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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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lizzard_warish
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LoneWolf.Alpha-
123 Posts
On October 09 2011 16:31 Fir3fly wrote: EDIT: I also just want to say to anyone out there wanting relationships: (i think day[9] said something like this once aswel.) --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- oh man, i've only had two relationships so far and they've both been horrible. first one: i was in year 9 at the time, i was really nerdy and i felt "lonely" in a way, like i really wanted to have a girlfriend and just someone to love ( not trying to sound douchy, i dont know why i felt this way moreso than other kids, i had a weird childhood so it probably had something to do with it ) Then all of a sudden i find this chick likes me, and i start freaking out and "go out" ( which, in year 10, doesnt mean anything but holding hands at school) so we were "dating" and i didnt know what the fuck i was doing, i tried to do all the right things and she "enjoyed" it. but she never really gave anything back (for instance, i would be the first one to start a hug, etc) and so i always felt like she "gave up" on me. but she assured me that she didnt and that she was a little shy. i was the king of shy at this point. and blah blah blah, basically it lasted for abuot a year and a half without anything but awkward hugs and us shying away from each other. then she does get sick of me, calls it off. im heartbroken, one of my friends "sneaks in" without telling me and they go off and have wild sex within the first week. ( and douchiness on both parts, i was heartbroken, they were rubbing it in, etcetc) so THAT was fucked. i had no idea what the shit i was meant to do. then the next girl: i found through starcraft actually. this was in year 11 going on 12. i bought a magazine in to read and she saw the starcraft 2 bit on the front. so we started talking about things and getting a bit friendly. and then i (again, shyly) asked if she wanted to go to the movies or something (i actually knew what "going out" meant now) she agreed. but i dont think we were on the same page :3 during the movie i was slowly creeping my hand over (because im retarded and fucking creepy) but she held my hand, then we went around and had a milkshake around town. was pretty fun. but then i missed my bus home and asked for a lift home ( i live out of town) which was awkward as fuck. so we were "dating" and this time, i told myself, that i wasnt going to be shy and fuck this up again. so i tried my hardest to be boyfriendly. which was a huge mistake, i felt that i "rushed" it, where shes all cute and nerdy and not that type of girl. i actually realised the damage ive done, she wasnt really interested in me at all and i could see it. so i just broke it up. we left on much better terms than my first girlfriend. I suppose thats all i really have on the subject. my only two girlfriends and i fucked them both up. i dont really know what to think about it because i dont want to say that im a completely bad "boyfriend" ( girl 1 was retarded (literally) and girl 2 was oblivious that we were dating half the time) but yeah. im hoping girl #3 is good ( i over shot, under shot, now ill get it just right :3) but unfortunately its going to have to wait a bit seeming 1. my town sucks and i dont go out and 2. i work with old people so theres nothing at work. but i am moving to Brisbane soon, so that should be good ^^ wow... that sucks... the part with breaking up, and she having sex with another guy within a week... | ||
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rebuffering
Canada2436 Posts
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LoneWolf.Alpha-
123 Posts
On October 09 2011 17:35 Gardel wrote: I´m 21 years old dating a 30 year old woman, and to be honest, it has been great. Nothing but pure good energies, our first date was in the mall and the movies, we didn´t do nothing but talk. Today was our 5th date in her place, watched a movie with her, had sex and we showered together, so I´m very happy. It´s all about confidence guys, if they see you lack it , then it´s GG!! Gl to everyone, and trust me, love can be something very AWESOME!! in your case, it's about being young and good looking, and her deciding that she liked young guys. it's easy to be confident when you are dating a girl who makes you confident | ||
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Zooper31
United States5710 Posts
On October 10 2011 12:25 LoneWolf.Alpha- wrote: in your case, it's about being young and good looking, and her deciding that she liked young guys. it's easy to be confident when you are dating a girl who makes you confident 1 word Cougar. | ||
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slytown
Korea (South)1411 Posts
On October 10 2011 00:52 MasterMonkey wrote: Ever been on a date with a Chinese girl? In China?! + Show Spoiler + I took a girl out about a month ago here in Shanghai, China. I'm American and she is Chinese which isn't a problem because my Chinese was good enough to speak with her and her English was good enough to fill in the gaps. Well dinner went great and the food was awesome! (Did I mention I live in China?) I paid the bill and we went for a walk together. We walked and walked and walked and it was a great time all the while she was laughing at my ridiculous jokes and things were going smoothly. We're on our way back to her place so I can drop her off (like gentlemen are supposed to!) and she steps right onto a piece of broken glass.... All of a sudden, blood is GUSHING out of her foot and I'm asking bystanders to help us out with tissues they have and where the nearest hospital is. They tell us where the nearest hospital is and I hail the first cab I see and I throw her in with the blood flowing. We get to the hospital in just a few minutes and we dash into the "emergency" room (slow as hell!) and she gets seen by a doctor who treats it pretty well but she doesn't opt for stitches. I'm no doctor but holy hell did she need stitches haha. Well I was with her at the hospital for 2 hours then we caught a cab home and I had to practically carry her up the stairs to her apartment and got her in her room safely and got her some water and food to eat since she lost so much blood and she gives me a goodnight kiss and I'm out the door. On my way home I was in disbelief about what had happened and decided the night was still young enough to drink myself silly and have a good laugh about it. The next day I asked her about her foot and she said it was doing well and was thankful for my help. Later that evening, I was in the middle of a game of SCII and she called me at 1am. Well of course I couldn't answer! I was in the middle of a VERY important game as a Protoss against a Terran and if I made the tiniest mistake, my immortals would be attacking marines right?! So after the game I send her a text to see what's up. She immediately texts me back and says "Thank you so much for helping me the other night, I just wanted to hear the sound of your voice before I went to sleep" ..... ........... .............................................wtf........... It had been a day after a first date and she wanted to hear the sound of my voice before she went to sleep? Haven't talked to her since. Sounds like she caught the romantic-convention bug and turned you into a knight-in-shining armor. Good move my friend. | ||
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Luepert
United States1933 Posts
 Doesn't help that my school is small as shit. (20 people per grade in high school) | ||
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RezChi
Canada2368 Posts
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Kadoka
United States82 Posts
I'm tired of falling for women who want to be abused. No, I'm not going to rape you. If you say NO when you mean YES I'm going to take you seriously and give you the respect you asked for. Yes I'm crazy about you, no, I'm not ever going to be crazy enough about you to commit rape. I hold myself to higher standards than that, it's not because I don't like you. I listen to what you say because I want to treat you with respect, not because I'm not attracted to you. People can't ever be honest and it tears me apart. | ||
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sunprince
United States2258 Posts
On October 10 2011 11:01 FabledIntegral wrote: Haha I know the feeling. I've felt awful lately about girls, having little substantial talk beyond friend zone with any for the last few months... while both my roommates have their GF's over all the time... it's nice to know I'm not the only one alone, even if it feels like it and I haven't met anyone new . Friend zones only exist if you let them. Get over your fear and make a move to escalate, and if they're not interested then you can move on. On October 10 2011 11:04 xDaunt wrote: You're right at that age where girls start getting smarter. It generally takes until they're 25 or so for them to get their priorities straight and figure out what they want. Dating should get easier for you soon. In other words, as girls get older and face the threat of declining beauty, they start paying more attention to beta dudes who they never would've given the time of day before but now look like attractive potential suckers...I mean husbands. On October 10 2011 11:38 FliedLice wrote: By now I figured that I must somehow be socially retarded when it comes to stuff like that. It's never too late to start learning. | ||
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pyrogenetix
United Arab Emirates5091 Posts
Seeing some girls but no action. Got a date tonight let's see where that goes. | ||
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kierpanda
United States757 Posts
#1 - Guy who thought he was the greatest at everything. Sucked at gaming, hated my car because he thought his car was so much better (he drove a fucking scion tc, i drove a 350z. really?). Made me drive him around a lot and pay for things. Cried when I broke up and said "YOU DIDNT SAY ALL THESE THINGS TO MY FACE. IT'S NOT OVER YET." Still sends me emails and text messages occasionally. I broke up with him in 2010... #2 - Rich kid I met while in college. Complete moron. Need I say more? I dated morons.... Now I'm dating a former coworker and he's awesome. He's also the reason why I play SC2. <3 Our 1 year anniversary is the end of the month. :D | ||
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Rawrsi
Australia55 Posts
Then another girl who cheated on me and since then basically nothing. I find it hilarious at work many old people come in and tell me I should date their grandchildren. | ||
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Xiandelle
Canada117 Posts
Short story: Long distance is horrible. Even with clear boundaries, expectations, trust and communication, a long distance relationship is very, very difficult to maintain, no matter what the title of the 'relationshp' is. + Show Spoiler + Long version: I have always felt like a loner. Backstory: In elementary (grade 1-6) I would even go as far as to bring a book outside to recess because I could then avoid playing with the people I didn't like... which was basically all of them, save a select few. In my early teenage years, once we upgraded from dial-up, I discovered the wonders of talking to strangers on the net. Suddenly, it didn't matter what I looked like and I could mask a lot of my awkwardness while writing. My first real 'relationship' was technically through the net. Pathetic, I know, but I had very strong feelings for this guy. It didn't last very long, but he is not the focus of my bad relationship story, nor is the next guy. After two failed long distance relationships (with one... equally horrible IRL one in between), I promised myself never to date through the internet again. These people I kept finding with so much in common with me -had- to exist in my city. There was no way, in a city of one million, I couldn't find someone like me. ...Within a month of saying that to myself, I met someone online (UGH) that made me regret that promise. Everything I knew I wanted in a man this guy possessed as a trait, and then some. His honesty, confidence, nerdiness, music taste, values, -everything-. Very rapidly, what started out as a friendship evolved into a pseudo fling. We were both very clear. A long distance relationship was not wanted. Yet... things were said that lead me to believe it could be otherwise. My heart got involved. I fell for this guy, and I fell ridiculously hard. One day, he vanished. He -literally- vanished, leaving a plethora of unanswered questions in his wake. What -was- it that we had? I now believe one of two things happened. A) he was playing me from the beginning and it was never more than a game for him, or B) he was arrested or killed. His sudden disappearance absolutely wrecked me for a very long time. My confidence was shattered. You might say, yeah, but it wasn't even a real relationship. Sure, maybe not, and maybe I had no real reason to be so... utterly hurt, but that doesn't change that I -was- and that it still sometimes has me wondering. I think... the what-ifs killed me the most. Now, however, I am in a lovely, serious relationship with a man I absolutely adore. We've been together two years.  He's awesome and introduced me to SC2. :D | ||
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DetO
Finland69 Posts
but then, i went to this halloween party, there were these 2 girls, both of them insanely sexy, so i went to talk with them. other of them seemed little more talkative with me and other was little bit more shy, so i went for the talking one. she was in a relationship but it didnt bother me, i tried to work on my magic but i failed horribly, she was loyal to her guy ;d i was rly drunk so i just kept on going, suggestin stuff and so on. then the shy one decided to make a move on me, asked me to dance floor...eventually we end up kissing and dancing all night long with her. but then i drank too much and i lost my memory. i wake up at the morning from this shy girls house, all clothes on obviusly, nothing happened since i was nearly passed out, she had taken care of me. so thats how everything started with her. now 3 years together, 1 year married and we have little baby girl 8) im 23 and she is 21 i have always been into games, but ive had great social life too. i kept life in balance. even tho i spent so much time in bw managing MgZ) and Excello., nearly every wgtcl on sunday i managed in hungover from saturdays partys 8) | ||
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Livelovedie
United States492 Posts
At Seventeen I have had one relationship with a girl 1.5 years ago that lasted for a month... Never kissed a girl; never had any physical contact besides hugging. | ||
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SpoR
United States1542 Posts
When i was 15 i thought i fell in love with my friend's sister who was a cute 18 year old viet girl she took my v card. We were inseparable for 3 months until I moved away. I don't remember what happened exactly but I think I wrote her a letter telling her we needed to break up. After that I didn't really try to hook up with any girls as I was way overcritical and held really high standards over all the ones I met. There was really only 1 girl that I liked and she quit our job before I really got to know her or ask her out. I saw her again randomly when we were lookin for a ride to a party and I was planning to get her number and ask her out but all the wannabe gangsters i was with were all like 'damn you fine let me holla at you lemme get your number' etc. so I just felt stupid for putting her into that spot and let her vanish again. I think her name was Shawny or something. The next woman I was with ended up being my friend's mom who was a pedo and we were really drunk at his house and I dunno what the fuck I was thinking, we literally hated each other and argued all the time. I think that's probably why it happened actually. After that I didn't hook up with any girl for like 2 years. I ended up hitting it off with my friend's ex because from the moment she met me she was hard for me (even when she was dating my friend for like a year or whatever). Actually the reason they broke up was cause she cheated on him with old men for drugs or some shit. I immediately went to the clinic to get tested. She was pretty fine but I wasn't about to deal with that crap and she vanished away to Oklahoma or something anyways. She was kind of a dumbo. Another 2 years passed as I thought I wasn't supposed to have a gf because I thought I needed more success to do it right or whatever. Obviously i had crushes on friend's older sisters and little sister's friends but I never and still haven't tried to pursue them. I actually tried to put together a date with some random girl on myspace who lived in the same town but I ended up standing her up because I was broke and couldn't even afford pickupstix. Then in 2006, I met this chick who was friends with my first real gf (we all lived together) who recently divorced and was crazy. I wasn't attracted to her at all but her constant pursuit of me like every day led to eventually hooking up with her. It was pretty hot sex but she was way too crazy and nympo on lots of guys. I basically told her to fuck off, but she did help me realize that I should be out trying to date and find someone again. The summer of love: One day my friend randomly calls me and tells me to come over to his house because there were 3 crazy girls at his house partying all the time but only 2 guys. I got there and she was instantly on me. it was a nice little fling until I got tonsillitis and I just stopped talking to her. It wasn't that strong of a connection and I got the feeling she was trying to hard or being fake to impress me or whatever. I also found out they lied about being 18 and they were really 16, i was 21. I started hanging out with this girl from a mutual friend and we would drink and party all the time. I really liked her a lot even though she wasn't the prettiest girl but she was kind of bitchy (I actually tend to be attracted to these ones tbh), and had just come off a big relationship and was still helping her ex all the time, and she had something going on with another friend. I ended up hooking up with his younger sister who I wasn't the least bit interested in but she was all over me and I was drunk. She does modeling now so shes beautiful to some people but to me and most my friends we always were like barf whenever we saw her, tbh she kinda looks like a dude lol. At the same time, I fucking blew a once in a lifetime chance to have a full on 3some with both of these chicks. They were both bi and we were all in a bed making out and cuddling but I think I was just to scared to initiate anything more at the time. I still kick myself all the time for that. but It did lead to me and the girl I liked hooking up for real at least once and basically acting like bf & gf for the rest of the summer until she just kinda stopped calling and stuff. I figured she was playing the field and I didn't try to make her mine so I kinda blew it. (I actually ran into her a year later and she was dating some dude that looked and acted like me kind of). Out of the blue this little philipino chick hits me up on myspace cause we have similar interests in music and graffiti. I was kind of put off by the fact that she was so small (im 6'2" and she was like 5 foot) and she had sort of bug eyes but she was still really cute. Almost too cute, she was like scared of everything and kinda weird. We hooked up a few times and I just kinda didn't pursue her anymore. I randomly got a call from one of my sister's friends about some oldschool shit. my friends and I ended up going over there to drink, I ended up going over there all the time mainly because they needed someone to buy beer and I was bored. Somehow I was super drunk and I pulled this girl down to my chair and made out with her. She ended up having a crush on me since we were way younger and she instantly fell in love while I wasn't even sure if I was attracted to her. I tried my hardest to not get involved but she kept showing up at my house/calling and I would end up at her house sometimes too. Well eventually we hooked up and made it official. I was with her for 4 years. I tried to break up with her a few times but still wanted to be friends. Apparently she cheated on me a bunch of times and then decided to just dump me out of the blue after i lost my job, car, and place and everything. It was a whole big mess and lasted about 6 more months of hardship. The final straw was on st patricks day this year where she avoided my call after I had been trying to plan something with her for like a month. her new bf is a typical dumb ufc, football surfer bro, fat piece of shit you see at parties all the time. He tried to start some shit with my when I went to a friends house and I literally didnt even know who he was or what was going on (didnt even realize he was angry at me) so we left and he tried to follow us, If I didn't just have an appendectomy 2 weeks earlier I think I might have fought him even though I had no idea what was going on or why I was going to fight. Next day I met this crazy chick at a friend's house who was attracted to me for my polo black (this cologne pulls mad chicks) and how tall i am etc. We were pretty opposite but she fell in love with me or whatever right away. She was hot and cold with me though and I was hearing shit like she was trying to hook up with other dudes and blah blah so I kinda told her off a few times and stopped really talking to her all the time. There was a girl I had met a few months before the last one at a party and we were having good conversation and relating with past fucked up relationships but she was seeing some guy at the time. I went to her bday party and hung out with her and her friends a few times after that and they could sense our attraction to each other and made us kiss when we were drunk. We started dating, but she kind of reminds me of my mom and she is kind of ignorant and drama because of her friends. She kind of pulls away but then still wants me, I think she realizes she doesnt want me but doesn't wanna be alone. I'm kind of the same to be honest, and I do like her a lot but it just feels like we're not perfect for each other and I think we are both holding on to how things were with passed relationships. I'm still kind of seeing her but she does some things that my ex's would do that tell me I should get out. Yesterday this 17 year old was all over me and trying to get me to make out with her. but I didn't because, A shes underage and im 27, B she was really drunk, C she was my friends younger sister and they were telling me not to hook up with her lol, and D shes pretty naive and youngdumb. She has a smoking body though. | ||
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Chaves
Brazil315 Posts
Rly, where can i found rly nice girls? At work i just have contact with girls wayyy a head of me,i mean in age and in life ... im have 20's and all girls there have like early 30 or sth, they rly dont look at me at that way ...(Im stagiarie at software development) At university i do Computer science, so you know, in a 40 ppl class we just got 2 girls and i never speak with then cos we sit way far, plus i dont facking know what those girls ar doing there, they ar like lost or sth ... Ok, here we go: hmmm I dont leave much home, just when i go drink with my friends, and it do not occur too often to be honest, also i dont have much to do outside, i dont rly have a "hobby", i mean a outside hobby where i can meet some1. So,ok. Maybe the problem is me, im freaking retard and i know that, but well ... there is to have some tard girl out there hmm? asjdioasdij My problem is: I think i see the world in my own way and some think that is like sociopath, but im not, at least i think so xD So, any1 have any tips how can i meet nice woman's? Ok there no scape,i need to leave more, but where should i facking go? I feel rly uncomfortable in public place with a lot of ppl that i dont know ... | ||
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BottleAbuser
Korea (South)1888 Posts
Also, they make breakfast. Sometimes. And do the dishes. Sometimes. .... heck, a good roommate is better on ALL counts! Why are we still dealing with this female crap? | ||
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n.DieJokes
United States3443 Posts
Okay anyway, fast forward to the day of the date. Literally an hour before it was we were going to go out, I got a call saying my grandma died (the one I spent winter breaks with). I wasn't exactly crushed emotionally but I was definitely out of sorts. Still I was nuts about this girl and I didn't want to call it an hour before it was supposed to go so I pick myself up and try and make it work. It didn't lol, I was all over the place. It was the perfect storm of emotional wreck, nervousness and inexperience. I swear to god, I asked her if she were a tree what type of tree she would want to be and then went off on a tangent on how I'd be pine x.x In retrospect, the part that really kills me is she still wanted to talk to me! She would msg me and whatnot but I so embarrassed I couldn't bear to pick up the pieces. What a shame, she really was quite nice (pretty too). | ||
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