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Mini-vent/rant. This *is* the blog section, after all.
This morning I reconnected with a classmate of mine from high school (gj, Facebook) and we got to talking about 'the single life'. Why we like it, how we got there, things we don't miss, etc. We saw eye-to-eye on a lot of things, which wasn't new to me (read: blew his mind) since I feel like I'm able to relate to/sympathize with guys a little more when it comes to relationship battles. Probably cause the majority of my friends are male and all my girlfriends have up and moved away.
I saw a lot of similarities in my last relationship (ended in October) and the ones my classmate kept describing. But the one that applies here was over video games.
My last relationship (~2+ yrs) at one point was in jeopardy over video games (well, mostly Starcraft). Not so much the playing but the involvement behind it. I'd stay up late to chat to chat/stream or play (like till 4amish), instead of getting on Skype to talk to my boyfriend. Once he fell asleep on Skype so I tilted my camera so you couldn't see that I wasn't paying attention incase he woke up (bad girlfriend!).
We had played other games together before (Brawl, Halo...online Monopoly) but SC2 was my latest craze at the time. So I tried to get him involved (I'm pretty sure Cosmo has like, billions of articles written about how women should either tear their guys away from the games and if not, dump them/write a poorly written article about how video games are the leading cause of break-ups). I bought him SC2 for his birthday. We might have played once together. Hell I even asked him to stay up with me and join in on a stream. Didn't happen. 9/10 he'd just listen in.
I seriously thought I was going to get dumped over it. My guy friends thought it was hilarious/liked seeing that they were not the only ones who had to put up with it and I liked being able to relate to them.
Long story short, I ended up breaking up with him anyway, for various reasons (tl;dr it was me). I went on a gaming binge after that. I also didn't have to answer text messages right away, make anyone feel bad if I had been out and, oh no, there are boys there. I'm not saying I was unfaithful (I wasn't) but the amount of unnecessary concern was…unnecessary. So I'm out and not texting you, what of it? My classmate mentioned that girls usually trip over this sorta thing, I mean, I understand to a point where the girls/my girlfriends are coming from, but past that I just want to tell them that they need to stop smothering their partners. It's embarrassing to watch and having been on the other side of it, it's annoying.
Anyway, I know there are a loooooot of 'Girl Problems' posts, but I just felt like I needed to vent a bit and let there be some reassurance for guys. The video games topic I felt was one I could relate to easiest, with as little detail/effort as possible (I'm lazy).
Anyone able to find a happy medium when it comes to dating/gaming/hobby-ing? Or maybe have an awesome single-life story. Thoughts? Questions? Comments? Snide remarks? Feel free.
+ Show Spoiler +No doodle again, sry  ![[image loading]](http://img808.imageshack.us/img808/751/suppliesz.jpg)
 
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Papua New Guinea152 Posts
bros before hoes!!
oh wait...
starcraft before hoes!!
oh god damn it
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On February 04 2011 07:35 qzmpwxno wrote:
bros before hoes!!
oh wait...
Someone you and I both know missed this rule in boy scouts.
+ Show Spoiler +
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take that story, except switch the genders around and add sports to starcraft, and you get my last relationship XD
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Umm quite the interesting turn of events of the girl gamer being ignored by the guy... Interesting that it happens..
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Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss.
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On February 04 2011 07:37 italiangymnast wrote:
take that story, except switch the genders around and add sports to starcraft, and you get my last relationship XD
This is why i think its important to find a partner that shares your biggest interests. Its not just gaming that can ruin relationships. Everything from sports to cooking to painting are just as time consuming and can take time away from a relationship. The problem occurs when the other person doesnt agree with how you're spending your away time, not just that you are away.
Don't try to hide your hobbies if you think it will give you a better chance to get together with that really cute guy/girl that may not like gaming. It'll be nice at first but eventually your hobbies will come to light and they will have a problem with it. If you wait and find someone who will support what you do with your free time, then you will be infinitley happier than you would be with a person who doesn't support your idea of entertainment even if they are a little bit more -insert positive attribute-
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Belgium9945 Posts
edit: sorry, I got carried away
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Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss.
well i guess you can do that. But if you want an extreamly attractive nerd to live in perpetual bliss with, look no further
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On February 04 2011 07:37 italiangymnast wrote:
take that story, except switch the genders around and add sports to starcraft, and you get my last relationship XD
I got dumped once due to too much training and competitions. She was totaly uninterested in sports and I cut down on my training to ~18h/week but it was still too much.
Now I try to only date girls that share atleast one of my intrests, starcraft or one of my sports.
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On February 04 2011 07:45 sc4k wrote:
Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss.
Uh..I don't think I said that he did not like video games. He may have sucked at them, but he didn't hate them. Any guy I end up with is going to have to be/has been in some aspect of gaming.
Sorry for the confusion.
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On February 04 2011 07:52 Eatme wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 07:37 italiangymnast wrote:
take that story, except switch the genders around and add sports to starcraft, and you get my last relationship XD I got dumped once due to too much training and competitions. She was totaly uninterested in sports and I cut down on my training to ~18h/week but it was still too much. Now I try to only date girls that share atleast one of my intrests, starcraft or one of my sports.
that sucks =/ - Pro Tip : go to Springfield College - all athletes, and some real good looking girls there.
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On February 04 2011 07:53 Tex wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 07:45 sc4k wrote:
Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss. Uh..I don't think I said that he did not like video games. He may have sucked at them, but he didn't hate them. Any guy I end up with is going to have to be/has been in some aspect of gaming. Sorry for the confusion.
Fine, replace 'doesn't like' with 'doesnt suck at'...!
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Well as for myself.. I am a complete gamer nerd too and Ive had to break up with a boyfriend before because all he wanted to do was play sports where I wanted to play video games. The best thing is to find that nerd who not only likes the same things but especially likes the same video games as you haha. I found a great guy who loves Starcraft more than me.He plays it all the time and loves to be a major part of the community. I love to watch it (I am absolutely horrible at the micro/macro so I don't play it much ;P) and I love to be apart of the community too. We'll set up tournaments even where he plays in it and I run it. You just need to find that right balance with someone. It's awesome when you do ^_^ <3 Bliss[AoV]
Ps, not only do I support his obsession with the game, I ended up buying him a 200 gosu training session XD He ended up helping me a little with my gaming (though all the help in the world wont help T_T practice practice practice.) 
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On February 04 2011 08:02 sc4k wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 07:53 Tex wrote:On February 04 2011 07:45 sc4k wrote:
Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss. Uh..I don't think I said that he did not like video games. He may have sucked at them, but he didn't hate them. Any guy I end up with is going to have to be/has been in some aspect of gaming. Sorry for the confusion. Fine, replace 'doesn't like' with 'doesnt suck at'...!
Well maybe I will...!
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You don't muck about with online monopoly, it's one of the most vindictive games out there it turns you evil. I wish I was joking but last time I played I got thrown out of the house in nothing but my pants and a t-shirt for 2 hours. It was 2 v 2 with glory and a lunch for a price(and not like a pasta salad, a proper lunch) The stakes are obviously enormous here, not only free food but you get to gloat about it while eating. So i plan out my strat, ironing out all the flaws and what does she do? She just starts the game and that means I'm afk and can not get the boat, everyone wants to be the boat! the boat is the best piece!
My entire evening is obviously ruined by this, and I can't even get the boat back because my opponent choose the dirty trick of "My daughter wanted to be the boat" and stealing stuff from 4 year olds is apperently a bad thing. So I have to be the hat, the hat fucking sucks. Who in his right mind wants to be a safari-hat?
Anyways, we start playing and my girlfriend has no knowledge of monopoly, but since we are on skype with the other couple I can't even shout at her for buying the trainstation, THEY SUCK, NEVER BUY THEM. I tried some simple hand gestures to fix the situation but I was told to go wash them if they were still sticky after dinner.
So I'm in a very tough situation here, my partner have only crap streets and I have a solid hand using proper trading and mind games.
THERE IT IS! If I can just get that one street I can most likley win this!
This required me to stab my partner in the back and twist it causing her to have to roll a 8 or lose the game, she loses. But my brilliant scheme works out and 2 rolls later I'm the champion.
The next part is sadly not made up or even a exaggeration. After having stabbed my partner in the back and won the game I stand up and "YES, I WIN, I'M FUCKING AWESOME". This sadly leads to me being ordered to go outside with the dogs, only for her to lock the door after us go back to socializing with her friends, for 2 hours. At least it was summer, so it wouldn't have been that bad if I just had a pair of trousers.
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On February 04 2011 08:05 Hynda wrote:
EVERYTHING YOU SAID
"Friends don't let friends sell railroads".
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what sort of a douchebag chooses the gay ass boat when you could have the epic car?? You want to potter about at 10 knots down the river to Old Kent Rd. whilst I burn rubber on Mayfair???
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Thats why you don't need to have a girlfriend/boyfriend, at least long term. Look at me! I play sc2 religiously, meet a different (sometimes 2) girl(s) every other week, have fun and then get a new girl. Relationships suck, too much give and little take, at least for now, maybe later I will change my mind but untill then I can play sc2, hang out with whoever I want and it is AWESOME! :D
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On February 04 2011 08:07 Tex wrote:"Friends don't let friends sell railroads".
You should see the self-restraint needed to not shout at my partner when using a get out of jail for free card in the end-game. that's when you want to be in jail! Come on that's so basic! Apperently it's just a game and supposed to be fun when skyping, which is bullocks. It's a game you're supposed to win, all the time at every single game.
EDIT: The car blows, the boat is the chill way of travel.
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On February 04 2011 08:13 Hynda wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 08:07 Tex wrote:On February 04 2011 08:05 Hynda wrote:
EVERYTHING YOU SAID "Friends don't let friends sell railroads". You should see the self-restraint needed to not shout at my partner when using a get out of jail for free card in the end-game. that's when you want to be in jail! Come on that's so basic! Apperently it's just a game and supposed to be fun when skyping, which is bullocks. It's a game you're supposed to win, all the time at every single game.
You play for fun and its fun to win, right? Some people just don't get it.
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If playing games is part of who you are your partner needs to accept that.
It drives my girlfriend crazy, and she used to get really mad about it... But eventually she's learned to not be so grumpy about it.
I think it's important to try to keep your girlfriend/boyfriend time and your gaming time separate, but also make sure to put some time aside for your significant other so they don't feel neglected. But they should also be willing to compromise, and if they hate it when you play games around them, they need to allow you to have your game time by yourself.
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On February 04 2011 08:13 Boneyard.au wrote:
Thats why you don't need to have a girlfriend/boyfriend, at least long term. Look at me! I play sc2 religiously, meet a different (sometimes 2) girl(s) every other week, have fun and then get a new girl. Relationships suck, too much give and little take, at least for now, maybe later I will change my mind but untill then I can play sc2, hang out with whoever I want and it is AWESOME! :D
im callin that bluff
and boats are way more chill than cars.
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On February 04 2011 08:15 numLoCK wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 08:13 Hynda wrote:On February 04 2011 08:07 Tex wrote:On February 04 2011 08:05 Hynda wrote:
EVERYTHING YOU SAID "Friends don't let friends sell railroads". You should see the self-restraint needed to not shout at my partner when using a get out of jail for free card in the end-game. that's when you want to be in jail! Come on that's so basic! Apperently it's just a game and supposed to be fun when skyping, which is bullocks. It's a game you're supposed to win, all the time at every single game. You play for fun and its fun to win, right? Some people just don't get it. Indeed, and ofcourse to relate to the thread I think that's the most common issue in my relationships, I'm overly competative. At least acording to them, in my eyes there is no such thing.
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Where do you live, I want to take you out on a date!!! Just broke up with GF before New Years, although it wasn't to do with SC2, she said it was potentially the biggest turnoff of anything I do. She whined about it all the time, Jesus I wish I had a girl that loved video games, SC2 in particular!
Also have entered a gaming binge since the breakup. Last breakup (with her as well, we got back together and now broke up second time) it was opposite, I went out partying, meeting new girls, not caring about things. Now... I'm just gaming and doing school, ahah.
GL
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At some point during the GSL Tasteless and Artosis were rambling about what it's like to be a nerd. The phrase 'Embrace your inner nerd' comes to mind.
Ever since I broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks ago, I start realising the truth in this statement. You shouldn't pretend not to like computer games just to appeal to your girlfriend. Be who you are. You like pc games, she should be ok with that. If she isn't, tough luck.
My girlfriend was OK with me playing games, although I would feel guilty some times when playing games all day. I often didn't have any good stories to share with her due to her not being interested in games.
Anyway, GL with your situation. Embrace your inner nerd!
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Honestly I think it's really important to have different hobbies from your boyfriend/girlfriend. Sure it's nice to have a few similar interests or things you can do together, but sometimes you need some time to do your own thing.
I play a lot of games, and I've dated some gamer guys in the past. It's nice to be able to sit down and play a game together, but everyone needs some personal time. In a healthy relationship, (imho), both parties will have their own hobbies that they can go off and do with friends. Again, I do play a lot of games, but if that's *all* a guy I was dating wanted to do, I'd get crazy bored realllly fast. Everything in moderation.
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i'd love my gf playing games....
anything from rts, mmos, fighting, racing
all i can say is "BE YOURSELF"
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On February 04 2011 07:35 qzmpwxno wrote:
bros before hoes!!
oh wait...
starcraft before hoes!!
oh god damn it
thors before whores
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I think it's important to be able to share things with a significant other, but not have the exact same hobbies. I mean, if you have the same hobbies, there's nothing new and exciting for you to introduce the other person to, right?
You should have some common ground, but still have stuff that's just for you.
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On February 04 2011 08:05 Hynda wrote:+ Show Spoiler +You don't muck about with online monopoly, it's one of the most vindictive games out there it turns you evil. I wish I was joking but last time I played I got thrown out of the house in nothing but my pants and a t-shirt for 2 hours. It was 2 v 2 with glory and a lunch for a price(and not like a pasta salad, a proper lunch) The stakes are obviously enormous here, not only free food but you get to gloat about it while eating. So i plan out my strat, ironing out all the flaws and what does she do? She just starts the game and that means I'm afk and can not get the boat, everyone wants to be the boat! the boat is the best piece!
My entire evening is obviously ruined by this, and I can't even get the boat back because my opponent choose the dirty trick of "My daughter wanted to be the boat" and stealing stuff from 4 year olds is apperently a bad thing. So I have to be the hat, the hat fucking sucks. Who in his right mind wants to be a safari-hat?
Anyways, we start playing and my girlfriend has no knowledge of monopoly, but since we are on skype with the other couple I can't even shout at her for buying the trainstation, THEY SUCK, NEVER BUY THEM. I tried some simple hand gestures to fix the situation but I was told to go wash them if they were still sticky after dinner.
So I'm in a very tough situation here, my partner have only crap streets and I have a solid hand using proper trading and mind games.
THERE IT IS! If I can just get that one street I can most likley win this!
This required me to stab my partner in the back and twist it causing her to have to roll a 8 or lose the game, she loses. But my brilliant scheme works out and 2 rolls later I'm the champion.
The next part is sadly not made up or even a exaggeration. After having stabbed my partner in the back and won the game I stand up and "YES, I WIN, I'M FUCKING AWESOME". This sadly leads to me being ordered to go outside with the dogs, only for her to lock the door after us go back to socializing with her friends, for 2 hours. At least it was summer, so it wouldn't have been that bad if I just had a pair of trousers.
The story is just so awesome, really made my day :D And yes, the boat is so much more bad-ass than the car -- I hated that my oldest brother always picked the boat, and I had to settle for the shabby looking lame car. But whatever, I got back at him by cheating my rolls.
To the OP, sorry to hear about your relationship go sour. And yeah maybe gaming ruining a relationship and needing space is more a guy's issue, but that isn't all that important -- I think it's more important that the guy and girl specifically work with each other's expectations and needs. Some girls need a lot of attention, others really need their space... some guys expect a girl to be clingy and needy, some guys despise it. So yeah, GL HF on your next ^^
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I wish my gf bought me sc2 on my birthday....
I wish I had one :[............
Well, you should enter into some pro sc2 tournies and pick up a boyfriend there!
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You remind me of my ex girlfriend, except she wasn't really into games, she was into movies. And she enjoyed video games, but not on anything more than a time-waster kind of level. Like how games are my hobby, movies were hers. There was some other little problems with how she viewed games but that's not the thing that bugged me.
I tried to bring interest to her of things like Starcraft pro gaming, or various games and genres and try to get her more into games in general. Well she didn't seem to care, while she spent all her time trying to drive me into movies, and I bit most of the time. In fact I would actually try to watch movies with her and gained some more appreciation for movies than I really had before. But she ignored any effort to actually care about my hobby. In the end that kind of disparity is one of the influencing factors of why I broke up with her, because I actually tried to like things she did but she didn't seem to put any effort in return. The only time she ever got into gaming like I did was Bioshock, past that she never really cared.
I can see the frustration but I would hope you tried to return interest in things he had. If he didn't even really have anything like a hobby though, he was probably a dull shit anyway.
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Closest thing I have gotten to gaming with my gfs is playing Marion cart or super smash brothers with them. Which is still totally awesome. Usually I am more than happy if they understand my love for video games.
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It seems that the biggest problem was not so much the video games but that you and your ex boyfriend had very different ideas on how much freedom there should be in a relationship and he became in a sense too clingy.
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On February 04 2011 10:06 DivineWinter wrote:
Well, you should enter into some pro sc2 tournies and pick up a boyfriend there!
Baby steps! I have to get placed in Bronze first!
On February 04 2011 10:22 RageOverdose wrote:
I can see the frustration but I would hope you tried to return interest in things he had. If he didn't even really have anything like a hobby though, he was probably a dull shit anyway.
We had a lot in common, actually. I was just using the video games as an example. Everyone can relate to it.
Also: I don't think girls like being compared to other people's exes. I can be a stubborn bitch but I'd like to think I'm not a "my way or the highway" stubborn bitch. We both did things/tried things the other liked. I even got him cheering for the Red Wings a few times. Muwaha.
On February 04 2011 10:42 lixlix wrote:
It seems that the biggest problem was not so much the video games but that you and your ex boyfriend had very different ideas on how much freedom there should be in a relationship and he became in a sense too clingy.
I never said video games were -the- issue. But I do agree that we had different understandings, not just about what I've mentioned. Communication started to suck, my feelings about the future changed, hence my 'tl;dr it was me' reason for the break up in the first place.
My main intent was to see how other people handled the girlfriend/boyfriend issues when they came up with gaming/hobbies. And I'm appreciative of all the response and stories (the Monopoly one is one of my favorites, and the car v boat post. I literally lol'd). It's interesting seeing how we've all coped/moved on/see things differently/figured out something we want.
And I guess thanks for the dating advice? ¯\(°_°)/¯
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Wait, so he DOESN'T like playing video games?
GET REAL.
A girl who plays video games is incredibly awesome, as long as they aren't the ones that play rock band once a month and call themselves "legit gamers".
My cousin found someone who actually enjoys playing video games with him, ended up getting married. They have a great time playing games together, and it really strengthens their relationship.
Keep at it! Every single guy I know wishes they had a girlfriend that played video games with them.
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I used to be the person in the relationship that got annoyed every time my partner ditched me for blizzard games. Eventually, he bought me WC3 for my birthday and I got hooked, then moved on to BW.
We sort of made an agreement: He can ditch me for games as long as I get to do the same :D
But we both know where to draw the line. For example, if I haven't seen him in three weeks and we go out, and he proceeds to ignore me for 4 hours to play games...I might be a bit miffed about it.
But luckily, neither of us do that so it works out pretty well for us!
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To OP, it's so ironic how all the time, I, someone who's never had a girlfriend thinks about what it would be like to have a girlfriend, and you talk about how great being single is.
I don't like anyone right now. I have a lot of free time (no more parties or outings), but rather than spend it on school, I'm spending it online. I have difficulty motivating myself.
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On February 04 2011 13:49 Hidden_MotiveS wrote:
To OP, it's so ironic how all the time, I, someone who's never had a girlfriend thinks about what it would be like to have a girlfriend, and you talk about how great being single is.
I don't like anyone right now. I have a lot of free time (no more parties or outings), but rather than spend it on school, I'm spending it online. I have difficulty motivating myself.
Don't use Valentines Day as motivation. I find most people just get lonelier when it doesn't work out.
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My girlfriend isnt into games at allllllllll, and she's the girl i plan to marry! That's just the one aspect of life I keep for myself when I want to relax all on my own. Having someone like her now really makes me realize how shitty being single was lol. Though she doesnt sound nearly as demanding as the situation that you were in, not being able to do this having to do that blah blah. Understanding is so nice to have.
I also came into this blog expecting doodles
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On February 04 2011 14:14 Divinek wrote:
I also came into this blog expecting doodles
HAPPY!??!
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On February 04 2011 08:56 Haemonculus wrote:
Honestly I think it's really important to have different hobbies from your boyfriend/girlfriend. Sure it's nice to have a few similar interests or things you can do together, but sometimes you need some time to do your own thing.
I play a lot of games, and I've dated some gamer guys in the past. It's nice to be able to sit down and play a game together, but everyone needs some personal time. In a healthy relationship, (imho), both parties will have their own hobbies that they can go off and do with friends. Again, I do play a lot of games, but if that's *all* a guy I was dating wanted to do, I'd get crazy bored realllly fast. Everything in moderation.
in case anyone hasnt picked up on it, haemo often says smart stuff a lot
i think it's pretty funny that the op has what is almost always a guy's problem in a relationship hahaha
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On February 05 2011 01:04 Hawk wrote:
i think it's pretty funny that the op has what is almost always a guy's problem in a relationship hahaha
Story of my life. I've pretty much gotten all the guy problems except erectile dysfunction.
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I've always thought an interesting dilemma is what do you do when you're a gamer and get married to someone who doesnt care for games but tolerates your hobby like any good spouse. It's one thing to know your SO plays games... it's another to sit in the other room and hear them curse at the tv like a maniac, sitting there with that DONT FUCKING TALK TO ME FACE whilst smashing away at little buttons
I am an unapproachable retard when I play games and I'm sure I can't possibly be alone there! I can't imagine this will ever change.
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I'm just 100% unapproachable. And I don't get why people have the sudden urge to talk to you, when you have headphones on, and have to ask 'are you listening'?
It's like...dude, headphones.
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On February 04 2011 07:31 Tex wrote:
I ended up breaking up with him anyway, for various reasons (tl;dr it was me). I went on a gaming binge after that. I also didn't have to answer text messages right away, make anyone feel bad if I had been out and, oh no, there are boys there.
If you by the tldr mean "its not you, its me" kind of thing, then the next 2-3 sentences kind of greatly go against that, I am pretty sure the fastest and most efficient way to get a girl to not like you anymore\turn her off of you, apart from like killing her family or cheating on her, is to act needy in such a fashion. So if anyone is to blame it sounds like it is him =p
Although the biggest problem was probably that it was a long distance relationship (assuming i understood this correctly? ) since they are just no good overall. For anyone in a long distance relationship, I am sure there is atleast 1XXX people within your state you could be "equally compatible" with given the right circumstances. So unless it is a short term thing with a definite end in sight, then it is not worth it imo although i guess that is just my 2 cents. n_n
Anyway a bit more on topic, you shouldnt have to hide playing starcraft 2 from your boyfriend(or girlfriend.) Atleast for me, if I had to hide me doing a hobby that I love because of my girlfriend then I dont think thats a relationship I personally would want to be in =p
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What the fuck is every other girl on this site so artistically talented? fml
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wait, this kind of situation actually happens??
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Must construct additional pylons.
Anyways, do what you love, life is short, and you only get 1. (that you currently know of)
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On February 05 2011 02:25 Haemonculus wrote:
What the fuck is every other girl on this site so artistically talented? fml
I expect a blog post with a cartoon in a week! Stick figures are acceptable.
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On February 05 2011 02:02 Earll wrote:
Although the biggest problem was probably that it was a long distance relationship (assuming i understood this correctly? ) since they are just no good overall. For anyone in a long distance relationship, I am sure there is atleast 1XXX people within your state you could be "equally compatible" with given the right circumstances. So unless it is a short term thing with a definite end in sight, then it is not worth it imo although i guess that is just my 2 cents. n_n
Anyway a bit more on topic, you shouldnt have to hide playing starcraft 2 from your boyfriend(or girlfriend.) Atleast for me, if I had to hide me doing a hobby that I love because of my girlfriend then I dont think thats a relationship I personally would want to be in =p
You understood perfectly. Several parties though it was -actually- going to work out, but you already know the ending. This was my 2nd LDR and last. No hat trick for me. Lesson learned, etc.
It wasn't that I was always hiding it (in that instance I did, just so I could keep playing), but with more reflection time it looks like I was just having more fun playing/talking SC2 than socializing with the SO. Eep.
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On the topic of having similar and seperate interests, the way I've always looked at it was, keep your passions seperate, and your interests congruent. The reason I've found and stuck to this, is people are very, well, passionate about their passions, and as such are set in their ways of doing things. If you take two people with the same passion, they're going to approach it in at least somewhat different ways, and it's going to cause the most heated arguements and disagreements possible. However, you also can't find someone apathetic to your passion, as this causes just as much dispute. Interests, however, are what give you things to do together besides just sex and talking. I know plenty of relationships that are just that, where both people don't really have a passion, and the relationship is doomed to fail.
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On February 05 2011 02:25 Haemonculus wrote:
What the fuck is every other girl on this site so artistically talented? fml
I think you need to draw something so we can judge.
Tex has shown she has artistic ability. Raeleigh has shown, repeatedly, that she can draw very well.
We're waiting on you. ^_^
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On February 05 2011 06:19 LazyMacro wrote:Show nested quote +On February 05 2011 02:25 Haemonculus wrote:
What the fuck is every other girl on this site so artistically talented? fml I think you need to draw something so we can judge. Tex has shown she has artistic ability. Raeleigh has shown, repeatedly, that she can draw very well. We're waiting on you. ^_^
+ Show Spoiler +
A LoL comic I drew. That's about the extent of my artistic skills when it comes to drawing.
Used to be good at miniature painting back when I played warhammer a lot, but I haven't really painted anything in years.
+ Show Spoiler +![[image loading]](http://i405.photobucket.com/albums/pp132/Gallowmere08/KIF_0280.jpg) etc etc
I love the little cartoons that Tex and Raeleigh draw though.
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On February 04 2011 11:01 Tex wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 10:22 RageOverdose wrote:
I can see the frustration but I would hope you tried to return interest in things he had. If he didn't even really have anything like a hobby though, he was probably a dull shit anyway. We had a lot in common, actually. I was just using the video games as an example. Everyone can relate to it. Also: I don't think girls like being compared to other people's exes. I can be a stubborn bitch but I'd like to think I'm not a "my way or the highway" stubborn bitch. We both did things/tried things the other liked. I even got him cheering for the Red Wings a few times. Muwaha.
To be honest I don't really care if "girls" don't like it, because it isn't just girls, no one likes being compared to someone in any way that may be (or rather, seem) negative, although I think you missed what I was saying a little.
The phrase choice was poor on my part, and I'm sorry. I actually meant to compare your relationship to mine, with my perspective also of the whole "I love Starcraft, I want you to try to love it too, but you don't seem to be." I think really EVERYONE wants to spend time getting their significant other to like they things they do. But from your post I wasn't sure if you tried to take interest in his things. And I don't mean having common interests, I mean trying to take interest in things he liked as a hobby. As far as I know he's my girlfriend and you're me in this situation, which was the point of my original statement...But I just hope that you were trying to be active in liking things he was into, much like you were getting him to like things you were into. That can be said for both of you. Frankly he sounds pretty lame so I doubt he even tried or wanted to...
Yeah I could've worded it better.
PS: Holy shit you can doodle!
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Ohhh Tex you play on a laptop too? Pro!
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On February 05 2011 06:52 RageOverdose wrote:
WALL OF TEXT
Don't sweat it! Thank you for taking the time to clarify what you meant. It helps a buttload (now!).
Yeeep. I like to doodle in my free time.
On February 05 2011 06:54 Haemonculus wrote:
Ohhh Tex you play on a laptop too? Pro!
For now! I use to play with just the laptop/mouse. Now I got a bigger keyboard. I'm currently saving up to build up my own desktop strictly for gaming (read: I only have the case :X)
I want to try and play on the giant TV at home. That'd be sick.
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To me, I'd hate for a girl to be 100% similar to me in every interest. 1 or 2 interests is good enough to start reasonable conversations and make each other feel that "we have something to talk about and not stare at each other awkwardly". But I think it's best to have different interests so at least we can learn something new from each other even if the relationship didn't work out.
btw, awesome drawing!
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On February 05 2011 06:43 Haemonculus wrote:Show nested quote +On February 05 2011 06:19 LazyMacro wrote:On February 05 2011 02:25 Haemonculus wrote:
What the fuck is every other girl on this site so artistically talented? fml I think you need to draw something so we can judge. Tex has shown she has artistic ability. Raeleigh has shown, repeatedly, that she can draw very well. We're waiting on you. ^_^ + Show Spoiler +A LoL comic I drew. That's about the extent of my artistic skills when it comes to drawing. Used to be good at miniature painting back when I played warhammer a lot, but I haven't really painted anything in years. + Show Spoiler +etc etc I love the little cartoons though that Tex and Raeleigh draw though.
Haha, I love the comic. xD Shit like that happened to me all the time when I played LoL.
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On February 05 2011 06:43 Haemonculus wrote:
Used to be good at miniature painting back when I played warhammer a lot, but I haven't really painted anything in years.
Everyone has their own niche. I've seen some ballin' miniatures. I really like this one!
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You need date a person in your league :D
I can some what relate, despite not having a bf before...
I added it to my list of qualities of my future potential bfs MUST HAVE:
Be in the same league or better 
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Your post kind of seems to suggest that this was a long-distance relationship. Staying up on skype etc etc... I don't think it was video games that ended this relationship. Videos games might have been a scape goat, but not having an intimate relationship where you're actually there for each other and can help each other was what really happened.
I could be reading into this too much, but yeah, you didn't mention once any in person interaction with your boyfriend lol.
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On February 26 2011 13:44 Chef wrote:
Your post kind of seems to suggest that this was a long-distance relationship. Staying up on skype etc etc... I don't think it was video games that ended this relationship. Videos games might have been a scape goat, but not having an intimate relationship where you're actually there for each other and can help each other was what really happened.
I could be reading into this too much, but yeah, you didn't mention once any in person interaction with your boyfriend lol.
You're probably right, a lot of long distance relationships never work out. Then again, some relationships are defined by their being long distance. Bout the only time they enjoy each others company is after a 2-3 month long break from each other. It just makes it that much more enjoyable when you meet them again I know, most of my first year of being married was spent apart from each other. Military ftw
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i would play sc with you , whenever you want ;D
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my fiancee enjoys games like The Sims a lot, but I actually got her into Starcraft 1 midway through 2009, when we first met, and then it was pretty logical to buy her Starcraft 2 when it came out. We play together a lot and she plays on her own even more.
At the end of the day, if your partner isn't the type of person to like videogames, then either you have to hope you can help them understand that gaming is just another hobby/leisure activity like any other.
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On March 02 2011 15:11 anjdza wrote:
i would play sc with , whenever you want ;D
i wondered how long into the thread before a resident creepyguy would show up
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On March 02 2011 15:36 Dhalphir wrote:Show nested quote +On March 02 2011 15:11 anjdza wrote:
i would play sc with , whenever you want ;D i wondered how long into the thread before a resident creepyguy would show up
There is no need not too show up :D can't let this oopotunity slip away :D
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EPT![[image loading]](http://imgur.com/O6cEu.jpg)
