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So, in a hopefully positive trend, I've decided to blog with more "quality" (look at my apology post). Anyways, I've been thinking about this since the 2nd or 3rd month into college, and it is "Why do I hate my roommate?"
First off, the reason I don't move out is because I'm a coward. There, I said it. I don't want to move out because I don't want my roommate to know that I hate him. Also, we'll probably see each other because I go to a small school of less than 2000 people. So the chances of me running into him again are pretty high. That all being said I shall explore my hatred of my roommate for you.
First and foremost, he eats all my damn food. Now, I understand being in a bind once in a while, but this man must be some relative of a communist because he feels that what ever I buy he is allowed the opportunity to eat. No, that is not how this is supposed to work. If I buy pop-tarts (totally a non-real-experience based example) that does not give you the right to eat 1.5 packs. Not even 2 full ones. At least give me the decency of not having to deal with a half-pack. I eat only 2 packs of pop-tarts, leave for a day and a half, come back, and mysteriously 1.5 pop tart packs (out of 2 because I had already eaten 2) are missing. I mean I'm actually so upset about that that I now hide all food that I get (under the bed shhhh don't tell him) just so he can't eat it. So far it has proven amazing. It feels so much better to eat a whole pizza, and then, when you wake up, to have the ability to eat another whole pizza when watching the GSL (heartburn FTW!). So that problem is somewhat solved, but there is more.
Secondly, he is probably one of the most sarcastic people I've ever met. Now, I'm ok with sarcasm, or just blatent stupidity, every once in a while. Hell, some of my best friends are sarcastic with me from time-to-time, and say the most stupidest shit I've ever heard. However, nobody has ever been this sarcastic. It's as if he feels that every sentence that comes out of his mouth should have a longing for truth, but in the end be completely false. Sure, this can be humorous if used correctly, but using it all the time makes you seem like a douche. In all honesty I don't feel that he is actually a real person. He appears so far removed from reality that every sentence he says is just wrong. Just the lack of honesty alone makes me hate him that much more.
Thirdly (one more after this, bare with me), he is very irresponsible. If I drive him home (we live in around the same area), and he doesn't say anything about driving back, I assume (like I feel most people would) that you have your own ride back. No, not my roommate. He feels that if you drive him somewhere, you should drive him back. What the hell kind of logic is that? Let's say that I have to make an emergency run back to college and can't come back. I'm not driving for 4 hours round trip to bring your ass back, your just flat out of luck. This has happened twice (he's gotten a ride back from somebody else at the last-minute, but still), and it just gets annoying. If you want me to drive you back to college for classes, tell me ahead of time, don't let me know 2 days before break ends, or just as we are about to leave.
Finally, he talks with his girlfriend all the time. And when I say all the time, I mean all the time. Now, this quibble may be less substantial, but when piled with the other 3 it just makes it that much more annoying. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for your communication with your girlfriend. Damn it, you found someone who could stand to be with you for more than 10 minutes, and is willing to have sex with you, that is an awesome win-win. However, please, learn to give time to yourself. Just because you have a girlfriend does not mean you have to talk to her constantly, it is not a long standing rule. Please, just take a day or two, to not text her, skype her, or even call her, it really helps me, and it will also help you because you'll realize why you love her as well as not be bogged down by her.
If you were able to read through that then here is your treat: you get to answer a question!!
So, have any of you ever hated someone with a passion like i do? It doesn't have to be a roommate, it could be someone else, maybe a neighbor, someone who is in your class, but just someone who you are required to interact with.
+ Show Spoiler +fine I'll fucking talk to him GAHHH! people with their reasonable suggestions
 
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i can't help but think none of this would be a problem if you said something. people live differently, deal with it. i'm sure he eats your food because he doesn't mind you eating his, etc.
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Why do you assume if you move out he will think you hate him. You can give him a multitude of other reasons or just say you found a better place or a friend you want to move in with.
And why do you even care how much he talks with his girlfriend? Just leave him alone to do whatever he wants in his relationship and mind your own fucking business imo.
The eating your food thing/driving shit is annoying but have you ever considered writing your name on your food and just telling him not to eat it instead of being super passive aggressive and posting whine blogs on TL hoping you can wish him into a responsible roommate with internet nerd rage?
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have u ever considered communication
its an ancient secret
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To answer your question: No I've never hated anyone with such passion. Honestly dude you can't complain if you are a "coward" by your own terms. The dude has no clue that he's upsetting you and you're being a child about it.
Are you an only child or something? How come you can't handle dealing with social pressures in an adult fashion. I'm assuming you're 18 which is plenty old enough to be able to handle anything social. You're not in high school anymore.
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On December 12 2010 09:50 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
Why do you assume if you move out he will think you hate him. You can give him a multitude of other reasons or just say you found a better place or a friend you want to move in with.
And why do you even care how much he talks with his girlfriend? Just leave him alone to do whatever he wants in his relationship and mind your own fucking business imo.
The eating your food thing/driving shit is annoying but have you ever considered writing your name on your food and just telling him not to eat it instead of being super passive aggressive and posting whine blogs on TL hoping you can wish him into a responsible roommate with internet nerd rage?
as i said before, I'm a coward, I don't think you really took to heart that 2nd paragraph.
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intrigue
Washington, D.C9934 Posts
maybe you could try to fucking talk to him
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On December 12 2010 09:59 intrigue wrote:
maybe you could try to fucking talk to him
now why would you bring up obvious solutions like that? (look at who's being sarcastic?) well now...
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On December 12 2010 09:59 intrigue wrote:
maybe you could try to fucking talk to him ^ This. Honestly he sounds like a normal college student. Kind of like the guy next door that I happen to be great friends with. And your stereotypical not-so-responsible eats-everything college kid. Nothing stopping you from going through life secretly hating everyone but honestly talking is worth a try.
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I bet your roommate ate 1.5 of your pop tarts while you were blogging.
Also if he has no respect for your private food, he might also be inclined to look in your web browser history from time to time. Just a thought :-)
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On December 12 2010 09:58 elkram wrote:Show nested quote +On December 12 2010 09:50 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
Why do you assume if you move out he will think you hate him. You can give him a multitude of other reasons or just say you found a better place or a friend you want to move in with.
And why do you even care how much he talks with his girlfriend? Just leave him alone to do whatever he wants in his relationship and mind your own fucking business imo.
The eating your food thing/driving shit is annoying but have you ever considered writing your name on your food and just telling him not to eat it instead of being super passive aggressive and posting whine blogs on TL hoping you can wish him into a responsible roommate with internet nerd rage? as i said before, I'm a coward, I don't think you really took to heart that 2nd paragraph.
you seriously dont have the balls to tell him to not eat your food and get his own rides
i am a Grade-A pussy and even i can say that. he honestly doesnt sound that bad. he's just a bit inconsiderate but u r raging so hard and say you hate him with a passion so I think you have some personal issues to work on
maybe he thinks you are a dick too
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This guy doesn't sound like that horrible of a roommate, #2-4 don't even seem like real issues. As for #1 you don't even have to straight up tell him not to eat your food. You can just say something like you'd appreciate it if he asked you before he ate your food or something.
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I fucking hate my neighbors, drugged out idiots. Holy shit, I've never wanted to slug two people worse in my life. Your roommate sounds okay to me, talking to him would probably fix the food issue which, as far as I can tell, is the only real issue here.
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On December 12 2010 10:02 elkram wrote:Show nested quote +On December 12 2010 09:59 intrigue wrote:
maybe you could try to fucking talk to him now why would you bring up obvious solutions like that? (look at who's being sarcastic?) well now...
What did you honestly expect? You're pretty much the worst human being Ive ever had the displeasure of reading about, you can't say a few words to him just so you both get along better, and if you truly hated him you wouldn't give 2 fucks about his feelings. God you hurt my head.
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Tell him what you wrote in this blog. Minus girlfriend and being sarcastic.
Also grow a pair.
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haha I think this is standard for most freshman roommates. Last year as a freshman I would constantly rage in my mind about little things my roommate would that that would tick me off (leave his dirty clothes all over the place, not be the most respectful when I was sleeping). Looking back on it none of what he did was really a big deal and I now realize that I was being pretty irrational, but the fact that I had to see this guy in my room everyday started to wear on me, and I think you are in the same situation.
Make it to winter break and give yourself some time away from your roommate. After a long absence you might start to view him a little better (at least for a few weeks before he starts to get annoying again). If it still keeps up, then many people above me have the right answer, just talk to him about it
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Korea (South)11586 Posts
at least he doesn't owe you $1,400 like my roommates.
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It's absurd that you keep staying there just because you're too worried some guy you hate anyway might not like you. :/
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Just tell him not to eat your food, or at least pay you for it. The other traits I can see as being annoying, but not good reasons to hate your roommate passionately for.
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try these handy phrases
"hey, since you ate some of my pop tarts, you gotta buy me some replacements"
"hey would you mind talking to your gf outside? I gotta concentrate and get some work done"
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i think that you and your roommate just can not be friends.
i split the grocery bill with mine, he eats more than me and I am fine with that because he's a friend
he talks w/ his g.f all the time, i have a pair of noise cancelling headphones and that doesn't bug me
sarcastic one he isn't, but he likes to argue over everything. annoying? yes. but no enough to move out
You can't live with him because you obviously dont like him , and you should move out. who gives a fuck what he thinks about you, you seem like you dont like him anways.
EDIT: read a little further and it seems like you are a freshman student in a dorm not apartment?
in that case just tell administration and move the fuck out, no matter how much I cared about what someone thought of me, if i didn't like a guy and had problems it would always be MY feelings before the other guy
oh and dude i feel for you man, must suck for you to feel like that. screw the guy and leave him lol
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Man, you guys are all pretty harsh on elkram. I have had a number of roommates and I can understand feeling frustrated with stuff like that.
First off, you don't want to seem petty and be like, dude, I know you ate my pop tarts, don't do that shit. So you let that slide, but as it keeps happening, then you get more and more frustrated, and now you can't say anything because you have let it slide so long... You eventually learn just to say something right away.
I have found the problem with roommates is they do something that is really annoying, say, eat your shit without asking, and you get annoyed. But then because you are already annoyed, everything they do really pisses you off, even if it is not that bad. I think that is what the OP is expressing.
But overall, I agree with the majority of the responses, if you just make a passing comment one time when you notice he has ate something of yours, or done something irritating, most people usually stop doing it. You don't have to sit the guy down and tell him everything that bothers you. I hope things get better.
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If you didn't put the girlfriend one in then people could probably believe he's a bit of an inconsiderate prick, but putting that there just makes it sound like you have a thing against him and are judgemental.
What, you'd prefer he talks more with you? Despite him always being sarcastic?
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Sure he may not be the best roommate around, but you really need to learn to communicate with him. You've got to learn it some time or another in life, so why not pick it up earlier on (I.E. now)? It's as simple as telling him some of palanq's quotes. If he's inconsiderate to the point where he won't change any habits after you talk to him then you have an obligation to move out.
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I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you've told him about the stuff that bothers you and blahblah.
Point is, if you don't like someone, that's okay. Fuck that guy and move out. You don't like being around him so who cares if he thinks you hate him. I've had room mates I don't like, but I've never had to live in a one-bedroom dorm situation, so ignore everyone else who is giving you flak, It sounds like a shitty situation.
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If you talk with him and nothing changes move out asap,because feelings being bottled will take a toll on you and could make you do something you will regreat. Just be lucky you can move out and find another place. I was not so lucky when I had a roommate back a couple years ago.This guy would blast music all the time,when he shaved he left his beard in the sink,he smoked and left ashes in the sink or on the kitchen counter. when the toilet seat was down and it was night time he would piss in the bathtub and not have the consideration to wash it down. He had a female dog which was not fixed and it blead all over the furniture. I would talk to him about it and he would say he would change,but he did not. Our other roomate got so sick of him that he got into a fight with him and he ended up leaving. Now I have my own place and feel alot more peace. Dont let things get out of hand
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Have you told him not to eat your food? If not, it is your cowardice to blame.
Please tell him to tell you earlier in advance about rides he needs.
As for the talking, he should be free to talk with his girlfriend. Probably not a good idea to get involved. If you are studying or something, you can ask him to talk outside of your hearing range.
It seems to me that you just aren't talking to him so he probably doesn't know what you are thinking at all. I am socially debilitated as well, so I understand, but please use our encouragement to talk to him as energy enough to power you to be able to talk to him. I actually tried really hard to talk to my first college roommate but he wouldn't talk to me at all. One day, I saw that our thermostat was covered in duct tape and there was an angry note from my roommate in ALL CAPS about how "THIS THERMOSTAT SHALL NOT BE LOWERED BELOW 72 DEGREES." Apparently I was making it too cold for him but I had no idea!
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Food:
"Yo dude, just wanna ask about all those times you ate my food... Yeah sometimes I plan for the food I buy for some sport events or something along those lines and when I find it missing, it kinda kills part of the entertainment for me. Now that's just an example to demonstrate, but I'd really like it if you ask me before eating my food... Thanks  "
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haha, just talk to him about it..
if hes not going to be reasonable
gtfo and ignore the guy for being a douche!
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Food: Make some delicious looking spaghetti, then dust it liberally with crumbled parmesan cheese. EXCEPT, this is no parmesan cheese. Instead it is ULTRA grade rat poision disguised to LOOK like parmesan chese!! Then put a nice big portion of it in a big white plate and seran wrap it. Put it in the fridge, wait for a few days, Profit.
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You roomate sounds like one of my closest friends. Why are you annoyed at his talking to his gf? The sarcasm thing can be annoying though, the best answer is to just ignore his sarcasm and sometimes respond sarcastically and sometimes respond normally. I've found overly sarcastic people get annoyed when you don't always respond to their sarcasm or if you respond too often.
Idk, talk to him if you have a problem.
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On December 12 2010 10:49 tinydancer wrote:
Man, you guys are all pretty harsh on elkram. I have had a number of roommates and I can understand feeling frustrated with stuff like that.
First off, you don't want to seem petty and be like, dude, I know you ate my pop tarts, don't do that shit. So you let that slide, but as it keeps happening, then you get more and more frustrated, and now you can't say anything because you have let it slide so long... You eventually learn just to say something right away.
I have found the problem with roommates is they do something that is really annoying, say, eat your shit without asking, and you get annoyed. But then because you are already annoyed, everything they do really pisses you off, even if it is not that bad. I think that is what the OP is expressing.
But overall, I agree with the majority of the responses, if you just make a passing comment one time when you notice he has ate something of yours, or done something irritating, most people usually stop doing it. You don't have to sit the guy down and tell him everything that bothers you. I hope things get better.
petty? HE'S EATING HIS FOOD. It doesn't matter how long you let it slide, at any point if someone was like hey dude can you ask me before you eat my food? They wouldn't care they'd be like 'sure no problem man!' .
I like that the OP flat out admitted that he's a coward, but if you can't even build up the courage to ask someone you're living with to not do things that irritate you so much you're going to die alone and in a hole. Losing fundamental social skills like this are a major problem with the world deeees days.
I don't think people are being dicks, i think they're trying to help this poor sir be able to say a single sentence to this person in a direct manner which would immediately alleviate the problem. It's alot easier than it sounds and you'll feel tonnns better when that shit stops happening.
That and you gotta learn to be able to talk to people some time man lol
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You'd be surprised how oblivious some people are to your hate. I bet your roommate has NO idea he's bothering you this much. Telling him is the best option, and never assume that "he must know". I know it's easy to assume that, I'm guilty of it too, but usually they really don't know at all.
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Atleast your roommate knows the glory that is being clothed. And I doubt he is a chronic masturbation marathoner. I cannot tell you the number of days that I knocked on the door to my room to hear a call back of the nature "hold up I'm almost done, just gimme a second". followed by silence, and then a "OK I'm all cleaned up."
Walk into my room and see my roommate in nothing but a loose towel. That was actually all that he wore, post masturbation or just getting back from the gym. (ya he was a Bulgarian Power Lifter)
The only saving grace was he smoked weed, if he didn't do that I may have killed myself last year.
Oh another thing that I hated about him was his sleep needs. If he wanted to sleep, I had to TURN MY COMPUTER OFF. Because the sound of a laptop running (even in sleep mode) was just too much for the big bad Power Lifter.
Good lord I hated that fuck..
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1) Talk to him. Simple.
2) Tell him you prefer to be a serious person, so you don't like sarcasm much.
3) Ask him whether or not he needs a ride home and when.
4) Study elsewhere, listen to music/audio on your computer, or block off the sound.
Nothing he does is really that bad.
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fine I'll fucking talk to him GAHHH! people with their reasonable suggestions
Nah just snap him..... twice ! :D
when i was going on the collage i was really scared what kind of assholes i will have to leave with. BUT i was lucky and get 2 awesome dudes (yes we are on rooms 3-4 ppl.) fortunately i never had this problem but you should talk to him and you should do that after 1st time he touch your food !
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You'd rather live with someone you hate than deal with a bit of awkwardness when you run into him?
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