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On February 15 2011 11:12 Roe wrote: how old are you? my only consoling right now can be that maybe you can look forward to moving out and making your own life. 16 and 11/12 :DD
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Your mom's a bitch. She could be dealing with this so much better.
I'm so grossed out by human behavior. It stuns me that 90% of the population doesn't ever figure out how to properly solve conflict and problems.
I live in a house with three women. Two of them act like your mom whenever there's conflict. I chill. I hate people like your mom. Move out man.
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Lol, my dad does the same thing, except not to the same magnitude at all. I write checks like... once a month tops for relatively small amounts. There is no need for me to balance my checkbook, especially since it can be checked online in 2 seconds anyway.
Just listened to the mp3... your mom is kinda crazy lol.
I guess in your position I'd try to calmly explain you can always check your balance easily online (you can right?) and that you aren't concerned with depleting your account since you spend so little. Then just start to ignore her... dunno if that works with your mom though. Could always just go to your room and close the door though.
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These days, with online checking and stuff, I never had to use too many checks. Not enough to overdraft anyways...
Your mom overreacted, assuming if you have never overdrafted or had problems managing money. She needs to calm down
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I just got the account info.
Account balance 5,052.06
My largest check was for 45 bucks ><
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On February 15 2011 11:39 Froadac wrote: I just got the account info.
Account balance 5,052.06
My largest check was for 45 bucks ><
You should blow all 5k on something extravagant and close your bank account. Then tell your mom you don't need to balance your checking account anymore.
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On February 15 2011 11:44 Jonoman92 wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2011 11:39 Froadac wrote: I just got the account info.
Account balance 5,052.06
My largest check was for 45 bucks >< You should blow all 5k on something extravagant and close your bank account. Then tell your mom you don't need to balance your checking account anymore. I actually have like 9k. She said I shoyuld spend more of it: was actually looking at a used hyundai tiburon. (insurance would be insane though (( )
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Your mom is so lucky not to have had me as a son. I've gotten into arguments with my parents when I was your age that sounded much much worse... lol, kind of makes me smile now when I think about it.
You seem to handle her all right, but I do think she tramples on you a bit too much. I didn't listen to the last two minutes of it, but if you want to change the tone of the conversation I would DEMAND (not ask, or plead) for her to lower her voice and calm down. Maybe it's just me but I would never accept anyone to talk to me in that way, especially when I am admitting to my mistake.
I remember once I unloaded some unpleasant news on my Mom and she got furious!!!! She was so angry and wouldn't let me explain anything so I just told her that I was leaving, and was going to sleep over a friend's house for the night until she could settle the information down and we could talk about it like normal human beings. We now talk about that day and kind of laugh about it... Ahh the good ol' days.
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OP if I was you I would honestly just tell my mom shes being an annoying ignorant bitch. I would literally make her wish she didn't say a word to you that day.
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I love how everyone condemns the mother for her yelling and anger. No one knows the OP's history nor how he treated his mother before-hand or in the past, intentionally or not. This is not to place or blame the OP, but to consider exterior motives or variables that are not present in the recording.
I, too, would talk calmly to someone yelling at me if I knew I was being recorded and would intentionally try to portray myself in a good light.
Calling her a bitch is looking at things in a very narrow light.
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On February 15 2011 12:57 Torte de Lini wrote: I love how everyone condemns the mother for her yelling and anger. No one knows the OP's history nor how he treated his mother before-hand or in the past, intentionally or not. This is not to place or blame the OP, but to consider exterior motives or variables that are not present in the recording.
I, too, would talk calmly to someone yelling at me if I knew I was being recorded and would intentionally try to portray myself in a good light.
Calling her a bitch is looking at things in a very narrow light. It's a good point. Of course I would be nice.
Of course there have been less optimal circumstances, but certainly in general it at least STARTS something like that. About 45 minutes in occasionally I get real upset and start yellin
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I don't think your mother is a bitch, I just think she's frustrated, discouraged or annoyed. Perhaps due to previous events, problem or repeated occurrences or due to something else in her life (to which she's lashing out to you, which happens to all of us).
I think it's a bit childish and disrespectful of you to record your own mother when she's clearly not in the best representative moment and then show everyone around you seeking sympathy or perhaps a solution to your problem (which could be solved by just describing what typically transpires).
It's your choice, but I frown upon it.
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On February 15 2011 13:06 Torte de Lini wrote: I don't think your mother is a bitch, I just think she's frustrated, discouraged or annoyed. Perhaps due to previous events, problem or repeated occurrences or due to something else in her life (to which she's lashing out to you, which happens to all of us).
I think it's a bit childish and disrespectful of you to record your own mother when she's clearly not in the best representative moment and then show everyone around you seeking sympathy or perhaps a solution to your problem (which could be solved by just describing what typically transpires).
It's your choice, but I frown upon it. I mean, a similar thing to this typically transpires from 3-5. I'll certainly post more, I actually ahve some recording on my mp3 player of past events lol.
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On February 15 2011 13:06 Torte de Lini wrote: I don't think your mother is a bitch, I just think she's frustrated, discouraged or annoyed. Perhaps due to previous events, problem or repeated occurrences or due to something else in her life (to which she's lashing out to you, which happens to all of us).
I think it's a bit childish and disrespectful of you to record your own mother when she's clearly not in the best representative moment and then show everyone around you seeking sympathy or perhaps a solution to your problem (which could be solved by just describing what typically transpires).
It's your choice, but I frown upon it. Check his other blog entries. Unfortunately some people do have psychopaths as family members. edit Although, Froadac I don't know if you can read here something better than what you can hear during meetings with your counselor.
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wait, your cousin works at blizz. nice!
if your mom thinks working at blizzard is a failure. she is already nutso, and anything and everything shes says should be regarded as utter trash.
in otherwords. just humor her for now and tell her to take a break and look at her own problems. i have seen parents like this and they don't get better until you confront them. if you auctally confront her about it, she'll back off, she is only able to control you if you let her.
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On February 15 2011 13:25 beetlelisk wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2011 13:06 Torte de Lini wrote: I don't think your mother is a bitch, I just think she's frustrated, discouraged or annoyed. Perhaps due to previous events, problem or repeated occurrences or due to something else in her life (to which she's lashing out to you, which happens to all of us).
I think it's a bit childish and disrespectful of you to record your own mother when she's clearly not in the best representative moment and then show everyone around you seeking sympathy or perhaps a solution to your problem (which could be solved by just describing what typically transpires).
It's your choice, but I frown upon it. Check his other blog entries. Unfortunately some people do have psychopaths as family members. edit Although, Froadac I don't know if you can read here something better than what you can hear during meetings with your counselor.
Yes, I'm well-aware of that personally. I'm just taking everything with a grain of salt and considering this one side of a story.
Not intended to jab the OP (it's his blog, he can do what he wants).
Anyways, I said my peace, won't disturb!
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On February 15 2011 14:01 Torte de Lini wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2011 13:25 beetlelisk wrote:On February 15 2011 13:06 Torte de Lini wrote: I don't think your mother is a bitch, I just think she's frustrated, discouraged or annoyed. Perhaps due to previous events, problem or repeated occurrences or due to something else in her life (to which she's lashing out to you, which happens to all of us).
I think it's a bit childish and disrespectful of you to record your own mother when she's clearly not in the best representative moment and then show everyone around you seeking sympathy or perhaps a solution to your problem (which could be solved by just describing what typically transpires).
It's your choice, but I frown upon it. Check his other blog entries. Unfortunately some people do have psychopaths as family members. edit Although, Froadac I don't know if you can read here something better than what you can hear during meetings with your counselor. Yes, I'm well-aware of that personally. I'm just taking everything with a grain of salt and considering this one side of a story. Not intended to jab the OP (it's his blog, he can do what he wants). Anyways, I said my peace, won't disturb! It's piece
Point taken.
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I think when she goes off like that, you should just give her the silence treatment. its seems like the more you talk, the more she goes on and on and on.
maybe you should start a new youtube channel called crazy mom
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On February 15 2011 14:57 Waffles wrote: I think when she goes off like that, you should just give her the silence treatment. its seems like the more you talk, the more she goes on and on and on.
maybe you should start a new youtube channel called crazy mom I thought about it but it would be super mean
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On February 15 2011 09:07 Froadac wrote: So I get home from school. My mom took my checkbook out of my desk and looked at it, and noted that over a year and a half I hadn't accounted for all of my checks. I have about 5 grand in the checking account, and all the checks are sub 100 dollars.
I didn't listen to the recording...although I think I get the idea from the comments. My stepdad was like this growing up, all you can really do is keep your composure and recognize that this isn't how you want to deal with people or your own kids. You're not going to win if you turn it into an argument because she is your mom and she feels that she's teaching you an important lesson.
As for the bit about balancing your checking account, blah...I don't even bother anymore. I pay all my bills online anyway and write exactly one check a month for rent. What's the point of balancing it when I know how much is in there? It's not like there's any real check float anymore...everything clears in a day or two anyway.
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