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Mini-vent/rant. This *is* the blog section, after all.
This morning I reconnected with a classmate of mine from high school (gj, Facebook) and we got to talking about 'the single life'. Why we like it, how we got there, things we don't miss, etc. We saw eye-to-eye on a lot of things, which wasn't new to me (read: blew his mind) since I feel like I'm able to relate to/sympathize with guys a little more when it comes to relationship battles. Probably cause the majority of my friends are male and all my girlfriends have up and moved away.
I saw a lot of similarities in my last relationship (ended in October) and the ones my classmate kept describing. But the one that applies here was over video games.
My last relationship (~2+ yrs) at one point was in jeopardy over video games (well, mostly Starcraft). Not so much the playing but the involvement behind it. I'd stay up late to chat to chat/stream or play (like till 4amish), instead of getting on Skype to talk to my boyfriend. Once he fell asleep on Skype so I tilted my camera so you couldn't see that I wasn't paying attention incase he woke up (bad girlfriend!).
We had played other games together before (Brawl, Halo...online Monopoly) but SC2 was my latest craze at the time. So I tried to get him involved (I'm pretty sure Cosmo has like, billions of articles written about how women should either tear their guys away from the games and if not, dump them/write a poorly written article about how video games are the leading cause of break-ups). I bought him SC2 for his birthday. We might have played once together. Hell I even asked him to stay up with me and join in on a stream. Didn't happen. 9/10 he'd just listen in.
I seriously thought I was going to get dumped over it. My guy friends thought it was hilarious/liked seeing that they were not the only ones who had to put up with it and I liked being able to relate to them.
Long story short, I ended up breaking up with him anyway, for various reasons (tl;dr it was me). I went on a gaming binge after that. I also didn't have to answer text messages right away, make anyone feel bad if I had been out and, oh no, there are boys there. I'm not saying I was unfaithful (I wasn't) but the amount of unnecessary concern was…unnecessary. So I'm out and not texting you, what of it? My classmate mentioned that girls usually trip over this sorta thing, I mean, I understand to a point where the girls/my girlfriends are coming from, but past that I just want to tell them that they need to stop smothering their partners. It's embarrassing to watch and having been on the other side of it, it's annoying.
Anyway, I know there are a loooooot of 'Girl Problems' posts, but I just felt like I needed to vent a bit and let there be some reassurance for guys. The video games topic I felt was one I could relate to easiest, with as little detail/effort as possible (I'm lazy).
Anyone able to find a happy medium when it comes to dating/gaming/hobby-ing? Or maybe have an awesome single-life story. Thoughts? Questions? Comments? Snide remarks? Feel free.
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Papua New Guinea152 Posts
bros before hoes!!
oh wait...
starcraft before hoes!!
oh god damn it
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On February 04 2011 07:35 qzmpwxno wrote:
bros before hoes!!
oh wait...
Someone you and I both know missed this rule in boy scouts.
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take that story, except switch the genders around and add sports to starcraft, and you get my last relationship XD
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Umm quite the interesting turn of events of the girl gamer being ignored by the guy... Interesting that it happens..
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Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss.
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On February 04 2011 07:37 italiangymnast wrote:
take that story, except switch the genders around and add sports to starcraft, and you get my last relationship XD
This is why i think its important to find a partner that shares your biggest interests. Its not just gaming that can ruin relationships. Everything from sports to cooking to painting are just as time consuming and can take time away from a relationship. The problem occurs when the other person doesnt agree with how you're spending your away time, not just that you are away.
Don't try to hide your hobbies if you think it will give you a better chance to get together with that really cute guy/girl that may not like gaming. It'll be nice at first but eventually your hobbies will come to light and they will have a problem with it. If you wait and find someone who will support what you do with your free time, then you will be infinitley happier than you would be with a person who doesn't support your idea of entertainment even if they are a little bit more -insert positive attribute-
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Belgium9947 Posts
edit: sorry, I got carried away
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Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss.
well i guess you can do that. But if you want an extreamly attractive nerd to live in perpetual bliss with, look no further
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On February 04 2011 07:37 italiangymnast wrote:
take that story, except switch the genders around and add sports to starcraft, and you get my last relationship XD
I got dumped once due to too much training and competitions. She was totaly uninterested in sports and I cut down on my training to ~18h/week but it was still too much.
Now I try to only date girls that share atleast one of my intrests, starcraft or one of my sports.
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On February 04 2011 07:45 sc4k wrote:
Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss.
Uh..I don't think I said that he did not like video games. He may have sucked at them, but he didn't hate them. Any guy I end up with is going to have to be/has been in some aspect of gaming.
Sorry for the confusion.
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On February 04 2011 07:52 Eatme wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 07:37 italiangymnast wrote:
take that story, except switch the genders around and add sports to starcraft, and you get my last relationship XD I got dumped once due to too much training and competitions. She was totaly uninterested in sports and I cut down on my training to ~18h/week but it was still too much. Now I try to only date girls that share atleast one of my intrests, starcraft or one of my sports.
that sucks =/ - Pro Tip : go to Springfield College - all athletes, and some real good looking girls there.
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On February 04 2011 07:53 Tex wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 07:45 sc4k wrote:
Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss. Uh..I don't think I said that he did not like video games. He may have sucked at them, but he didn't hate them. Any guy I end up with is going to have to be/has been in some aspect of gaming. Sorry for the confusion.
Fine, replace 'doesn't like' with 'doesnt suck at'...!
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Well as for myself.. I am a complete gamer nerd too and Ive had to break up with a boyfriend before because all he wanted to do was play sports where I wanted to play video games. The best thing is to find that nerd who not only likes the same things but especially likes the same video games as you haha. I found a great guy who loves Starcraft more than me.He plays it all the time and loves to be a major part of the community. I love to watch it (I am absolutely horrible at the micro/macro so I don't play it much ;P) and I love to be apart of the community too. We'll set up tournaments even where he plays in it and I run it. You just need to find that right balance with someone. It's awesome when you do ^_^ <3 Bliss[AoV]
Ps, not only do I support his obsession with the game, I ended up buying him a 200 gosu training session XD He ended up helping me a little with my gaming (though all the help in the world wont help T_T practice practice practice.) 
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On February 04 2011 08:02 sc4k wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2011 07:53 Tex wrote:On February 04 2011 07:45 sc4k wrote:
Yeah seriously, what the hell are you doing going out with a guy who doesn't like video games? Just find a relatively attractive nerd and live in perpetual bliss. Uh..I don't think I said that he did not like video games. He may have sucked at them, but he didn't hate them. Any guy I end up with is going to have to be/has been in some aspect of gaming. Sorry for the confusion. Fine, replace 'doesn't like' with 'doesnt suck at'...!
Well maybe I will...!
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You don't muck about with online monopoly, it's one of the most vindictive games out there it turns you evil. I wish I was joking but last time I played I got thrown out of the house in nothing but my pants and a t-shirt for 2 hours. It was 2 v 2 with glory and a lunch for a price(and not like a pasta salad, a proper lunch) The stakes are obviously enormous here, not only free food but you get to gloat about it while eating. So i plan out my strat, ironing out all the flaws and what does she do? She just starts the game and that means I'm afk and can not get the boat, everyone wants to be the boat! the boat is the best piece!
My entire evening is obviously ruined by this, and I can't even get the boat back because my opponent choose the dirty trick of "My daughter wanted to be the boat" and stealing stuff from 4 year olds is apperently a bad thing. So I have to be the hat, the hat fucking sucks. Who in his right mind wants to be a safari-hat?
Anyways, we start playing and my girlfriend has no knowledge of monopoly, but since we are on skype with the other couple I can't even shout at her for buying the trainstation, THEY SUCK, NEVER BUY THEM. I tried some simple hand gestures to fix the situation but I was told to go wash them if they were still sticky after dinner.
So I'm in a very tough situation here, my partner have only crap streets and I have a solid hand using proper trading and mind games.
THERE IT IS! If I can just get that one street I can most likley win this!
This required me to stab my partner in the back and twist it causing her to have to roll a 8 or lose the game, she loses. But my brilliant scheme works out and 2 rolls later I'm the champion.
The next part is sadly not made up or even a exaggeration. After having stabbed my partner in the back and won the game I stand up and "YES, I WIN, I'M FUCKING AWESOME". This sadly leads to me being ordered to go outside with the dogs, only for her to lock the door after us go back to socializing with her friends, for 2 hours. At least it was summer, so it wouldn't have been that bad if I just had a pair of trousers.
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On February 04 2011 08:05 Hynda wrote:
EVERYTHING YOU SAID
"Friends don't let friends sell railroads".
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what sort of a douchebag chooses the gay ass boat when you could have the epic car?? You want to potter about at 10 knots down the river to Old Kent Rd. whilst I burn rubber on Mayfair???
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Thats why you don't need to have a girlfriend/boyfriend, at least long term. Look at me! I play sc2 religiously, meet a different (sometimes 2) girl(s) every other week, have fun and then get a new girl. Relationships suck, too much give and little take, at least for now, maybe later I will change my mind but untill then I can play sc2, hang out with whoever I want and it is AWESOME! :D
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On February 04 2011 08:07 Tex wrote:"Friends don't let friends sell railroads".
You should see the self-restraint needed to not shout at my partner when using a get out of jail for free card in the end-game. that's when you want to be in jail! Come on that's so basic! Apperently it's just a game and supposed to be fun when skyping, which is bullocks. It's a game you're supposed to win, all the time at every single game.
EDIT: The car blows, the boat is the chill way of travel.
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