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My messed up views on women, relationships, money - Page 2
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Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
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bITt.mAN
Switzerland3693 Posts
It mostly comes down to self esteem I think. If I see a nice girl, that I would want to be with. I think to myself, no way I can afford to get her what she deserves. She deserves designer bags and clothes, a nice car and a highly fashionable man by her side. She needs a man that’ll make her friends jealous, someone to boast her status and to elevate her further. And I’m not that guy. Your views on this are wrong. Who are you to limit the possibilities and happiness you could share with a lady, simply because the way you'd interact wouldn't fit into the playa stereotype? I can understand why there's inhibition and a barrier to seeking out lady friends, if this is the only way you believe you could make her happy. Be you. Only that its kinda harder for you to find someone who would enjoy you, because you're not so much 'on the market', and your entire life doesn't revolve around hunting down and paying for bedtime-playtimes. Back to women, wanting to make more and more money is also linked to desire to be able to tell myself that I “deserve” and I’m “worth” better and better women as I’m able to afford the expensive taste of women of higher quality. I know this probably sound really macho and probably even stupid but that’s how I think… 'to be able to tell myself I am worth more, because I've made more money' Bad value system to base your identity on, bro. Again, you're not all that into 'the game', and that's OK, so go figure you can't catch the big fishettes, you haven't advanced to that level yet. Actually, if you want real happiness and satisfaction, chasin it all over the clubs really isn't the best way to go. Don't think so much about what it costs, and try to enjoy spending the time with the people instead. See it like this: value the enjoyment and fun you're having with them over what it costs. Don't only hang out with people who get you down 'cause all they can talk about is how much they're blowin, to get blown. Find you some good people, k? <3 Girl blogs | ||
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Iranon
United States983 Posts
As far as girls, I'll just say that there's more to it than buying them things and some macho posturing. At least, there is for the "nice" girls that you mentioned who are real relationship material. Talk to some of them sometime and see what else there is. | ||
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ssi.bal-listic
United States568 Posts
For me I value experience over money. Sure of course u need money to have all kinds of experiences but honestly objects are worth less than ur memories | ||
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Bentus
Germany86 Posts
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Luepert
United States1933 Posts
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ecstatica
United States542 Posts
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Jerubaal
United States7684 Posts
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bonifaceviii
Canada2890 Posts
On August 30 2012 05:30 Jerubaal wrote: I feel like there are very few women of my particular intellect and bent, so my plan is to write a bestselling, yet esoteric, novel that will act like a beacon for potential soulmates. Fifty Shades of Grey? | ||
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demMudkipz
United States7 Posts
On August 30 2012 05:29 ecstatica wrote: I usually advice to start from getting laid. I know youre incapable right now but even a hooker qualifies. Once youve tried being with a woman you should be able to prioritize more. 80$ for an hour of sex seems like a good investment for you. ^ That is horrible advice. Pick up a shitfaced co-ed at 2am instead. Probably safer too. | ||
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Blazinghand
United States25557 Posts
On August 30 2012 07:13 demMudkipz wrote: ^ That is horrible advice. Pick up a shitfaced co-ed at 2am instead. Probably safer too. ^this is also horrible advice. Get into a caring relationship with nice honey you like then slip her the wood. Boning prositutes or unreasonably drunk honeys is not the way to go about it. | ||
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ZpuX
Sweden1230 Posts
However, I do see where you are coming from and I share a lot of your views regarding finding a nice girlfriend or how to keep making more money each year. But by trying different options (meeting new girls, trying different courses at school, working different jobs) you will realize what you are actually looking for, and eventually you will know what kind of girl you really want to meet, what you really wanna work with and hopefully find a way to make sufficient money (or even better, learn how much is sufficient for you). | ||
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
Picture a dumb college hippie who thinks he's a great poet and musician. He's broke but he attracts people. The bottom line is : to be an interesting person, you need to have at least "something" going for you. | ||
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aloT
England1042 Posts
and anti-social is the opposite of what i see you do - you write alot of blogs and interact with the kmd community | ||
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TuElite
Canada2123 Posts
On August 30 2012 08:19 Kukaracha wrote: The bottom line is : to be an interesting person, you need to have at least "something" going for you. And I don't. If I could at least hide my "nothingness" behind fancy meals and nice hotels maybe it would help my confidence in talking to girls... | ||
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Blazinghand
United States25557 Posts
On August 30 2012 08:26 TuElite wrote: And I don't. If I could at least hide my "nothingness" behind fancy meals and nice hotels maybe it would help my confidence in talking to girls... I wouldn't try to think like that, also, what,hotels If you want to help your confidence with the honeys hiding behind cash isn't how you do it. To be confident with the honeys you gotta be confident with yourself. Take up a hobby of some sort, (if you have time that is), like poetry or music or something where you can go hang out with people while you do it. Yeah learn how to do spoken-word poetry! Then the honeys will want you, and on top of that, you'll know they want you cause they want YOU, not cause they want... hotels | ||
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
On August 30 2012 08:26 TuElite wrote: And I don't. If I could at least hide my "nothingness" behind fancy meals and nice hotels maybe it would help my confidence in talking to girls... Some people have something going for them from the start, but most don't. However, there are many traits you can aquire and that will make you an interesting person - given that you put the necessary work into it. Picture a douchebag with muscles everywhere, a cancerous tan and a stupid haircut. He can have ladies. He's dumb as a rock, ugly and... well, a douche, but he put some work into something. I don't know you, but I can at least tell you have more potential than that man (and he gets laid). | ||
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demMudkipz
United States7 Posts
On August 30 2012 07:35 Blazinghand wrote: ^this is also horrible advice. Get into a caring relationship with nice honey you like then slip her the wood. Boning prositutes or unreasonably drunk honeys is not the way to go about it. Point taken, Blazinghand. I think thats what the OP wants anyways. | ||
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Tal
United Kingdom1017 Posts
If you don't want to spend money there are parks, art galleries and even your home. Instead of buying great headphones buy a great soundsystem, and you can invite friends/dates over. You can also cook/ learn to cook for them. Essentially what I'm saying is you can be very sociable without spending much money. Or if you do spend money, realise what you're paying for. When you go out to have beers, you're not just paying for the beers - the price includes the cool environment you all get to hang out in. Also Torte De Lini's right - it's normal to worry about wasting money. | ||
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Eben
United States769 Posts
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