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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
But that may be only me. | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
On February 24 2014 09:38 arb wrote: I mean yes its bad to assume that, but they are there to make money, and they have to manipulative and good with people to get what they want, that is kinda bothering me and has been since it all happened. Plus baby daddy is always a huge nono. I couldnt care less she strips or has a kid, but a baby daddy being an "active" part of their lives is something that noone should get their hopes up and not many people can deal with the fact you're never going to be before him no matter what if he's still in the picture To be fair it could just be a shared custody type thing. | ||
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Dogfoodboy16
364 Posts
On February 24 2014 09:57 KaiserKieran wrote: So as a high school student what are good date options? Keep in mind of have to have someone drive us and i have limited moolah. I really like this girl and is like to do something with her. I'm getting tickets to a west side story musical which I think might be fun. Does anyone have any advice? Start dating one of your hot teachers. That's kind of a thing in the states anyway. Kill 2 birds with one stone  | ||
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chadissilent
Canada1187 Posts
On February 24 2014 02:40 Calanthe wrote: Holy shit, you guys. Strippers are people! Let's treat them like they are people! Strippers are about as much "people" as redheads. | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On February 24 2014 10:38 chadissilent wrote: Strippers are about as much "people" as redheads. I feel like it is just some big string of shit that im probably over reacting or overthinking, either way i dunno. my luck with females is non existent and this only validates my point | ||
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KaiserKieran
United States615 Posts
On February 24 2014 10:28 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: Start dating one of your hot teachers. That's kind of a thing in the states anyway. Kill 2 birds with one stone Nice idea but I already found a date I just need a good date idea like going out to dinner or something. Nice try though. | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On February 24 2014 11:06 KaiserKieran wrote: Nice idea but I already found a date I just need a good date idea like going out to dinner or something. Nice try though. you should try to find what kinda stuff she enjoys, id def not go to a musical if she doesnt like them. dinner is always good, just get a feel for her really dood | ||
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KaiserKieran
United States615 Posts
On February 24 2014 11:07 arb wrote: you should try to find what kinda stuff she enjoys, id def not go to a musical if she doesnt like them. dinner is always good, just get a feel for her really dood Why the hell did I not think of that...she does poms but I don't really know what else. I will find out an report back. Man I love this thread. | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On February 24 2014 11:22 KaiserKieran wrote: Why the hell did I not think of that...she does poms but I don't really know what else. I will find out an report back. Man I love this thread. you dont have to be upfront you can beat around the bush and then base it off that if youre not feeling being direct about it | ||
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crappen
Norway1546 Posts
On February 24 2014 02:06 IgnE wrote: Why do you think you were chosen from among the clientele? What is different about you? Does she give you a reason for her selection of you? Ehm, how about ATM was written all over his head? Nothing wrong with that, I'd say go for it, but if the price is too high, better save that money for vacation somewhere else. My only regret after fucking women for money, is "why the fuck dont I treat myself more often". And I'm talking about the worst case scenario >D | ||
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Eisregen
Germany967 Posts
On February 24 2014 11:06 KaiserKieran wrote: Nice idea but I already found a date I just need a good date idea like going out to dinner or something. Nice try though. I actually prefer to cook dinner and eat together or to pack good and tasty things into a backpack and go outside with her, watching the sunset, enjoying something to drink and good food (a good cheese, bread etc etc), depending on the weather though ;D Depends on the taste of your date aswell, but most girls I know and would date, prefer those non standard things much more than "lets go out and eat sth". There is so much more feeling in it | ||
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Copymizer
Denmark2104 Posts
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
On February 25 2014 00:03 Eisregen wrote: I actually prefer to cook dinner and eat together or to pack good and tasty things into a backpack and go outside with her, watching the sunset, enjoying something to drink and good food (a good cheese, bread etc etc), depending on the weather though ; I prefer that as well. Most people live around some body of water, and where there are river or the sea, there are other pleasant places as well. Just take her to a nice and quiet place, have a nibble and a bit to drink and enjoy the silence (and preferably the sun, but that's not always possible, obviously). | ||
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Acrofales
Spain18187 Posts
On February 25 2014 01:10 Copymizer wrote: girl i wrote to last friday on fb if she wanted to have coffee together hasn't messaged me back :/. i hate when it's just complete ignore.. It was a message on facebook. I often don't respond to those either. Unless you were chatting a lot with her and felt like you were getting along, I wouldn't have expected a response. | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On February 25 2014 01:10 Copymizer wrote: girl i wrote to last friday on fb if she wanted to have coffee together hasn't messaged me back :/. i hate when it's just complete ignore.. This is life. Get used to it. | ||
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Esoterikk
Canada1256 Posts
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Khenra
Netherlands885 Posts
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Dogfoodboy16
364 Posts
On February 25 2014 02:42 Esoterikk wrote: GF of 3 years broke up with me this morning, pretty tame breakup but lost my best friend and am pretty devastated. maybe wrong thread who knows. left without a best friend and no one to talk to (she was who i talked to) This song cheers me up whenever I break up with a girl. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
We had a very unpleasant conversation and I feel rather terrible about it. My question is: is there any way to recover from that and 'salvage' the 'relationship' to become friends? I figured I'd give her space for a few weeks / months and then write her a letter. By that point, she'll hopefully have a new dude and we can just hang out every once in a while. | ||
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Ahzz
Finland780 Posts
On February 25 2014 20:00 SixStrings wrote: I had to shut down a girl I have been sleeping with when she asked me to be her boyfriend. We had a very unpleasant conversation and I feel rather terrible about it. My question is: is there any way to recover from that and 'salvage' the 'relationship' to become friends? I figured I'd give her space for a few weeks / months and then write her a letter. By that point, she'll hopefully have a new dude and we can just hang out every once in a while. This is all a matter of perspective I suppose, so some may agree with me while others won't... But why were you sleeping with a girl you don't have any interest in going further with? If both of you had talked about having ONLY casual sex before with no strings attached, there should not have been a big fight about it. So it seems that you didn't talk about it. Why? It's as if you realized that she probably wouldn't have sex with you if she knew you had no further intentions. You could say that it swings both ways, but honestly, IMO if you start a sexual relationship it's 100% up to YOU to make it clear that you don't want to go further with it, especially if you value the friendship behind it. Do you value her as a friend? If yes, why didn't you talk about it, it should be obvious that these things can jeopardize friendship, especially without making things clear beforehand. However, if you had indeed talked about it beforehand, how this is only sex and no relationship stuff involved, then you should reflect on why the argument escalated so much. Obviously there must have been some misunderstandings. Once you understand why it escalated and you can relate to her feelings, then yeah, approach her and try to fix it. Preferrably in person or through phone IMHO. Also, I'm just a random guy in the internet with different values than you, and I don't know the full story of anything you do, but from your posting it seems as if you end up hurting women around you relatively often. Arguments and disagreements happen, thats part of life and all, but just consider the possibility that your lifestyle of easily having sex may be catching up to you. It just seems to me as if you value the sex more than the friendship with a lot of people, and that would indicate to me that you may want to develop a little bit more respect for others and yourself too. You should save yourself from all this trouble, sex shouldn't be worth the drama every time imo. | ||
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