girl #2 starts to feel better, girl #3 and I kinda separate, and later on we all walk to the station together with some random old dude. Girl #3 and I say goodbye, and I take girl #2 home out of fear that she's going to be like dateraped by this old creepy dude. Girl #2 tries to kiss me when we get to her doorstep and I push her off. She starts crying uncontrollably and I have to calm her down. We say goodbye and agree to be friends at that point, and I start walking home thinking about girl #3. During this time I get a call from my ex girlfriend, who is apparently waiting for me at my apartment. I get home like what the fuck, and she has a $400 watch that she bought for me in Germany as an early Christmas present. She starts crying uncontrollably and says that she still wants me, but understands why I wouldn't want her. She tries to kiss me and I push her off. As I'm talking to her, I notice my phone going off in my pocket repeatedly. When I'm finally able to pry myself off of her, girl #3 had called me like four times. I call her back, and she's crying uncontrollably. Yes, this is the third time in 30 minutes that I had to calm down a crying girl. Apparently girl #2 emailed girl #3 and told her about everything we did. Shit just got real. I was so pissed at this point that I told girl #2 to never contact me again and that for all I care, she can go fuck a new guy in a bar every night for the rest of her life. I sent my ex girlfriend the watch back through the postal mail and told her that I didn't want to talk to her ever again, and that I gave her three years to shape her shit up and treat me like a human being. Both girls still continually contacted me, showed up at my place randomly, and did everything in their power to be with me. I'm just glad they never showed up at the same time. Anyway, the story has a happy ending at least. I ended up dating girl #3, and our relationship has been amazing so far. She isn't psycho like all of the other women I got involved with before, and as it turns out, she didn't really care about the stuff that happened with girl #2 enough to break it off with me. I'm thinking that we'll probably get married in the next year if things stay this way! My drama story ;_;. honestly I see you as the complete bad guy there. girl#1 helped you out to stay in japan while you are homeless, that's quite a big committement and a hell lot of trust there. It isn't your fault for saying you like her but honestly, being a couple means a lot to asian culture. And eventually, you did go out with her at the end and had sex with her, that again, is a really big deal for asians. A lot of guys will mind if their gfs had sex before or not, many will actually find another girl if they know she isn't a virgin. (my fd for example.) She dumped you out of the house so that you can get up and actually try harder in finding a job, it is REALLY understandable if you know what the unemployment level is in Japan, let alone you are still only 20 and still has no job at hand. After all that she has done and given to you, your break up with her was pretty rough too. Girls are very dedicated inside. and about girl#2 emailing girl#3, what was wrong about it? You want to hide and lie to girl#3 about this forever? Girl#3 totally deserve knowing the truth before going further with you. And seriously: you broke up with girl#1 to be with girl#2, just like you broke up with girl#2 to be with girl#3 (only this time you are literally cheating behind her). While normally, it should be break up because she freaks out, go on and meet other girls and then date them. Not dating other girl asap after the break up... fml, you completely reminds me of the ex-bf of a girl fd that I know. you heart breakers, never try to understand why girls do anything but to blame it all onto the girls and just get onto another relationship like there is no tomorrow ><
You either have a pretty skewed perception of reality and relationships in general or didn't understand my post.
I don't care who you are and what position you're in: you do not just treat people like shit. I sympathized with her when I was at her house and offered to leave at any time. Whenever I brought that up, she would flip out and get angry with me. She clearly did not want me to leave; she was simply using the fact that I was staying at her house as leverage against me. This, by the way, was yet another common theme in our relationship. She comes over when I'm sick? "I'm here so you should be glad. If you didn't have me, you would be sick alone." She was the only person in Japan I've ever met who pulled crap like this, so yeah, don't pull that "Asian culture" (whatever that means) thing on me.
About her having sex and therefore being considered some completely impure being... just lol. She lost her virginity well before we ever met, and quite frankly any guy who gets all bitchy about his girlfriend not being a virgin is just pitiful and deserves to jack off alone for the rest of his life. It's hilarious--a guy expects his girlfriend to put out, but expects her to not have put out for anybody else before? Cultural emphasis on virginity is absolutely retarded any way that you look at it, and I'm not going to sit around feeling guilty for having sex with a girl who was the one to invite me to the love hotel in the first place.
This girl was flat-out a self-absorbed, immature person. She had many good points about her too of course, but I find it laughable to blame me for our relationship mishaps.
Oh, and when did I say I left girl 1 for girl 2, or girl 2 for girl 3? I left girl 1 because she was a bitch, and I left girl 2 (we technically weren't even together) because she was fucking psycho and borderline stalked me. Get it together.
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On October 10 2011 17:14 ETisME wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 14:41 RosaParksStoleMySeat wrote:I've had two traditional girlfriend/boyfriend relationships, and one girl I screwed around with for a while. This story may not be insane, but it's pretty funny how things ended up... + Show Spoiler +So, I was 22. I was technically homeless as I had just arrived in Japan, but luckily, I knew a girl from an online language exchange website who offered to house me until I got set up in my own place. I declined at first of course considering I didn't want to intrude, but she insisted and got upset when I said no. I figured no big deal, I'll just take her family a couple of presents and things will be good. Things went well for the first couple of days. We got along fine, her parents liked the gifts I gave her, and I played video games with her brother. We went on our first date a couple of days after I arrived (we talked on webcam for hundreds of hours before that; we were practically already in love), and I told her that I liked her on our first date. Fast, I know, but we had already said that kind of shit on webcam before, so I figured what's the big deal? She cried. She broke down sobbing in the restaurant because apparently there's some rule in Japan about having to be dating for two weeks before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. I didn't even know that this was a proposal to be a couple (I just said I liked her ffs, which I'd said a million times before), but she apparently interpreted it that way and got really upset with me. Eventually she agreed that very night, and in retrospect, this incident set the tone for the rest of our relationship. Two weeks pass. We had sex a few days after we became boyfriend and girlfriend, after which she cried because I asked her to use her mouth. I calmed her down, but that was a pretty shitty first sex experience. Anyway, after the next two weeks, I realized that this honeymoon would be cut short by her insanity. One day she straight up flips the fuck out on me because I hadn't found a job yet. "Uh.. yeah.. it's December, what do you expect?" She tells me that I need to find a job right now because her family is tired of supporting my bum ass. I assure her that I've already got several interviews lined up for after the break, and that for English teachers in Japan, you usually need to apply 3-4 months in advance for the April schoolyear. She didn't care, and decided to scream instead. A few days later, she dumped me out of nowhere. She said that I was a bad, useless boyfriend who was completely selfish. I packed up my shit and started leaving the next morning, and when she told me to stay, I told her to fuck off and get some therapy. She cried (again), hugged me, and begged me to stay with her at her house. I agreed foolishly, mainly because she just said her mother was getting very upset with her and apologized for taking it out on me. We got back together at that point, and things continued as normal. I did eventually find a job and moved out, after a month of living at her house. I really did feel bad--I didn't know that it would be so hard to find some kind of job, and offered to move out at any time--but her parents seemed cool with it. I bought them all pretty good presents when I left, including a copy of Starcraft for her gamer brother . My job was unfortunately across the country in Tokyo, which meant a 6 hour and $250 round-trip commute to see my girlfriend. We only met about once or twice a month because of this. Now, in our relationship past this point, there were a lot of isolated incidents. She would blow up at me for something trivial, interpret what I said however she wanted, and refused to apologize no matter how bad she was. I was so sick and tired of her shit sometimes that I didn't even want to think about her, and completely infatuated at others. Enter girl #2. Girl #2 liked me the first time we met--she actually approached me and we started having a conversation. I had the purest of intentions meeting her, but she had another agenda. She decided that she wanted to tear me apart from my girlfriend by whatever means necessary and take me for herself. I managed to stay true to my girlfriend for about a year of being friends with girl #2 (she was quite persistent) before my girlfriend called me something horrible in Japanese, I told her to fuck off, and I screwed this new girl like a madman for the next month. So, here's my current position. My now ex girlfriend still loved me and wanted me back. Girl #2 loved me and wanted to be an official couple, but I wasn't ready to have a girlfriend yet (plus, she was a little dumb and only interesting in bed, to be completely honest). Girl #2 was everything my ex was not--nice, great in the sack, not constantly bitchy--but I couldn't see myself with her. Enter girl #3. Girl #3 was more hard to get, being an actually decent girl. She and girl #2 actually knew each other as associates of a school I was working for at the time. As a matter of fact, we all ended up going to the same Christmas party. Oh boy, that Christmas party. Girl #2 drinks too much and goes to the stairwell to pass out. Girl #3 and I are borderline dry humping in the bar. The staff of my company is trying to cockblock me because they know I'm tightrope walking on a razor wire, but I'm drunk and absolutely don't give a shit. Girl #2 starts to feel better, girl #3 and I kinda separate, and later on we all walk to the station together with some random old dude. Girl #3 and I say goodbye, and I take girl #2 home out of fear that she's going to be like dateraped by this old creepy dude. Girl #2 tries to kiss me when we get to her doorstep and I push her off. She starts crying uncontrollably and I have to calm her down. We say goodbye and agree to be friends at that point, and I start walking home thinking about girl #3. During this time I get a call from my ex girlfriend, who is apparently waiting for me at my apartment. I get home like what the fuck, and she has a $400 watch that she bought for me in Germany as an early Christmas present. She starts crying uncontrollably and says that she still wants me, but understands why I wouldn't want her. She tries to kiss me and I push her off. As I'm talking to her, I notice my phone going off in my pocket repeatedly. When I'm finally able to pry myself off of her, girl #3 had called me like four times. I call her back, and she's crying uncontrollably. Yes, this is the third time in 30 minutes that I had to calm down a crying girl. Apparently girl #2 emailed girl #3 and told her about everything we did. Shit just got real. I was so pissed at this point that I told girl #2 to never contact me again and that for all I care, she can go fuck a new guy in a bar every night for the rest of her life. I sent my ex girlfriend the watch back through the postal mail and told her that I didn't want to talk to her ever again, and that I gave her three years to shape her shit up and treat me like a human being. Both girls still continually contacted me, showed up at my place randomly, and did everything in their power to be with me. I'm just glad they never showed up at the same time. Anyway, the story has a happy ending at least. I ended up dating girl #3, and our relationship has been amazing so far. She isn't psycho like all of the other women I got involved with before, and as it turns out, she didn't really care about the stuff that happened with girl #2 enough to break it off with me. I'm thinking that we'll probably get married in the next year if things stay this way! My drama story ;_;. honestly I see you as the complete bad guy there. girl#1 helped you out to stay in japan while you are homeless, that's quite a big committement and a hell lot of trust there. It isn't your fault for saying you like her but honestly, being a couple means a lot to asian culture. And eventually, you did go out with her at the end and had sex with her, that again, is a really big deal for asians. A lot of guys will mind if their gfs had sex before or not, many will actually find another girl if they know she isn't a virgin. (my fd for example.) She dumped you out of the house so that you can get up and actually try harder in finding a job, it is REALLY understandable if you know what the unemployment level is in Japan, let alone you are still only 20 and still has no job at hand. After all that she has done and given to you, your break up with her was pretty rough too. Girls are very dedicated inside. and about girl#2 emailing girl#3, what was wrong about it? You want to hide and lie to girl#3 about this forever? Girl#3 totally deserve knowing the truth before going further with you. And seriously: you broke up with girl#1 to be with girl#2, just like you broke up with girl#2 to be with girl#3 (only this time you are literally cheating behind her). While normally, it should be break up because she freaks out, go on and meet other girls and then date them. Not dating other girl asap after the break up... fml, you completely reminds me of the ex-bf of a girl fd that I know. you heart breakers, never try to understand why girls do anything but to blame it all onto the girls and just get onto another relationship like there is no tomorrow ><
I think you're crazy and think he handled everything fine T_T.
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On October 10 2011 17:29 dignity wrote:
This thread swings from funny to depressing.
There is a certain moment in a lot of people's lives when they realize that they will be forever alone. Unfortunately this thread has forced that moment on many an unsuspecting reader. Life is so short and with more than 0% of it gone, I still haven't found my soulmate. Every minute I spend single is one minute less I'll have to hold her...
And the minutes just keep passing by. And when I am old and gray, I will look back on my life and wonder where it all went. Where is my love?
It was just not meant to be.
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On October 10 2011 17:33 FabledIntegral wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 17:14 ETisME wrote:On October 10 2011 14:41 RosaParksStoleMySeat wrote:I've had two traditional girlfriend/boyfriend relationships, and one girl I screwed around with for a while. This story may not be insane, but it's pretty funny how things ended up... + Show Spoiler +So, I was 22. I was technically homeless as I had just arrived in Japan, but luckily, I knew a girl from an online language exchange website who offered to house me until I got set up in my own place. I declined at first of course considering I didn't want to intrude, but she insisted and got upset when I said no. I figured no big deal, I'll just take her family a couple of presents and things will be good. Things went well for the first couple of days. We got along fine, her parents liked the gifts I gave her, and I played video games with her brother. We went on our first date a couple of days after I arrived (we talked on webcam for hundreds of hours before that; we were practically already in love), and I told her that I liked her on our first date. Fast, I know, but we had already said that kind of shit on webcam before, so I figured what's the big deal? She cried. She broke down sobbing in the restaurant because apparently there's some rule in Japan about having to be dating for two weeks before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. I didn't even know that this was a proposal to be a couple (I just said I liked her ffs, which I'd said a million times before), but she apparently interpreted it that way and got really upset with me. Eventually she agreed that very night, and in retrospect, this incident set the tone for the rest of our relationship. Two weeks pass. We had sex a few days after we became boyfriend and girlfriend, after which she cried because I asked her to use her mouth. I calmed her down, but that was a pretty shitty first sex experience. Anyway, after the next two weeks, I realized that this honeymoon would be cut short by her insanity. One day she straight up flips the fuck out on me because I hadn't found a job yet. "Uh.. yeah.. it's December, what do you expect?" She tells me that I need to find a job right now because her family is tired of supporting my bum ass. I assure her that I've already got several interviews lined up for after the break, and that for English teachers in Japan, you usually need to apply 3-4 months in advance for the April schoolyear. She didn't care, and decided to scream instead. A few days later, she dumped me out of nowhere. She said that I was a bad, useless boyfriend who was completely selfish. I packed up my shit and started leaving the next morning, and when she told me to stay, I told her to fuck off and get some therapy. She cried (again), hugged me, and begged me to stay with her at her house. I agreed foolishly, mainly because she just said her mother was getting very upset with her and apologized for taking it out on me. We got back together at that point, and things continued as normal. I did eventually find a job and moved out, after a month of living at her house. I really did feel bad--I didn't know that it would be so hard to find some kind of job, and offered to move out at any time--but her parents seemed cool with it. I bought them all pretty good presents when I left, including a copy of Starcraft for her gamer brother . My job was unfortunately across the country in Tokyo, which meant a 6 hour and $250 round-trip commute to see my girlfriend. We only met about once or twice a month because of this. Now, in our relationship past this point, there were a lot of isolated incidents. She would blow up at me for something trivial, interpret what I said however she wanted, and refused to apologize no matter how bad she was. I was so sick and tired of her shit sometimes that I didn't even want to think about her, and completely infatuated at others. Enter girl #2. Girl #2 liked me the first time we met--she actually approached me and we started having a conversation. I had the purest of intentions meeting her, but she had another agenda. She decided that she wanted to tear me apart from my girlfriend by whatever means necessary and take me for herself. I managed to stay true to my girlfriend for about a year of being friends with girl #2 (she was quite persistent) before my girlfriend called me something horrible in Japanese, I told her to fuck off, and I screwed this new girl like a madman for the next month. So, here's my current position. My now ex girlfriend still loved me and wanted me back. Girl #2 loved me and wanted to be an official couple, but I wasn't ready to have a girlfriend yet (plus, she was a little dumb and only interesting in bed, to be completely honest). Girl #2 was everything my ex was not--nice, great in the sack, not constantly bitchy--but I couldn't see myself with her. Enter girl #3. Girl #3 was more hard to get, being an actually decent girl. She and girl #2 actually knew each other as associates of a school I was working for at the time. As a matter of fact, we all ended up going to the same Christmas party. Oh boy, that Christmas party. Girl #2 drinks too much and goes to the stairwell to pass out. Girl #3 and I are borderline dry humping in the bar. The staff of my company is trying to cockblock me because they know I'm tightrope walking on a razor wire, but I'm drunk and absolutely don't give a shit. Girl #2 starts to feel better, girl #3 and I kinda separate, and later on we all walk to the station together with some random old dude. Girl #3 and I say goodbye, and I take girl #2 home out of fear that she's going to be like dateraped by this old creepy dude. Girl #2 tries to kiss me when we get to her doorstep and I push her off. She starts crying uncontrollably and I have to calm her down. We say goodbye and agree to be friends at that point, and I start walking home thinking about girl #3. During this time I get a call from my ex girlfriend, who is apparently waiting for me at my apartment. I get home like what the fuck, and she has a $400 watch that she bought for me in Germany as an early Christmas present. She starts crying uncontrollably and says that she still wants me, but understands why I wouldn't want her. She tries to kiss me and I push her off. As I'm talking to her, I notice my phone going off in my pocket repeatedly. When I'm finally able to pry myself off of her, girl #3 had called me like four times. I call her back, and she's crying uncontrollably. Yes, this is the third time in 30 minutes that I had to calm down a crying girl. Apparently girl #2 emailed girl #3 and told her about everything we did. Shit just got real. I was so pissed at this point that I told girl #2 to never contact me again and that for all I care, she can go fuck a new guy in a bar every night for the rest of her life. I sent my ex girlfriend the watch back through the postal mail and told her that I didn't want to talk to her ever again, and that I gave her three years to shape her shit up and treat me like a human being. Both girls still continually contacted me, showed up at my place randomly, and did everything in their power to be with me. I'm just glad they never showed up at the same time. Anyway, the story has a happy ending at least. I ended up dating girl #3, and our relationship has been amazing so far. She isn't psycho like all of the other women I got involved with before, and as it turns out, she didn't really care about the stuff that happened with girl #2 enough to break it off with me. I'm thinking that we'll probably get married in the next year if things stay this way! My drama story ;_;. honestly I see you as the complete bad guy there. girl#1 helped you out to stay in japan while you are homeless, that's quite a big committement and a hell lot of trust there. It isn't your fault for saying you like her but honestly, being a couple means a lot to asian culture. And eventually, you did go out with her at the end and had sex with her, that again, is a really big deal for asians. A lot of guys will mind if their gfs had sex before or not, many will actually find another girl if they know she isn't a virgin. (my fd for example.) She dumped you out of the house so that you can get up and actually try harder in finding a job, it is REALLY understandable if you know what the unemployment level is in Japan, let alone you are still only 20 and still has no job at hand. After all that she has done and given to you, your break up with her was pretty rough too. Girls are very dedicated inside. and about girl#2 emailing girl#3, what was wrong about it? You want to hide and lie to girl#3 about this forever? Girl#3 totally deserve knowing the truth before going further with you. And seriously: you broke up with girl#1 to be with girl#2, just like you broke up with girl#2 to be with girl#3 (only this time you are literally cheating behind her). While normally, it should be break up because she freaks out, go on and meet other girls and then date them. Not dating other girl asap after the break up... fml, you completely reminds me of the ex-bf of a girl fd that I know. you heart breakers, never try to understand why girls do anything but to blame it all onto the girls and just get onto another relationship like there is no tomorrow >< I think you're crazy and think he handled everything fine T_T.
I think you're crazy. Unless he's leaving out a lot of information, it seems pretty obvious to me that he never took any of the girls seriously. Funny how he added hes probably gonna marry "girl #3" if all things go well. GL there.
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On October 10 2011 17:40 Zidane wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 17:33 FabledIntegral wrote:On October 10 2011 17:14 ETisME wrote:On October 10 2011 14:41 RosaParksStoleMySeat wrote:I've had two traditional girlfriend/boyfriend relationships, and one girl I screwed around with for a while. This story may not be insane, but it's pretty funny how things ended up... + Show Spoiler +So, I was 22. I was technically homeless as I had just arrived in Japan, but luckily, I knew a girl from an online language exchange website who offered to house me until I got set up in my own place. I declined at first of course considering I didn't want to intrude, but she insisted and got upset when I said no. I figured no big deal, I'll just take her family a couple of presents and things will be good. Things went well for the first couple of days. We got along fine, her parents liked the gifts I gave her, and I played video games with her brother. We went on our first date a couple of days after I arrived (we talked on webcam for hundreds of hours before that; we were practically already in love), and I told her that I liked her on our first date. Fast, I know, but we had already said that kind of shit on webcam before, so I figured what's the big deal? She cried. She broke down sobbing in the restaurant because apparently there's some rule in Japan about having to be dating for two weeks before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. I didn't even know that this was a proposal to be a couple (I just said I liked her ffs, which I'd said a million times before), but she apparently interpreted it that way and got really upset with me. Eventually she agreed that very night, and in retrospect, this incident set the tone for the rest of our relationship. Two weeks pass. We had sex a few days after we became boyfriend and girlfriend, after which she cried because I asked her to use her mouth. I calmed her down, but that was a pretty shitty first sex experience. Anyway, after the next two weeks, I realized that this honeymoon would be cut short by her insanity. One day she straight up flips the fuck out on me because I hadn't found a job yet. "Uh.. yeah.. it's December, what do you expect?" She tells me that I need to find a job right now because her family is tired of supporting my bum ass. I assure her that I've already got several interviews lined up for after the break, and that for English teachers in Japan, you usually need to apply 3-4 months in advance for the April schoolyear. She didn't care, and decided to scream instead. A few days later, she dumped me out of nowhere. She said that I was a bad, useless boyfriend who was completely selfish. I packed up my shit and started leaving the next morning, and when she told me to stay, I told her to fuck off and get some therapy. She cried (again), hugged me, and begged me to stay with her at her house. I agreed foolishly, mainly because she just said her mother was getting very upset with her and apologized for taking it out on me. We got back together at that point, and things continued as normal. I did eventually find a job and moved out, after a month of living at her house. I really did feel bad--I didn't know that it would be so hard to find some kind of job, and offered to move out at any time--but her parents seemed cool with it. I bought them all pretty good presents when I left, including a copy of Starcraft for her gamer brother . My job was unfortunately across the country in Tokyo, which meant a 6 hour and $250 round-trip commute to see my girlfriend. We only met about once or twice a month because of this. Now, in our relationship past this point, there were a lot of isolated incidents. She would blow up at me for something trivial, interpret what I said however she wanted, and refused to apologize no matter how bad she was. I was so sick and tired of her shit sometimes that I didn't even want to think about her, and completely infatuated at others. Enter girl #2. Girl #2 liked me the first time we met--she actually approached me and we started having a conversation. I had the purest of intentions meeting her, but she had another agenda. She decided that she wanted to tear me apart from my girlfriend by whatever means necessary and take me for herself. I managed to stay true to my girlfriend for about a year of being friends with girl #2 (she was quite persistent) before my girlfriend called me something horrible in Japanese, I told her to fuck off, and I screwed this new girl like a madman for the next month. So, here's my current position. My now ex girlfriend still loved me and wanted me back. Girl #2 loved me and wanted to be an official couple, but I wasn't ready to have a girlfriend yet (plus, she was a little dumb and only interesting in bed, to be completely honest). Girl #2 was everything my ex was not--nice, great in the sack, not constantly bitchy--but I couldn't see myself with her. Enter girl #3. Girl #3 was more hard to get, being an actually decent girl. She and girl #2 actually knew each other as associates of a school I was working for at the time. As a matter of fact, we all ended up going to the same Christmas party. Oh boy, that Christmas party. Girl #2 drinks too much and goes to the stairwell to pass out. Girl #3 and I are borderline dry humping in the bar. The staff of my company is trying to cockblock me because they know I'm tightrope walking on a razor wire, but I'm drunk and absolutely don't give a shit. Girl #2 starts to feel better, girl #3 and I kinda separate, and later on we all walk to the station together with some random old dude. Girl #3 and I say goodbye, and I take girl #2 home out of fear that she's going to be like dateraped by this old creepy dude. Girl #2 tries to kiss me when we get to her doorstep and I push her off. She starts crying uncontrollably and I have to calm her down. We say goodbye and agree to be friends at that point, and I start walking home thinking about girl #3. During this time I get a call from my ex girlfriend, who is apparently waiting for me at my apartment. I get home like what the fuck, and she has a $400 watch that she bought for me in Germany as an early Christmas present. She starts crying uncontrollably and says that she still wants me, but understands why I wouldn't want her. She tries to kiss me and I push her off. As I'm talking to her, I notice my phone going off in my pocket repeatedly. When I'm finally able to pry myself off of her, girl #3 had called me like four times. I call her back, and she's crying uncontrollably. Yes, this is the third time in 30 minutes that I had to calm down a crying girl. Apparently girl #2 emailed girl #3 and told her about everything we did. Shit just got real. I was so pissed at this point that I told girl #2 to never contact me again and that for all I care, she can go fuck a new guy in a bar every night for the rest of her life. I sent my ex girlfriend the watch back through the postal mail and told her that I didn't want to talk to her ever again, and that I gave her three years to shape her shit up and treat me like a human being. Both girls still continually contacted me, showed up at my place randomly, and did everything in their power to be with me. I'm just glad they never showed up at the same time. Anyway, the story has a happy ending at least. I ended up dating girl #3, and our relationship has been amazing so far. She isn't psycho like all of the other women I got involved with before, and as it turns out, she didn't really care about the stuff that happened with girl #2 enough to break it off with me. I'm thinking that we'll probably get married in the next year if things stay this way! My drama story ;_;. honestly I see you as the complete bad guy there. girl#1 helped you out to stay in japan while you are homeless, that's quite a big committement and a hell lot of trust there. It isn't your fault for saying you like her but honestly, being a couple means a lot to asian culture. And eventually, you did go out with her at the end and had sex with her, that again, is a really big deal for asians. A lot of guys will mind if their gfs had sex before or not, many will actually find another girl if they know she isn't a virgin. (my fd for example.) She dumped you out of the house so that you can get up and actually try harder in finding a job, it is REALLY understandable if you know what the unemployment level is in Japan, let alone you are still only 20 and still has no job at hand. After all that she has done and given to you, your break up with her was pretty rough too. Girls are very dedicated inside. and about girl#2 emailing girl#3, what was wrong about it? You want to hide and lie to girl#3 about this forever? Girl#3 totally deserve knowing the truth before going further with you. And seriously: you broke up with girl#1 to be with girl#2, just like you broke up with girl#2 to be with girl#3 (only this time you are literally cheating behind her). While normally, it should be break up because she freaks out, go on and meet other girls and then date them. Not dating other girl asap after the break up... fml, you completely reminds me of the ex-bf of a girl fd that I know. you heart breakers, never try to understand why girls do anything but to blame it all onto the girls and just get onto another relationship like there is no tomorrow >< I think you're crazy and think he handled everything fine T_T. I think you're crazy. Unless he's leaving out a lot of information, it seems pretty obvious to me that he never took any of the girls seriously. Funny how he added hes probably gonna marry "girl #3" if all things go well. GL there.
Nah, I summed up every precise moment of every single thing that happened over the last four years in that single post. You can go ahead and draw conclusions from that.
Never change TL.
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On October 10 2011 17:40 Zidane wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 17:33 FabledIntegral wrote:On October 10 2011 17:14 ETisME wrote:On October 10 2011 14:41 RosaParksStoleMySeat wrote:I've had two traditional girlfriend/boyfriend relationships, and one girl I screwed around with for a while. This story may not be insane, but it's pretty funny how things ended up... + Show Spoiler +So, I was 22. I was technically homeless as I had just arrived in Japan, but luckily, I knew a girl from an online language exchange website who offered to house me until I got set up in my own place. I declined at first of course considering I didn't want to intrude, but she insisted and got upset when I said no. I figured no big deal, I'll just take her family a couple of presents and things will be good. Things went well for the first couple of days. We got along fine, her parents liked the gifts I gave her, and I played video games with her brother. We went on our first date a couple of days after I arrived (we talked on webcam for hundreds of hours before that; we were practically already in love), and I told her that I liked her on our first date. Fast, I know, but we had already said that kind of shit on webcam before, so I figured what's the big deal? She cried. She broke down sobbing in the restaurant because apparently there's some rule in Japan about having to be dating for two weeks before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. I didn't even know that this was a proposal to be a couple (I just said I liked her ffs, which I'd said a million times before), but she apparently interpreted it that way and got really upset with me. Eventually she agreed that very night, and in retrospect, this incident set the tone for the rest of our relationship. Two weeks pass. We had sex a few days after we became boyfriend and girlfriend, after which she cried because I asked her to use her mouth. I calmed her down, but that was a pretty shitty first sex experience. Anyway, after the next two weeks, I realized that this honeymoon would be cut short by her insanity. One day she straight up flips the fuck out on me because I hadn't found a job yet. "Uh.. yeah.. it's December, what do you expect?" She tells me that I need to find a job right now because her family is tired of supporting my bum ass. I assure her that I've already got several interviews lined up for after the break, and that for English teachers in Japan, you usually need to apply 3-4 months in advance for the April schoolyear. She didn't care, and decided to scream instead. A few days later, she dumped me out of nowhere. She said that I was a bad, useless boyfriend who was completely selfish. I packed up my shit and started leaving the next morning, and when she told me to stay, I told her to fuck off and get some therapy. She cried (again), hugged me, and begged me to stay with her at her house. I agreed foolishly, mainly because she just said her mother was getting very upset with her and apologized for taking it out on me. We got back together at that point, and things continued as normal. I did eventually find a job and moved out, after a month of living at her house. I really did feel bad--I didn't know that it would be so hard to find some kind of job, and offered to move out at any time--but her parents seemed cool with it. I bought them all pretty good presents when I left, including a copy of Starcraft for her gamer brother . My job was unfortunately across the country in Tokyo, which meant a 6 hour and $250 round-trip commute to see my girlfriend. We only met about once or twice a month because of this. Now, in our relationship past this point, there were a lot of isolated incidents. She would blow up at me for something trivial, interpret what I said however she wanted, and refused to apologize no matter how bad she was. I was so sick and tired of her shit sometimes that I didn't even want to think about her, and completely infatuated at others. Enter girl #2. Girl #2 liked me the first time we met--she actually approached me and we started having a conversation. I had the purest of intentions meeting her, but she had another agenda. She decided that she wanted to tear me apart from my girlfriend by whatever means necessary and take me for herself. I managed to stay true to my girlfriend for about a year of being friends with girl #2 (she was quite persistent) before my girlfriend called me something horrible in Japanese, I told her to fuck off, and I screwed this new girl like a madman for the next month. So, here's my current position. My now ex girlfriend still loved me and wanted me back. Girl #2 loved me and wanted to be an official couple, but I wasn't ready to have a girlfriend yet (plus, she was a little dumb and only interesting in bed, to be completely honest). Girl #2 was everything my ex was not--nice, great in the sack, not constantly bitchy--but I couldn't see myself with her. Enter girl #3. Girl #3 was more hard to get, being an actually decent girl. She and girl #2 actually knew each other as associates of a school I was working for at the time. As a matter of fact, we all ended up going to the same Christmas party. Oh boy, that Christmas party. Girl #2 drinks too much and goes to the stairwell to pass out. Girl #3 and I are borderline dry humping in the bar. The staff of my company is trying to cockblock me because they know I'm tightrope walking on a razor wire, but I'm drunk and absolutely don't give a shit. Girl #2 starts to feel better, girl #3 and I kinda separate, and later on we all walk to the station together with some random old dude. Girl #3 and I say goodbye, and I take girl #2 home out of fear that she's going to be like dateraped by this old creepy dude. Girl #2 tries to kiss me when we get to her doorstep and I push her off. She starts crying uncontrollably and I have to calm her down. We say goodbye and agree to be friends at that point, and I start walking home thinking about girl #3. During this time I get a call from my ex girlfriend, who is apparently waiting for me at my apartment. I get home like what the fuck, and she has a $400 watch that she bought for me in Germany as an early Christmas present. She starts crying uncontrollably and says that she still wants me, but understands why I wouldn't want her. She tries to kiss me and I push her off. As I'm talking to her, I notice my phone going off in my pocket repeatedly. When I'm finally able to pry myself off of her, girl #3 had called me like four times. I call her back, and she's crying uncontrollably. Yes, this is the third time in 30 minutes that I had to calm down a crying girl. Apparently girl #2 emailed girl #3 and told her about everything we did. Shit just got real. I was so pissed at this point that I told girl #2 to never contact me again and that for all I care, she can go fuck a new guy in a bar every night for the rest of her life. I sent my ex girlfriend the watch back through the postal mail and told her that I didn't want to talk to her ever again, and that I gave her three years to shape her shit up and treat me like a human being. Both girls still continually contacted me, showed up at my place randomly, and did everything in their power to be with me. I'm just glad they never showed up at the same time. Anyway, the story has a happy ending at least. I ended up dating girl #3, and our relationship has been amazing so far. She isn't psycho like all of the other women I got involved with before, and as it turns out, she didn't really care about the stuff that happened with girl #2 enough to break it off with me. I'm thinking that we'll probably get married in the next year if things stay this way! My drama story ;_;. honestly I see you as the complete bad guy there. girl#1 helped you out to stay in japan while you are homeless, that's quite a big committement and a hell lot of trust there. It isn't your fault for saying you like her but honestly, being a couple means a lot to asian culture. And eventually, you did go out with her at the end and had sex with her, that again, is a really big deal for asians. A lot of guys will mind if their gfs had sex before or not, many will actually find another girl if they know she isn't a virgin. (my fd for example.) She dumped you out of the house so that you can get up and actually try harder in finding a job, it is REALLY understandable if you know what the unemployment level is in Japan, let alone you are still only 20 and still has no job at hand. After all that she has done and given to you, your break up with her was pretty rough too. Girls are very dedicated inside. and about girl#2 emailing girl#3, what was wrong about it? You want to hide and lie to girl#3 about this forever? Girl#3 totally deserve knowing the truth before going further with you. And seriously: you broke up with girl#1 to be with girl#2, just like you broke up with girl#2 to be with girl#3 (only this time you are literally cheating behind her). While normally, it should be break up because she freaks out, go on and meet other girls and then date them. Not dating other girl asap after the break up... fml, you completely reminds me of the ex-bf of a girl fd that I know. you heart breakers, never try to understand why girls do anything but to blame it all onto the girls and just get onto another relationship like there is no tomorrow >< I think you're crazy and think he handled everything fine T_T. I think you're crazy. Unless he's leaving out a lot of information, it seems pretty obvious to me that he never took any of the girls seriously. Funny how he added hes probably gonna marry "girl #3" if all things go well. GL there.
Why is everybody so hostile? Why can't we all just get along?
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