Don't post in this thread to say "gay gamers are like everyone else, why do they have a special thread?" It is something that has been posted numerous times, and this isn't the place for that discussion.
There's a few things you can do, depending on where you are there are plenty of gay bars, or gay communities where you'd be welcomed while you were figuring things out; there are also plenty of internet communities that will do the same. But, to be honest, the best thing to do is try to form relationships with the same sex the same way you do with the opposite sex. If you like someone, ask them out on a date. I know it's not as easy as that, with the hate that homosexuals can receive, and that makes me sad.
thanks for the advice. truth is a couple of weeks ago a guy came up to me and asked for my number but i gave him the wrong one in my drunken state
if theres anyone from the uk whos gay and loves starcraft like i do PM me if you like.
On September 06 2011 15:50 oo_xerox wrote: When i was in first year in the Uni, a gay guy started calling me (I, ofc, thought it was just a regular guy to you know hang out and shit) but one day he asked me out....i kinda freaked out and said i was not gay....he said "really? you look gay" i got a new haircut, went to the gym (no difference im still a skinny fucker) and changed the way i talk to a more manly manner, and since then ive noticed that gay guys still look at me like they think im gay, im not exactly sure why, i like fashion but other than im very manly, could that be only due to my physical appereance?
I wrote a response to a question very similar to this two pages back if you want to have a look. Basically, there is no recipe that says "if you're one part this, two parts that, etc etc" gay people will like you. All people are attracted to different things. E.g. there is no way of telling you what part of your look/behavior may be attracting men because it could literally be anything.
"Gay men still look at me like they think I'm gay". Makes you sound a bit paranoid . I need a philosiraptor "how does one look at you as though you're gay". Seriously though at the end of the day, if you are not gay and guys hit on you, thank them for the compliment, and lay some truth on them
On September 07 2011 05:28 Shiragaku wrote: O___O Play Eve :D Eve is for people who want to make their team lose. DX Play Eve if you want to get a nice beating
First poster here as well, I do check this site on regular basis for SC2 news
I havn't been reading through all the pages, but as a gay Starcraft 2 player I can pretty much identify with a lot of things here. I've always thought it to be kinda weird to be both a gamer and a homosexual, but when I think of it, a lot of my activities happen to be rather "straight", I'm into competitive sports, competitive gaming, I'm not acting like your stereotypical gay person, etc. Generally I'm attracted to straight guys, because they match these tastes, but I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who feels this way, so hopefully I'll find someone !
I am also attracted to Asian guys quite a lot... but somehow I havn't so far met any gay Asian guy (not that there are a lot of Asians where I live, but still.) So I was wondering... is being gay more of a problem when you're Asian nowadays ? (perhaps more conservative families/traditions...) I'm not trying to segregate here, and I'm sure it is a different story depending from which Asian country you're from, but still... I'm just wondering if it's harder to be gay in a Asian country or when you come from an Asian background. Of course I'm interested in the Korean perspective : )
On September 07 2011 05:28 Shiragaku wrote: O___O Play Eve :D Eve is for people who want to make their team lose. DX Play Eve if you want to get a nice beating
Play Nunu if you want cuddles.
I love to cuddle. :3
On September 07 2011 05:43 TsaJui wrote: I am also attracted to Asian guys quite a lot... but somehow I havn't so far met any gay Asian guy (not that there are a lot of Asians where I live, but still.) So I was wondering... is being gay more of a problem when you're Asian nowadays ? (perhaps more conservative families/traditions...) I'm not trying to segregate here, and I'm sure it is a different story depending from which Asian country you're from, but still... I'm just wondering if it's harder to be gay in a Asian country or when you come from an Asian background. Of course I'm interested in the Korean perspective : )
I like Asians myself, and the hardest part I find is separating the gay ones from the ones who just act like they could be gay. I haven't been successful yet. I've never seen straight men give each other a butt spanking till I met some of my Asian friends.
On September 07 2011 07:07 drshdwpuppet wrote: Cuddles are amazing as hell
and the level of homoeroticism on my soccer team was amazing. Butt gropes were expected after a nice goal, kissing on hat tricks.
Okay, a few pages back I put forward my pretty homophobic stance. If you didn't read it, basically I just have a massive problem with gay people for whatever reason. My reasoning that I offered is most likely not the actual reason, I just absolutely have got it ingrained in me that I hate gay people and there's nothing I can do about it. I don't see myself ever accepting them in any way.
Given that little background information, please take my following comments with a grain of salt. It may just be my hatred of it that is bringing this out, or I might have a point. Either way I'm going to say it.
Many of your posts (drshdwpuppet) seem to just be plain off topic, vulgar remarks about your homosexuality which I find incredibly difficult to read. There have been a few instances, and I'm not going to quote them all, but after I posted on this thread about my views I have been revisiting it looking for help on if there is any possible way to tackle my homophobia. I believe that there are others here trying to do that, or maybe not. My point is, it's really difficult to do that when every few pages I see the exact thing that makes me so angry when I think about homosexuality, and therefore this thread is only making me feel worse about the whole situation. You yourself have mentioned how this thread is necessary because you want to feel treated equally, and for the most part I agree with that sentiment, but your posts are making it increasingly difficult for me personally to do that.
I am by no means telling you what you can and can't post, but just maybe that some people here are like me, and some of the things you say just aren't appropriate in nearly all discussions that have otherwise been fruitful. Post what you want by all means, but if you're looking for acceptance and equality you might need to give people with a real adversity to homosexuality a chance.\
I might be asking a bit too much here, but I hope people see my point.
if you're having a problem with something and you want to accept it, I honestly think that ignoring it, acting like it doesn't exist or trying to set yourself up in a situation where you have no contact with the thing you have a problem with it is actually pretty counterproductive.
fun story:
i have (as long as i remember) always had a huge problem with arachnophobia. i used to fucking hate even the house spiders that lived in my room. killing them and getting them out didn't help with fixing the problem. saving a few spiders' lives (getting them out of the bathtub, moving them away somewhere when i'm about to vacuum one etc.), and being exposed to them actually helped. mind you, i'm still afraid to death of the tarantula-type ones with fat legs and hairy bodies and whatnot, but atleast I can live in pretty much perfect symbiotic relations with the ones that are around me. I just hope, that with time I will get rid of arachnophobia totally, but i doubt it :3.
Personally, I don't see this thread as anything else but a social club. I come in here to talk to like minded people, and well sometimes gay people are a bit gay.
Your phobia is something you will probably have to tackle yourself. For the longest time I disliked gay people, I called things gay that or gay this, and I still do sometimes but in a more ironic way. I didn't come to terms with it till I realized that I, myself, liked men. Not to say this is what will happen to you - not at all - I just think you are going to have to figure it out yourself. I'm not sure there is anything I, or anyone else, could type to make you feel differently.
You're just going to think about why, did your parents have an issue with homosexuals, or maybe you had friends who happened to like gay bashing? No one knows but you. Maybe one day you will find someone who changes your opinion, but I'm not sure we can do that over the internet.
EPT
. I need a philosiraptor "how does one look at you as though you're gay". Seriously though at the end of the day, if you are not gay and guys hit on you, thank them for the compliment, and lay some truth on them 
