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On February 04 2011 08:13 Hynda wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 08:07 Tex wrote:On February 04 2011 08:05 Hynda wrote:
EVERYTHING YOU SAID "Friends don't let friends sell railroads". You should see the self-restraint needed to not shout at my partner when using a get out of jail for free card in the end-game. that's when you want to be in jail! Come on that's so basic! Apperently it's just a game and supposed to be fun when skyping, which is bullocks. It's a game you're supposed to win, all the time at every single game.
You play for fun and its fun to win, right? Some people just don't get it.
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If playing games is part of who you are your partner needs to accept that.
It drives my girlfriend crazy, and she used to get really mad about it... But eventually she's learned to not be so grumpy about it.
I think it's important to try to keep your girlfriend/boyfriend time and your gaming time separate, but also make sure to put some time aside for your significant other so they don't feel neglected. But they should also be willing to compromise, and if they hate it when you play games around them, they need to allow you to have your game time by yourself.
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On February 04 2011 08:13 Boneyard.au wrote:
Thats why you don't need to have a girlfriend/boyfriend, at least long term. Look at me! I play sc2 religiously, meet a different (sometimes 2) girl(s) every other week, have fun and then get a new girl. Relationships suck, too much give and little take, at least for now, maybe later I will change my mind but untill then I can play sc2, hang out with whoever I want and it is AWESOME! :D
im callin that bluff
and boats are way more chill than cars.
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On February 04 2011 08:15 numLoCK wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 08:13 Hynda wrote:On February 04 2011 08:07 Tex wrote:On February 04 2011 08:05 Hynda wrote:
EVERYTHING YOU SAID "Friends don't let friends sell railroads". You should see the self-restraint needed to not shout at my partner when using a get out of jail for free card in the end-game. that's when you want to be in jail! Come on that's so basic! Apperently it's just a game and supposed to be fun when skyping, which is bullocks. It's a game you're supposed to win, all the time at every single game. You play for fun and its fun to win, right? Some people just don't get it. Indeed, and ofcourse to relate to the thread I think that's the most common issue in my relationships, I'm overly competative. At least acording to them, in my eyes there is no such thing.
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Where do you live, I want to take you out on a date!!! Just broke up with GF before New Years, although it wasn't to do with SC2, she said it was potentially the biggest turnoff of anything I do. She whined about it all the time, Jesus I wish I had a girl that loved video games, SC2 in particular!
Also have entered a gaming binge since the breakup. Last breakup (with her as well, we got back together and now broke up second time) it was opposite, I went out partying, meeting new girls, not caring about things. Now... I'm just gaming and doing school, ahah.
GL
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At some point during the GSL Tasteless and Artosis were rambling about what it's like to be a nerd. The phrase 'Embrace your inner nerd' comes to mind.
Ever since I broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks ago, I start realising the truth in this statement. You shouldn't pretend not to like computer games just to appeal to your girlfriend. Be who you are. You like pc games, she should be ok with that. If she isn't, tough luck.
My girlfriend was OK with me playing games, although I would feel guilty some times when playing games all day. I often didn't have any good stories to share with her due to her not being interested in games.
Anyway, GL with your situation. Embrace your inner nerd!
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Honestly I think it's really important to have different hobbies from your boyfriend/girlfriend. Sure it's nice to have a few similar interests or things you can do together, but sometimes you need some time to do your own thing.
I play a lot of games, and I've dated some gamer guys in the past. It's nice to be able to sit down and play a game together, but everyone needs some personal time. In a healthy relationship, (imho), both parties will have their own hobbies that they can go off and do with friends. Again, I do play a lot of games, but if that's *all* a guy I was dating wanted to do, I'd get crazy bored realllly fast. Everything in moderation.
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i'd love my gf playing games....
anything from rts, mmos, fighting, racing 
all i can say is "BE YOURSELF"
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On February 04 2011 07:35 qzmpwxno wrote:
bros before hoes!!
oh wait...
starcraft before hoes!!
oh god damn it
thors before whores
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I think it's important to be able to share things with a significant other, but not have the exact same hobbies. I mean, if you have the same hobbies, there's nothing new and exciting for you to introduce the other person to, right?
You should have some common ground, but still have stuff that's just for you.
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On February 04 2011 08:05 Hynda wrote:+ Show Spoiler +You don't muck about with online monopoly, it's one of the most vindictive games out there it turns you evil. I wish I was joking but last time I played I got thrown out of the house in nothing but my pants and a t-shirt for 2 hours. It was 2 v 2 with glory and a lunch for a price(and not like a pasta salad, a proper lunch) The stakes are obviously enormous here, not only free food but you get to gloat about it while eating. So i plan out my strat, ironing out all the flaws and what does she do? She just starts the game and that means I'm afk and can not get the boat, everyone wants to be the boat! the boat is the best piece!
My entire evening is obviously ruined by this, and I can't even get the boat back because my opponent choose the dirty trick of "My daughter wanted to be the boat" and stealing stuff from 4 year olds is apperently a bad thing. So I have to be the hat, the hat fucking sucks. Who in his right mind wants to be a safari-hat?
Anyways, we start playing and my girlfriend has no knowledge of monopoly, but since we are on skype with the other couple I can't even shout at her for buying the trainstation, THEY SUCK, NEVER BUY THEM. I tried some simple hand gestures to fix the situation but I was told to go wash them if they were still sticky after dinner.
So I'm in a very tough situation here, my partner have only crap streets and I have a solid hand using proper trading and mind games.
THERE IT IS! If I can just get that one street I can most likley win this!
This required me to stab my partner in the back and twist it causing her to have to roll a 8 or lose the game, she loses. But my brilliant scheme works out and 2 rolls later I'm the champion.
The next part is sadly not made up or even a exaggeration. After having stabbed my partner in the back and won the game I stand up and "YES, I WIN, I'M FUCKING AWESOME". This sadly leads to me being ordered to go outside with the dogs, only for her to lock the door after us go back to socializing with her friends, for 2 hours. At least it was summer, so it wouldn't have been that bad if I just had a pair of trousers.
The story is just so awesome, really made my day :D And yes, the boat is so much more bad-ass than the car -- I hated that my oldest brother always picked the boat, and I had to settle for the shabby looking lame car. But whatever, I got back at him by cheating my rolls.
To the OP, sorry to hear about your relationship go sour. And yeah maybe gaming ruining a relationship and needing space is more a guy's issue, but that isn't all that important -- I think it's more important that the guy and girl specifically work with each other's expectations and needs. Some girls need a lot of attention, others really need their space... some guys expect a girl to be clingy and needy, some guys despise it. So yeah, GL HF on your next ^^
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I wish my gf bought me sc2 on my birthday....
I wish I had one :[............
Well, you should enter into some pro sc2 tournies and pick up a boyfriend there!
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You remind me of my ex girlfriend, except she wasn't really into games, she was into movies. And she enjoyed video games, but not on anything more than a time-waster kind of level. Like how games are my hobby, movies were hers. There was some other little problems with how she viewed games but that's not the thing that bugged me.
I tried to bring interest to her of things like Starcraft pro gaming, or various games and genres and try to get her more into games in general. Well she didn't seem to care, while she spent all her time trying to drive me into movies, and I bit most of the time. In fact I would actually try to watch movies with her and gained some more appreciation for movies than I really had before. But she ignored any effort to actually care about my hobby. In the end that kind of disparity is one of the influencing factors of why I broke up with her, because I actually tried to like things she did but she didn't seem to put any effort in return. The only time she ever got into gaming like I did was Bioshock, past that she never really cared.
I can see the frustration but I would hope you tried to return interest in things he had. If he didn't even really have anything like a hobby though, he was probably a dull shit anyway.
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Closest thing I have gotten to gaming with my gfs is playing Marion cart or super smash brothers with them. Which is still totally awesome. Usually I am more than happy if they understand my love for video games.
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It seems that the biggest problem was not so much the video games but that you and your ex boyfriend had very different ideas on how much freedom there should be in a relationship and he became in a sense too clingy.
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On February 04 2011 10:06 DivineWinter wrote:
Well, you should enter into some pro sc2 tournies and pick up a boyfriend there!
Baby steps! I have to get placed in Bronze first!
On February 04 2011 10:22 RageOverdose wrote:
I can see the frustration but I would hope you tried to return interest in things he had. If he didn't even really have anything like a hobby though, he was probably a dull shit anyway.
We had a lot in common, actually. I was just using the video games as an example. Everyone can relate to it.
Also: I don't think girls like being compared to other people's exes. I can be a stubborn bitch but I'd like to think I'm not a "my way or the highway" stubborn bitch. We both did things/tried things the other liked. I even got him cheering for the Red Wings a few times. Muwaha.
On February 04 2011 10:42 lixlix wrote:
It seems that the biggest problem was not so much the video games but that you and your ex boyfriend had very different ideas on how much freedom there should be in a relationship and he became in a sense too clingy.
I never said video games were -the- issue. But I do agree that we had different understandings, not just about what I've mentioned. Communication started to suck, my feelings about the future changed, hence my 'tl;dr it was me' reason for the break up in the first place.
My main intent was to see how other people handled the girlfriend/boyfriend issues when they came up with gaming/hobbies. And I'm appreciative of all the response and stories (the Monopoly one is one of my favorites, and the car v boat post. I literally lol'd). It's interesting seeing how we've all coped/moved on/see things differently/figured out something we want.
And I guess thanks for the dating advice? ¯\(°_°)/¯
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Wait, so he DOESN'T like playing video games?
GET REAL.
A girl who plays video games is incredibly awesome, as long as they aren't the ones that play rock band once a month and call themselves "legit gamers".
My cousin found someone who actually enjoys playing video games with him, ended up getting married. They have a great time playing games together, and it really strengthens their relationship.
Keep at it! Every single guy I know wishes they had a girlfriend that played video games with them.
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I used to be the person in the relationship that got annoyed every time my partner ditched me for blizzard games. Eventually, he bought me WC3 for my birthday and I got hooked, then moved on to BW.
We sort of made an agreement: He can ditch me for games as long as I get to do the same :D
But we both know where to draw the line. For example, if I haven't seen him in three weeks and we go out, and he proceeds to ignore me for 4 hours to play games...I might be a bit miffed about it.
But luckily, neither of us do that so it works out pretty well for us!
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To OP, it's so ironic how all the time, I, someone who's never had a girlfriend thinks about what it would be like to have a girlfriend, and you talk about how great being single is.
I don't like anyone right now. I have a lot of free time (no more parties or outings), but rather than spend it on school, I'm spending it online. I have difficulty motivating myself.
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On February 04 2011 13:49 Hidden_MotiveS wrote:
To OP, it's so ironic how all the time, I, someone who's never had a girlfriend thinks about what it would be like to have a girlfriend, and you talk about how great being single is.
I don't like anyone right now. I have a lot of free time (no more parties or outings), but rather than spend it on school, I'm spending it online. I have difficulty motivating myself.
Don't use Valentines Day as motivation. I find most people just get lonelier when it doesn't work out.
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