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On October 11 2011 08:38 decafchicken wrote:
I hated life when i was 16 too. Since about 2 years after that i have never been happier. Find something you love and commit yourself too it. Fix your diet and start doing something physical. This alone is proven to improve your mood. Life gets better.
You should definitely try this because physical exercise of any kind makes a huge difference. At the same time, go ffind yourself a different therapist, and don't be afraid to keep switchin til you find one you trust. Depression isn't something to fuck around with, and if you've had it half your life, it's pretty safe to say it';s something that isn't going to be rectified on your own. Most of all, don't listen to the retards telling you to start smoking or whatever... or really, just have this thread closed because most people will give you shit advice and that's not what you need now
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Hey, I'm feeling in a similar situation right now. I'm 16 years old and also super underweight. Maybe that's because of my really good metabolism, or I'm asian, but either way, I'm really really tiny. I don't have very good people skills, and like you, am an introvert that prefers to work by myself. I know I would feel the same way as you do right now if there was not one thing that I think is different between our lives. I'm not even sure if this is allowed on TL, but I was born into a Christian family. I've been a Christian for my whole life. Just knowing that my God really loves me, cares for me, and is always with me. Might sound really cliche and it might seem like I'm trying to force a religion down your throat, but this is just the way I see it. You can interpret my post anyway you want, but I'm just letting you know that I have a lot more happiness and hope just because of this. Don't lose hope, it gets better 
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Despite how unrealistic your goals may be, where do you truly wish to see yourself in 5 years? I think it starts off with that..for me, living means nothing without a dream.
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On October 11 2011 10:58 Steelavocado wrote:
Thank you all ( I will write personal responces to each of you tomorrow when I have time)! I does mean a lot to me when others go out of their way to help another person out. This next week I will try all of your sugestions and write up another blog next week.
Ill try my best, have a great day guys!
Glad we could be of help! I forgot to mention that during some of my darkest times I turned to an internet forum that I had made some friends on and it really helped. I felt I could really just spill my heart out and not worry too much about being judged and such. Odd thinking that I wouldn't be judged on the internet, but it worked out. In the same way that that site was there for me, I think TL can be here for you. It's a really great community (most of the time lol) and I think you'll find a lot of kindred spirits here.
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Man i remember when my parents split... Its hard man, if u need someone to talk to PM me and I will try to help as much as I can.
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I'm 22 and I've been unhappy for about 7-8 years.
I've got plenty of reasons to be happy but I'm not. Learned to live with it =D
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try to do something with your life . looking for a job would be a good step. or try to be an entrepreneur . change your lifestyle. eat more and go to the gym. etc. go out and do something.
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I know how you feel. It doesn't go away and at a point you just have to accept and understand that it is who you are and try to be positive.
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stay hungry stay foolish. look up steve jobs videos on youtube. its quite inspiring.
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Marshall Islands3404 Posts
I will be the first to relate and tell you that it is not as simple as eating more or going to the gym, your personality traits play a lot into this. Some people like you or me simply don't derive pleasure from anything or most things in life although I would never think of committing suicide and I hope you don't either. Just realize that people do care about you and you simply have to find ways to pass the time. It doesn't get better after high school either and I am in the same situation where my parents were divorced so you don't really see any point in trying to get a relationship I presume? If I am fairly accurate in these assessments feel free to PM me, been through this.
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Steelavocado, let me share my story and hope it helps.
For all my life, I've been pretty happy. I was the "funny guy" in school, an athlete and had pretty strong relationships. I also played in a band with my best friends for 5 years.
Then I went to college. I made friends there, but nothing was ever the same. After two years of college things started to change. My interest in EVERYTHING was gone. For the next 2-3 years I didn't write a single song, didn't play a single show, show any enthusiasm in meeting new people, going out, showing up for class or obtaining good grades.
There was literally weeks where I lied in bed... all day for 3 days in a row. I slept for about 14 hours a day. I gained about 20 lbs and was suspended from my university. My girlfriend of 4 years left me. And I didn't even care, at all. I couldn't feel excited for things, ever. I didn't look forward to anything.
My parents didn't realize it until they saw the letters of my suspension. Surprisingly enough, they were very sympathetic. They ordered me to return home and to see some doctors. I was put on Celexa, and eventually Prozac (because I had side effects with Celexa), and I didn't notice much.
Very, very gradually things started to come together for me. It wasn't like all the sudden "Wow I'm a different person!". I got a job in manufacturing and got in the routine of working 6am-3pm everyday. This routine was a strong backbone in my life. It got me being productive, and at 3pm everday I felt good that I had accomplished enough for the day and could relax. The evening was mine! Still, I was doing nothing in the evening.. but it wasn't looked down upon because I had worked all day.
Then, I began meeting people. I was able to make eye contact, hold a conversation and make steps to improve relationships. I bought a bike and enjoyed the weather casually while listening to music. I started to learn one important thing:
I still don't enjoy doing the things I used to love to do but I do find pleasure in more subtle things. I expanded on those subtle things. Reading, listening to music and watching movies. It's something everyone likes to do right? Well, it's something you have to relearn how to like if you are like us. You have to dig through movies/music/books you like. You have to have the right atmosphere and be in the right mood.
Pretty soon I found myself finishing a novel every other day.
After a year of work and self-thought. I now had a work ethic to go back to school. I did so and within 2 years I obtained a undergraduate degree in education. I am now in graduate school for literary teaching.
I still don't have the passion to write music. I still fail to become excited or hyped about things. When my phone runs out of batteries.. it's off for about 4 days+. I have deactivated my facebook and skype. The only thing I keep is TL.net because I do enjoy watching Starcraft 2 and reading about it.
Disconnect yourself from technology. Relearn your self-interests. Be open minded and never forget that you can always change. Don't force yourself to do things you once liked but don't enjoy anymore.
And finally
EAT HEALTHY. "Let food be thy medicine." Hypocrates. I will advocate and testify that eating fresh food makes me feel much, much, MUCH more enthusiastic and lively. A learning to cook is a great hobby to "knock out two birds with one stone".
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"Love yourself first, and everything will fall into line".
It's not as simple as that, though. You have to constantly motivate yourself everyday. Otherwise you will just be wasting your life. My dad is over 50 and I don't think he's happy with his life either. It doesn't magically get better, you have to force yourself out of the comfort zone. It will be really hard for you but remember: You only have one life. Try your best to enjoy it.
For temporary medicine: Play a sport.
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On October 11 2011 07:49 MattBarry wrote:
I recommend seeing a psychiatrist. I share your same problem almost down to every detail and I fixed it by taking stimulants. They make me feel alive and happy. Psychologists don't prescribe stuff so make sure it's a psychiatrist.
Edit: Fuck SSRIs though, if he tries to give you that then say no
what are you prescribed then?
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Why do you just eat once a day?
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On October 12 2011 02:06 DoublespeakUS wrote:
Steelavocado, let me share my story and hope it helps.
For all my life, I've been pretty happy. I was the "funny guy" in school, an athlete and had pretty strong relationships. I also played in a band with my best friends for 5 years.
Then I went to college. I made friends there, but nothing was ever the same. After two years of college things started to change. My interest in EVERYTHING was gone. For the next 2-3 years I didn't write a single song, didn't play a single show, show any enthusiasm in meeting new people, going out, showing up for class or obtaining good grades.
There was literally weeks where I lied in bed... all day for 3 days in a row. I slept for about 14 hours a day. I gained about 20 lbs and was suspended from my university. My girlfriend of 4 years left me. And I didn't even care, at all. I couldn't feel excited for things, ever. I didn't look forward to anything.
My parents didn't realize it until they saw the letters of my suspension. Surprisingly enough, they were very sympathetic. They ordered me to return home and to see some doctors. I was put on Celexa, and eventually Prozac (because I had side effects with Celexa), and I didn't notice much.
Very, very gradually things started to come together for me. It wasn't like all the sudden "Wow I'm a different person!". I got a job in manufacturing and got in the routine of working 6am-3pm everyday. This routine was a strong backbone in my life. It got me being productive, and at 3pm everday I felt good that I had accomplished enough for the day and could relax. The evening was mine! Still, I was doing nothing in the evening.. but it wasn't looked down upon because I had worked all day.
Then, I began meeting people. I was able to make eye contact, hold a conversation and make steps to improve relationships. I bought a bike and enjoyed the weather casually while listening to music. I started to learn one important thing:
I still don't enjoy doing the things I used to love to do but I do find pleasure in more subtle things. I expanded on those subtle things. Reading, listening to music and watching movies. It's something everyone likes to do right? Well, it's something you have to relearn how to like if you are like us. You have to dig through movies/music/books you like. You have to have the right atmosphere and be in the right mood.
Pretty soon I found myself finishing a novel every other day.
After a year of work and self-thought. I now had a work ethic to go back to school. I did so and within 2 years I obtained a undergraduate degree in education. I am now in graduate school for literary teaching.
I still don't have the passion to write music. I still fail to become excited or hyped about things. When my phone runs out of batteries.. it's off for about 4 days+. I have deactivated my facebook and skype. The only thing I keep is TL.net because I do enjoy watching Starcraft 2 and reading about it.
Disconnect yourself from technology. Relearn your self-interests. Be open minded and never forget that you can always change. Don't force yourself to do things you once liked but don't enjoy anymore.
And finally
EAT HEALTHY. "Let food be thy medicine." Hypocrates. I will advocate and testify that eating fresh food makes me feel much, much, MUCH more enthusiastic and lively. A learning to cook is a great hobby to "knock out two birds with one stone".
Wow, thank you for this post. I really need a grip now.
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