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..that are East Asian, attractive, socially well-adjusted, highly intelligent, and reserved?
I am currently a university undergraduate in his first year and a biochemistry major. My ethnicity is 100% Chinese, my height is approximately 5 feet and 3 inches, my age is 17, and my appearance is "somewhat above-average" (not my own judgment, I consulted a female friend regarding this matter) in the sense that it is not distinctively amazing but has no particular negative characteristics.
I am trying to devise an efficient strategy for the identification of potential friends; preferably female ones, because I already know where to find all of the ̶a̶u̶t̶i̶s̶t̶i̶c̶ slightly quirky and highly intelligent males.
To elaborate, my criteria are:
* East Asian, preferably Chinese or Japanese
* Intelligent and preferably majoring in math, science, or engineering or (and this is the OR operator, not the XOR operator) planning to pursue postgraduate studies
* Decently attractive in a traditional Chinese sense
* Socially well-adjusted but modest and reserved
* Possessing somewhat conservative (traditional Asian) values; must not be promiscuous, must not drink alcohol frequently, must not use any recreational drugs whatsoever at all
* Good personality
Please respond.
(To clarify, I am seeking female friends before I am seeking girlfriends, but the latter is naturally a subset of the former so if the former is merely the empty set then, well...)
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You sound like you have a charming personality, and you seem to be realistic in your criteria for selecting girls. Good luck.
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On September 08 2012 12:54 Suichoy wrote:
You're joking, right?
99% of the people who post blogs asking some variant of this question do so in an incredibly obtuse manner. They are more often than not vague, non-specific, indirect, and embellished with irrelevant information. I am simply asking what I want to ask while directly providing the relevant information as well as a clear-cut, unambiguous list of criteria. In other words, I am doing what many other people on this forum also do, but merely in a more straightforward manner.
I mean, if you really want me to provide you with some drawn-out, poorly written (well, no, I'd write it well, I suppose) account of my past along with a lot of adolescent angst sprinkled in about how things went wrong, along with some ridiculous attempt at reflection or introspection, I would be happy to provide that, but I think that I am just as tired of seeing that kind of idiocy as everyone else is.
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On September 08 2012 12:57 meguca wrote:99% of the people who post blogs asking some variant of this question do so in an incredibly obtuse manner. They are more often than not vague, non-specific, indirect, and embellished with irrelevant information. I am simply asking what I want to ask while directly providing the relevant information as well as a clear-cut, unambiguous list of criteria. In other words, I am doing what many other people on this forum also do, but merely in a more straightforward manner.
I predict epic lack of success.
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On September 08 2012 12:57 meguca wrote:
I mean, if you really want me to provide you with some drawn-out, poorly written (well, no, I'd write it well, I suppose) account of my past along with a lot of adolescent angst sprinkled in about how things went wrong, along with some ridiculous attempt at reflection or introspection, I would be happy to provide that, but I think that I am just as tired of seeing that kind of idiocy as everyone else is.
but but but but.... that's what girl blogs are for!! You can't come storming in here with your "logic." Girls know no logic. I predict your attempts will be failure unless you immediately change the entire girl blog to include everything that you so correctly pointed out are requisite for a girl blog. If you decide to follow your exemplary predecessors, I am positive that success will find you!
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Start by transfering to UC system or a big Canadian university, like UofT, Waterloo, UBC.
We have almost the exact same values. Too bad I go to a school where all the Chinese girls lack the 2nd criteria. They came here to escape the Gao Kao, so they're either lazy, dumb, or a combination of both.
Ya ok ill give some practical advice I guess. The few girl friends that you have? Use them to meet other East Asian girls and guys. Don't overlook the guys; there are those guys that know all the girls but wouldn't date them, these are the ones that you need to befriend. They'll be the ones that'll introduce you to all them sexy ladies.
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illsick
United States1770 Posts
At my university there was ASA (Asian student association)
Since you are biochemistry major, there should be a lot of Asians in that field. You should have no problem conversing with them if you are Chinese. If you don't initiate conversation with them in class, you can try studying in the library where you might run into them.
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Don't go into engineering. Or do? w.e
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Step one: Stop thinking of a girlfriend selecting as a sort of cyborg shopping.
Step Two: Stop talking like this: "and this is the OR operator, not the XOR operator "
Step three: Get fit, become charming, become socially popular, and become confident
Step 4: talk to girls
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United States15275 Posts
You are thinking too logically. You can obviously devise a reliable strategy for meeting these girls, but they will not be attracted to you if this is the personality you are showing them.
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Where are you located? Most bigger cities have some sort of Chinatown, or AsianSuburbia. Once you have located such a place, proceed at once to your nearest thrift store. Arrange yourself in the latest incognito clothing. I recommend a trench coat, binoculars, over sized floppy hat, and some david caruso glasses. Make sure you pull that collar up. Also brown or grey trench coats work best. Also make sure to purchase a newspaper, that will come in hand later.
Once you have located your Asian depository and you have attired yourself accordingly, attempt to blend in with the asian crowd. Make sure you don't talk to anyone directly, or ever take off your clothes. You don't want people knowing what you actually look like.
Once you have found a suitable candidate, follow them from a reasonable distance. As you creep along, make sure you spot ahead of them future hiding spots. Bushes, building alcoves, and fat old people seem to work best. If you ever find yourself with no respectable hiding place, simply whip out that newspaper you bought earlier and hold it so that your eyes are just peering over the top. Follow your target until she reaches her main dwelling.
After finding out where she lives, it is only a simple matter of discovering where they deposit their trash each week. If it's a dumpster you're golden, however if it's on the sidewalk outside her house, you may have difficulty opening it in private. I suggest grabbing the bag during the night, when less people are sure to be around. However, you better keep on your clothes just in case.
Once you have her garbage, eventually you should locate vast amounts of useful information. What bank she uses, what school she attends, how much money she has, etc. etc. The sky really is the limit depending on how much time you want to invest.
Good luck old friend! And remember, if you ever doubt what you should do next, you can always come to TL and ask what to do next.
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You shouldn't worry about finding women now. You're probably not ready for it. If you meet someone, great, but for now I'd suggest just focusing on your school life -- study, and enjoy your time with the friends you have. Meet their friends. If you want to meet new people, just find groups in the university that you're interested in. Don't make it a scientific mission -- it doesn't work, and it's not terribly flattering to be told that someone is interested in you because you match six of their seven ridiculous criteria (and yes, "Chinese or Japanese," "attractive in a traditional Chinese sense," and "majoring in math, science, or engineering" qualify as ridiculous criteria).
Alternatively, use online dating sites where you can filter for those things, or ask your parents to consult a traditional matchmaker for you.
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T.O.P.
Hong Kong4685 Posts
On September 08 2012 12:46 meguca wrote:
5 feet and 3 inches
I don't want to discourage you. But that's tough to compensate for.
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United States36 Posts
First off, ditch your whole criteria and loosen up a bit. Now that you have done that read on. Join a club that you like. Talk to girls in that club. Get to know them. If you like them become friends with them. They will introduce you to their friends. The more people you meet there will be a higher chance you will find a girlfriend.
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I think if you want to attract an intelligent female you should be more modest and lower your standards; it isn't attractive to talk like you think you're smart.
Based on your criteria probably just keep your eyes peeled in class. Form study groups in every class you'll be popular enough.
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Sounds like you are stereotypical introverted awkward Asian in an UC. Let me guess, Davis/Irvine? You'll feel right at home. Plenty of other stereotypical introverted awkward Asians.
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To elaborate, my criteria are:
* East Asian, preferably Chinese or Japanese
* Intelligent and preferably majoring in math, science, or engineering or (and this is the OR operator, not the XOR operator) planning to pursue postgraduate studies
* Decently attractive in a traditional Chinese sense
* Socially well-adjusted but modest and reserved
* Possessing somewhat conservative (traditional Asian) values; must not be promiscuous, must not drink alcohol frequently, must not use any recreational drugs whatsoever at all
* Good personality
That's a pretty fucking long list, I'm sure if a girl who meets all those criteria were to have a list of her own, she'd have something like 180 cm or some other criteria that you don't satisfy. Why don't you take that list, a reduce it to just two or three points and go with that first?
To boil it down, really, you are just looking for a Chinese girl who's not ugly, intelligent and has a decent personality, and to be honest, they really aren't that hard to find, especially if you aren't too selective in the physical appearance department. So to answer your question, probably libraries or through friends or friends of friends.
Don't take this the wrong way: you are short, and Chinese girls usually have a height minimum.
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