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On September 06 2011 14:05 GDR wrote:
Sometimes, I wonder if I'm weird. I have no experience with dating, or sexual encounters, and only a little bit of harmless flirting (which I'm generally oblivious too till later). Spontaneous arousal has never been something I have experienced. I generally just look at someone and go 'wow, he is really cute' and so far that has been the end of it. Sometimes I'll get them stuck in my head for a couple of days (like this Asian guy who sold me jeans at Guess - I was so embarrassed/shy I didn't even notice how loose they are till the next day) but that is it.
I chalk it up to still being only 18, and really only figuring things out still. When I am around really good looking guys though I generally just drop all my self-confidence on the ground, and my mind goes all scrambled and I just end up smiling a lot. I use to wonder if I am actually gay, which has been my biggest hurdle so far, because I don't always get that little tickle down there but in the end guys are the apple of my eye. I don't look for girls, I look for the cutest guy (generally Asian) in the room.
So I guess I'll ask a question, am I odd for looking at a guy and not being, I guess, 'horny'. I'm attracted, but I'm not aroused to say the least. Even in some condemning situations (including partial nudity).
You might want to look into asexuality. Either that or I'd chalk it up to you being a late-bloomer.
I'm the same way as you, though I go for both sides of the fence generally. I can look at people and acknowledge them to be "pretty" or "handsome," and I can develop "crushes" on people, but I have no libido and don't really do anything because I don't feel compelled to act, especially since my crushes fade pretty quickly. Anyways, I imagine I'd make a terrible boyfriend if I don't want to have sex, so it's pretty much a lonely life for me, lol.
T_T
Maybe I should get a hypoallergenic dog or cat when I graduate from college and manage to find a stable job. Hmmm.
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On September 06 2011 14:20 babylon wrote:Show nested quote +On September 06 2011 14:05 GDR wrote:
Sometimes, I wonder if I'm weird. I have no experience with dating, or sexual encounters, and only a little bit of harmless flirting (which I'm generally oblivious too till later). Spontaneous arousal has never been something I have experienced. I generally just look at someone and go 'wow, he is really cute' and so far that has been the end of it. Sometimes I'll get them stuck in my head for a couple of days (like this Asian guy who sold me jeans at Guess - I was so embarrassed/shy I didn't even notice how loose they are till the next day) but that is it.
I chalk it up to still being only 18, and really only figuring things out still. When I am around really good looking guys though I generally just drop all my self-confidence on the ground, and my mind goes all scrambled and I just end up smiling a lot. I use to wonder if I am actually gay, which has been my biggest hurdle so far, because I don't always get that little tickle down there but in the end guys are the apple of my eye. I don't look for girls, I look for the cutest guy (generally Asian) in the room.
So I guess I'll ask a question, am I odd for looking at a guy and not being, I guess, 'horny'. I'm attracted, but I'm not aroused to say the least. Even in some condemning situations (including partial nudity). You might want to look into asexuality. Either that or I'd chalk it up to you being a late-bloomer. I'm the same way as you, though I go for both sides of the fence generally. I can look at people and acknowledge them to be "pretty" or "handsome," and I can develop "crushes" on people, but I have no libido and don't really do anything because I don't feel compelled to act, especially since my crushes fade pretty quickly. Anyways, I imagine I'd make a terrible boyfriend if I don't want to have sex, so it's pretty much a lonely life for me, lol. T_T
I've definitely thought about it. I just don't think its meant to be. I hate feeling lonely, and I definitely want someone in my life on that level. I also imagine I'm a great snuggle(r). 
Also, sex looks like so much fun. I can't miss out. x.x
It is also not like I don't fantasize. Its just at the spur of the moment I don't 'wake up'.
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On September 06 2011 14:24 GDR wrote:Show nested quote +On September 06 2011 14:20 babylon wrote:On September 06 2011 14:05 GDR wrote:
Sometimes, I wonder if I'm weird. I have no experience with dating, or sexual encounters, and only a little bit of harmless flirting (which I'm generally oblivious too till later). Spontaneous arousal has never been something I have experienced. I generally just look at someone and go 'wow, he is really cute' and so far that has been the end of it. Sometimes I'll get them stuck in my head for a couple of days (like this Asian guy who sold me jeans at Guess - I was so embarrassed/shy I didn't even notice how loose they are till the next day) but that is it.
I chalk it up to still being only 18, and really only figuring things out still. When I am around really good looking guys though I generally just drop all my self-confidence on the ground, and my mind goes all scrambled and I just end up smiling a lot. I use to wonder if I am actually gay, which has been my biggest hurdle so far, because I don't always get that little tickle down there but in the end guys are the apple of my eye. I don't look for girls, I look for the cutest guy (generally Asian) in the room.
So I guess I'll ask a question, am I odd for looking at a guy and not being, I guess, 'horny'. I'm attracted, but I'm not aroused to say the least. Even in some condemning situations (including partial nudity). You might want to look into asexuality. Either that or I'd chalk it up to you being a late-bloomer. I'm the same way as you, though I go for both sides of the fence generally. I can look at people and acknowledge them to be "pretty" or "handsome," and I can develop "crushes" on people, but I have no libido and don't really do anything because I don't feel compelled to act, especially since my crushes fade pretty quickly. Anyways, I imagine I'd make a terrible boyfriend if I don't want to have sex, so it's pretty much a lonely life for me, lol. T_T I've definitely thought about it. I just don't think its meant to be. I hate feeling lonely, and I definitely want someone in my life on that level. I also imagine I'm a great snuggle(r). Also, sex looks like so much fun. I can't miss out. x.x It is also not like I don't fantasize. Its just at the spur of the moment I don't 'wake up'.
The realization that you're destined to be forever alone is hard to accept, I know.
Jk jk.  Good luck with figuring stuff out! You've got a ways to go in terms of age, so it's possible that you're just, as I said, a bit of a late-bloomer. I'd actually recommend just experimenting when you get the chance, as it really helps to sort out one's head.
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On September 06 2011 14:20 babylon wrote:Show nested quote +On September 06 2011 14:05 GDR wrote:
Sometimes, I wonder if I'm weird. I have no experience with dating, or sexual encounters, and only a little bit of harmless flirting (which I'm generally oblivious too till later). Spontaneous arousal has never been something I have experienced. I generally just look at someone and go 'wow, he is really cute' and so far that has been the end of it. Sometimes I'll get them stuck in my head for a couple of days (like this Asian guy who sold me jeans at Guess - I was so embarrassed/shy I didn't even notice how loose they are till the next day) but that is it.
I chalk it up to still being only 18, and really only figuring things out still. When I am around really good looking guys though I generally just drop all my self-confidence on the ground, and my mind goes all scrambled and I just end up smiling a lot. I use to wonder if I am actually gay, which has been my biggest hurdle so far, because I don't always get that little tickle down there but in the end guys are the apple of my eye. I don't look for girls, I look for the cutest guy (generally Asian) in the room.
So I guess I'll ask a question, am I odd for looking at a guy and not being, I guess, 'horny'. I'm attracted, but I'm not aroused to say the least. Even in some condemning situations (including partial nudity). You might want to look into asexuality. Either that or I'd chalk it up to you being a late-bloomer. I'm the same way as you, though I go for both sides of the fence generally. I can look at people and acknowledge them to be "pretty" or "handsome," and I can develop "crushes" on people, but I have no libido and don't really do anything because I don't feel compelled to act, especially since my crushes fade pretty quickly. Anyways, I imagine I'd make a terrible boyfriend if I don't want to have sex, so it's pretty much a lonely life for me, lol. T_T Maybe I should get a hypoallergenic dog or cat when I graduate from college and manage to find a stable job. Hmmm.
18 is not a late-bloomer at all, not even close. He still has like another 4-5 years to be even remotely so. Even so, discovering your sexuality and intercourse has no age rating/limit. But generally, you begin to settle after the effects of puberty, 22-23 for men if I recall (when you stop growing).
He's not asexual either. It's entirely normal for not being "horny" towards a person without knowing them at all. You may be finding other qualities or values in men (or women) that involve getting to know them. Evidently, physical appearances don't always play a major role in exciting someone. The sound, actions or views of aspects in their life may arouse you.
Sure, you find them physically attractive, but that won't always lead you to a physical erection.
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yeah, im the same way, I find guys really attractive, but I need to know them a bit better before I want in the pants.
Once there though, well, we will leave that to imagination.
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You know, I don't really got a problem with gay or w/e freaky shit your into. But I don't come to TL and talk about my BSDM or rape fetish? So why are you here talking about your sexual preference?
That's my problem with gays, they are so fucking gay. I'm happy your happy, but why do you gotta broadcast it every chance you get.. pride? acceptance? need to be recognized? Because youre not really helping your cause.
Too me it seems maybe you actually can't accept the fact that being gay is actually wrong, and if the world accepts you then maybe you can accept yourself?
Also to who ever says your 'born this way', your fucking stupid. Your dick is almost an exact opposite of a vagina, so tell me again how you were born with a dick to fuck guys?
no.
ban me
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how many homophobes does it take to screw in a lightbulb?
none, closets done have lights.
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On September 06 2011 14:58 RustyMetal wrote:
Also to who ever says your 'born this way', your fucking stupid. Your dick is almost an exact opposite of a vagina, so tell me again how you were born with a dick to fuck guys?
I imagine a dick fits quite well in any hole.
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yeah, its not like this
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I like the part where he exerts his anger on all over the internet because he has to be restrained in real-life.
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When i was in first year in the Uni, a gay guy started calling me (I, ofc, thought it was just a regular guy to you know hang out and shit) but one day he asked me out....i kinda freaked out and said i was not gay....he said "really? you look gay" i got a new haircut, went to the gym (no difference im still a skinny fucker) and changed the way i talk to a more manly manner, and since then ive noticed that gay guys still look at me like they think im gay, im not exactly sure why, i like fashion but other than im very manly, could that be only due to my physical appereance?
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the most effeminate male I have ever met was straight.
Okay, that isnt true, second most.
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yo dude, im nota that effeminate...........
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My hairstylists are always really stereotypically effeminate but they're always straight lol.
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Hi, first time poster here although have been an avid reader of this site. Came across this post and have finally decided to post something that has been weighing on my mind for sometime.
i think i might be bi sexual, have always been with the opposite sex. i am not sure where to go from here though. help??
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On September 06 2011 18:54 kaiviti wrote:
Hi, first time poster here although have been an avid reader of this site. Came across this post and have finally decided to post something that has been weighing on my mind for sometime.
i think i might be bi sexual, have always been with the opposite sex. i am not sure where to go from here though. help??
There's a few things you can do, depending on where you are there are plenty of gay bars, or gay communities where you'd be welcomed while you were figuring things out; there are also plenty of internet communities that will do the same. But, to be honest, the best thing to do is try to form relationships with the same sex the same way you do with the opposite sex. If you like someone, ask them out on a date. I know it's not as easy as that, with the hate that homosexuals can receive, and that makes me sad.
I'd like to say how good this thread is; there's a lot of homosexual hate in the gaming community, it's always great to see people willing to come out in support of people who would otherwise feel ashamed of being who they are.
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On September 06 2011 14:24 GDR wrote:+ Show Spoiler +On September 06 2011 14:20 babylon wrote:Show nested quote +On September 06 2011 14:05 GDR wrote:
Sometimes, I wonder if I'm weird. I have no experience with dating, or sexual encounters, and only a little bit of harmless flirting (which I'm generally oblivious too till later). Spontaneous arousal has never been something I have experienced. I generally just look at someone and go 'wow, he is really cute' and so far that has been the end of it. Sometimes I'll get them stuck in my head for a couple of days (like this Asian guy who sold me jeans at Guess - I was so embarrassed/shy I didn't even notice how loose they are till the next day) but that is it.
I chalk it up to still being only 18, and really only figuring things out still. When I am around really good looking guys though I generally just drop all my self-confidence on the ground, and my mind goes all scrambled and I just end up smiling a lot. I use to wonder if I am actually gay, which has been my biggest hurdle so far, because I don't always get that little tickle down there but in the end guys are the apple of my eye. I don't look for girls, I look for the cutest guy (generally Asian) in the room.
So I guess I'll ask a question, am I odd for looking at a guy and not being, I guess, 'horny'. I'm attracted, but I'm not aroused to say the least. Even in some condemning situations (including partial nudity). You might want to look into asexuality. Either that or I'd chalk it up to you being a late-bloomer. I'm the same way as you, though I go for both sides of the fence generally. I can look at people and acknowledge them to be "pretty" or "handsome," and I can develop "crushes" on people, but I have no libido and don't really do anything because I don't feel compelled to act, especially since my crushes fade pretty quickly. Anyways, I imagine I'd make a terrible boyfriend if I don't want to have sex, so it's pretty much a lonely life for me, lol. T_T I've definitely thought about it. I just don't think its meant to be. I hate feeling lonely, and I definitely want someone in my life on that level. I also imagine I'm a great snuggle(r). Also, sex looks like so much fun. I can't miss out. x.x It is also not like I don't fantasize. Its just at the spur of the moment I don't 'wake up'.
Sounds pretty normal to me. I have a pretty normal libido, and I've had various one night stands, flings, as well as monogomous relationships. I don't think I ever really look at someone and bone up, even if I think they're beautiful.
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On September 06 2011 11:44 ene13 wrote:
I dont usually like the guys in the gym unless theyre slim... something about a man stronger than me that turns me off... i would like to dominate a slim blond cutie guy from behind while strokin him at the same time and kissing his neck softly.
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you know what? that is my dream.....
Hmm... it's tempting to go blond :D
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