Sex = OP in society? - Page 32

On August 31 2011 17:05 TerlocSG wrote:
I think the point of this thread might have fallen between the cracks of some of the discussion taking place here.

The word I focus on the most in the title is "Society." We all know sex is fun (porn) and its important (reproduction), but the idea about looking at it in a social context brings up a different issue. I guess how I read the question is: Is sex too important in today's society? Important might be a bad word but I have a horrible vocabulary and if I think of the right word I'll change it.

What I think about with this question is more along the lines of how young adults are acting towards sex. I choose young adults for 2 reasons: 1. I'm one of them, I'm 19, and 2. They're the "next" generation as I see it (I kind of see the world as children [0-17], young adults [18~25], older adults [25~65], and seniors [65+]), so soon the young adults will be the main force in the workforce, voting more, and generally running the world. That might be a gross oversimplification of how the world works, but its how I've recently started seeing the world.

Anyway, the way I've noticed young adults treating sex as of late is scary to me. It seems like sex dominates people's minds in college (again, using college because I'm in college). I don't know how college was 30 years ago, and I don't know how it will be 30 years from now, but right now sex seems to be in everyone's top 3 priorities in college. I'm not saying this should change, but maybe the balance should shift a little (OP reference? eh, eh?). It seems like to the majority of students it goes: 1. Party, 2. Sex, 3. School, where 1 and 2 are interchangeable depending on what the person prefers. This isn't a bad list, I guess mine is similar, but the order and %'s involved frighten me. Of course I'm speculating here and I have no proof, but it seems like its a 40/40/20 split for these options.

Now this leads me back to my original idea of what the thread is asking. I say a 40/40/20 split with school taking the 20 is horrible for society. I would prefer to see something more to a 70/15/15 split with school in the number one spot. I think sex, and partying/drinking/drugs, are extremely OP in society. Sex and partying has become the main goal for most students.* This could be a problem, but since I cannot compare this to my experience with college 30 years ago, for obvious reasons, I have no idea how this will effect the world once my generation becomes the most powerful generation.

* = This is what I observe at my university (University of Arizona). Again, its just what it feels like to me. All my numbers are made up, none of my points can be proven, but I'm willing to argue any of them, or explain in more detail if need be.

On July 22 2011 11:41 UniversalSnip wrote:
Can't knock it till you try it.

You know... so to speak.

On August 31 2011 17:34 InfernoStarcraft wrote:
I'd say sex is entirely over rated. I'm 19 and I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, I'd say of all the experience that we've had together sex is the least significant or meaningful.

If your not bothered by being a virgin then where your at is perfectly fine, if it bothers you then you can always do something about it

But IMO people who chase sex and sex alone are generally pretty shallow.

Knuckle-draggers gonna hate but what can you do?

On August 31 2011 17:21 positron. wrote:

I wish that 40/40/20 spit were true. The guys who place sex and party ahead of school are dumb. We all should be thankful that they are that dumb. There will be way less competition later on. "In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women." How do you make money without resorting to the way of Tony Montana? Be good at school.

On August 31 2011 18:50 Cel.erity wrote:
In my opinion, being a virgin at 20 means two things:

1. Never been in a serious relationship.

2. Not desirable or sociable enough to hook up with friends/random girls.

Of course, there's always the religious fanatic/asexual option, but we're not really talking about that considering the tone of the OP.

When someone tells me they're a virgin, my opinion of them as a person doesn't exactly change, but in basically all cases it's because they are antisocial or in some way strange. I have plenty of antisocial/strange friends. However, wanting sex is the most natural thing for human beings, so the only two options for a 20-year old virgin are that they don't want it (strange) or they can't get it (not strange, but unfortunate).

I think the OP's point is that most people assume virgins are all in the second category, and that is true, because most people can't imagine someone who doesn't care about sex. Therefore they assume you really want sex like they do, and call you a loser for not being able to get it. There is some merit to this point of view, since getting laid is pretty much the easiest thing in the world if you have any social skills.

Note, I don't think you need to troll clubs and sleep with 10 women a week to be cool, but having one or two committed relationships would also make you a non-virgin, and even more cool.

On August 31 2011 19:41 lyrlian wrote:


Most true post in this thread, exactly wording my thoughts on the subject!

On August 31 2011 19:39 lyrlian wrote:


You don't actually believe this, do you? Sounds like you're saying that going to a party and/or having sex makes you a bad student.

On August 31 2011 21:24 Akhee wrote:


this guy want power to get women



haha~ t_t