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i think that you and your roommate just can not be friends.
i split the grocery bill with mine, he eats more than me and I am fine with that because he's a friend
he talks w/ his g.f all the time, i have a pair of noise cancelling headphones and that doesn't bug me
sarcastic one he isn't, but he likes to argue over everything. annoying? yes. but no enough to move out
You can't live with him because you obviously dont like him , and you should move out. who gives a fuck what he thinks about you, you seem like you dont like him anways.
EDIT: read a little further and it seems like you are a freshman student in a dorm not apartment?
in that case just tell administration and move the fuck out, no matter how much I cared about what someone thought of me, if i didn't like a guy and had problems it would always be MY feelings before the other guy
oh and dude i feel for you man, must suck for you to feel like that. screw the guy and leave him lol
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Man, you guys are all pretty harsh on elkram. I have had a number of roommates and I can understand feeling frustrated with stuff like that.
First off, you don't want to seem petty and be like, dude, I know you ate my pop tarts, don't do that shit. So you let that slide, but as it keeps happening, then you get more and more frustrated, and now you can't say anything because you have let it slide so long... You eventually learn just to say something right away.
I have found the problem with roommates is they do something that is really annoying, say, eat your shit without asking, and you get annoyed. But then because you are already annoyed, everything they do really pisses you off, even if it is not that bad. I think that is what the OP is expressing.
But overall, I agree with the majority of the responses, if you just make a passing comment one time when you notice he has ate something of yours, or done something irritating, most people usually stop doing it. You don't have to sit the guy down and tell him everything that bothers you. I hope things get better.
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If you didn't put the girlfriend one in then people could probably believe he's a bit of an inconsiderate prick, but putting that there just makes it sound like you have a thing against him and are judgemental.
What, you'd prefer he talks more with you? Despite him always being sarcastic?
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Sure he may not be the best roommate around, but you really need to learn to communicate with him. You've got to learn it some time or another in life, so why not pick it up earlier on (I.E. now)? It's as simple as telling him some of palanq's quotes. If he's inconsiderate to the point where he won't change any habits after you talk to him then you have an obligation to move out.
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I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you've told him about the stuff that bothers you and blahblah.
Point is, if you don't like someone, that's okay. Fuck that guy and move out. You don't like being around him so who cares if he thinks you hate him. I've had room mates I don't like, but I've never had to live in a one-bedroom dorm situation, so ignore everyone else who is giving you flak, It sounds like a shitty situation.
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If you talk with him and nothing changes move out asap,because feelings being bottled will take a toll on you and could make you do something you will regreat. Just be lucky you can move out and find another place. I was not so lucky when I had a roommate back a couple years ago.This guy would blast music all the time,when he shaved he left his beard in the sink,he smoked and left ashes in the sink or on the kitchen counter. when the toilet seat was down and it was night time he would piss in the bathtub and not have the consideration to wash it down. He had a female dog which was not fixed and it blead all over the furniture. I would talk to him about it and he would say he would change,but he did not. Our other roomate got so sick of him that he got into a fight with him and he ended up leaving. Now I have my own place and feel alot more peace. Dont let things get out of hand
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Have you told him not to eat your food? If not, it is your cowardice to blame.
Please tell him to tell you earlier in advance about rides he needs.
As for the talking, he should be free to talk with his girlfriend. Probably not a good idea to get involved. If you are studying or something, you can ask him to talk outside of your hearing range.
It seems to me that you just aren't talking to him so he probably doesn't know what you are thinking at all. I am socially debilitated as well, so I understand, but please use our encouragement to talk to him as energy enough to power you to be able to talk to him. I actually tried really hard to talk to my first college roommate but he wouldn't talk to me at all. One day, I saw that our thermostat was covered in duct tape and there was an angry note from my roommate in ALL CAPS about how "THIS THERMOSTAT SHALL NOT BE LOWERED BELOW 72 DEGREES." Apparently I was making it too cold for him but I had no idea!
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Food:
"Yo dude, just wanna ask about all those times you ate my food... Yeah sometimes I plan for the food I buy for some sport events or something along those lines and when I find it missing, it kinda kills part of the entertainment for me. Now that's just an example to demonstrate, but I'd really like it if you ask me before eating my food... Thanks  "
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haha, just talk to him about it..
if hes not going to be reasonable
gtfo and ignore the guy for being a douche!
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Food: Make some delicious looking spaghetti, then dust it liberally with crumbled parmesan cheese. EXCEPT, this is no parmesan cheese. Instead it is ULTRA grade rat poision disguised to LOOK like parmesan chese!! Then put a nice big portion of it in a big white plate and seran wrap it. Put it in the fridge, wait for a few days, Profit.
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You roomate sounds like one of my closest friends. Why are you annoyed at his talking to his gf? The sarcasm thing can be annoying though, the best answer is to just ignore his sarcasm and sometimes respond sarcastically and sometimes respond normally. I've found overly sarcastic people get annoyed when you don't always respond to their sarcasm or if you respond too often.
Idk, talk to him if you have a problem.
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On December 12 2010 10:49 tinydancer wrote:
Man, you guys are all pretty harsh on elkram. I have had a number of roommates and I can understand feeling frustrated with stuff like that.
First off, you don't want to seem petty and be like, dude, I know you ate my pop tarts, don't do that shit. So you let that slide, but as it keeps happening, then you get more and more frustrated, and now you can't say anything because you have let it slide so long... You eventually learn just to say something right away.
I have found the problem with roommates is they do something that is really annoying, say, eat your shit without asking, and you get annoyed. But then because you are already annoyed, everything they do really pisses you off, even if it is not that bad. I think that is what the OP is expressing.
But overall, I agree with the majority of the responses, if you just make a passing comment one time when you notice he has ate something of yours, or done something irritating, most people usually stop doing it. You don't have to sit the guy down and tell him everything that bothers you. I hope things get better.
petty? HE'S EATING HIS FOOD. It doesn't matter how long you let it slide, at any point if someone was like hey dude can you ask me before you eat my food? They wouldn't care they'd be like 'sure no problem man!' .
I like that the OP flat out admitted that he's a coward, but if you can't even build up the courage to ask someone you're living with to not do things that irritate you so much you're going to die alone and in a hole. Losing fundamental social skills like this are a major problem with the world deeees days.
I don't think people are being dicks, i think they're trying to help this poor sir be able to say a single sentence to this person in a direct manner which would immediately alleviate the problem. It's alot easier than it sounds and you'll feel tonnns better when that shit stops happening.
That and you gotta learn to be able to talk to people some time man lol
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You'd be surprised how oblivious some people are to your hate. I bet your roommate has NO idea he's bothering you this much. Telling him is the best option, and never assume that "he must know". I know it's easy to assume that, I'm guilty of it too, but usually they really don't know at all.
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Atleast your roommate knows the glory that is being clothed. And I doubt he is a chronic masturbation marathoner. I cannot tell you the number of days that I knocked on the door to my room to hear a call back of the nature "hold up I'm almost done, just gimme a second". followed by silence, and then a "OK I'm all cleaned up."
Walk into my room and see my roommate in nothing but a loose towel. That was actually all that he wore, post masturbation or just getting back from the gym. (ya he was a Bulgarian Power Lifter)
The only saving grace was he smoked weed, if he didn't do that I may have killed myself last year.
Oh another thing that I hated about him was his sleep needs. If he wanted to sleep, I had to TURN MY COMPUTER OFF. Because the sound of a laptop running (even in sleep mode) was just too much for the big bad Power Lifter.
Good lord I hated that fuck..
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1) Talk to him. Simple.
2) Tell him you prefer to be a serious person, so you don't like sarcasm much.
3) Ask him whether or not he needs a ride home and when.
4) Study elsewhere, listen to music/audio on your computer, or block off the sound.
Nothing he does is really that bad.
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fine I'll fucking talk to him GAHHH! people with their reasonable suggestions
Nah just snap him..... twice ! :D
when i was going on the collage i was really scared what kind of assholes i will have to leave with. BUT i was lucky and get 2 awesome dudes (yes we are on rooms 3-4 ppl.) fortunately i never had this problem but you should talk to him and you should do that after 1st time he touch your food !
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You'd rather live with someone you hate than deal with a bit of awkwardness when you run into him?
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