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So I get home from school. My mom took my checkbook out of my desk and looked at it, and noted that over a year and a half I hadn't accounted for all of my checks. I have about 5 grand in the checking account, and all the checks are sub 100 dollars.
I really had no idea how to balance a checkbook. Call me clueless, but I didn't.
I get home, and she started yelling me out, comparing me to my "failure of a cousin" who happens to work at blizzard. (on SC2 lol)
I started recording because I thought I was as diplomatic as possible. Feel free to yell at me for either being too submissive or jerkish, but I just want to know how to improve what's going on.
http://kiwi6.com/file/fu32wlmwx9
Also lost a bassoon reed. Really small. Really good reed too. Do any of you guys have any advice for finding things. Small things?
  
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Buy a new one. Aren't they like $10 max? And I never account for all my cheques either, and I have never had any problems.
Do you know why you always find stuff in the last place you look for them? Because you stop looking after you find it. Couldn't resist.
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On February 15 2011 09:15 Blisse wrote:
Buy a new one. Aren't they like $10 max? And I never account for all my cheques either, and I have never had any problems.
Do you know why you always find stuff in the last place you look for them? Because you stop looking after you find it. Couldn't resist.
Yeah. This one was real good though lol 
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lol what the fuck? She needs to calm the fuck down. If you know for a fact you have enough money in your account then there's no fuckin' problem lol. Don't use checks  Use debit card. Those go through within a day or so. And if you don't use it too much then it's easy to remember everything. I've NEVER gone into overdraft and I never keep track, I know exactly everything I spend every day. She must have been mad about something else lol. Of course even though she doesn't need to be yelling, it's never a good idea to argue with your parents lol they are always right and you are always wrong.
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God damnit what a fucking bitch :o Youre so nice and appologetic during the whole thing lol.
Slap her and tell her to go to the kitchen, make her feel littler than you. But honestly, wtf man? Stand up for yourself, a mom should not treat her son that way. Just imo me and my mom love each other
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On February 15 2011 09:26 mptj wrote:
God damnit what a fucking bitch :o Youre so nice and appologetic during the whole thing lol.
Slap her and tell her to go to the kitchen, make her feel littler than you. But honestly, wtf man? Stand up for yourself, a mom should not treat her son that way. Just imo me and my mom love each other
She is in the kitchen.
She's shorter than me.
lol.
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I got owned by the OP....
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HAHAHA! She is one of those moms who have a rant in the holster and will keep ranting until she's got it out of her system, and I guess she thinks yelling is what gets points across, which is so damn annoying. I was blessed with a voice like thunder so my parents quickly learned that getting into a yelling match would be the worst possible option in dealing with me, thank god. You were fine I guess, I would try to facilitate ending the rant as quickly as possible if you want to have a good day. If you're OK with drama, on the other hand, I would explode at her so hard every time she rants that she'll naturally learn to pick her battles. Checkbook balance is not worth ranting over for sure. That being said... Dude balancing a checkbook is simple addition subtraction, super easy.
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On February 15 2011 09:41 Zim23 wrote:
HAHAHA! She is one of those moms who have a rant in the holster and will keep ranting until she's got it out of her system, and I guess she thinks yelling is what gets points across, which is so damn annoying. I was blessed with a voice like thunder so my parents quickly learned that getting into a yelling match would be the worst possible option in dealing with me, thank god. You were fine I guess, I would try to facilitate ending the rant as quickly as possible if you want to have a good day. If you're OK with drama, on the other hand, I would explode at her so hard every time she rants that she'll naturally learn to pick her battles. Checkbook balance is not worth ranting over for sure. That being said... Dude balancing a checkbook is simple addition subtraction, super easy.
Out yelling her turns into a stalemeate. She's willing to waste her time to waste mine.
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Found reed though >.> Another rant about tl incoming
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Try to throw her off by talking about your penis the entire time. :D
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You should tell your mom straight up to stop yelling at you.
"Mom, you're yelling. Let's just talk this through normally."
But you did keep your cool. If you want to improve relations with your parents, it doesn't really help the relationship to yell back. People who get into an argument don't even realize half the time that their anger is leaking into their own voices.
Likewise, you shouldn't stutter your words in defense either. If she gets louder, you talk softer. If she talks faster, you talk slower and gentler. Otherwise, if she yells and you become flustered and talk faster, the rant will keep escalating because she'll feel like she's in complete control of the situation and can vent all her frustration at you. But if you talk noticeably softer, she'll realize how ridiculous her own yelling is.
You didn't yell back, though, so thumbs up for keeping your cool and being patient with your mom. Always a good quality imo.
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On February 15 2011 10:08 The_Pacifist wrote:
You should tell your mom straight up to stop yelling at you.
"Mom, you're yelling. Let's just talk this through normally."
But you did keep your cool. If you want to improve relations with your parents, it doesn't really help the relationship to yell back. People who get into an argument don't even realize half the time that their anger is leaking into their own voices.
Likewise, you shouldn't stutter your words in defense either. If she gets louder, you talk softer. If she talks faster, you talk slower and gentler. Otherwise, if she yells and you become flustered and talk faster, the rant will keep escalating because she'll feel like she's in complete control of the situation and can vent all her frustration at you. But if you talk noticeably softer, she'll realize how ridiculous her own yelling is.
You didn't yell back, though, so thumbs up for keeping your cool and being patient with your mom. Always a good quality imo.
When you talk slower to someone who is amped up they'll think you're being condescending and that you're patronizing them which will get them even more pissed. The idea of someone 'realizing how ridiculous her own yelling is' assumes that the person screaming is very rational/logical which is something rare in a woman (or a man I guess) who is currently yelling in anger.
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I don't know if it would help to give more examples where it descends into ad hominem or :/
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I respect that she's trying to force as many good habits on you as she can, Jesus, she's annoying. I wanna tell her to fuck off. You're a patient kid. Living on your own is going to be amaaaaaaaaaaazing when the time comes.
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Haha that happened to me when I over charged my debit card, except I had a loud Mexican mother yelling at me ^^
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lol if this was my mom, I'd just start parroting the way she talks until she either realizes how ridiculous she sounds or she gets enraged and walks away. Then later I'd scold her for being so materialistic and caring about money more than she cares about good relations with her son.
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Jesus Froadac, I'm sorry man. I've read all your previous blogs, I never realized just how absurd your mom sounds. I would not be able to put up with that. Like, would not at all. I'd be in an institution.
You're a tough man to be able to deal with that.
My favorite part was, "I have had a checking account for over 30 years." I would've been like, "Well thats terrific and all, but how does that help me know how to do it?"
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I don't mind people yelling at me, it's not intimidating as long as it stays verbal, but I can't stand it when they repeat the same thing over and over and over and over and over. I can understand being pissed about something, and some people think it's important to yell to emphasize importance or some bullshit, but sometimes it seems like it's impossible for someone to yell for just ten seconds and communicate the problem then leave. No, they have to yell the same thing a hundred times in a hundred different ways even though I've made it obvious I get what they're saying. If you're pissed then just let me know so I can take care of it then fuck off and go calm down.
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how old are you?
my only consoling right now can be that maybe you can look forward to moving out and making your own life.
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