EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 423
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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gTank
Austria2666 Posts
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Slayers_Red.Cracker
36 Posts
On February 27 2014 22:45 gTank wrote: How soon is too soon? I would say at least one year before even asking. Breakups after such long relationships are hard to get over with, you can never know when she has a breakdown and some hidden feelings appear again. I always use the 1234 rule of thumb: 1 year 2 months 3 weeks and 4 days is sort of the time it takes for it to be okay. But it might be a week shorter or longer depending on personality. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46428 Posts
On February 27 2014 23:39 Slayers_Red.Cracker wrote: I always use the 1234 rule of thumb: 1 year 2 months 3 weeks and 4 days is sort of the time it takes for it to be okay. But it might be a week shorter or longer depending on personality. That's a "rule"? Exactly that? Regardless of whether it's a month-long relationship or a ten-year relationship??? | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
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MightyBill
93 Posts
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fishjie
United States1519 Posts
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farvacola
United States18869 Posts
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Snotling
Germany885 Posts
On February 28 2014 04:17 fishjie wrote: bro code exists for a reason. you realise that the bro code doesn't actually exist? | ||
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corumjhaelen
France6884 Posts
Not that anything of the sort ever happened to me ! | ||
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Epishade
United States2267 Posts
Never date friend's exes unless you're prepared to lose them both. | ||
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Thienan567
United States670 Posts
On February 28 2014 04:41 Snotling wrote: you realise that the bro code doesn't actually exist? it doesn't exist if you don't have any bros. like the guy above you said the bro code is flexible and varies for different brotherhoods. | ||
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fishjie
United States1519 Posts
On February 28 2014 04:41 Snotling wrote: you realise that the bro code doesn't actually exist? that's a pretty meaningless statement. you might as well say no codes of conduct "exist". whatever i'm not here to argue pointless semantics like that. bottom line is, don't have sex with your friend's ex. unless you like drama and being shunned and losing your friends. | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
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farvacola
United States18869 Posts
On February 28 2014 07:47 fishjie wrote: that's a pretty meaningless statement. you might as well say no codes of conduct "exist". whatever i'm not here to argue pointless semantics like that. bottom line is, don't have sex with your friend's ex. unless you like drama and being shunned and losing your friends. The bottom line is, fishjie's friends are the only kinds of friends that exist, and nobody has ever felt differently about an ex, ever. It is known. | ||
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fishjie
United States1519 Posts
On February 28 2014 08:48 farvacola wrote: The bottom line is, fishjie's friends are the only kinds of friends that exist, and nobody has ever felt differently about an ex, ever. It is known. These are basic common sense things such as don't date a coworker who works on the same team as you. you can ignore them and suffer the consequences while everyone else enjoys the lulz, or you can make good life choices | ||
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On February 28 2014 05:11 Epishade wrote: Don't people and their exes usually end up getting back together? I've not dated anybody, but I've seen multiple instances of this occurring. I think the close proximity of being a friend to the friend whose ex you're dating would likely end up with her cheating on you and then you losing both your friend and the girl. (Just using "you" in general) Never date friend's exes unless you're prepared to lose them both. Myself and my blogs exemplify this. | ||
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Calanthe
United States148 Posts
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Kleinmuuhg
Vanuatu4091 Posts
On February 28 2014 10:14 fishjie wrote: These are basic common sense things such as don't date a coworker who works on the same team as you. you can ignore them and suffer the consequences while everyone else enjoys the lulz, or you can make good life choices Shit i have to gtell my married colleagues that is was a Bad idea and they need to Split asap | ||
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terranallin
22 Posts
http://stuffseurasianslike.wordpress.com/2013/07/14/9/ Not written by me just passing it along. + Show Spoiler + Disturbing indeed | ||
dravernor
Netherlands6192 Posts
On February 28 2014 19:24 terranallin wrote: Since a lot of the TL'ers have an interest for asian women and that TL advertises them, how about lets read a blog concerning the type of son you will get from a white dad and asian mum: http://stuffseurasianslike.wordpress.com/2013/07/14/9/ Not written by me just passing it along. + Show Spoiler + Disturbing indeed He has issues. That's an attitude problem though. It took me ages to come to terms with the fact my parents are incredibly racist and homophobic, but now I've stopped worrying what they think because it's not up to them to determine who I can and can't be happy with etc. I also disagree with their pov because I find it narrow minded and I like to prove that stereotyping people based on one or two bad interactions, or word of mouth, is stupid. It is a parent's job to bring up their child to accept themselves, and I think the author of that article has a lot of self loathing issues to deal with that his parents never taught him to work through. | ||
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