On October 19 2009 07:03 Hypnosis wrote: You DONT approach girls, you just become an approachable person and wait for them to approach you. Think about it, you could approach a girl and start talking to her but that means that you like her more than she likes you initially and you will have to make all the moves/continue the game first. If you just focus on becoming an interesting person people will approach you. Do not be needy and look for attention, as soon as you stop giving a fuck girls will flock to you as long as you are not hideous or something.
If you had a "dont give a fcuk" attitude, then it won't matter if you approach or not?
On October 19 2009 07:03 Hypnosis wrote: You DONT approach girls, you just become an approachable person and wait for them to approach you. Think about it, you could approach a girl and start talking to her but that means that you like her more than she likes you initially and you will have to make all the moves/continue the game first. If you just focus on becoming an interesting person people will approach you. Do not be needy and look for attention, as soon as you stop giving a fuck girls will flock to you as long as you are not hideous or something.
If you had a "dont give a fcuk" attitude, then it won't matter if you approach or not?
QFT, it really doesn't matter if you approach or they approach you...it really depends on the functionality of the social situation you're in and what kind of read you have on the girl on if you should just go for her or wait her out. but thats all just minor bullshit anyways, in the end it depends on your character alone and how well you can present yourself as an all around attractive male...not on some bs like who established contact first
then again, what do i know, 95% of the girls i know/talk to/try to hit on are korean girls or strippers, and for some reason the strippers end up either smacking me in the face, trying to throw a bottle at me, or crying every time
On October 19 2009 07:03 Hypnosis wrote: You DONT approach girls, you just become an approachable person and wait for them to approach you. Think about it, you could approach a girl and start talking to her but that means that you like her more than she likes you initially and you will have to make all the moves/continue the game first. If you just focus on becoming an interesting person people will approach you. Do not be needy and look for attention, as soon as you stop giving a fuck girls will flock to you as long as you are not hideous or something.
If you had a "dont give a fcuk" attitude, then it won't matter if you approach or not?
QFT, it really doesn't matter if you approach or they approach you...it really depends on the functionality of the social situation you're in and what kind of read you have on the girl on if you should just go for her or wait her out. but thats all just minor bullshit anyways, in the end it depends on your character alone and how well you can present yourself as an all around attractive male...not on some bs like who established contact first
then again, what do i know, 95% of the girls i know/talk to/try to hit on are korean girls or strippers, and for some reason the strippers end up either smacking me in the face, trying to throw a bottle at me, or crying every time
Thats pretty much it, all of these fall in line if you have good character, Im just trying to point some out and say that it should all come naturally and you cant really change yourself all of the time.
On October 19 2009 07:03 Hypnosis wrote: You DONT approach girls, you just become an approachable person and wait for them to approach you. Think about it, you could approach a girl and start talking to her but that means that you like her more than she likes you initially and you will have to make all the moves/continue the game first. If you just focus on becoming an interesting person people will approach you. Do not be needy and look for attention, as soon as you stop giving a fuck girls will flock to you as long as you are not hideous or something.
If you had a "dont give a fcuk" attitude, then it won't matter if you approach or not?
QFT, it really doesn't matter if you approach or they approach you...it really depends on the functionality of the social situation you're in and what kind of read you have on the girl on if you should just go for her or wait her out. but thats all just minor bullshit anyways, in the end it depends on your character alone and how well you can present yourself as an all around attractive male...not on some bs like who established contact first
then again, what do i know, 95% of the girls i know/talk to/try to hit on are korean girls or strippers, and for some reason the strippers end up either smacking me in the face, trying to throw a bottle at me, or crying every time
Thats pretty much it, all of these fall in line if you have good character, Im just trying to point some out and say that it should all come naturally and you cant really change yourself all of the time.
yeah
and well the stuff larrjarse says is all very true and his advice is sound, it's just not applicable for anyone really
in the end the only advice is for people to upgrade themselves socially through trial and error with girls and to gain confidence somehow,
you can't just say 'do x in situation y and it will work out better' or 'maybe you should ignore her a bit' or 'maybe u should write her a love letter' blah blah
the fact is not all guys can be social monsters with the confidence that girls dig...some have it naturally, some gain it through lots of trial/error experience or through some other sorts of achievements that bolster their confidence and they eventually get better reactions from girls and naturally realize what they need to improve.
basically if your having relationship troubles or having trouble picking up women its because you're not balling hard and feeling good about yourself in all the OTHER aspects of your life that aren't women, because women can feel a man's confidence level basically instantly and if they dont like what they feel you're fucked. there is no such thing as confidence without capability that can back it up, just saying 'yeah i'm a confident dude!' is a facade.
On October 19 2009 07:03 Hypnosis wrote: You DONT approach girls, you just become an approachable person and wait for them to approach you. Think about it, you could approach a girl and start talking to her but that means that you like her more than she likes you initially and you will have to make all the moves/continue the game first. If you just focus on becoming an interesting person people will approach you. Do not be needy and look for attention, as soon as you stop giving a fuck girls will flock to you as long as you are not hideous or something.
If you had a "dont give a fcuk" attitude, then it won't matter if you approach or not?
then again, what do i know, 95% of the girls i know/talk to/try to hit on are korean girls or strippers, and for some reason the strippers end up either smacking me in the face, trying to throw a bottle at me, or crying every time
On October 19 2009 08:03 Rekrul wrote: Aight and LarJarse seriously:
lets say you've done things right and are 'in' with a girl, but then the evil bitch cockblocking friend comes into the picture and shes on a mission to 'save' her friend from you
u have no solid wingmen to back u up and distract the cockblocker
what the hell is the best thing to say/do to the cockblocker to salvage the situation?
Rekrul:
Include the cockblocker in the conversation. Make her feel like she (or he) isn't left out of the conversation. The girl you are interested in may appreciate this and be more attracted to you. If cockblocker comes up to girl and says "um we are leaving blahh", instantly put her in the conversation. Ask her opinion on what you were talking about.
I can get a girl having a good time. That's easy, and only gets easier with practice. How do I move past that, besides waiting for her to initiate?
phyre112:
If you know how to set a good mood and have a good flow of conversation, then you need to start putting yourself into more intimate settings with women. If you are in a car with a woman, that is getting pretty close without intentionally putting yourself near her. Invite her over to your place and just turn on the TV and sit on the couch or something. Don't actually watch the TV much, of course. Or you can put on a movie, this is a great time to get close.
I am going to edit the first post and ask people to be more specific. so the advice isn't so general.
On October 19 2009 06:40 Corvi wrote: how do you approach girls in very loud ambiences, like in a club on the dancefloor or at the bar?
Corvi:
Just remember, this topic is called LarJarsE's (not Hypnosis's) tipline..
At a club, dancing is always a great way to socialize with women you don't know, but you may want to practice a little. If you were dancing with a girl and then you see her later, you can say something like "Nice moves out there, but I think I'm a better dancer (then smile)" or "It's so hot out there, I was thinking about just getting naked(small chuckle)"
To be honest with you, I don't go to bars that don't have live music or dance music, except for a couple of times. I don't think they are an ideal place to meet someone.
On October 19 2009 07:27 Assymptotic wrote: How do I use kino (Is that what it's called?) effectively. In the rare instances I can get the laughing, smiling, giggling, talking going on, etc. I'm never too sure how to transition to the touching.
I'm not real touchy-feely so I guess it's always been a little uncomfortable treading those waters (though I do like doing it a lot).
Assymptotic:
I'm not really sure what your first sentance is about.
If you can get a girl laughing, and showing signs of interest, then you may want to move forward a little in the heat of the moment while laughing with her
ok real question , me and girl have been dating for like 2 weeks, ex bf comes in cock blocks me and she gets back together with him, how to reverse situation?
On October 19 2009 07:27 Assymptotic wrote: How do I use kino (Is that what it's called?) effectively. In the rare instances I can get the laughing, smiling, giggling, talking going on, etc. I'm never too sure how to transition to the touching.
I'm not real touchy-feely so I guess it's always been a little uncomfortable treading those waters (though I do like doing it a lot).
Assymptotic:
I'm not really sure what your first sentance is about.
If you can get a girl laughing, and showing signs of interest, then you may want to move forward a little in the heat of the moment while laughing with her
PUAs say if a girl touches you while laughing/in a good mood/etc then its a sure sign she likes you.
On October 19 2009 10:18 arb wrote: ok real question , me and girl have been dating for like 2 weeks, ex bf comes in cock blocks me and she gets back together with him, how to reverse situation?
I hope you got 2 weeks of good lay.
Don't bother reversing the situation. F em, go find someone else.
On October 19 2009 10:18 arb wrote: ok real question , me and girl have been dating for like 2 weeks, ex bf comes in cock blocks me and she gets back together with him, how to reverse situation?
On October 19 2009 10:18 arb wrote: ok real question , me and girl have been dating for like 2 weeks, ex bf comes in cock blocks me and she gets back together with him, how to reverse situation?
This is kind of hard to word but I will try my best.
Ok I find it not too difficult to chat up girls in a place that encourages that behaviour (ex. a club). It's fine to have that longer-than-usual eye contact and be closer etc..
However, meeting girls at clubs isn't really the best (I don't think I need to explain there). There are way better quality girls in my lectures, around campus, etc.. The thing is I find it harder to chat up girls in a sexual way in these places. I find the longer-than-usual eye contact kind of not appropriate, getting close can be a little strange, and so on. As a result, the girls I meet in these places become friends for the most part.
Make sense?
Anyway, got any tips to be able to I suppose get a girl interested in places like these? And ignoring everything and pretending I am in a club just wouldn't work for me cuz I really don't feel like that's appropriate in classes etc..
So larjarse. This is a serious question. What is confidence and how do you gain the ability? And also, why do you consider women in general to be attracted to confidence?
So there's this girl at my school who's liked me for about 2-3 years. I started noticing in 5th grade, but then I moved schools in 6th grade, after that we were at the same school for 7-10th grade, now I'm a junior and I still think she likes me.
But, other times, I don't think she's interested in me anymore. I share the same feelings as she does, but I don't know whether I should advance further than the occasional greeting or so. I think that she may have given up on me and is talking to some other guys right now.
Any tips/advice for my current situation? What should I do to grab her attention more?
I agree that it is important to have confidence in your life in order to be attractive, for night life the most important thing is to have or fake confidence and somebody with you who is a trusted friend.
Girl or guy, this person can really help you out and you can take turns helping each other out.
On October 19 2009 10:18 arb wrote: ok real question , me and girl have been dating for like 2 weeks, ex bf comes in cock blocks me and she gets back together with him, how to reverse situation?
Reverse the situation, literally. You're the ex-boyfriend, go cock-block that fag.
EDIT: Preferably bring a weapon. Shuts up pussies extra-fast.
On October 19 2009 10:18 arb wrote: ok real question , me and girl have been dating for like 2 weeks, ex bf comes in cock blocks me and she gets back together with him, how to reverse situation?
Reverse the situation, literally. You're the ex-boyfriend, go cock-block that fag.
EDIT: Preferably bring a weapon. Shuts up pussies extra-fast.
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