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On July 24 2011 16:59 firehand101 wrote:
Everything is about sex because it is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO GOOD
seriously, holding the one you love passionately comes second only to starcraft
See, you also cant believe this kind of hype. people will many times hype it in their own imagination to make it stand up the the gold standard they had preset in their mind before ever doing it. if people do it with lame movies, people can obviously do it with sex. Additionally, orgasms help them. But honestly, I fantasize about it, but actually doing it is dull to me. I dont think its so great. maybe my man parts arent sensitive enough, but it takes a lot of effort to approach anything "great".
the only way you will know whether its "Z0MG AMAZING U MUST DO CAUSE I SAY ITS GREAT" or not, is to try it yourself.
Some people will have this kind of condescending pity for you if you dont like you're missing out, but the fact is life is different for everyone and everything. there is no standard, which is a bullshit society mass answer that if you dont fit within all these guidelines, you failed at life. its what leads to depressed suicidal older people. Life is life. yours is not theirs, not everyone can live the same way. If anyone ever pities you (which is really a slimy self satisfied way of putting down you and what you do with your life), give them the finger and know you're happy with yourself.
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Hey. There are many older people that are still a virgin. You can blame the society for the pressure you're experiencing. In Asia, it's a truly sacred thing - even a kiss is a big thing. So dont worry man. Religious or not, the time will come. Just dont give in to peer pressure.
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I don't feel like sex itself is that overrated. But I don't mean, that it's super important, just that most of the people around me do see it as something nice and fun to have but not as the deciding thing in ones life - so, at least from my point of view "society" does not overrate it. Just read through this thread, and it pretty much looks the same.
Much more so are relationships. I'd say most people have the belief, that you absolutely must have a "partner", to be able to have a fulfilled life, or whatever.
In my opinion it is important to have people around you, whom you like, share your thoughts with etc., still dependent on the person, for some more, for others less (for me more^^), but the whole idea (or at least to a large extend) of this couple-stuff is really made up and held high by society.
I think you can get everything, you get from a boy-/girlfriend, from other people, too, the only question is, if you like and trust them enough to share the same things. That said, I don't want to say, that I recommend having sex with every person you like enough, everyone has to decide for himself what's right for him, and of course the people around him, who entrust things to him. I more or less only want to say, that you can be happy without having a girlfriend at all, I do need people that I can talk to and get hugged by, once in a while - but I have other people beside my girlfriend, who would suffice. And although I love her, my lifes luck does not depend on her and I definitely would not want her to bear that burden.
(Things might change a little once children come into play - but in the moment I still have some time until then...  )
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Jeez......It seems to me that the ones who haven't had sex, or even the ones that have, are overthinking the hell out of it....(why is it good, what will i gain from it, why should I want it, etc...) Go out and get your dicks wet and then tell me why you want it........seeing a fine chick on top of you letting you do pretty much whatever you want to her lovely lady parts is FUCKING.....AWESOME!!!!
I mean that feeling skin on skin, and knowing that you are doing something to this girl that makes her scream your name and vibrate like a tuning fork on top of you should be reason enough, but if a computer social life or a life without sex in general is enough for you then its enough for you.....no judgement, but stop thinking with your brains so god damned much and ask your penis what it wants, because i see alot of ppl in this thread that need to have an in depth conversation with their penis and ask it, for once, what it wants......
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On August 06 2011 03:50 MaliciousMirth wrote:
because i see alot of ppl in this thread that need to have an in depth conversation with their penis and ask it, for once, what it wants......
If you've started talking to your penis having sex is the least of your problems.
To the OP... of course it's a big deal. Your entire existence is the result of a long chain of successful screwing. That doesn't mean you have to care... it's just a fact. Love and everything that goes with it is necessary to make more of you; so your unconscious makes dam sure you know what to do.
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To quote my Grade 6 Sex-Ed video:
"If you do it -- it's normal!
If you don't do it-- it's normal!"
Nuff said.
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Casual Sex is promoted as awesome, but it is not. Sex with someone you love and commit to is as good as it gets
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On August 06 2011 04:47 nukeazerg wrote:
Casual Sex is promoted as awesome, but it is not. Sex with someone you love and commit to is as good as it gets
What makes you think you are qualified enough to make such statements? Not that I have much experience on having sex with loved ones, but for me it's completely based on how good she is in bed. Sex may be amazing with active and emotional girls, and really dull with ones who lay like a corpse, overdo with fake screaming or do something as bad.
Casual sex also comes without lots of disadvantages of having long-term relationship, that's what's really important.
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Sex is overrated, and usually not worth it. It's fun while it lasts, but then it ends up filling you with regret and self hate, even if nothing bad happens (i.e. she gets pregnant or you get STD fucked).
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that said, sex with someone you really care about and are in a long term relationship with is the shit 
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On August 06 2011 05:14 Drizzt3 wrote:
Sex is overrated, and usually not worth it. It's fun while it lasts, but then it ends up filling you with regret and self hate, even if nothing bad happens (i.e. she gets pregnant or you get STD fucked).
 I wish I could share with you the joy which me and so many others in the world get from sex, both with people whom you are long term emotionally involved with and with people who you might not be as long term connected with. Sadly I think you are a guy, and I don't swing that way. But even so, the best of luck too you.
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People make a big deal out of it cause its fun as hell also its a natural human instinct to reproduce.
Its just a little surprising people can get to the age of 20+ without having sex. Like I'm sure no one in this thread is that ugly that you can't find a girl or guy that likes you. Once you're together for a bit it just natrualy turns to sex.
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I've actually noticed a trend, which is that people who try to impress upon everyone that there is a direct correlation between how successful you are in life and how much pussy you get tend to actually make very poor life choices over all. When I lost my virginity, I didn't feel any different, it didn't change the way I looked at life, and if anything it just started the rumor mill. It felt good, but I could have gotten the same immediate result by beating off.
People have sex to orgasm. Or to start a family. I personally believe that anyone who tells you differently and genuinely means it has a lot of growing up to do.
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On August 06 2011 05:14 Drizzt3 wrote:
Sex is overrated, and usually not worth it. It's fun while it lasts, but then it ends up filling you with regret and self hate, even if nothing bad happens (i.e. she gets pregnant or you get STD fucked).
Uhm, I'd most probably go visit a shrink if I would be filled with regret and self-hate after having sex. That doesn't sound like right reaction from biological standpoint.
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I'm with a beautiful girlfriend and yet we don't have any sort of sexual relations. Clothes stay on, hands away from the business zones. We have a great time, love each other very much, and I fully intend on being with her for a long long time. I'm 23 and she's 21.
Sex is way overblown in today's society. It's the reason why 15 year old girls come into clinics with snapple caps stuck in their cha-cha because they didn't have a condom and why 14 year olds come in to check out oral STDs because they played the "rainbow game" at church camp. These are real stories that just occurred last week.
Seriously. When you get married will you honestly want to have said "yup hunny I've been with two dozen other girls?" Will you want her to say something similar back? Sure there are the junkies that are convincing themselves that the sacrifice of sharing intimatacy with your wife is worth having more experience resulting in better sex.... although news flash.... you can get quite a bit of experience with your wife too.
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On July 24 2011 18:18 cursor wrote:
Secondly, it's the prime motivator for most people's behavior. Which I think on some level is primal and genetic, but on another level is socially imposed. I do enjoy sex (no more, but probably the same as most people)... but try to not let it drive my life. I mean... it's just sad all the people I see who are all about how they look, what they drive, their makeup or clothes, working a TON for money, their image, all kinds of time wasted on some image to get sex. Going clubbing, washing your car 3X a week- obsessed with your looks- its 90% of people I know.
I wish people were a lot more high minded. We all like sex, given. But like... do something with your time, learn something, read, get good at something or develop some skill or contribute your best to society. Don't just become another moron obsessed with tail. There are plenty of those dumbasses out there- and bottom line is you're going to get it anyways in 95% of instances, just being yourself and meeting people.
Such a great post, one of the best i've read here.
Indeed, the problem is how such a HUGE part of society is geared towards sex - exactly as you said. Everything is about how much money you make, what you wear, what car you drive, how big your house is, how green your lawn is, how big your biceps/abs are. This is, what's really gone over the edge the last 10-20 years.
Everyone is so obsessed with these superficial things, wastes basicly his whole life striving to achieve things from the aforementioned list. Money, power, looks...I have to stop, it just makes me so angry and gives me a headache.
The funny thing is, I was once exactly like that, then realized that all this crap just doesn't matter.
THIS is, what's really OP in society.
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On August 06 2011 05:21 VonLego wrote:
I'm with a beautiful girlfriend and yet we don't have any sort of sexual relations. Clothes stay on, hands away from the business zones. We have a great time, love each other very much, and I fully intend on being with her for a long long time. I'm 23 and she's 21.
Sex is way overblown in today's society. It's the reason why 15 year old girls come into clinics with snapple caps stuck in their cha-cha because they didn't have a condom and why 14 year olds come in to check out oral STDs because they played the "rainbow game" at church camp. These are real stories that just occurred last week.
Seriously. When you get married will you honestly want to have said "yup hunny I've been with two dozen other girls?" Will you want her to say something similar back? Sure there are the junkies that are convincing themselves that the sacrifice of sharing intimatacy with your wife is worth having more experience resulting in better sex.... although news flash.... you can get quite a bit of experience with your wife too.
I think that its important to be sexually compatible with your SO. Sex is a very normal and important part of our human nature.
For me, I like to know that both I and my eventual life-partner have explored our sexual preferences and quirks enough to know that together we are compatible both mentally and physically-- which includes sexual compatibility. In any potential long-term relationship I have, the sex part is just as important as any other in a relationship... Why would I be with someone for 5 years, and when I finally have sex with that person, dislike the outcome? I'd rather know how we work out in the sack before devoting a very large portion of my life to them.
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On July 22 2011 11:48 57 Corvette wrote:
Imo i think it is like driving. It seems like it is going to be so exciting and awesome, and its gonna make you incredibly cool, but when you are finally able/doing it, it seems underwhelming.
(I hope not though)
It really depends on the situation your first time. It can be good, but people do overemphasize it a lot.
On the flip side, it's also stupid for people to say that you *shouldn't* be losing your virginity early and that you should save yourself until you're in your 20's or until you're married. It all comes down to when you're personally ready for it and whether the person you're having sex with is personally ready for it.
But if you haven't had sex yet, I would definitely recommend doing it with someone you love for the first time. It's much, much better if you love the person you're having sex with.
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On July 22 2011 11:46 Slow Motion wrote:
Sex was OP but it was nerfed in the circumcision patch. See local clergy for download.
Some might say that patch was a buff.
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also consider tese two lines i read on sickipedia
a girl to have sex at 13 is considered a slut
a boy to have sex at 13 is considered a fucking legend
- i see your point after 30 seconds of thought thinking about those lines.
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