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On topic, yeah sex is a little OP these days, the entertainment industry has just latched right onto the sex appeal and is milking it for all its worth. Whether or not you've had sex is really not a huge deal, its not like upon first getting laid you suddenly gain some intangible awesomeness that makes you more of a person.
That being said, sex is pretty fantastic. I've been with girls both in and out of relationships and had a great time in both. The situations are very different from one another but they all came down to the fact that sex feels great and its completely natural to want it.
I think a lot of it comes down to attitude, if you go in worried that its going to be bad or that you'll do a terrible job it just losses it's fun. Personal choice thing really.
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Imagine if nobody cared or had ever cared about sex. Nobody tried to dress up and act cool or go on dates etc. With all that free time we'd probably be exploring other galaxies now. The top priority would no longer be sex. I'd sure like to be exploring other galaxies and living in a star wars type world. Sex has been holding us back for way too long.
Sex might've been useful back in the old days but today it's holding us back for sure. Instead of focusing on things that actually matter we're driven by this annoying instinct to have sex.
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On August 06 2011 05:14 Drizzt3 wrote: Sex is overrated, and usually not worth it. It's fun while it lasts, but then it ends up filling you with regret and self hate, even if nothing bad happens (i.e. she gets pregnant or you get STD fucked).
Could you please inform us what kind of sex you have been having so we know to avoid it...
Regards.
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On August 06 2011 05:53 UkGracken wrote:Show nested quote +On August 06 2011 05:14 Drizzt3 wrote: Sex is overrated, and usually not worth it. It's fun while it lasts, but then it ends up filling you with regret and self hate, even if nothing bad happens (i.e. she gets pregnant or you get STD fucked). Could you please inform us what kind of sex you have been having so we know to avoid it... Regards. Yeah, there are a lot of people saying "sex isn't that great." Quit lying to make OP feel better.
It's truly the best. With someone you love, or with someone you find very attractive. Unless one or both of you sucks at it. I'm personally awesome but have had negative experiences with girls who you know, do nothing.
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Having sex earlier, is pretty much a lot like drugs or alcohol, pretty much in the sense is that in social circles, it breaks innocence. That I mean while sex is not actually important in a practical sense, socially people perceive having sex as a sense of being older and more mature, whether or not that is the case. And someone being mature, or even perceived mature is actually really, really important.
And on the point sex sells, it isnt entirely related to what the OP is saying that sex is overplayed in social confines.
And when people say, sex is bad like "omfg we're going to get STDs and be pregnant!" it is actually a lot of misinformation. Yes, if you have sex with 15 different people a month, the chances of you getting an STD is actually quite high. But I mean, if youre smart, wear condoms, pick a potential sex partner right, I.E. Not a gigantic whore who doesnt shower, and be assertive and say, if you have any STDs this is a no go, and even if she lies to you, condoms and other precautions should keep you safe.
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If you've started talking to your penis having sex is the least of your problems.
You gotta let it know your on the same team man.....otherwise it starts to do funny shit like convince you sex isn't what you want......Being a guy means being HARD WIRED for sex.....thats genetics (I do have a degree in genetics/cell molecular biology) you can convince yourself that it isn't what you want or that its overrated or blah blah, but the reason men jerk it so fukin often is simply because we want SEX! end of story.....feeling guilty for it, being hard on yourself for it, not having confidence enough to get it is all part of our mind giving up on it because we arent giving the body what its telling us to give it.....to be a male is to chase pussy.....that is our end goal in life to procreate and make sure our species survives.....this mechanism was put there for a reason, so convincing yourself that you are a bad person for wanting it or a bad person for actually doing it is absurd to me(to me it is absurd, but that is my OPINION plz dont feel you have to start a flame war with me over this comment)......not everyone is the same, but it seems wrong to me that people would build it up in their heads that having sex somehow makes them a bad person.
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On July 22 2011 11:42 shifty wrote: Not to try to piss you off, although it probably will.
Anyone I've ever heard say what you said it means they are usually horrible looking and are scared to death about talking to women. Even religious people.
The only other option is you are super religious and haven't ever seen a beautiful women.
EDIT: Actually the other option could be that you are gay
Gays can't have sex? Also I believe he mentioned that he planned to start a family. Fuck off.
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No "op" discussions on tl? Right??
Joking. In my dealings with people the only time I've found people make fun of other people being virgins is in high school and online (which is basically high school). In college the most people make of it is, "why are you bringing up you being a virgin? Lets go play video games/do something athletic/get coffee/smoke."
My advice: Don't worry too much about sex, it'll happen when it happens and if it you try to force it with someone you aren't too interested in, well you either just committed a felony or you'll end up being disappointed. Not that you'll be disappointed if you don't get a felony.
If someone says. "lol you're a virgin that means you're a loser" they're probably very insecure with themselves. Worry more about that test on Wednesday, it's a toughie and your getting your college degree rides on it.
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On August 06 2011 08:11 Nacl(Draq) wrote: No "op" discussions on tl? Right??
Joking. In my dealings with people the only time I've found people make fun of other people being virgins is in high school and online (which is basically high school). In college the most people make of it is, "why are you bringing up you being a virgin? Lets go play video games/do something athletic/get coffee/smoke."
My advice: Don't worry too much about sex, it'll happen when it happens and if it you try to force it with someone you aren't too interested in, well you either just committed a felony or you'll end up being disappointed. Not that you'll be disappointed if you don't get a felony.
If someone says. "lol you're a virgin that means you're a loser" they're probably very insecure with themselves. Worry more about that test on Wednesday, it's a toughie and your getting your college degree rides on it. Anyone can have sex if they're willing to lower their standards and try hard enough. So yeah, being a virgin is nbd. But sex is great. I will not back down on that.
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If you don't want to have sex and your confidence is not negatively impacted by that then more power to you. I doubt that that is true though. The question isn't really what people think about you or anyone not having sex. The question is do you want to have sex. I wanted to lose mine because I was eager to experience it. Also, I wanted to "get it over with" so I would feel more confident and not like a weirdo. Although I wouldn't recommend rushing into it when the first opportunity arises like I did, I would recommend finding someone to develop a relationship with. A real relationship with a girl can't be beat. Sex is just one part of something that everybody essentially needs: an intimate relationship. Our society does put a lot of emphasis on sex, but hell, fuck em. Lol, silly puns.
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Was wondering why this got bumped. Thought maybe OP got laid. guess not :/
OT: sex is not only the deepest emotional connection you can have with a person, its also something you can do just for fun. Dont sweat it.
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Think about it from a biological standpoint. The most rudimentary "goal" in life is to reproduce. Sex is no more OP than it was 5,000 years ago.
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Doesn't matter how society views it at all. If you're waiting for your special someone and haven't found her by 21, this doesn't reflect badly on you or your chances in the future. Enjoy life without it in the meantime =)
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On August 31 2011 10:17 Danglars wrote: Doesn't matter how society views it at all. If you're waiting for your special someone and haven't found her by 21, this doesn't reflect badly on you or your chances in the future. Enjoy life without it in the meantime =)
Yeah, just don't try to sell him out for a crime he didn't commit just because you're jealous he's captain :\
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Good sex is wonderful. Bad sex is embarrassing or uncomfortable or unpleasant. And, yes, sex is a bit too hyped up in hollywood and pop culture. Men who think and therefor portray through different mediums this premature perception of sex (The one that says it's the only reason to having a relationship with a woman) is generally the type of dude who has self esteem issues and likes to sit with similarly minded buddies and brag about all the girls he did (or did not do?)
Good things to be thinking about IMHO.
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If someone was actively pursuing a sex life without success, then I would say that social skills isn't one of their strong points. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin in your middle ages when sex isn't one of your priorities. Sure for animals sexual reproduction is an important aspect of living, but humans have developed to a point where there are so many meaningful ways to live your life, and sex is only a drop in the ocean. If someone loses their virginity at age 35 when he decides to have children, I see nothing wrong with that.
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On August 06 2011 05:50 Deadlyfish wrote:Imagine if nobody cared or had ever cared about sex. Nobody tried to dress up and act cool or go on dates etc. With all that free time we'd probably be exploring other galaxies now. The top priority would no longer be sex. I'd sure like to be exploring other galaxies and living in a star wars type world. Sex has been holding us back for way too long. Sex might've been useful back in the old days but today it's holding us back for sure. Instead of focusing on things that actually matter we're driven by this annoying instinct to have sex. 
I agree with this 100%, With spaceships we could bone women from other planets Captain Kirk style. You trying to tell me you don't want to hook up with one of those green slave girls? We need to keep our eyes on the prize here as a planet and focus so that we can start having sex with alien women.
On a serious note, I've got some advice for the people in this thread who are QQing in their sex life.
learning to meet girls is a skill just like anything else. Take SC2 for instance, if all you do is cannon rush every time, you might get a few quick wins in, but ultimately you're going to be predictable and lonely and nobody will respect you, you'll end up kind of like Combat Ex. On the inverse, if all you ever do is play out the long term macro style, waiting for only the safest choices, you're going to miss out on a lot of potential wins, and other people who think and react more quickly will end up eating your lunch. You need to read the situation and determine how to react properly at all times.
Then there's the third type you see here, they don't even play the game. They might have slow hands or minds, they might get nervous really easy and lose games they should have won, instead of focusing and improving their skills they panic and give up. They post a bunch of QQ about how it's the games fault, and circumstances are against them, when in fact they just needed to focus and develop themselves.
Winning, and girls have one thing in common, they are drawn to confidence. So just remember, no matter how much you think your hand sucks, there is a guy fatter, dumber, nerdier, and more obnoxious than you who has a hot girlfriend because he believes in himself.
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On August 06 2011 05:50 Deadlyfish wrote: Take SC2 for instance, if all you do is cannon rush every time, you might get a few quick wins in, but ultimately you're going to be predictable and lonely and nobody will respect you, you'll end up kind of like Combat Ex.
I literally laughed out loud
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Strangely enough, this was posted on the day I lost my virginity. It was fantastic.
However, I think it does not matter when you have sex as long as both of you feel ready for it. Yeah, there's a bit of pressure at school to lose your virginity, especially among my more douchey buddies, but I've never bragged about it to my high school friends at large. She and I just decided to tell a couple close friends and continued on ^^
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Dude,
If you want to have sex, just have sex. If you don't want, well better for all of us who want. But if you do want, and you can't. Don't go around looking for sex, just start taking care of yourself. It's not actually that hard.
But Sex is no OP at all, it's just too fucking good. That's it. Don't create threads about sex being OP again. Ty
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