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On October 18 2009 11:24 iloveambiguity wrote:Show nested quote +On October 18 2009 10:37 Hypnosis wrote:On October 18 2009 07:27 iloveambiguity wrote:On October 18 2009 05:57 Hypnosis wrote:
One of the best things you can possibly do when you are in a situation with a girl that you like very much and that seems to be into you is to do the unexpected with full force. What this means is do something interesting, bold or just plain cool and do it with all of your energy with no regrets. If you can pull this off more than once in front of the girl on your mind all of the time she will fall for you. then play it off like it was nothing and do something in contrast such as be extremely funny or really smart. If you show different sides of yourself it will really help you out with women, because after all who wants to date or be with a translucent guy. humor is very very important too.
Also its always a good idea to make other guys look bad when you are around girls. This is a dick move but its 100% true. She will trust and be on the side of the biggest asshole without a doubt unless she is a fuckin arts major or something. I think i know what you mean, i got a girl bedded after the second night using exactly this method. the difference was, this girl did like 12 guys in one month, and my current prospect is far from it. i think i will try to overwhelm her with confidence... Im curious, what did that entail lol? Like this: What kind of underwear are you wearing? She goes; ahhh uhhh its is blue with a red stop sign on in me goes: i just want to learn how to please you. later on I think you are hot she goes ahh uhhh i think you are kind of sweet me sweet? how about sexy?? she smiles bluishing, that too... see?
Wittiest rejection ever
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Im curious, what did that entail lol?[/QUOTE]
Like this: What kind of underwear are you wearing?
She goes; ahhh uhhh its is blue with a red stop sign on in
me goes: i just want to learn how to please you.
later on
I think you are hot
she goes ahh uhhh i think you are kind of sweet
me sweet? how about sexy??
she smiles bluishing, that too...
see?
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Wittiest rejection ever
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Point is, it was fake resistance
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Hey - I'm a college student. I'm meeting a lot of people, and I have plenty of self confidence. While I have no trouble getting to know new people (really, no trouble at all. Which puts me in an "ok" category to start with) I have trouble with what to do after that. If a short hookup happens after I learn a name, it's either female initiated, or nearly forced by situation. And rarely does anything go farther than names, a dance or two, and "see you later tonight" even though I know she's interested.
Basically, suggestions on orchestrating conversation on my end? I know I can generate attraction, it's just about channeling what I happen to create.
Thanks.
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On October 18 2009 07:32 YPang wrote:
what do you think about girls that don't seem to really "live in the moment" and enjoy themselves? ya kno sometimes i be like messing with people, and the chick with me just sits and giggles. Is it just her issue?
If you are the spontanious and fun type and the girl giggles and chuckles (non-fake laughs), than she is into it. She may like the way you are confident enough to let shit happen, and to make shit happen. If she doesn't catch on to your "living in the moment" style, than that's her deal.
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On October 18 2009 16:42 phyre112 wrote:
Hey - I'm a college student. I'm meeting a lot of people, and I have plenty of self confidence. While I have no trouble getting to know new people (really, no trouble at all. Which puts me in an "ok" category to start with) I have trouble with what to do after that. If a short hookup happens after I learn a name, it's either female initiated, or nearly forced by situation. And rarely does anything go farther than names, a dance or two, and "see you later tonight" even though I know she's interested.
Basically, suggestions on orchestrating conversation on my end? I know I can generate attraction, it's just about channeling what I happen to create.
Thanks.
phyre112:
Sometimes I like to walk up to an attractive girl and say something outrageous like "What are you?" or "Why are you here?" just to slap the "hot girl ego" right off her mind, so I can then have real conversation with her.
Don't talk about school, or work, or stress related things. Ask what she does for fun. Tell her what you do for fun. Hell, you can make something up: "Did you see that creepy guy in there wearing makeup?"
HOW you say things can be more important than WHAT you say. Talk to a girl for a little, if you can tell she is digging you then get her number and move on. If you see her later on, talk to her more and maybe you can make something happen for the night. If not, who cares? You have her number and you can call her some other day. Just dont make it seem like you are RELYING on one particular female.
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On October 18 2009 03:13 iloveambiguity wrote:
Pretty much all i have seen of women is prostitutes and strippers. And now I am dating a very smart, gorgeous, and nice girl. I had been duche, which is why i attracted messed up women like my stripper ex i used to live with. This new girl likes me to be in charge, but I am sure she does not want me to be a duche. I think I am holding back too much, trying to be super nice to her... She is also conservative christian, so talking about my previous experiences would really hurt my prospects, i believe. I really like her, i finally found a girl who could, in the future, make an excellent wife. How should I handle my relationship with her?
iloveambiguity:
I am glad you stopped being a douchebag, and also that you have found someone you see as a potential wife. May I ask how old you are? Are you still in college?
Many things can happen, and I always tell my friends to be careful when they start throwing around the L word and especially when they say something about marriage. A couple of my friends found themselves heartbroken, but reborn with a new aspect on women.
You can definitely be in charge without being a douche. You can be in charge of your self. (your emotions) You can show you are not afraid to make a decision. You may want to talk about your past with her, just to get it off your chest. She may even find trust in you because of this, and see that you are actually trying to have a relationship with her.
Don't be possessive. Don't call or text her all the time, just to ask what or how she is doing. Give space between the two of you, so when you are together and enjoying yourselves, you dont take the time you have together for granted.
DONT try to be super nice to her all the time. Yes, be polite and kind, but don't come off as an ass kisser.
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On October 18 2009 07:49 iloveambiguity wrote:
i am actually wondering about a romantic surprise for her, i already left flowers at her doorstep, sent her an ascii flower, asked her friend about what kind of chocolate she likes, and brought it to her, any suggestions?
iloveambiguity:
This seems like you are doing too much. You have put yourself in a situation where she knows you want to date her, and she knows she can just drop you whenever she pleases. You are leaning towards the provider (see my previous post).
I suggest you let her know, indirectly, that you have a life, that you have priorities, and that you would like her to be a part of your life (but you will not wait in the freezing, pouring rain out of her window just because she didn't answer a text)
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micronesia:
I would expect any member, veteran or noob, to be criticized just as much as I have been. Has anyone around here made a name for themself by sharing their knowledge and advice about dating? Absolutely not. If I had 9673 posts *cough*, some would still ask where the hell did this guy come from?
I noticed that I would see the same people every day in livestream chat (At work, mon-fri, I'm usually on livestream channels to pass time, and I can get away with it). Out of boredom I started asking questions about people's social life and how they fair with the ladies. Alot of them were honest and stated they didn't date much.
I was frustrated with the idea that smart, and seemingly "cool" guys have trouble figuring out women and dating. Why does it seem that attractive women go for idiots and douchebags? This is because intelligent men look at dating and getting with women like a problem to be solved, with an endless amout of bad outcomes, and many solid, set in stone solutions. It just isn't like that.
To have success with women, you must understand how they think and what catches their attention, You should know that understanding and responding to body language is extremely crutial. Most of communication is nonverbal, as you probably already know. You can't just bust out a pickupline and expect every female in the room to worship your allmightyness.
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On October 19 2009 03:14 larjarse wrote:
micronesia:
I would expect any member, veteran or noob, to be criticized just as much as I have been. Has anyone around here made a name for themself by sharing their knowledge and advice about dating? Absolutely not. If I had 9673 posts *cough*, some would still ask where the hell did this guy come from?
I noticed that I would see the same people every day in livestream chat (At work, mon-fri, I'm usually on livestream channels to pass time, and I can get away with it). Out of boredom I started asking questions about people's social life and how they fair with the ladies. Alot of them were honest and stated they didn't date much.
I was frustrated with the idea that smart, and seemingly "cool" guys have trouble figuring out women and dating. Why does it seem that attractive women go for idiots and douchebags? This is because intelligent men look at dating and getting with women like a problem to be solved, with an endless amout of bad outcomes, and many solid, set in stone solutions. It just isn't like that.
To have success with women, you must understand how they think and what catches their attention, You should know that understanding and responding to body language is extremely crutial. Most of communication is nonverbal, as you probably already know. You can't just bust out a pickupline and expect every female in the room to worship your allmightyness.
No, people would not ask where the hell I came from. But, as I said earlier:
On October 18 2009 08:25 micronesia wrote:
This is an 'ask me for advice' thread which is going to be scrutinized if it isn't by an established veteran (and might be scrutinized anyway).
So, yes even my thread could be scrutinized in the same ways (in my specific case it probably would since I have no dating-related credentials that the community is aware of [same as you when you started?]).
I disagree that any member, veteran or noob, to<would> be criticized just as much as I have been. Kennigit made a thread recently related to online dating. People did not doubt (for the most part) that he knew what the heck he was talking about when it came to girls. He provided a lot of content from the get-go which made it easier for us to believe him, in addition to his reputation on TL. Were there some nay-sayers and the like? Yeah, as I recall they were. But they were mostly due to people misunderstanding what he meant (such as thinking he was going to be talking about conducting dates themselves online)... not due to people disagreeing with his whole point as a whole.
I have no problem with you wanting to help people in the ways you are attempting to do so.
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so i'm a computer science major and there are zero girls in all of my classes. i took spanish hoping that class would at least have some women, but no luck. so i'm in a situation where to talk to any girls i have to randomly approach them on campus. how do you initiate a conversation like that? will girls think it is weird to be approached randomly by some guy they don't know?
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Which inanimate object should I practice with to become a better kisser? Right now I'm trying my pillow, but it's too soft for my lips to get good leverage.
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how do you approach girls in very loud ambiences, like in a club on the dancefloor or at the bar?
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You DONT approach girls, you just become an approachable person and wait for them to approach you. Think about it, you could approach a girl and start talking to her but that means that you like her more than she likes you initially and you will have to make all the moves/continue the game first. If you just focus on becoming an interesting person people will approach you. Do not be needy and look for attention, as soon as you stop giving a fuck girls will flock to you as long as you are not hideous or something.
Be polite to girls but also mix it up and fuck around. girls like a sense of humor and being playful in a slightly mean way is good because they know you are joking and actually like them.
Just have a good time wherever you are and people will see that and approach you more often. seeking a relationship is stupid, just let it happen; that way if you do get into one it will mean more because it was natural and not forced by you in any way.
At parties approaching girls is a different story. People go to parties to meet people so go ahead and talk to anyone and everyone, just dont give too much of yourself away to a girl you like at first, meet her then get out of there to see if she will pursue you. If she does then you are on a possible road towards success, if not just talk to a different girl and improve your life as usual.
At school and/or public places its strange to just walk up to random people and try to start conversation. Its obvious that guys are instantly attracted to women sexually. If you try to meet someone at random at school or something on campus/not in their class etc its fairly obvious you just saw the girls ass or something and wanna try to hit that... Girls can get attention from anyone and to them you fall into the chaser/stalker category that they avoid. Join a club or a group to meet people or just go to parties thats the easiest way.
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How do I use kino (Is that what it's called?) effectively. In the rare instances I can get the laughing, smiling, giggling, talking going on, etc. I'm never too sure how to transition to the touching.
I'm not real touchy-feely so I guess it's always been a little uncomfortable treading those waters (though I do like doing it a lot).
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On October 19 2009 07:27 Assymptotic wrote:
How do I use kino (Is that what it's called?) effectively. In the rare instances I can get the laughing, smiling, giggling, talking going on, etc. I'm never too sure how to transition to the touching.
I'm not real touchy-feely so I guess it's always been a little uncomfortable treading those waters (though I do like doing it a lot).
Really, this is my question in a more direct form.
I can get a girl having a good time. That's easy, and only gets easier with practice. How do I move past that, besides waiting for her to initiate?
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easiest way to get into non drunk girls pants?
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
'what do u do'
*snob tone* well my job involves going all over the world for free....can u guess what it is?
'uh flight attendant'
*proudly* Yea. Asiana airlines.
'u know asiana a second rate airline that all the girls who aren't hot enough to get into korean air go into right?'
*silence* you're right  *builds ego back up again* so what do you do here? u an english teacher or something?
'?...my job is just like yours i fly around the world too'
doing what?
'absolutely nothing'
uhhh how do you make money doing nothing?
'magic. *grabs bottle* now u can take this shot or fly the fuck outa here, up 2 u'
u think thats too harsh larjarse?
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Osaka27174 Posts
Shouting "Troll" at someone is a bannable offense. Thanks.
On October 17 2009 19:30 roadrunner_sc wrote:Show nested quote +On October 17 2009 19:11 niteReloaded wrote:
It's funny how all these people trolling (almost everyone but the OP) are turning this into a joke topic, while the OP obviously has better knowledge of the matters than probably a solid percentage of TL(the young guns especially).
This guy actually knows what he talks about. Nothing like good intentions to bring out the worst at TL. Kinda explains how there's less and less who actually still tries in the general forum.
This too.
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I think I changed my mind.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
Aight and LarJarse seriously:
lets say you've done things right and are 'in' with a girl, but then the evil bitch cockblocking friend comes into the picture and shes on a mission to 'save' her friend from you
u have no solid wingmen to back u up and distract the cockblocker
what the hell is the best thing to say/do to the cockblocker to salvage the situation?
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