EPTlike how did you even start thinking about squishing her breasts and causing her pain in the first place gwtf
im sorry
but that was funny
and ur condition response things are kind of weird as well hahaGirls: Mental Checklist - Page 2
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alffla
Hong Kong20321 Posts
like how did you even start thinking about squishing her breasts and causing her pain in the first place gwtf im sorry but that was funny and ur condition response things are kind of weird as well haha | ||
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chocopan
Japan986 Posts
And yes as above, there's nothing wrong with making a good friend. That's not a loss, right? I know it doesn't really help to hear this, but the truth is, the more you work yourself up over a girl/girls in general, the less likely it is anything is going "to happen". Once you decide you don't care anymore, and you are cool with yourself the way you are/life the way it is/etc etc, then, well, it happens. How much you stressed over it previous that - in the end, doesn't really factor. Deep breaths. You'll be fine. | ||
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JohannesH
Finland1364 Posts
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Smix
United States4549 Posts
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love1another
United States1844 Posts
@JohannesH: Ummm.... I'm not really entirely sure of my romantic objectives at this point. I very much like the idea of having a girlfriend, but am not even sure I the emotional (and potentially physical) implications of a relationship would make me happier than I am today, since I'm a pretty damn happy guy, generally speaking! Even so, I feel that my complete ineptitude in the flirting department is causing me to miss out on a big part of life that I might potentially enjoy  @Smix: Hi! :p @chocopan: Girls get nervous too? Most of the girls I spend time with are incredibly intelligent, good-looking, and have very strong decisive personalities. I can hardly imagine them getting nervous around little ol' me :/ I will take your advice, however, and for this advice I must thank you heartily! (Not caring seems to be an extremely effective strategy that I will carefully work into each and every one of my painstakingly crafted responses, hehehe) | ||
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love1another
United States1844 Posts
I really have no idea how to hug somebody of my same height... does one shoulder go over the other and the other shoulder go under? Is the protocol right-over, left-under, or is it right-under, left-over? Also, what do I do when the "tender moment" ensues? Do I just let the hug drag on awkwardly? How do I go in for a kiss? If my arms are now wrapped around her and I'm in an awkwardly-balanced situation, how do I disengage? And what do I do, when a pickup line actually piques her attention? How do I make the transition from sarcastic humor to the tender vulnerability that is necessary for conveying my true feelings? Anyway, the answers I keep getting are "don't think about it, just let it happen ;P" but in practice, these are highly nontrivial questions, whose obvious answers have gotten me into weird situations. (e.g. mmmmmmm hug is waaaaaaarmmmmm -> "uhhhhh.... you can let go now...") | ||
lilsusie
3861 Posts
cutest blog ever. | ||
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haduken
Australia8267 Posts
If she likes you as well, then you making an effort is all that counts. | ||
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alffla
Hong Kong20321 Posts
On July 27 2010 21:28 love1another wrote: Oh, and to all subsequent readers, could you help me fill in the blanks in my condition/response section in the OP? I really have no idea how to hug somebody of my same height... does one shoulder go over the other and the other shoulder go under? Is the protocol right-over, left-under, or is it right-under, left-over? Also, what do I do when the "tender moment" ensues? Do I just let the hug drag on awkwardly? How do I go in for a kiss? If my arms are now wrapped around her and I'm in an awkwardly-balanced situation, how do I disengage? And what do I do, when a pickup line actually piques her attention? How do I make the transition from sarcastic humor to the tender vulnerability that is necessary for conveying my true feelings? Anyway, the answers I keep getting are "don't think about it, just let it happen ;P" but in practice, these are highly nontrivial questions, whose obvious answers have gotten me into weird situations. (e.g. mmmmmmm hug is waaaaaaarmmmmm -> "uhhhhh.... you can let go now...") wtf have you like never hugged someone before its the most natural thing in the world lol like ... wrap your arms and hands around their back and not their ass.. ? !?!? lol tender moment?? when it happens then you'll just both naturally kiss or wahtever man.. wtf lol at ur 'mm hug is warm' thing. wtf she is a another person hugging you not a freaking pillow or cushion. dont hug her/ them for so damn long dude.' and i dunno with pickup lines never use them losl | ||
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love1another
United States1844 Posts
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alffla
Hong Kong20321 Posts
sorry i just re read my post i put in way too many 'wtfs' hahah i'm so ineloquent -0 - well actually thinking about it i've never hugged anyone that was WAY shorter than me i think.. so.. maybe you're really tall? but you definitely do not have to do some 1 arm above shoulder 1 arm under armpit thing hahahah can you imagine that happening? i guess if you're way taller then you just hug like.. around her arms? lol | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32157 Posts
be yourself?? dont be some herb with a friggin checklist, jesus | ||
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love1another
United States1844 Posts
On July 27 2010 22:56 alffla wrote: haha sorry i just re read my post i put in way too many 'wtfs' hahah i'm so ineloquent -0 - well actually thinking about it i've never hugged anyone that was WAY shorter than me i think.. so.. maybe you're really tall? but you definitely do not have to do some 1 arm above shoulder 1 arm under armpit thing hahahah can you imagine that happening? i guess if you're way taller then you just hug like.. around her arms? lol I'm not very tall, but the girls I've hugged have been of veeeery different heights (one of them was my 10-year old cousin who is just adorable!) On July 27 2010 23:01 Hawk wrote: what the hell be yourself?? dont be some herb with a friggin checklist, jesus Hmm... are you calling me Jesus? Or are you calling me an herb? :p | ||
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gameguard
Korea (South)2132 Posts
like what every is saying. Just relax and dont overthink it. Like if some random girl says hi, just try to make some small talk. There is at least a chance that you guys might have some common interest to talk about. If you start with some pickup line there is no chance for anything. | ||
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DevAzTaYtA
Oman2005 Posts
also if you really want to work on your hugging, i'd imagine practicing with someone irl would be a lot more helpful than asking advice on a forum. you should do one of those 'free hugs' things. you'll be an expert in no time ;p | ||
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
i mean seriously think about it. "okay im socially accepted, i got a few friends and its all because i put on a retarded memorized act to get it". I can't speak for you but i don't personally feel accomplished nor feel close to the friends i've made that way. There are people that actually like those that break social norms, me for example, because they're just so much more fun to be around. I do'nt want all my friends to be some mindless normal boy that just follows the social bible about how to act. Be yourself and say whatever you want that comes to your mind. If anyone has the balls to do that in front of people just because its the way they are, my respect for them sky rockets. But becareful not to over do it to the point where you PURPOSELY drag attention on youreslf, in that case its just annoying. Just be honest about everything, why don't you admit your problems to a female or osmeone in real life, im' sure they'll respect you for having the balls to admit it in public in front of people. And if they diss you on it, fuck them, they do'nt worth your time anyways. | ||
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love1another
United States1844 Posts
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Electric.Jesus
Germany755 Posts
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Frobert
Canada113 Posts
If you're sort of friends with a girl (more like acquaintances) , but you feel you've been "friend zoned", it either means you need to man up and make a move (READ: A move is not always something drastic. DO NOT USE your pickup lines. They are terrible.) or she makes you feel like you're just friends because she is not into you. Most importantly, be yourself. If some chart you made got you into a relationship somehow, it surely won't keep you in it. If you're ready to be with someone, they will want to be with you because of who you are. Trust me, not acting on your feelings and dwelling on them for ages sucks. From my experience, this is what gets you into the "friend zone". If you draw things out with a girl you've just met, she will lose interest and you'll end up in the 'zone. Therefore, act before it is too late. How the hell is it that you only realize girls are hot after you get to know them? Sounds like you need to get your shit together and man up. | ||
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alffla
Hong Kong20321 Posts
also how old are you? o _O | ||
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