A few years ago I moved into my own place by myself. Rent and bills were insane and the place was completely barren. Luckily my mom and her boyfriend helped me out quite a lot, letting me move in my old bed, a washing machine, and my mother's boyfriend's old fridge. It was an old, dirty fridge, but I cleaned it up and stored lots of frozen vegetables inside. I never ate the vegetables, but the fridge nethertheless done its job.

Wotans_Fire

United Kingdom294 Posts

September 16 2010 17:28 GMT

#42

Why is everyone saying this isn't a big deal .. you are offering him a ride home but if it's not on time he calls his parents? fuck that he can call his parents every time from now on and why couldn't his parents give you a ride home? or am I missing something?

QuanticHawk

United States32026 Posts

September 16 2010 17:33 GMT

#43

On September 16 2010 18:49 qrs wrote:
Seems to me that the shoe is on the other foot: your parents are the ones who were committed to giving your friend a ride home after school and decided without consulting him that "it would be better" to wait for 30 extra minutes with nothing to do. That would annoy me too, if I were Friend 1.

Then, when he decides to find another way home (which, unlike your parents' decision to come late, doesn't affect you in any way beyond apparently hurting your feelings), you get so insulted that you make a whole thread on TL to bash him.

Well, I hope the venting helped you, at least.

waBAM! Who gives a shit what he's doing, I'd be pissed if my ride showed 30 min late

gameguard

Korea (South)2131 Posts

September 16 2010 17:56 GMT

#44

what, a favor is still a favor. He should have the decency to at least explain himself or leave on good terms. Maybe OP thought he was a true friend and not just a friend or an aquaintance, in which case he could be upset. If they wernt that close then whatever. But all in all, yea its not that big of a deal. If you guys are good friends, you probably know his personally so just accept it or talk to him about it. If you guys arnt that close then it doesnt really matter much.

aliasds

Canada555 Posts

September 16 2010 20:21 GMT

#45

But he could've cheesed at least 5 different people in the span of those thirty minutes!

OverTheUnder

United States2929 Posts

September 16 2010 20:33 GMT

#46

On September 17 2010 02:28 Wotans_Fire wrote:
Why is everyone saying this isn't a big deal .. you are offering him a ride home but if it's not on time he calls his parents? fuck that he can call his parents every time from now on and why couldn't his parents give you a ride home? or am I missing something?

what would go through your head is this situation?

"OMG HE IS CALLING HIS PARENTS TO GET A RIDE HOME, HE WONT WAIT FOR THE CARPOOL WHAT A FUCKING DICK I THOUGHT HE WAS MY FRIEND"

it's not a big deal at all and i would like to re-emphasize that this is the kind of stuff teen girls get mad about.

arb

Noobville17919 Posts

September 16 2010 20:48 GMT

#47

On September 16 2010 15:09 Barrin wrote:

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just dont take his ungrateful ass home

simple

TOloseGT

United States1145 Posts

September 16 2010 21:04 GMT

#48

If you guys are really friends, you would be able to laugh it off.

I sense some resentment and shit between you guys. I can totally not be friends with anyone if I felt that way about them.

sLiniss

United States849 Posts

September 16 2010 21:16 GMT

#49

How old are you guys... seems like this wouldnt be a problem with more mature people.

krndandaman

Mozambique16569 Posts

September 16 2010 21:22 GMT

#50

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HeadhunteR

Argentina1258 Posts

September 16 2010 21:23 GMT

#51

its kids stuff -.- when you dont realize that people really care about you and you dont give a fuck about them you just do dumb stuff like this..

RyuChus

Canada442 Posts

September 16 2010 23:09 GMT

#52

It's just irritating because he won't wait 30 minutes, he is the one who got angry at me. Which I found immensely retarded and annoying. Also, it was like 11 p.m. when we had to change schedules, which was too late to really tell Friend 1, Friend 2 was the one who called us. It's just that he doesn't have the time to wait 30 minutes, which is really not a long time. He really got angry at me as soon as he heard, and immediately called his parents.

In my very honest opinion, he is probably playing Call of Duty right now. He is kind of a video game addict or something. Apparently he joined some sort of clan in Call Of Duty? Screw that. SC for life!

Half

United States2554 Posts

September 16 2010 23:15 GMT

#53

Buspirone.

Honest suggestion OP. Not offense :p.

y/n?

Spazer

Canada8028 Posts

September 16 2010 23:27 GMT

#54

On September 17 2010 08:09 RyuChus wrote:
It's just irritating because he won't wait 30 minutes, he is the one who got angry at me. Which I found immensely retarded and annoying. Also, it was like 11 p.m. when we had to change schedules, which was too late to really tell Friend 1, Friend 2 was the one who called us. It's just that he doesn't have the time to wait 30 minutes, which is really not a long time. He really got angry at me as soon as he heard, and immediately called his parents.

In my very honest opinion, he is probably playing Call of Duty right now. He is kind of a video game addict or something. Apparently he joined some sort of clan in Call Of Duty? Screw that. SC for life!

Thirty minutes is long enough to screw up somebody's schedule. Did you ever consider that your friend might actually have something to do right after school ends. Anyway, it might be annoying, but there's no reason to get worked up over something so small.

Do you really hate Call of Duty or something? You keep bringing it up unnecessarily.

RyuChus

Canada442 Posts

September 17 2010 00:02 GMT

#55

On September 17 2010 08:27 Spazer wrote:

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Yes I hate Call of Duty. The story about that is, my best friend got it, almost all the rest of my friends got it, Social Life = 0.

The thing is, he's not telling me! I mean if it was something important I would totally understand, but why are you only telling me extracurricular stuff. I just want to know, that's really all. If it was something urgent I would totally understand. Of course, he did say this...

"I'm not wasting another 30 fu*king minutes of my life at school!"

I spent 30 minutes after school. It's not a waste of time really. I hang out with my friends that don't play Call of Duty like nuts. Simple as that. As I said earlier, I don't care any more, he can do whatever he wants.

Deleted User 3420

24492 Posts

September 17 2010 00:12 GMT

#56

I wouldn't want to waste 30 minutes either. Why should he wait exactly? Just to satisfy your ego?

Stop comparing what other people to do as though you have shit figured out and they don't. Oh, you hang out with friends at school for 30 minutes? And it isn't a big deal to you? Clearly you do it right, and anyone who doesn't do things like that is doing it wrong.

There is a lot about other people that you don't know. Maybe he hates school, if he does there is probably reasons for that. Maybe he fucking loves call of duty, there'd probably be good reasons for that too.

nayumi

Australia6499 Posts

September 17 2010 00:26 GMT

#57

How old are you exactly?

EchOne

United States2906 Posts

September 17 2010 01:29 GMT

#58

I can sympathize with the OP since Friend 1's actions are annoying in multiple ways.

First he is wasting his parents' money, and gas, plain and simple. It's amazing how inefficiently human societies will opt to operate due to personal selfishness.

Second he is wasting his parents' time. I assume he's a student; is 30 minutes of his time that will be spent wasted for enjoyment worth 30 minutes of his parents' time, which could possibly be used to make money? This is assuming his parents aren't just goofing around atm and Friend 1 intends to play CoD during those 30 minutes saved.

Third he is withholding information and possibly outright lying to you, which is unacceptable in a friendship and a breach of trust. The matter at hand is inconsequential, but it sets a poor precedent and I would place less value on his friendship, at least until he explains himself.

Fourth, if the OP's account of the conversation is true verbatim, he was downright rude to presumably a friend who was doing him a favor and on the matter of that favor.

Of course the whole matter could be trivial and everything could be resolved with no hard feelings. Good luck OP, I hope your friends are more polite, laid-back, and open with you in the future.

OpticalShot

Canada6330 Posts

September 17 2010 02:07 GMT

#59

Unless you and your friend live terribly far away from school, walk/bike/bus is a cool way home. Besides the fact it is better for the world (quite literally), no more "waiting-at-school" conflicts!

Still, I honestly think waiting 30 minutes at school is no biggie, your friend should be mature enough to stick to the original agreement and make good use of that time. Perhaps you should suggest to your friend various ways to make good use of time at school (homework, socializing, etc.).