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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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farvacola
United States18857 Posts
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Volband
Hungary6034 Posts
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On June 04 2016 00:15 Volband wrote: Well, she actually lived in that era, so... But jokes aside, are you guys sure this hug thing is not just an American thing? I mean, to me, it's a rather affectionate gesture, much more serious than a peck or two. I can confirm in Chile you greet people of the opposite sex with a peck on the cheek. Back when I traveled to the U.S (6 years ago?) it took me a bit to realize you greet woman strangers with a handshake there (lol) and that a peck is more personal. Hugs are for friends. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On June 03 2016 23:04 farvacola wrote: "older women are realists" nope, "older women" as a class are too diverse to label this way. Besides, "realist" is basically a useless term anyways. I mean they will have more experience inevitably, they've lived what real relationships and vast majority of the time will see them more realistically than your average 20year old | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On June 03 2016 23:36 Volband wrote: Yeah, will see. Gonna overdose myself on energy drink and see how well I can present myself when it really matters. Question: what's the appropriate greeting when you meet with a stranger after hooking up online? Do you go for kissing the cheek or shaking hands? Swear to God, this will be the hardest part of the day/night, alongside with me trying to make inquiries at the end if she'd be up for another date or not - unless I felt it went absolutely terrible, like we were watching each other silently for 1 hour, but come on now. Do not drink energy drinks! Also don't think too much about how you present yourself, just be honest and act like you normally do. I'd recommend a quick hug always, not too forceful but shows romantic intentions. Also never ask if she's up for another date, there's no point in that - just focus on the present moment and don't distract yourself with the future. Just say your goodbyes or just walk away. And then when you feel like it text or call her that you'd like to see her again and that she should tell you when she's free. | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On June 04 2016 00:12 Jockmcplop wrote:Rejected haha. Rejected fairly nicely though so my self esteem lives to see another day. Wasn't that bad was it? Now do it again! | ||
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Volband
Hungary6034 Posts
Be me? Is she crazy? Damn, I hate when I have no time to plan ahead, I said I'll be there in 40 mins.. from now. I don't even have an energy drink at me - yes, it helps, come on now, I don'T drink coffee. HELP | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
I say go for it, however I don't agree that it "wouldn't be a date". Ignore the crazy shit for now, no time for that. Take a shower, meet up, give her a hug when you meet her, go on the walk or whatever you had planned, talk and have fun. Don't do anything stupid, drink some water and relax. | ||
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Volband
Hungary6034 Posts
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On June 04 2016 02:39 Volband wrote: Strawberry or menthol chewing gum? Do I bring up the word "date" in any possible way? Do I ask her if she'd like something to drink? Right now I could talk for 100 days straight; should I go for it and be energetic, or should I keep pauses if she can't seem to interject anything? Relax, and focus on asking her questions and finding stuff about her | ||
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DickMcFanny
Ireland1076 Posts
On June 04 2016 02:39 Volband wrote: Strawberry or menthol chewing gum? Do I bring up the word "date" in any possible way? Do I ask her if she'd like something to drink? Right now I could talk for 100 days straight; should I go for it and be energetic, or should I keep pauses if she can't seem to interject anything? Be inquisitive and friendly. Don't let on that you're a human being. Absolutely make some sort of physical contact during the first date, or there won't be a second one. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
haha what? Should you let on that you're a sex alien sent from space to rock her world?  | ||
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Jealous
10321 Posts
On June 04 2016 02:18 Volband wrote: !!EMERGENCY!! What the fuck guys I'M coming back... anyway, no time for details, I accidentally met with girl number 2 (you know, the one all over the place). I instantly recognized her, though she was chubbier than in the pictures, but when I looked back at her she turned her head. All right, I got it. But then 1 min later she called me if it was me, blahblah and she said well now she's free for... yeah, she's free. Obviously I'm dropping a shower, and she said we can meet anywhere now cuz it's not a date yet, but still, what the fuck am I doing? Be me? Is she crazy? Damn, I hate when I have no time to plan ahead, I said I'll be there in 40 mins.. from now. I don't even have an energy drink at me - yes, it helps, come on now, I don'T drink coffee. HELP Wow bro. Calm down lol. It's a female and you are meeting with her, this happens to billions of people around the world on a daily basis, you don't need to have it planned and scheduled like a military timetable. Strawberry or mint gum? Lol, whichever one you like more, I guarantee it won't make much difference to her. | ||
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
I don't know if this is too late by now, but just relax, don't try and force anything. If everything is going fine on a walk, you don't have to force things over to drinks. If you do go for drinks, you don't have to force things to somewhere else. Looking unrelaxed isn't a good thing. | ||
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TheDougler
Canada8309 Posts
She said she didn't want a relationship. I played it cool, asked if she wanted to just be friends (she's a SUPER cool chick, and would even be an awesome study buddy tbh). So we go to have our breakup moving towards being friends convo... BUT NOPE! I start getting these mixed signals that just don't make sense. So I just ask her what's going on, why did we break up, what's on your mind? Figured it out . Don't want to disclose it here, wouldn't be fair to her. I told her we'd work through it. What matters is I'm into her, she's into me, if we've got that then we can figure out the rest. She liked that. She liked that a lot. Think that's its for me on here for a while fam. Thanks for all the advice and the words of support. Means a lot. Good luck out there fellas! | ||
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Uldridge
Belgium5160 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45926 Posts
Let us know how it goes | ||
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Volband
Hungary6034 Posts
I need to sleep on this though to assess where I'm at now. Maybe write more in details once it's not 4 am, but I rather not write a complete summary of the night because I don't want to disrespect her - nor to trigger some people. My arm is fucking broken anyway; no one told me it's this tiring. Anyway, you know your night was trashy when you have pussy blood on your T-shirt. Also, I think so far I passed "getting out of my comfort zone" with flying colors. To think how we crossed path today by accident... | ||
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Uldridge
Belgium5160 Posts
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arb
Noobville17922 Posts
what does this mean idk. weve never even met | ||
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